Have you ever experienced how your thoughts stop listening to you and get confused? Have you been lying at night without closing your eyes, constantly thinking about plans, about expected consequences, about the possible future, getting lost in the most incredible guesses? We've all experienced this, and the feelings associated with this kind of mental activity, are far from pleasant. We can't rest, we don't sleep, we rush through emotions at breakneck speed and we get up completely exhausted. We are tormented by our own thoughts that seem to be unstoppable...
Sojal Rinpoche says that the purpose of meditation is to stop the internal dialogue, and this is extremely beneficial. Meditation serves as a counterbalance to the wild racing of unruly thoughts that deprive us of mental peace.
Beyond the thought process lies another level of consciousness called the true mind. deep ocean- not waves at all, but a short time rippling its surface. Equally, the breadth and spaciousness of the true mind is very different from the constant play of thoughts, which, as we well know, rush through, agitating our mind. This method will allow you to grasp the difference between true mind And thinking mind. Use a traditional Buddhist image for meditation - contemplate the image of the endless ocean. Watch the waves ripple across it. Waves never calm down because they are inherent in the very nature of the ocean. But you can identify your mind with the vast depths and the waters that rest there. Title Dalai Lama, worn by the chief minister in Tibetan Buddhism, means Great Ocean.
Techniques for achieving inner silence
To become more aware of the higher mind, we need to develop awareness of the space beyond the stream of thoughts. This awareness is developed by observing the contents of the mind from the perspective of an outside observer. So sit down, close your eyes, turn your attention inward and just focus on what is happening. Watch your thoughts arise. Do this from the perspective of an outside observer. To learn how to stop internal dialogue, allow the thoughts that arise to flow freely. Observing how thoughts rise and fall, float and roll back, allows you to see the line that lies between the thought that is in consciousness - and consciousness itself. Such detached observation develops spatial perception, which is the beginning of awareness, the embryo inner vision. Finding inner space by stopping the internal dialogue often involves new and joyful discovery. Calmness in this space appears as a blissful rest. Recognition distinctive properties thoughts and space shows us the difference between temporary And permanent, the basis of the mind and its activities. In addition, we can learn to determine when to think and when to rest. Ideally, we should achieve a state where the internal dialogue stops instantly with one effort of will.
Practice stopping thoughts
You can find space in your mind in the following ways. Sit down and begin to meditate, becoming aware of the thoughts that arise. Follow them as an outside observer. Concentrate your attention on the point between the eyebrows, literally feel it with your eyes. Start looking for that brief moment that separates a thought that leaves and a thought that arises. Watch this moment and prolong it. Gradually enter the space between thoughts. Rest in this space. Observe the difference between mind and thought, ocean and wave. Meditate on connecting the breath with the moment of spatiality.
Sojal Rinpoche states: “When you exhale, you leave along with your thoughts. Each time you exhale, you allow it to subside. mental stress and thus weaken his grip. Feel how your breath dissolves into your body. The internal dialogue will stop without effort. Each time you exhale and before you inhale again, you will notice that tension disappears in this natural pause. Relax in the pause, in its open space, and when you naturally begin to inhale, do not concentrate particularly on inhalation, but continue to rest your mind in the opened pause.”
This is the path towards new opportunities, which is the opposite of narrowness of perception and dogmatic thinking. When we lose the ability to open, we seal up the mind itself and bury the chitta within us. Spatiality appears as an open window through which the light of enlightenment can pour in. An open mind is full of life, and it can look and see. An open mind is able to perceive the light of enlightenment.
How to stop thoughts?
A very important ability that allows you to accumulate energy and not waste it is the ability to stop the uncontrolled running of thoughts. This is not a simple matter at all. After all, some questions constantly arise in your head, problems are solved, forgotten facts are recalled, future activities are planned, a dialogue is conducted with an imaginary interlocutor, etc. and so on. Thoughts don’t leave you alone for a second! Moreover, many people, even in their sleep, cannot stop the work of their “word mixer” - they worry about something, scream, and toss and turn. There is no real rest even in a dream! And so on throughout life, which is noticeably shortened due to lack of rest from thoughts.
“Word stirrer” doesn’t just distract our attention, it actually takes our vitality, our energy. If we think a lot about a person, then we unconsciously direct our energy towards him. If we think that everything is very bad and will only get worse, then we give energy to the “egregor of an unhappy life,” and he will try to make sure that you can fully enjoy depression and all the troubles that accompany it. Therefore, the ability to control your thoughts is very important quality for a successful person.
The classics of various spiritual teachings talk a lot about the need to manage the state of your mind. For example, Roshi Phillip Kapleau, in The Three Pillars of Zen, writes: “Most people never think of trying to control their consciousness, and unfortunately this fundamental exercise remains outside the scope of modern education, is not integral part what is called the acquisition of knowledge."
One of the first steps on the way spiritual development Zen is about developing the ability to concentrate and stop the racing of thoughts. Complete stop of the racing thoughts - final goal many eastern spiritual schools. For example, the highest phase in yoga is called “samadhi” and is translated as “highest spiritual insight, ecstasy, trance, superconsciousness.” Samadhi can only be achieved through long meditations, as a result of which the racing of thoughts stops for several hours and a person, in a state of complete emptiness, comes into direct contact with the inhabitants of the invisible world. But to learn to stop the racing of thoughts for several hours in a row, you need to practice a lot. Most people don’t need such extremes, so let’s look for other ways to curb our restless mind.
Methods for stopping racing thoughts
How to stop thoughts?
There are many ways and techniques to stop the racing of thoughts. Conventionally, they can be divided into four large groups.
1.Methods of crowding out thoughts (with other recurring thoughts).
2.Methods of concentrating attention on some object.
3.Methods of using mental images.
4.Methods of switching attention.
Let's look at each of these groups in more detail.
Displacement methods
The essence of the “repression method” is to replace the chaotic running of random thoughts with repetition the same phrase or specific sound combination. In Eastern spiritual schools, similar sound combinations like “o o u m m” or “oum mane padme hum” are called “mantras”. If you repeat the same mantra for a very long time, for several hours, you can steadily move into an altered state of consciousness, in which a person begins to experience unusual abilities And strong contact is established with the inhabitants of the invisible world.
Prayers “work” in approximately the same way in Christianity - it is well known that only long and frantic (i.e. concentrated and highly emotional) repetition of prayer leads to desired results(cleansing the soul, enlightenment, receiving help). You can try this method to stop the racing of your thoughts by repeatedly repeating to yourself the mantra “o o u mm” or some kind of prayer, or do the already familiar “forgiveness meditation”; in Reiki we practice Gassho, when we turn all our attention to touch middle fingers in palms joined together. It also works great to suppress uncontrollable racing thoughts. Practice - and you will “kill three birds with one stone”: stop the “word mixer”, strengthen your energy and cleanse yourself of accumulated experiences.
