So how do you insult someone? Yes, very easy! Just don’t insult with action, insult better in words. After all, a word is worse than any weapon. In a word, you can not only insult, but also kill a person. Therefore, be extremely careful! Don't use insults as a means of attack. Only as a weapon of self-defense. In a dialogue, in an argument, to put the exploded person in his place. That is, beautifully and gracefully parry your opponent’s statements. Direct all his attacks back towards him. This works especially well before the argument has completely turned to emotions. Construct your statements with contradictory phrases. Very often this puts the opponent into a stupor. A person does not immediately understand whether he was praised or crapped on. After all, he is initially determined to resist on your part. But there is no harsh resistance.
It's very useful quality, the ability to turn a person off with a word. Especially nowadays! Yes, and at all times, people with a well-spoken tongue were valued in society. They were quoted, their phrases were remembered. And then they themselves used it in everyday situations. Ability to find in time the right word, quickly react to an attack in your direction, there is a very good quality. It is stupid and useless to prove something to a person, especially if he is not initially inclined to constructive dialogue. And he is trying to humiliate and insult you. Point his own weapon in his direction. Insult him! Only not rudely, but gracefully and beautifully. Listen carefully to what they tell you. And respond quickly and effectively. But you shouldn’t stupidly and blindly repeat after someone. Situations in life are different. Improvise. Practice. And don’t forget, insulting a person can get you jail time! And sometimes in the ear! Think about who and where you insult.
And yet, how to insult a person? There are a great many ways:
1. Agree with the person who insults you and bring him down to the same level.
This is the simplest thing - it's a classic:
- Yes, you are a complete fool and an idiot!
- Yes. I have a certificate too! Do you think it’s very smart to prove something to a fool?
- You're just a fool!
- Agree! This is because you constantly have to talk to fools.
– I’m not satisfied with your answers!
– What questions, such answers!
– Yes, I’m smarter than all of you combined!
- Certainly! After all, you are crazy. I wish I had a watchman for this shed...
2. Take a statement directed at you to the point of absurdity:
- Hey, slow down!
– I can’t, there must be only one brake. (It’s impossible, our pair already has one brake!)
- What are you doing?
- I'm doing it in my pants.
– Why are you scamming me now?
– And now who do you consider yourself to be, a bee or a rabbit?
3. Turn a negative statement into a positive one:
- You are a horse!
– If it weren’t for the suckers, where would you be now?
- There are only idiots around!
– Is it unusual for you to feel smart?
– What kind of phone is being grabbed when I’m talking to you?!
- I also prefer to talk with smart people!
4. Press the person “too weakly.” After all, no one likes to feel like a weakling:
– You’re dancing somehow crappy..
– I’m not dancing, I’m just moving my legs so you don’t crush me... (And you know how great I am at cross-stitching!)
-What are you babbling about?
- It’s strange, but others like my speech... Don’t you have a sense of beauty, or have hearing problems?
– Are you pretending to be smart?
– Do you have problems communicating with smart people?
5. What do you want?
- Well, why are you quiet?
– Did you already want to get to the surgeon’s table by this time?
- Well, who is brave here?
“You talk to me like that, as if your subscription to the emergency room is disappearing.”
-You are a simple housewife
- A You Want, to I was foreign exchange prostitute?
Useful tips
No one wants to just put up with the rudeness and rudeness that can be heard V public transport, at work, online, and just on the street.
There is no need to play the role of the victim, but learn to react correctly to aggression towards you.
Obviously, for most people, being rude to them can have a negative impact. influence well-being, self-esteem and performance.
How to respond to rudeness
To be able to respond to rudeness, you first need to work on increasing your self-esteem.
It is worth noting that being rude to a person with strong spirit not easy.
And yet, if you urgently need to know how to communicate with a boor, then you can use one or more methods of struggle.
Responses to rudeness
Calm
When talking to such people, you should never show them that you are confused. Try to express your point of view frankly, firmly and openly.