As soon as you notice that your “word mixer” has started again, start repeating any of the formulas of this meditation. For example, this one: “With love and gratitude, I forgive this life and accept it as it is. I apologize to life for my thoughts and actions regarding it.” In order to learn to stop your “word mixer” as necessary, you will need to make some effort. Experience shows that the first results appear among those who have been engaged in repression unnecessary thoughts daily for 20-30 minutes at any time free time in two weeks.
Ultimately, you must learn to enter a state complete absence thoughts for 5-10 minutes (then they will appear anyway, and this is normal).
Methods of concentration
The next method of “concentrating attention,” also widely used in teaching in many Eastern spiritual schools, requires focusing attention and continuously observing any object or process. This could be a point on the wall, a picture or a drawing (special drawings for concentration and meditation are called “mandalas”), or maybe your internal process: breathing, blood pulsation, etc. For example, in Zen Buddhism, one of the first exercises is counting your own breath.
At one of the Club classes, I talked about the method of establishing the boundaries of your body: touch and direct your attention to left leg, on the right, on the arms, head, etc. - feel the boundaries of your body, this will help you be “here and now.”
Methods of using mental images
You can stop the flow of thoughts and get rid of their uncontrolled running by using various mental images. For example, you can imagine that you take an eraser and “erase” all the thoughts in your head with it. As soon as a new thought appears, immediately pick up an eraser and erase it. Either you sweep it with a broom, or you erase it on your mental screen with a cloth. An image that produces excellent results is when you “fill” your head with a viscous “liquid”, such as liquid gold. Not a single thought can emerge in it - it fades away as soon as it begins to appear. For better effect use the Golden Ball meditation. Such exercises are usually performed with eyes closed, solely in order not to catch other visual images.
Methods for switching attention
They are the simplest and most often used in everyday life, and consist of loading your mind with controlled thoughts instead of uncontrollable thoughts. For example, when you shake a rattle over a crying baby, you are using the technique of switching attention. Previously a baby was focused on a problem known only to him and loudly demanded its solution. But then you shook the rattle, and his attention switched to a new stimulus. He began to think about it, and the old problem was forgotten.
This technique works just as effectively for adults, especially when you use it to redirect the attention of another person who is immersed in his own problem. How to use it? Yes, very simple. If you are tired of your interlocutor's long verbal outpourings, then ask him a question so that he forgets what he just said, i.e. The question should touch on a topic that is important to the interlocutor. For example, if your friend talks long and tediously about what a scoundrel her husband (or friend) turned out to be and you are tired of it, then ask her unexpectedly: “Are you sure you turned off the iron when leaving home?” Or: “Where did you get the hole (or stain) on your new sheepskin coat?” Most likely, after this she will run to look at her sheepskin coat, and her husband will be forgotten. You will probably be able to stop her “word mixer” using this method.
Choose your “switch”
The last method can be strengthened if you choose a certain “switch” in advance, i.e. a topic to which you will consciously shift your attention if necessary. It is best if it is some very fun and pleasant event in your life. Or just a humorous statement that can put you in a cheerful state in any situation. In this case, along with a shift in attention, there will be a devaluation of the problem that your “word mixer” has just successfully savored. Thus, you will disconnect from the egregor of “unhappy life” to which you just gave your vitality.
A quick way to stop thoughts
Tatiana Elle
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How to learn to fall asleep within one minute
Many people cannot fall asleep for a long time at night, thinking for hours about the eternal. Or about a fly on the ceiling. I also suffered from insomnia until I learned a special breathing technique that helps me fall asleep within a minute.
Don't get me wrong, this technique is not anesthesia that knocks you out on the spot. It requires long and constant training to develop calming reflexes in the body. Be that as it may, even for beginners, this technique will help reduce stress and reduce the time it takes to fall asleep.
To begin, place the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth, on the ridge behind your upper front teeth. Then, with closed mouth, inhale through your nose for four counts, hold your breath for seven seconds and then exhale loudly, making a whooshing sound. Watch your tongue carefully - it should always be in place. Repeat this exercise several times without a break.
In this technique, breathing speed is not important, the main thing is to maintain the proportion of stages 4:7:8.
Inhale for 4 seconds
Hold your breath for 7 seconds
Exhale for 8 seconds
Relax
The effect of relaxation and peace caused by this exercise will increase significantly with time and practice.
Dr. Andrew Weil, professor and best-selling author, says to get the most benefit from this technique, do this exercise at least twice a day for eight weeks. A month after starting training, the exercise should be performed in eight repetitions.
This technique is used to reduce stress, anxiety and even the desire to smoke and eat something harmful. The next time something upsets you and tries to knock you down, stop for a second, relax, do the exercise and only then react to the situation. You will be surprised at your calmness and clarity of thought. As already mentioned, this technique also helps you fall asleep quickly at night.
The reasons for this effect are simple. As we all know, our breathing quickens during excitement, but this also works in reverse side- frequent and shallow breathing may cause feelings of stress. Oxygen is, of course, an essential component of a healthy body and mind, but HOW we breathe is also important.
Like everything in this world, this technique takes time and practice to achieve the best results, but if you are willing to dedicate just a minute a day to doing this exercise, you will be amazed at how easy it is to control your emotional state.
Good day to everyone who is reading this article. Today we will reflect on very interesting topic.
You may have some experience with meditation and complete relaxation. Or, perhaps, on the contrary, it may be difficult for you to sleep, relax, climb different thoughts, not that they are negative, but they definitely give you no peace. This happened.
What is this? How to deal with this, is it necessary to fight, is it possible to stop this mental noise, and perhaps even benefit from it? That's exactly what you'll learn in this article on Stopping Self-Dialogue.
The psyche and inner world of a newborn child is Blank sheet. Gradually, the imprints of upbringing, social norms, the opinions of others, schools, friends, and parents are left on it. This is how our worldview arises. A picture of the world, born of external factors, thought through by the brain and passed through inner consciousness creates our life and subjective reality.
The thought process continues to shape our picture of the world throughout life, without changing or stopping. In addition to the picture of the world, a person’s thoughts create an image of himself in his own mind. The background thought process occurs in the form of a mental dialogue and fetters us, keeping us within the framework of formed ideas.
And now an adult is trying to influence his environment, change his life and other people, but nothing works. "How so?" - he laments and does not understand - “well, what am I doing wrong, why do I need this, why is this?” And it’s all our fault, created and recorded by our internal dialogue.
Mental dialogue from the point of view of psychology
The concept of mental dialogue in psychology is mentioned quite often and for a long time. This is a person’s internal communication with himself; it does not stop, except perhaps in a dream or during a change in state of consciousness (but more on that another time). So, often a person himself does not realize that many thoughts are constantly spinning in his brain, very often unrelated to each other. Each of them, like a tail, clings to a “piece” of the one that just left, the next one clings to it, and so on in an endless string.
E. Bern - creator of the theory transactional analysis explained internal dialogue as endless communication different states, in which our ego resides. This is the state of the child, the state of the parent and the state of the adult. These three models constantly communicate with each other, often contradicting each other.
This theory closely resonates with psychoanalysis, where, as is known, Freud identified three structures human psyche: “IT” (or “libido”), “I” (or “EGO”) and “SUPER-EGO” (or “SUPER-EGO”).
At the subconscious (that is, unconscious) level, these structures are in a state of conflict. There is a simple explanation for this. “IT” is subject to the principles of pleasure and happiness (which are the main goal in human life), “SUPER-I”, on the contrary, is a kind of censor, it is conscience, the bearer of moral and moral standards.
The “I” tries to establish a balance between the craving for pleasure and moral standards. If, to please the “libido”, but in opposition to the “SUPER-EGO”, the “I” commits a certain act or makes a decision, then it experiences remorse and a feeling of guilt. In addition to these two structures, our “I” is also dominated by the opinion of society with its demands, social norms and foundations.
In Gestalt psychology, for example, the technique of internal dialogue is often used for therapeutic purposes. When a person has a problematic situation with which he turns to a specialist practicing Gestalt therapy, he invites him to consciously initiate an internal dialogue. The purpose of such dialogue is the mental logical conclusion of a situation that arose in the past, is not completed and causes problematic consequences in the present. But here we are talking about meaningful dialogue.
It’s one thing when we consciously begin to think and ponder upcoming plans, to look for possible solutions to emerging problems. And it’s completely different when endless reflection begins ( internal assessment and digging into own feelings and sensations), experiencing again and again events that remain in the past, blaming or self-flagellation for certain actions of one’s own self.
What type of people are you? Are you using your own brain productively?
Internal dialogue in esotericism
In esoteric science, the concept of internal dialogue became widely used after Carlos Castaneda covered it in his books. According to his teachings, internal dialogue completely deprives the brain of flexibility and openness. It captures a certain perception of the world, which is repeated again and again, confirmed by an endless internal dialogue.
Special creatures- flyers (inorganic entities), through internal dialogue, instill in people the ability to perceive the world through greed, pity, boredom, despondency, envy and other negative qualities. And at this time the flyers themselves “pump” energy out of us, leaving only the smallest amount, which is only enough to be fixated on our ego and endlessly reflect.
A person does not realize that the thoughts that arise in the process of internal dialogue are the “intrigues” of the flyers, but believe that these are their own thoughts. Thus, he constantly loses energy and lives an absolutely limited life, perceiving the world in a one-sided plane.
If you stop the internal dialogue, you can get rid of the attacks of the flyers. This will lead to awareness and openness, the worldview will change, the world will shine with many new lights that were never even dreamed of before.
Everything that surrounds us is not objective reality, this is our perception of the world, born of an endless dialogue with ourselves about ourselves and the world. And this dialogue is always the same. And until he changes, nothing will change in life. Castaneda believes that if you do not stop the internal dialogue, a person will not be able to change anything either in himself or in his picture of the world.
Signs and consequences of self-talk
- Inability to concentrate;
- constant mental noise in the head;
- continuous reflection;
- state of permanent stress;
- inconsistency of consciousness;
- inability to make decisions;
- causeless anxiety;
- suspiciousness, suggestibility;
- insomnia;
- tightness physically and mentally;
- one-sided flat perception of the world;
- limited thinking;
- drowsiness;
- difficulty in practicing meditation;
- inability to control your own thoughts;
- living life on “autopilot”, without realizing oneself the current moment;
- aggression, guilt.
And believe me, it's not yet full list. And now are you ready to realize, wake up, become a warrior (for fans of Castaneda), in short, are you ready to stop the internal dialogue? Nobody promises easy way, but it's worth it, believe me.
Stopping methods
There are many techniques for achieving inner silence, silence, purification, catharsis, insight. We will tell you about some of them. They are divided into mental and physical. The first group of methods refers to mental ones.
Stopping by willpower
These methods are suitable for individuals with developed imagination, the ability to visualize and at least somewhat control your own thoughts.
Recreating a thought form. This method is best practiced in privacy and quiet, ideally before bed. Relax as much as possible, starting from the tips of your toes to the top of your head. Visualize any thought form, it can be a rotating ball, a sphere, a fiery cube, a luminous cone. Focus completely on this idea, hold it in your mind, do not allow your attention to switch and extraneous thoughts.
Check. This method, simple at first glance, can be practiced at any time, provided that nothing distracts you or interferes with you. Start counting backwards from a thousand. Count as much as you can, while thinking only about numbers.
Mental order(complete internal silence). Just tell yourself not to think, to shut up. Using your willpower, “catch” thoughts. As soon as a thought appears in your inner field of vision, immediately give yourself an order.
Stalking. This is tracking your own thoughts, feelings, sensation reactions in order to have full control above oneself.
Mental contemplation. Recreating through imagination in your mind mental images existing or non-existent places, countries, natural phenomena, consideration and focus on them.
Physical practices
Contemplation. Unlike volitional methods, this practice uses complete “letting go” of thoughts. Choose an object of contemplation, it could be the surface of the sea, natural beauty, a fire, a waterfall, a starry sky. Just watch and let go of your thoughts, don't try to control or stop them, let them flow freely, just relax and enjoy the contemplation. One day you will feel that there are simply no thoughts, your whole being is filled with aesthetic beauty. Practice this method more often, and in addition to stopping the internal dialogue, you will experience pleasure and peace.
Hard physical work. If by strong-willed methods If you can’t overcome the obsessive mental noise, you can use exhausting work. Your body will be exhausted with fatigue, and your thoughts will be spinning only in the area of rest and relaxation. This could be strength sports, wrestling, walking, running, swimming.
Meditation and yoga - classical methods stopping not only internal dialogue.
However, they require systematic approach and carry a lot of others positive effects.
Tensegrite- This special exercises, which Castaneda describes in his book “The Magical Passes of the Shamans of Ancient Mexico.”
Sensory deprivation. A win-win. This is “turning off” one or more, and ideally all, senses. This can be achieved by eliminating the influence of external factors.
There are special cameras sensory deprivation. The conditions of sensory deprivation in the chamber are complete darkness and silence (thus eliminating the effects on the organs of hearing and vision). A person is placed in a container filled with salt water, which creates weightlessness due to its density. The water temperature is equal to body temperature (thermosensitivity is eliminated).
But this cannot be abused, in short periods of time the brain is literally cleared, the internal dialogue stops, consciousness is reconstructed, complete relaxation and relaxation occurs. With a long stay in a sensory deprivation chamber, the effect can be the opposite: hallucinations, depression, inappropriate behavior.