Try not to get defensive and speak calmly and relaxed.
Most often, rude people are weak, envious people who find it difficult to get used to honesty and calmness, and sometimes do not know these words at all. They take energy for their negativity from precisely those people who succumb to rudeness and begin to get nervous. Don't let them "feed" on your nervousness.
Sneezing
This method is more suitable as a reaction to prolonged rudeness.
If the person who is rude to you cannot stop, you may well be able to help him do so.
First, try listening to him calmly until he himself is convinced that he is right. After this, sneeze loudly and demonstratively - there will be a short pause, during which you calmly say the phrase: "Sorry, I'm allergic to bullshit." and politely add: "So where did you end up?"
Aikido
Simply put: you give me, I give you. This method transfers your interlocutor’s negativity onto himself. You just need to agree with his attacks against you, thank him for the time and effort spent emphasizing your shortcomings.
You can even praise your interlocutor for his attentiveness and the “advice” that you heard. Do this calmly and try not to show the caustic nature of your phrases.
It is worth noting that the more witnesses to the conflict, the better for you, because a rude person is unlikely to receive the necessary approval from the outside, and will most likely cause laughter and jokes in his address.
Boringness
This method can be used by administrators of forums, websites, blogs and social groups. networks.
Despite the fact that most community members are familiar with general rules, some still deliberately violate them, after which they express their dissatisfaction in private messages with administrators due to the fact that their access was denied.
After all the arguments are over, these characters move on to outright rudeness and rudeness.
The easiest way is to simply ban, but if you want to prove that you are right, try without emotions, describe in detail all the offender’s mistakes. At first, the interlocutor will resist and continue to “have fun” with rudeness, but when he realizes that they are communicating with him dryly, without emotion, he will simply leave behind.
Ignoring
Perhaps the most famous and simple method of dealing with rudeness. Sometimes silence is not only effective and safe, but also beautiful.
If you don’t need anything from a rude person, or you are simply not psychologically ready to enter into a debate with him, or if the “interlocutor” is simply out of his mind and can harm your health, just ignore him. Rude people want to win your attention, don't give them this joy.
It is worth noting that you also need to ignore correctly. No need to include an offensive look and sighs- these are signals that you paid attention to him. Don't show any emotions, a boor is nothing to you.
How to respond beautifully to rudeness
There are several phrases that can be used when you are confronted with a rude person:
"Sorry, is that all?"
"I thought better of you"
"Rudeness doesn't suit you very well"
"Do you want a polite answer or the truth?"
"Why are you trying to look worse than you really are?"
“Like everyone else, I also have bad days. Don’t be upset, everything will work out for you.”
“Yes, of course, go ahead. May luck be on your side” (in case someone jumps in line)
"This role doesn't seem to suit you. What do you really want?"
"Thank you for showing interest in me"
"Do you want to offend me? Why?"
How to respond to insult
If you are accidentally or intentionally cursed, you should not take these words literally and take everything personally.
Understand that if the one who insulted you Bad mood or is he just not well brought up, this does not mean that everything is your fault.
In order to be able to react correctly to insults, you need, first of all, to know that the person who insults you possible ways, he himself is a victim, namely a victim of the obstinacy of his character.
More often than not, those who "attack" and try to humiliate others are weak personalities who are simply unable to cope negative emotions, which encourages them to throw out everything on those around them.
What to do in response to an insult
If you are insulted by a stranger
The best option is to ignore it. Just try not to notice the one who is trying to insult you. Of course, there are times when you need to act differently, but most often you need to act as if the stranger is not there, and his words are an empty sound.
If you were insulted by a loved one
From the very beginning, try to dot all the I's. You should calmly and directly tell him that the words spoken hurt you. The right step there will be a discussion of the situation.
If you were insulted by a work colleague/boss
Under such circumstances, try to carefully avoid the conflict. If a co-worker tirelessly insults you and keeps you silent doesn’t help, try responding with a neutral barb.