A sensory deprivation chamber can be partially recreated at home in your own bathroom. Fill it with water at 36-37 degrees so that you don’t feel your body in it, use earplugs for your ears, turn off the lights. Relax and lie in this bath for 10-15 minutes.
We wish you, friends, successful stopping of internal dialogue, gaining control over your own thoughts and easy to achieve happiness.
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Inner dialogue is mental noise that is very disruptive when concentrating on breathing during meditation. These are thoughts like electric trains, because of which our attention is carried away after them. Calming the mind is a difficult task.
Let's start with the fact that HP is a very energy-intensive process. It’s one thing when we think about or look for a solution to a situation, it’s another thing when we chew over yesterday, old grievances, anxieties, think up conversations, scold ourselves, prove something to others, etc. We spend energy on moving, breathing, digesting food, communicating, sex, etc., i.e. on the obvious natural processes, unconsciously. We also spend energy on unconscious processes, let’s call them of a more subtle order. Constantly chatting inside ourselves, we build a picture of the world and rigidly fix it. We explain to ourselves why the world is such and such, we add new impressions, sensations, and build schemes. VD is a consequence of a clearly formed human perception system. What has grown has grown. But it is also important to know that VD is a constant drain of our energy.
Stopping the internal dialogue serves not only for the successful completion of any magical practice. The consequence of the ability to stop it will be improvement interpersonal relationships and gain creativity, due to the weakening of the existing Treaty and the increased energy of the upper chakras.
What does internal dialogue look like? A spontaneous movement of thoughts, the so-called “mental noise,” constantly occurs in your mind. Even with a quick glance at any object, associative chains are activated and the process of thinking about nothing begins. A person thinks, goes through some options for something, reasons, drives situations away. But the output is completely zero. Even the reason for the activity is lost in a second and the thought goes nowhere. All this resembles aimless chatter in a large unfamiliar company.
Try not to think about anything for at least twenty seconds. Without preparation and without stressing about the thought “you don’t have to think.” After twenty seconds you will discover that the thought process has not gone away and lasted the entire time you were “not thinking.” On top of that, in most cases the work of internal dialogue is duplicated by articulation. You can pay attention to the involuntary pronunciation of your thoughts, accompanied by corresponding micromovements of the tongue and lips.
Conditions for stopping internal dialogue
To begin with, you need to step back a little from your consciousness and, from the position of an outside observer, try to catch the moments when new thoughts arise. It is also advisable to catch the points of transition from one thought to another. Almost all techniques for stopping it are based on a good understanding of the functioning of internal dialogue and the ability to monitor the occurrence of unwanted thoughts.
External factors are also important for practice. It is desirable to have a separate room with a minimum of extraneous stimuli, such as light, noise, voices, etc. In addition to the fact that you will not be distracted, the spontaneous work of internal dialogue is more noticeable in the absence of obvious reasons for thoughts to arise.
It is advisable to take a horizontal position. Next, you need to relax, using the relaxation techniques available to you and give yourself the mindset to complete the practice. It is easiest to practice stopping internal dialogue in the morning, immediately after waking up, but the most effective practice is before bed.
First method (for the smart ones)
We move into the “observer” state and perceive our consciousness detachedly, monitoring the occurrence of spontaneous thoughts. When they appear, you need to extinguish these thoughts with a gentle push of consciousness, under no circumstances turning the process of detection or extinguishing into an independent mental one. Thoughts such as “some thought has appeared - now I’ll stop it” are also internal dialogue. Intention and pre-set must work. It is advisable to learn to remain in this state of inner silence for at least three to four minutes. Further, a transition to a state of altered consciousness (SIS) is possible, and internal silence will be maintained independently.
After repeatedly successfully achieving SIS with complete internal silence, it makes sense to tune into this state, like a beacon, and develop a code phrase or mudra that will be associated with this state. When using it, achieving a state of inner silence will occur noticeably faster.
Second method (for the cunning)
It is necessary to concentrate your consciousness on performing monotonous mental work that occupies the entire sphere of attention. We create the thought form of a blue cube. The cube rotates slowly. The main thing is not to let it out of your sphere of attention for a moment and not to lose your attunement to all aspects of the thought form - color, size, shape, smoothness of rotation. In this way you can also achieve the desired state.
Third method (for the strong)
The simplest and most complex at the same time. Stopping internal dialogue occurs through willpower. We simply silence our inner voice. With developed willpower it can work out.
The fourth method (for the patient)
In time with our breathing, we begin to count to ourselves from 1 to 100. If during the counting process at least one extraneous thought comes, we begin the countdown again. And so on until the result is achieved. Then you can increase the score to 200 and so on. The result should be the achievement of a state of silence that does not require effort to maintain it.
Fifth method (for the wise)
You can use the Zen practice of illogical and paradoxical images - koan. A large number of them can be found on the Internet. By focusing our mind on the koan, we drive it into a state of stupor. With sufficient concentration, there should be no extraneous thoughts.
Stopping internal dialogue without special conditions
All previous techniques required specific conditions for their implementation: silence, solitude, etc. How to stop the internal dialogue during an eventful day?
The fact is that a person performs almost all his actions automatically, without using the area of conscious thinking. Repeated day after day, these actions form everyday rituals, the implementation of which is the responsibility of the subconscious. The released energy of consciousness requires an outlet. It is the internal dialogue, in addition to fixing us in the existing Treaty, that is engaged in its “recycling”. Otherwise, unrealized energy can provoke nervous disorders and contribute to the destruction of the usual picture of the world.
A natural solution to this problem would be to exclude, if possible, everyday rituals from your life. It is necessary to change the existing routine and way of doing things. Try changing the most automatic ones first. Tie your shoelaces with a different knot, brush your teeth with a different hand and in a different way, arrange things differently on your desktop, find new way get to work. In principle, if hands or feet strive to perform some action on their own, this is a household ritual that can be changed. A consciousness busy with work will leave the internal dialogue without replenishment. The habit of having a constant mental background in your head will gradually go away. The main thing in this practice: when getting rid of some household rituals, do not create others.
Turning off internal dialogue
“You think too much, Harley.”
"Harley Davidson and the Marlboro Man"
In this chapter we will look at one interesting feature of our thinking, which is called “internal dialogue”. What kind of animal is this, what is it for and what is it eaten with? For those who do not understand its meaning from the term itself (you and I, reader, understand everything, but there are also editors, proofreaders and just typesetters in the printing house - they also love to read books), I will tell you a simple definition. Internal dialogue is talking to yourself.
For those who like to complicate simple things, internal dialogue can be called the terrible and evil term “divided Gestalt.” What is this - don’t ask me, these are vague echoes of psychological education.
In general, we often encounter this feature of our thinking. Why is internal dialogue useful to us? To begin with, this is a kind of mechanism for accessing memory and remembering information. A very, very useful thing. On the other hand, internal dialogue can often be a deterrent, a kind of “voice of conscience” during the process of meeting girls. That is, our internal dialogue in the context of communicating with girls often acquires a restraining, stopping moment.
Tell me, has it often happened to you that you saw a stunning girl on the street and while you were thinking, “how can I approach her, get to know her, what to do, how about this,” she has already left? As is easy to understand, in such contexts the internal dialogue simply needs to be turned off. Let me clarify right away that it is NOT NECESSARY to turn off the internal dialogue completely and permanently - we will lose a lot of interesting and useful features our body. For example, memory access.
Your task is to learn to approach and open communication in a state of “without thinking,” that is, without internal dialogue. Not by thinking, but by doing. This will play on you in a very effective way, as you remember from the first chapter of this book. How to do this? The easiest option is to tell yourself - Stop thinking. Let's do it!" – will also be the same internal dialogue that we would like to turn off. This method doesn't work. Which ones work?
There are several natural states for humans in which internal dialogue is turned off or reduced to almost zero. There are several of them, but not all may suit us. For example, in trance there is no internal dialogue as part of the state, but there is also absolutely no desire to do anything. Fortunately, the list is not limited to trance.
Now we will begin to study specific states that will help us learn to turn off the internal dialogue. But before we begin, I want to ask: have you ever had any important events in your life? On whom did a lot depend? Waiting for which ones could you get very nervous, constantly thinking about them? What was harder: the anticipation or the event itself? What wasted more energy? What was scarier?
Something tells me it's waiting.
So, it's the same with girls. Very often we take a long time to decide to come up and get acquainted. The more we do this, the more nervous we become. Has it ever happened to you that you saw a really beautiful girl, but by the time you decided to approach her, she was already lost in the crowd? Do you want to gain access to a state in which you first say “Hello!” and only then you begin to realize that you just met a cool girl?
If you want this, read and train very carefully.
State one – uptime
– What is there to think about? You have to jump!
The uptime state is very, very interesting in itself. In particular, it is characterized by the fact that all perception filters* are immediately and completely turned off and our brain receives a bunch of previously unsorted information. Accordingly, there is absolutely no time to “think”. The uptime state is also characteristic of us and often occurs, but not everyone knows that this was exactly what it was and that’s what it’s called. For example, I enter uptime quite automatically at some malls and markets when I pass by dozens of stalls in search of one single thing. And then I find her and approach her, completely unconsciously and on my own.
The uptime state has one significant disadvantage - you cannot stay in it for a long time. The brain receives a gigantic amount of data, and sooner or later it must be processed and “throw away” everything that is not needed and will not be used in the future. For example, after such trips to the markets, my head begins to hurt quite noticeably and I want to sit and drink coffee in silence for half an hour.
Before we study the most vigorous exercise for bringing your psyche into a state of uptime, I will tell you two very old and very oriental stories.
The first story came to us from ancient China, it is about five thousand years old. Unfortunately, I don’t remember the exact source of this story (where exactly I read or heard it), otherwise I would be happy to indicate it. This story is about how one young man came to study with a great master - an archer. Learn, oddly enough, to shoot a bow. The master took him to study and immediately put him in his hands with a huge and powerful combat bow, gave him an arrow, and showed him how to put an arrow on the string. And he ordered to look steadily at the target, which was a small ceramic circle at a very considerable distance. Every morning the student went to the shooting area, put an arrow on the string, pulled the bow and looked at the target. So two whole years passed, and one day the master approached the student and asked him: “What do you see?” “I see the target, the field around, the mountain in the distance. Birds flying past and people walking not far from me,” answered the student.
The master ordered the student to continue practicing. And again, every morning the student went out to the shooting area, put the arrow on the string, pulled the bow and looked at the target. And so two more passed many years. After this time, the master approached the student and asked him: “What do you see?” “I see the target, the table on which it stands, and nothing else,” answered the student.
The master ordered the student to continue practicing. And again, every morning the student went out to the shooting area, put the arrow on the string, pulled the bow and looked at the target. And so another two long years passed. After this time, the master approached the student and asked him: “What do you see?” “I see only the goal, and nothing but the goal. The target filled my entire field of vision, it became gigantic and I see nothing but it. It feels like I myself have become this target,” the student replied. The master asked to shoot at the target, and the student hit it in the very middle.
The second story comes to us from ancient japan, and she is more than a thousand years old. Unfortunately, I also don’t remember the source of information, so you can Once again you'll have to take my word for it. In ancient Japan there were warriors specially trained in stealth technology, who were called “ninjas”. They were famous for being able to penetrate the most impregnable fortresses, regardless of the quantity and quality of protection. What they were doing inside is not the topic of this story. Our story is about how they penetrated these castles. One version of their extraordinary skill is that these invisible warriors imagined themselves to be the objects they walked past. And this skill was so developed among them that even experienced warriors saw in front of them not a person, but, for example, a wall or a stool.
What were these stories for? It’s just that now we will learn to turn off the internal dialogue, using methods that came to us from ancient China and ancient Japan.
Exercise "Rolling renaming"
– ...And mentally flicked his tail.
Thirteenth little devil
Purpose of the exercise. Learn to disable the internal log, learn to enter an uptime state; working through basic social restrictions.
Basic execution. You will need to go to any public (in the sense of crowded) place. Find any starting point for the exercise - for example, the beginning of an avenue. It is highly desirable that this place is quite familiar to you.
Next you need to determine where you want to go from your current location. Important condition– this place should not be visible from the starting point of the movement. For example, this could be the end of a street that begins a hundred meters later at a traffic light; you just need to turn left.
Then you need to determine several intermediate points along the route from beginning to end. For example, there will be two kiosks with magazines, a traffic light, an oak tree on the corner and house number 65 bis, where the street ends.
well and next steps They are made according to the same structure, differing only in the place of action. So, at each intermediate point of your movement you need to stop near this very point (for example, an oak tree). Take your body into the most similar shape possible (for example, spread your arms like branches, put your feet together like a tree trunk). And imagine - what does this very oak tree feel? How does he feel? What does he see if he could see? How does he perceive surrounding sounds? And you need to do this at every step as completely and carefully as possible, until you enter the uptime state. Continue this way until the end point of the movement.
Criteria for performing the exercise. At every step, when you are in a state of uptime, people around you immediately stop paying attention to you.
Advanced Execution. The exercise is done in the same way as the previous option. You need to find the starting point of the movement, the end point of the movement, and intermediate points of the movement. The difference: you need to enter a state of uptime without changing your usual body position and continuing to move, that is, without stopping.
Performance criterion. Exactly the same as in the previous version, but when moving without stopping. The uptime state must be caused by mental effort.
Time estimation. Each version of the exercise must be practiced at least ten times. The total time to complete the exercise is about six hours of pure time.