In the case of a boss, conflicts are not needed, which means do not respond to insults. Instead, imagine your manager as a petulant, pugnacious little child.
In your head, pat him on the head, feed him porridge and help him sit on the potty. This is exactly the method that psychologists recommend. You will not only endure insults, but also gain good mood, or at least it will make you smile and increase your productivity. In addition, the boss may also pay attention to your durability.
How to respond to an insult
The person who is trying to insult you wants to assert himself, to stand out, which means you need to give him a cold answer: “Well, have you asserted yourself at my expense?”
When listening to such a person, try to understand what the goal is, why they want to insult you.
* If you don’t know how to respond to an insult, then you need to know one important thing - no wellit is possible to reach the point of mutual insults and rash reactions.
Besides the fact that it may look stupid, you are also susceptible to manipulation, which may end in a trap for you. You don't have to play by the rules that are imposed on you.
*Another main rule - respond to rudeness calmly without losing your self-esteem. But it is worth noting that the cultural response to the “attack” of a boor most often does not produce any effect, because the game takes place on someone else's territory and not according to your rules.
* When it comes to trolling, or other similar situations, it is best ignore the offender.
* It happens that you need to answer, but you know that all your arguments simply will not work against a stubborn rude person. In this case, the most the best option will turn around and leave.
* The person who insulted you or is trying to do so may simply be having a bad day. Therefore, from you it will be enough to ask: "Bad day?" . If a person is adequate, he will agree and may even ask for forgiveness.
But, if it comes to a troll, then such a question is not only inappropriate, but can also lead to additional insults towards you.
* Most often, responding to an insult is not a good strategy, and you can get away with it only by neutrally asking the person what he just said to you. Try to pretend that you didn't hear his words or didn't pay attention to them. In this case, only an outright boor will continue his “attacks”.
* If you find yourself in a situation where it is simply necessary to respond to the offender, or you are strangled by the desire to do so, do not rush at him. The main thing is to be calm, cold in words and expressions. It is advisable to silence insults with witty remarks and only after the interlocutor has finished his monologue.
* Sometimes an insult is more like a mockery. In this case, perhaps the best option would be to answer in the form of a joke, which not only will not offend the person, but will also maintain a normal relationship.
One of common mistakes that people make is an attempt to justify themselves, they say, "no, you're wrong, it's not my fault". Firstly, such a strategy can make you humiliated, and secondly, trying to justify yourself is simply pointless, because... As a rule, no one listens to excuses.
Inconvenient questions
“How much does it cost?”, “When are you getting married?”, “What is your salary?”- these questions are annoying, and despite the fact that asking them is bad manners, some still cannot restrain themselves.
There are several situations you can consider, but first let’s note a few universal answers.
How to answer in an original way
- “I am amazed at your ability to ask questions that can baffle you!”
- "You amazing woman(man). I have always been amazed by your ability to ask uncomfortable (correct, difficult, rhetorical) questions!”
- “I’ll be happy to try to answer your question, just answer first, why are you so interested in this?”
- “For what purpose are you interested in this?”
- “Do you really want to talk about this?” If the answer is yes, then simply answer: "And I'm not very good" - and end the dialogue with a smile.
If a person is not very pleasant to you, and you have no desire to communicate with him, especially after incorrect question, you can answer coldly: "It's my damn business."
- Ask again: “I understand correctly that...”
Questions about money
When you encounter unpleasant question, you have every right not to give your interlocutor any specific answer. For example, to the question "How much do you earn?" you can avoid answering “Like most, the average salary in the industry (significantly less than Abramovich).”
You can also answer this question with a counter question. For example, to the question "How much is the jacket?" You can ask your interlocutor how much his jacket costs. Another way to answer this question is significantly overestimate or underestimate the figure and then turn the conversation into a joke.
Questions about work
“What do you do?”, “What do you do at work?”
When answering similar questions, psychologists advise naming the profession that can give you more confidence in what you do. If your work is different, you do many different things, you can sort all the work for a month into sections. This way you will know what takes the most time.