Additions. If you find it difficult to start the advanced version of the exercise, continue with additional practice on the basic version.
State two – HPS
- Do you want me to get up and leave?
-Where are you going?
- Well, somewhere on the balcony...
From conversations with women
HPS is short for High Performance State. This is what NLP calls the state when our brains work in the “Eureka” state, that is, the thought process proceeds in the fastest and most comfortable way possible. HPS has several characteristics:
* optimal muscle tension;
* body symmetry;
* easy attitude to problems (laughter while making mistakes).
And what’s most interesting is that in this state there is no internal dialogue. On the one hand, HPS is interesting to us precisely from the point of view of turning off the high pressure, on the other hand, it will be useful to us in other situations. The HPS condition can work wonders, and you can easily see this for yourself. For example, why it might suit us:
* learn to generate quickly necessary words and carry on a conversation;
* learn to act quickly and confidently; learn to confidently achieve your goals; learn to learn from your mistakes; learn to act in the most effective way possible;
* …and something else.
How to enter this state? There are several techniques that can help us, and the simplest is the “Alphabet” technique. Its origins lie among many psychotechniques and schools, and even the exact author can only be determined after long and painstaking research. I can say for sure that the author is not me.
So, "Alphabet". To perform the technique, you will need a piece of paper with letters, which is in the same book. You will need to either tear out a leaf from the book (What blasphemy! Were you not taught to handle literature with care as a child?), or make the same leaf yourself, it’s very simple.
The sheet is a regular table of size 5 by 6 cells, in which the alphabet is written (ABVGDEZHZIYKLM-NOPRSTUFHTSCHSHSHSHYEYYA), and the second row is the letters (PLO) in random order. The only condition: under the letter “l” (of the alphabet) there is a letter “P”, under the letter “P” (ALPHABET) there is an “L”, under the “O” (of the alphabet) there is an “O”. The remaining placement options for the second row are arbitrary and random.
Exercise "Alphabet"
Now what to do with all this miracle (procedure for performing the exercise).
1. Stand on free place and hang a piece of paper with the alphabet at eye level.
2. Say the letter of the alphabet out loud while raising either your right (letter “P”) or left (letter “L”), or both hands together (letter “O”).
If you get lost, start over.
4, Continue until a new state appears, which is like a kind of lightness, flexibility and clear thinking at the same time.
5. Remember this state and learn to enter it simply by remembering it (without the alphabet).
In addition, I recommend doing this exercise every morning: it is done quickly, and the result is amazing. If this exercise is too easy for you, change the order of reading the letters of the alphabet - you can read in reverse order, from top to bottom, diagonally, only vowels, after three letters.
Now a little about how to use this state. For example, you see a girl and notice the first signs of an internal dialogue. You need to enter the HPS state (for example, by remembering the morning exercise at home) and begin action from this state.
The HPS state is also good for solving communication problems. How it's done? So simple that it can seem like magic and magic. In a few steps.
1. Remember your problematic situation. Remember well what you saw in the situation, what you heard, how and what you felt in your body.
2. Start performing the Alphabet technique until you enter the HPS state.
3. Revisit your old problem situation. Notice what has changed, what new options for action are open to you, what new things come to mind.
Criteria for successful completion. You easily and “laugh” at old mistakes and know exactly how and what to do in similar situations in the future.
This is where we finish studying this truly magical state, and if you want to find more techniques that can immerse you in this state, the most powerful of them is called “NASA”. This state is also the main one in seminars on the new NLP code, which you can attend for your own development.
State three – moment of mastery
A moment of mastery is a very, very interesting state that each of us experiences from time to time. The moment of mastery can also be called the moment of perfection and the state of creativity. On the other hand, it doesn’t matter at all what to call it; it is much more important to understand what it is characterized by. The moment of mastery has five characteristics.
1. Action from a state of naturalness.
2. Don't try, but do.
3. Lack of internal dialogue.
4. Complete perception of the world.
5. Optimal muscle tone.
These characteristics are present in any, absolutely any moment of mastery, and it doesn’t matter where this skill is manifested: in brewing tea or chopping cabbage. These signs exist, moreover, they are known to any of us and they are already hidden in us. Now we will learn to transfer our skills from one context to another, achieving maximum impact from our internal resources. But first, I will briefly talk about each aspect of the skill in order to clarify the process.
Naturalness is naturalness. Do exactly what you want, and not what you should and are obliged to do, and you will behave naturally. Not trying, but doing is a very important factor that allows us to learn instead of inaction. “I tried” means to me “I didn’t do anything.” “I did it, but didn’t get the expected result” for me means “I gained very valuable experience.” I am ready to pay a lot for the mistakes that I once made in my life. Because the washing I received is priceless.
Lack of internal dialogue - the whole chapter in the book that you are reading now is devoted to this.
The complete perception of the world is familiar to us from various practices, both spiritual and martial. By perceiving the world as a whole, that is, by defocusing our vision, we will see much more than if we simply look intently at one point.
Muscle tone is just a great thing. To begin with, our muscles have three basic conditions– relaxation, tension and readiness. In order to act from a state of relaxation, you must first prepare. To act from a state of tension, first relax. Acting from a state of readiness, we will spend exactly as much of our energy as necessary.
If you need a more detailed and complete description, then the factors of mastery are dedicated separate chapter in my book “The Russian Model of Effective Seduction.” In the meantime, let's start creating our masterful state in the context of street dating.
Exercise “Creating Mastery”
Purpose of the exercise. Creating a state of mastery in a new context, teaching the technique of transferring states.
Execution procedure. This exercise is best done in an atmosphere that is comfortable for you, where you are comfortable being and where you cannot be disturbed while doing the exercise. For example, at home.
You will need to find something you love to do and do very well. It doesn’t matter at all what it will be - programming in PHP or cross-stitching life-size portraits of Teletubbies. It is important that this is your favorite something you do really well. Pay attention - when you go about your business, are the moments of mastery that were indicated in this chapter fulfilled?
Remember when you did your job most perfectly, and pay attention to how you imagine it. Then imagine the context in which you would like to achieve such a state. This could include meeting girls on the street.
Next, you will need to mentally imagine two pictures at once, in one of which you are doing your perfect job, and in the other you are meeting girls. It is very important that the picture of the acquaintance is on the right, and the picture of the “mastery state” is on the left.
Then you will need to pay attention to the difference in the perception of these pictures. For example, your “mastery” picture may be more vivid, but your picture with acquaintance may be less vibrant. In addition to brightness, these can be absolutely any other parameters: volume, color, contrast, distance - anything.
The next step is that you need to make the new picture (the dating picture) the same level of perception as the “workshop”. Mentally imagine how, using an imaginary pen, you change the level of color or, for example, contrast in the picture you are dating. Keep changing the dating picture until the perception of both pictures is exactly the same.