Questions about personal life
“Why isn’t there a girl (boyfriend)?”, “When is the wedding?”, “Why haven’t you gotten married yet?”
You shouldn't take such questions seriously. In response, you can ask your interlocutor why such an unusual question came to his mind. In this case, the interlocutor will find himself in an awkward situation.
There is another option - just answer directly as it is. For example, to the question "Why one more (one)?" Proudly admit that you are patiently looking for your soul mate, who would not leave you in difficult times.
The third option would be "mirroring". For example, "Am I correct in understanding that you don't mind holding a candle over my bed?" , or "...what, today, is your main task to discuss my personal life?" , or "...is interest in other people's troubles normal for you?"
How to respond to rudeness
Boors can be found everywhere. These are people who often experience pressure on themselves, which leads to rudeness as a weapon of defense.
Why are they rude?
Reason 1: Despair
A person is not having a good day - so he is rude. For example, a saleswoman who is tired from the whole working day, a client, a colleague who is brought to stress.
Most often, such people, after throwing out all their anger at someone, feel guilty and may even apologize.
If you decide in such a situation to respond with the same weapon, then the feeling of guilt will go away and the person will think that being rude is normal.
Reason 2: Self-affirmation
When a boor humiliates another person, he feels superior to him, especially if this person, for one reason or another, cannot fight back the offender.
Usually such boors have, albeit not great, but still power. They believe that they can just take their anger out on those who depend on them and get away with it unpunished.
Reason 3: The desire to be noticed
If rudeness is integral part person, which means his roots can be hidden in childhood.
A child always wants attention and love from his parents. If he does not receive this, then he begins to be rude so that at least some attention will be paid to him. As a person ages, he uses the same strategy.
Responses to rudeness
Method 1: Don't take everything said to you personally.
Often a person who is rude does not do it specifically to you - rather, it is anger at the world in general: ill-mannered youth, men are assholes, etc. and only the brute himself is white and fluffy.
One can only sympathize with such a boor, because... the world he lives in is not easy to live in. Remember, every person sees the world differently. If a boor says that you uneducated person, you can try to refute his statement with your knowledge, but this is unlikely to work.
Method 2: A boor should not become the master of the situation
Try not to give the boor power over the situation so that they don't feel stronger.
If your boss is rude to you, and it is impossible to get away from it, think about the fact that you are not chained to him for the rest of your life. You are not a slave, you are only doing your job professionally, i.e. you help him carry out his work, which means you can call yourself a partner in a certain business. You can demand more respect for yourself because... you have every right to do this.
Method 3: Remember your rights
When you are rude to public place, then we need to fight not with the offenders, but with their superiors.
Find out your first name, last name, position and contacts. You can ask for a complaint book, if there is one. If this does not help, try contacting a consumer protection society or a lawyer.
Use your weapons - human rights and leverage. This method is suitable if the boor is an official, manager, waiter, security guard and other representatives of large organizations
Method 4: Use your imagination
Try to imagine the offender behind a glass wall: you see him, you notice that he is expressing something, but you simply do not hear.
You can also imagine a boor in the form of a big fish in an aquarium: it seems to be moving its lips, moving its fins, but it is not clear what all this is for.
If you watched the movie "The Matrix", then you remember the moment when Neo stopped the bullets fired at him. Imagine that the rudeness thrown at you is like bullets, and you are invulnerable, and all the rudeness does not reach you, falling with a ringing sound on the floor.
Method 5: Try to contact the boor
Try to find out the reason for the aggression. For example, you can say: “Now you are being rude to me, why do you need this?” or “You have a smile on your face and yet you say mean things, so I haven’t figured out how to respond to your words yet.”
Perhaps the person who heard you will think about his actions, look at himself from the outside and rethink his behavior. You can use this method when communicating with people with whom you will have to meet and talk more than once - work colleagues, acquaintances, relatives.
There is a chance that a person will look at himself from the outside and rethink something in his behavior.
How to respond beautifully to rudeness
Rudeness can be treated well with politeness, which frightens boors, forcing them to be careful when communicating:
- “You see, dear, I do not intend to communicate with you in such a tone.”
- "Dear, you may have confused me with someone"
If the boor just can’t stop after all your attempts, then save your nerves, wish him all the best and leave the place of conversation.
Sometimes a boor needs to be put in his place, otherwise by your silence you will make them stronger. A good answer can close the mouth of a boor. But remember, being rude to someone who is rude does not make you superior.
Try using humor. If someone is rude to you, smile and say "What a fool (fool, idiot) you are!" Such an act can anger the boor even more, whose reaction will make you laugh.
Smiling back often irritates a boor, so smile sincerely.
- “You deign to be rude to me... Why? Is your goal to offend me? Why?”
Answer in such a way that your word is the last and then the rudeness will stop.
Don't pay attention to the boor. Imagine the scenario in your head: “You are a leaf on the road... Everything passes by and doesn’t touch you.” .
Are there any insults for a guy? Naturally! And today we will be graceful and beautiful insult guys. But, I will immediately note that for this you need to be a brave and decisive girl. And even better - big and strong. Learn and practice the art of insulting beautifully You can . Or you don’t have to practice, but immediately start reading insults. Have a nice time and good memory!
Sometimes it seems to me that the pain in the ass is your inner core.
The present one guy the curves should be the convolutions, not the arms...
Be kind and brighten the world with your absence.
You talk so funny about serving in the army! Are you by any chance in funny regiment served?
Yes, you are just the spitting image of Pushkin! I really want to shoot you...
Oh, why are you leaving already?! It was so much fun without you...
You are so intelligent boy, even a hat on his head!
Yes, they’re already giving you absenteeism at the cemetery!
Don't rush to Hell... They definitely won’t start there without you.
You know, there are engine malfunctions. This can be fixed. There are malfunctions in the processor. It's tolerable. And, personally, you have a DNA malfunction. And this is forever... Is it okay that I’m so smart compared to you?
Is your whole body hairy or just your nostrils?
And you are unique boy! After all, not everyone is given the opportunity to develop their inability, but you clearly succeeded in this!
You are so well-mannered that not only do you not raise your hand to girls.
Mozart died a year ago at your age.
So, on a dating site, girls started writing to you, looking at your photo, “I’m sorry, but we’re not that lonely”...
What a meeting! And I thought you died... Our mutual friend said so many good things about you this morning...
I see you like to slow down without a car.
Your hands are, of course, clumsy. But the brains are smooth.
You are a real gem! I would even say self-degenerate...
Now, just don’t strain your head now. If a good thought came to you, it was only in order to get a good night's sleep.
Everyone says about you “you feel like you’re in school,” and indeed, it’s immediately obvious that you didn’t make it to college.
Cool insults without swearing. If you don’t know how to respond to an insult, but don’t stoop to the level of the insulter, then this will be very interesting for you!