When you finish, imagine how you will meet a girl on the street. Rate: How comfortable are you? If everything is about, k, go to the point “Performance Criteria”.
Performance criterion. You walk up and meet a girl on the street in a state very similar to your mastery state.
Time estimation. The exercise takes less than half an hour to complete. The thing is that this exercise does not always work out the first time. That is, you approached the girl, but somehow it wasn’t right. Then you will need to completely repeat the exercise again until your states during the moment of mastery and during the meeting with the girl are very similar. This usually happens after two or three repetitions. Thus, you will need about three hours of pure time.
Additional Information. This exercise involves transferring states using submodalities. what kind of animals they are and what they are eaten with is written in my book “Russian Model of Effective Seduction” in the chapter of the same name.
Other exercises to turn off internal dialogue
In addition to the tasks that are included in large and serious sections, I just have a couple of exercises for you that will turn off your internal dialogue. If they are located separately and on their own, this does not mean that they can be ignored. ramble. I guarantee you a complete study of the state “Internal dialogue is turned off or is outside the network coverage area” only after a comprehensive study of this very state by everyone in the indicated ways. At least a couple of times with each exercise.
Exercise “Gollum went hunting”
My darling…
I hope you watched the excellent film adaptation of the Professor called “The Lord of the Rings”. If not, I'll just say that one of the characters in the movie was called Gollum and he was cool. The main trick of old Gollum was that he had paranoid schizophrenia, complicated by a guilt complex. I mean, he had two “halves” of his personality - dark and light. The dark one wanted to receive the One Ring, the light one wanted to pass with honors probation and leave for rebirth with significantly improved karma.
In general, the most important feature of Gollum was how these halves communicated with each other - they communicated out loud. And now I will invite you to be such an interesting and cool character for a while in order to learn to turn off your internal dialogue immediately and for a long time. Ready? Let's start.
Purpose of the exercise. Learn to turn off internal dialogue; creating interest in a girl, developing the communication base, studying the significance of social conventions.
Doing the exercise. You will need to start communicating with girls by fully and out loud voicing your internal dialogue. The main condition: you need to say everything - both internal dialogue and ordinary words. Even if it’s a sentence like “I wonder if she has a boyfriend? You have a boyfriend?".
Criteria for completing the exercise. Complete shutdown of internal dialogue in forty-five out of fifty cases (ninety percent convergence).
Time estimation. To complete the exercise completely, you may need a week of time, an hour a day (seven hours of pure time).
Addition. This exercise is real banter. I highly recommend doing this, at least to understand the fact that no one has ever met this girl like this before... Do you think this is good or just wonderful?
Exercise “Yakal translation”
- God is dead!
- Nietzsche is dead!
This exercise is the first step to changing your consciousness. In which direction and in what direction - you will determine for yourself. I can say that such states are incredibly useful. Including from the point of view of internal dialogue.
Purpose of the exercise. Creating motivation for action, creating personal responsibility, basic transformation of internal dialogue.
Doing the exercise. Completed within three days. At this time, the exercise is done every minute, that is, you cannot interrupt it or take smoke breaks. So you will need to allocate either free time in this amount, or combine business with pleasure. What will be what is up to you.
So what are we going to do? Yes, everything is more than simple. You will need to “transfer” responsibility for actions onto yourself in all your thoughts and words. This happens as follows: all words denoting other people (for example, “she”, “he”, “they”, “it”) are replaced with the only acceptable word “I”. For example, instead of the phrase “She looked at me strangely,” you should think the phrase “I looked at myself strangely.”
It is extremely advisable for you to carefully ensure that all words denoting other people are replaced.
Performance criterion. Creating a state in which everything happens “as it should.”
Advanced exercise. The execution conditions are similar to the basic option, that is, the execution time is three days, careful control and allocated free time. In addition, there remains the condition of “transferring” all other characters to yourself.
Now comes the complication: you will need to translate not only animate beings, but also inanimate objects. That is, instead of the phrase “They show crap on TV,” you need to say “They show crap on me.”
Performance criterion. Creating a state in which everything happens “as I want.”
Time estimation. Three days for each difficulty option.
Exercise. "Inner Advisor"
This exercise is a pure reflection basic principle my developments are HZKNR* in its purest form. In this regard, I remember one very hypnotic story that happened with one of my hypnosis teachers, an excellent specialist. A woman came to him who complained of chronic pain and wanted to relieve it with the help of hypnosis**. This is not done very quickly, but the techniques are there, tested and developed. Okay, we induced a trance, identified the pain, and asked to slightly reduce the intensity. No way. It doesn't work, that's all. Brought out of the trance. "What's the matter?" “I can’t,” the woman answered. Fine. A trance was induced again, the pain was identified and localized, and they were asked to increase the intensity of the pain, that is, to make it “even more painful.” This was done without any problems. Then the woman was brought out of her trance. And she was asked a question:
- Who did it? - You.
Horseradish Knows How, But It Works.
In Ericksonian hypnosis, this is done by techniques from the category of anesthesia and analgesia.
What am I talking about? To the fact that we can mentally not only mute our painful sensations(which is undoubtedly a good skill, but not the topic of this book), but also manage yourself. If not us, then who? In order to do this exercise, you just need to realize who is the boss in your house. Only then get started.
Purpose of the exercise. Transformation of internal dialogue from limiting to supporting.
Preparation. You will need a comfortable place where no one will disturb you.
Doing the exercise. The exercise is carried out in steps that are quite simple, and you will succeed even if you doubt the result.
1. Remember a situation in which you had an internal dialogue that was interfering with you. For example, you wanted to meet a girl and you had thoughts like “what if she sends me?”
2. Determine the characteristics of your internal dialogue - just pay attention to the timbre of your voice, volume, speed of speech and other qualities.
3. Now start changing these characteristics simply by mental effort. For example, change the speed of speech of your internal dialogue. Timbre of pronunciation. Sound volume. Make your internal dialogue a voice that you would enjoy listening to. Continue until you truly enjoy listening to your inner voice.
4. Now you will need to make one more transformation. Change the words you say to yourself. Instead of those words that stop you, that can hinder you, use words that support you. Who will help you. Imagine if your inner dialogue was the biggest cheerleader for your success during dating and constantly told you: “Go for it! You can! Forward!" Continue until you create this transformation.
5. Imagine that in the future you will again have a situation similar to the one you started working with. How then will you think for yourself? If you think in a new way, then you just need to test your ability to support yourself. Check it out, of course. If your new self-talk has changed, but you know (or feel) that it could be even more supportive, you can do this technique again. As many times as necessary until you like it.
Performance criterion. Transformation of internal dialogue and passing behavioral testing. That is, internal dialogue not only changed in “greenhouse conditions”, but also began to be a supporting factor in real cases acquaintance.