01. Any similarity between you and a person is purely coincidental!
02. Are you always this stupid, or is today a special occasion?
03. As an outsider, what do you think about the human race?
04. I would like to punch you in the teeth, but why should I improve your appearance?
05. At least there is one positive thing about your body. It's not as scary as your face!
06. The brain isn't everything. But in your case it’s nothing!
07. Be careful not to let your brain get into your head!
08. I like you. They say I have disgusting taste, but I love you.
09. Have your parents ever asked you to run away from home?
10. If only I had a face like yours. I would sue my parents!
11. Don't be upset. Many people have no talent either!
12. Don't be offended, but is it your job to spread ignorance?
13. Keep talking, someday you will still be able to say something smart!
14. Do you still love nature despite what it has done to you?
15. I don’t think so, maybe you have a brain sprain!
16. Fellows like you do not grow on trees, they fluctuate there.
17. He has a mechanical mind. This is bad for him; he often forgets to turn his back to the wind.
18. His mind is like a steel trap that always slams shut when trying to find the answer!
19. You are a man of the earth, it’s bad that you’re not the best part of it.
20. He thought - this is something new.
21. When it finally gets dark, you will definitely look better!
22. Yes, you are just a wonderful comedian. If it's funny, it's a miracle!
23. In the book "Who's Who" you should be searched as What Is This?
24. You are living proof that a person can live without a brain!
25. It is so short that when it's raining, he is always the last to know about it.
26. Yes, you are just a template for building an idiot.
27. Why are you here? I thought the zoo closed for the night!
28. How did you get here? Did someone leave the cage open?
29. Don’t try to find anything in your head, it’s empty.
30. I think you wouldn't want to feel the way you look!
31. Hello! I am human! What do you?
32. I can’t talk to you right now, tell me where will you be in 10 years?
33. I don't want you to turn the other cheek, it's just ugly.
34. I don’t know who you are, but it would be better if you didn’t exist, I’m sure everyone will agree with me.
35. I don't know what makes you stupid, but it really works.
36. I can drive the monkey out of you, but it will cost you a lot!
37. I can’t remember your name and please don’t help me with this!
38. I don’t even like the people you’re trying to copy.
39. I know you were born stupid, but why did you relapse?
40. I know that you are self-made. It's good that you admit your guilt!
41. I know you are not as stupid as you look. This is impossible!
42. I saw people like you, but then I had to pay for the ticket!
43. Why are you such a fool today? Although I think this is typical for you.
The problem of annoying interlocutors is extremely common. It could be annoying admirer, just an acquaintance, an unloved colleague or a “sworn” friend. Many people try to get into a verbal duel when responding to unpleasant words swearing or even swearing. Perhaps this is exactly the reaction the instigator was seeking.
It would be much wiser and more promising to stop playing with words and try to emerge victorious from similar situation. How to beautifully “send” a person away without using abuse or “obscene” constructions? First of all, calm down and follow our recommendations.
Psychological science is skeptical about a person’s desire to rise by insulting other people, even if they bore him. It is extremely difficult to offend, insult or humiliate a self-sufficient person.
The situation is that a wise man will not be offended by truthful words, but will simply not pay attention to obvious lies.
It is not for nothing that the word “send” is put in quotation marks, since we will not use any insults, much less a three-story obscenity (even as an example). Humiliation, resentment and anger are the lot of a failed person, whose emotional background is dominated by negative feelings, and disharmony reigns in the soul.
Our task is to respond culturally, using psychological techniques.
Every day we encounter dozens, or even hundreds bright individuals, That's why conflict situations happen quite often. How to politely and reasonably “send” a person? Experts suggest using psychological sambo - a kind of counterattack that uses the strength (psychic energy) of the enemy.
And once again - no person is capable of offending, humiliating or insulting an interlocutor if he treats himself with due respect.
They take offense at the truth (or half-truths), subconsciously trying on unpleasant words or insults. That is, we ourselves belittle self-respect, reacting emotionally to unpleasant words.
Sometimes, when listening to an unpleasant or simply uninteresting speech from someone sitting opposite you, the only question that worries you is how to “send” a person away in a cultural manner?
I want to resolve such a not very pleasant situation carefully, without humiliation, insults and obscenities. We offer several simple techniques.
- Try changing the unpleasant topic by asking leading questions that relate to a completely different object or person. If the interlocutor tries to return to the stated topic of conversation, ask questions in a sharper tone. However, it is better to refuse aggression.
- Laughter is an amazing “weapon” that can turn a situation in your favor. Use the full range of humor (sarcasm, banter) to reduce an unpleasant topic to a joke. In a similar way you will be able to end a boring conversation and slide off the “favorite hobby” of your interlocutor.
- Try to constantly give the same unemotional reaction - “aha”, “really”, etc. You can just remain silent. Not finding an interesting and grateful listener in you, the annoying interlocutor will most likely go looking for a new “victim”.
In addition, before you think about how to send away an annoying person, you need to understand that not all aggressors should be responded to in the same way. So, if rudeness comes from a boss or work colleague, it is better not to provoke a conflict at all, but to try to stop it as soon as possible. Arguing with your boss is generally not a good idea.
How to be rude beautifully? Psychological Sambo technique
Yes, The best way“send” a person - ignore him. But what to do if the unpleasant interlocutor does not lag behind, but only gets angry? In this case, the so-called psychological self-defense, or sambo, will help, which will not only protect a person from the consequences of an emotional attack (confusion, bewilderment, confusion), but will also allow you to be beautifully rude (in our understanding, to fight back the offender).
If you don't know how to correctly send unpleasant person without swearing, then a psychological counterattack will buy time to gain self-control, “restore” causticity and the ability to make caustic responses.
So, psychological self-defense requires:
- use of clear speech structures;
- communication using correct intonation– for example, you need to communicate calmly, even coldly, thoughtfully or with a hint of slight sadness;
- thoroughness in conversation, achieved through:
- pausing before responding;
- slowness in answers;
- turning not towards the offender, but in the other direction.
When thinking about how to politely send a guy or just an acquaintance away without using insults, the easiest way is to turn to psychological self-defense. Let's take a closer look at his most popular techniques.
Endless refinement
The use of such a technique involves posing a question - which means that the opponent will have to think, transform the emotional charge into a rational, rational one. In addition, you will gain a little time that the interlocutor will spend thinking about the answer.
– This dress doesn’t suit you at all?
– What exactly do you not like about this dress? Which one would you recommend?
Remember that before responding you need to pause and speak calmly, even a little distantly. It is likely that you won’t even have to be rude.
External agreement
This method of psychological counterattack involves agreeing with the opponent’s statement. You show that you paid attention to his words, agreed with the criticism, but in fact you simply disarmed your interlocutor. After all, he was counting on you to start being rude or lose your temper.
Examples:
– You look absolutely terrible in these pants!
– Most likely, you are absolutely right.
– You are too self-confident!
- Yes, you're right, I'm self-confident.
– You shouldn’t be late!
- Yes, I'll work on it.
External agreement does not at all imply that you have changed your own position. However, after such an “agreement,” the aggressor usually retreats and even changes his attitude towards you. And you no longer need to figure out how to send an unpleasant person away without swearing or swearing.
Broken record
This technique is based on an interesting technique - you repeat the same verbal structure in response to rudeness or simply an annoying request. It is extremely important to come up with the right phrase so that it can be repeated over and over again without disrupting the flow of the conversation.
– Only you can help me complete this report!
– But no one wants to help me!
- Sorry, I'm extremely busy today.
- And what should I do now? I was counting on you!
- Sorry, I'm extremely busy today.
When using this technique of psychological sambo, you should not be distracted by other topics. In addition, you need to communicate with a person in the same calm, sad tone. Irritation or sarcasm is not acceptable.
English professor
This technique is based on your unwillingness to do the act or actions that the manipulator requires of you, because it (supposedly) contradicts your beliefs.
Thus, you pull the rug out from under the offender, because you react completely differently than he expected from you.
-Why do you always go to black clothes?
– You see, this is my peculiarity, my highlight.
-You are so strange...
“I’ve just come to terms with my oddities, and besides, they allow me to stand out from the crowd.”
Always remember that rudeness and insults are almost inevitable. Acquaintances or even strangers often prefer to throw out their negativity on others, so you should be prepared for any development of events.
Don't forget that from almost every unpleasant situation you can come out with your head held high, and you can fight back against the aggressor through humor, calmness, or psychological self-defense.
Hello, I am Nadezhda Plotnikova. Having successfully studied at SUSU for special psychologist, devoted several years to working with children with developmental problems and consulting parents on raising children. I use the experience gained, among other things, in creating articles of a psychological nature. Of course, I in no way claim to be the truth. last resort, however, I hope that my articles will help dear readers deal with any difficulties.