Time estimation. No more than two hours of pure time for each execution.
Addition. If your internal dialogue is already supportive for you, then nothing needs to be changed. It works - don't touch it.
Exercise “Walking in someone else’s moccasins”
- I am a Taoist and have no head!
- It can be seen…
Talks of Sri Yaputra
The origins of this exercise lie in ancient times, covered with a dull layer of dusty antiquity. I can say for sure that I learned about this exercise from Galina Yakovenko, who was told about it by John Grinder, who learned it from Carlos Castaneda, and the latter, in turn, modeled it from the American Indians.
What did our red-skinned brothers do? They mainly hunted and did their main job almost the entire time they existed North America. On the other hand, the Indians had one small problem in training young warriors: if an old warrior took him hunting and began to explain and show everything how to do it and answer questions infinite number questions, then both warriors returned home tired and hungry. Which did not at all meet the high quality standards set by the tribal leaders.
Wise shamans came up with one interesting way training young warriors - learning through one's own experience, and not through the knowledge of others. How did this happen? There are many versions from different researchers, with various details. There is also a common part, which reflects the most important point this difficult and at the same time easy science - to learn without words. So, the young warriors simply went hunting with the old warriors, but they no longer asked questions, no. They had a completely different task - the task of completely repeating absolutely everything that the old warriors did. Walk the same way they walk, look in the same direction, freeze in the same place and for the same time, as if they had temporarily become the shadow of these experienced comrades. And what’s most amazing is that after a month of such training they could walk through the forest just as well and hunt just as well. They simply knew how to do it, but did not know how to do it correctly.
Now you and I will learn to study according to the American Indian way. On the one hand, you will be doing a very similar exercise. On the other hand, it won't take you several months to learn how to do it. A week is enough. Ready?
Purpose of the exercise. Integrating the skills of sliding renaming and shutting down internal dialogue.
Doing the exercise. You'll need someone you can follow for a while. It’s best if you have a friend who is ready to sacrifice an hour of his personal time for you. It’s even better if you do this exercise together, taking turns - first you will be the leader, then your friend.
Next, you decide who will be the leader and who will be the follower (then you will switch roles). The presenter's task is very simple - walk around the area, looking around. How to walk? In the most natural way, the way you would do it when you have a lot of free time and want to go for a walk. You should not run after buses, climb trees and do other small pranks. You should only talk to other people if absolutely necessary - for example, with a policeman when checking documents.
The task of the follower is very simple - to imagine as if he were the leader, to see the world through his eyes, to feel the world with his body, to hear sounds with his ears. To do this, you need to walk a little behind and repeat absolutely everything that the leader does - all gestures, movements, gait, head tilts. In a word, everything needs to be repeated. It takes exactly one hour to walk this way.
The criterion for fulfillment for the slave is that any thought processes are completely and tightly switched off.
Additional criterion for completing the exercise. You begin to move completely simultaneously, and not sequentially (sequentially - that means the leader made the movement, and the follower repeated it with a slight delay). You two don't have to talk at all.
Advanced Execution. You need to do the advanced part of the exercise when you have done the main part at least three times or you are already very good at turning off your brain while moving towards the goal. What do you need for this exercise? Just you, alone, without an ensemble.
You will need to find a girl who really likes you and walks down the street in splendid isolation. Then you start doing the same exercise with her that was in the basic part - that is, you follow her, repeat the movements, and so on. Your task is to follow the girl like this for at least five minutes, and so that she doesn’t “smell” you - that is, doesn’t turn around and look for you with her eyes. I'll give you a hint: you shouldn't do this exercise late at night on a deserted street.
Well, then your task is to get to know this girl. By the way, pay attention to how the girl will get to know “her shadow” (that is, you) and what is the difference between this approach, the shadow one, and the usual “just like that” approach.
Performance criterion. The girl doesn’t notice you while doing the exercise, that is, walking behind her, and reacts very positively to your appearance in her life.
Conclusion
Now, I hope, you will not have a question, “how can I turn off my internal dialogue and why do I need it?” All the exercises presented in this chapter work, and work well. It may take a lot of practice to become a master at starting communications, and believe me, it's worth a lot. And it doesn’t matter at all how, with what person, where and when to start communication - this is a great gift that develops. And when you develop even the basic possibility of a moment of mastery, you will learn a lot, a lot about your capabilities. And this can make you very happy. This is what I sincerely wish for you.
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Why stop the internal dialogue? Find out how a restless mind prevents us from living and developing fully.
What is internal dialogue?
Internal dialogue¹ is not just a verbal form of dialogue occurring in the mind, it is the totality of all thought processes, including creative thinking, mood, any form of movement and redirection of attention.
Tracking only speech form internal dialogue, a person loses attention to all other processes of his perception.
Internal dialogue plays a very big role important role in our lives, since external behavior reflects only a small part of our true “I”.
Most of the time, self-talk is negative, it reinforces any negative attitude and behavior. Only a few people have having enough faith in yourself and your abilities to lead a positive internal dialogue.
How to stop internal dialogue?
Stopping the internal dialogue is the task of every self-respecting yogi, even if he has not read the yoga sutras² of Patanjali³, where the first thing it says is that “yoga is the essence of stopping the bustle of the mind,” which is extremely important for self-development and spiritual improvement.
In fact, stopping this dialogue is very simple. Eat simple technique, which will help with this.
Technique
1. First you need to imagine a watch with a running and clicking second hand. Tick-tock - two seconds. Tick-tock, tick-tock, tick-tock - already six seconds. And tick-tock, tick-tock - it’s already all ten seconds!
2. While the arrow was clicking in my head, there was no internal dialogue.
3. By continuing to practice the exercise, you can eventually stop the internal dialogue for a minute or more.
To do this, you need to imagine in your head an arrow that has run for ten seconds, then repeat everything stated above, imagine an arrow that has already run for twenty seconds, and again for half a minute. And repeat it all over again (the arrow will run through the other half of the mental dial).
So, you were able to stop the dialogue for a minute. In order to stop it for 2 or more minutes, you should add to your imagination minute hand, which will move 1 minute after 60 seconds have passed.
With practice, the need for counting will disappear and the hand will move along the dial itself.
This technique is simple to the point of disgrace, but effective to perfection. You can combine the ticking of an arrow and breathing or heartbeat (if you can hear it). If you combine your breathing with ticking, then this technique can be adjusted to.
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¹ Internal dialogue is a concept in psychology, a process of continuous internal communication a person with himself, within personal autocommunication (Wikipedia).
² Yoga Sutras are the basic text of the Indian philosophical school of yoga, which has had, often indirectly, a huge influence on the perception of yoga in India and the rest of the world (Wikipedia).
³ Patanjali is the founder of Yoga, a philosophical and religious school (darshan) in India in the 2nd century. BC e. (