Sociologists say: there are no foundations, even the main unit of society is crumbling, people are tired of family life. There is no peace either under the olive trees, or under the cedars, or among the native birches. The number of divorces per capita is growing much faster than the consumption of meat and dairy products and is very close to the number of liters of alcohol consumed.

Türkiye

The Turks do not give much time for “thinking” and reconciliation - the documents are immediately sent to the court for consideration. In the case of mutual consent and the absence of disputes, ex-spouses receive divorce documents within 2-3 months. If there are disputes, as well as if one of the spouses does not agree to divorce, the divorce can last up to 4 years. As lawyers say, it takes a lot of time to gather everyone necessary documents.

In most cases, young children are left with their mother. The formula for dividing property is “50x50,” but anything can happen,” says lawyer Nadezhda Segedina. “For example, if one of the spouses is convicted of adultery or assault, then his share may decrease to 10-20%.” According to lawyers, judicial practice There are cases where husbands, due to infidelity and beating their wives, lost most or all of their property. Moreover, in such cases, the court may prohibit the ex-husband from approaching his ex-wife at a certain distance. In addition, you can receive an additional amount from the traitor - compensation for moral damage.

Child support depends on the parents' income and averages from $300 to $1,000 per child, but can be higher. The amount of alimony is determined by the court taking into account the costs of maintaining the child. Not only children, but also women can count on alimony. The more the ex-husband’s income, the more amount, which the ex-wife receives monthly. It can be either $1000 or $2000 and is paid until the woman enters into marriage. new marriage. If the wife was caught in adultery and this was proven by her husband in court, she is deprived of the right to such “severance pay.”

GERMANY

The trial begins only after the spouses have lived separately for a year. At the same time, it is not necessary to leave each other - you can continue to live in a shared apartment. But by law, the family nest must be converted into a communal apartment with separate rooms and a refrigerator. “A year for reflection” is not given only if the court learns about facts of abuse of a wife or children, alcoholism, etc. “If spouses do not have claims against each other, then it takes about a year to resolve all issues in court. IN difficult cases divorce proceedings lasts from three to five years. Usually this depends on the property claims of the spouses or on issues related to children (accommodation, maintenance, etc.),” says immigration lawyer Igor Geller.

In Germany, as in other EU countries, the court takes the side of the children: which of the parents more possibilities provide the child with everything necessary, and that is what he is left with. The characteristics of each parent are also taken into account. It is important that the parent is not a drug addict, alcoholic, or prosecuted for crimes related to violence. Each spouse has the right to count on half of the common property. At the same time, every detail is taken into account, so as not to deprive anyone, but also not to take away too much. For example, if the car was purchased by the spouse for own funds and is used for work, it is not considered common. If there is real estate, shares or other valuables, then their further division occurs in accordance with the marriage contract drawn up by the spouses before marriage.

“Alimony may vary from family to family. The court calculates how much money the child needs for living, education, and full development. Typically, a child is usually paid €300 monthly and above. It all depends on the conditions in which the child lives,” says Geller. It is interesting that a man, after a divorce, can support his ex-wife if she is temporarily unemployed.

MOZAMBIQUE

The reconciliation period is the same as ours - a month. If the decision to divorce is amicable, then everything is resolved quickly, within a few weeks. If one of the parties does not agree, the divorce process can last up to six months.

In the capital of Mozambique, Maputo, there is a special tribunal for minors (Tribunal de Menores). He decides who the children will stay with, and as a rule, the decision is made in favor of the mother. The Tribunal also ensures that in the event of the father's death, the inheritance passes to the children. “If the wedding was held according to local traditions, then during the divorce the woman may have problems. The husband’s family often took all the property and even the house, driving the woman out onto the street with the words: “This all belongs to our family!” If the groom paid a bride price - “lobolo” (money, cows, goats, sheep), then the children remained with the husband after the divorce. If the wife cheated, her family had to return the lobolo. But now they are fighting against it. According to the new laws, husband and wife have the same rights in property matters,” says Dmitry Yatsyuk, a representative of the Ukrainian community in Mozambique.

The amount of child support depends on the father's salary. For a specialist (doctor, teacher, civil servant) they cost approximately $200-300.

In Namibia and some parts of South Africa, a woman must cut off her finger in order to get a divorce and remarry. In Kenya, wives with rich dowries lower lip always inserted “akwanga” - a cylinder made of metal or Ivory. When divorcing, the husband returns the dowry, and the wife removes this cylinder. This procedure is very painful (for both the wife and the husband), and they say that “akwanga” exists to keep wives.

SWEDEN

A childless couple can be divorced immediately or given up to six months to think it over. If spouses have children under 16 years of age, then six months of reflection is mandatory (exception is couples who have not lived together for more than 2 years).

Property acquired jointly during marriage is divided 50% to 50%. In this case, debts are not divided in half. “In Sweden, almost no one leaves their children to their mothers after divorces, but they raise them together and share the costs for them (and there is no need for alimony. - Author). It’s just that mom and dad will have a children’s room in their house. And the children live either a week with dad, a week with mom, or two weeks with mom, two weeks with dad, etc. - as anyone decides,” says Marina Trattner, a resident of Sweden.

“According to local laws, a husband or wife is required to pay benefits to their partner (who needs it) for the first time after a divorce, until he or she learns a skill and gets a job,” says Marina. - If it was long marriage and one of the partners is unable to support themselves, then the benefit may be paid for years. If the father of the child is unknown, you can apply for state alimony - approximately $180. I don’t know how much the divorce statistics in the world would increase if the partners were as independent and the state provided assistance in the same amount as we do in Sweden.”

JAPAN

If the spouses have no claims against each other, then the marriage is dissolved immediately after filing the application (or within a few days). If there controversial issues, then the divorce may drag on for several months.

As in most other countries, common property is divided in half. At the same time, debts are divided in the proportion of 50x50. In theory, both parents have custody of the child, and the court gives preference to the one who can properly care for the children. Children almost always remain with their mother, but the father can appeal the decision in court. Good lawyer significantly increases the father’s chances of “winning” the child.

The court may order the ex-parent to pay the child $200-400 per month. At the same time, the payment of alimony remains essentially voluntary. The state does not have any leverage on persistent alimony defaulters. Interestingly, in case of betrayal, the offended party can receive a decent amount from the spouse. monetary compensation. A one-time payment from the cheater(s): as a rule, 3-5 million yen (24-40 thousand dollars). And you can demand it not only from the unfaithful spouse, but from the one with whom you cheated.

Like throughout the world, divorce in Japan requires high costs both for a lawyer and for alimony payments. Not long ago in the Country rising sun a bank has appeared that gives loans to those who are getting divorced. There is also an unusual event agency in Japan. It arranges solemn divorce ceremonies. The couple breaks their wedding rings with a hammer made in the shape of a frog's head (a frog in Japan is a symbol of change for the better).

ITALY

In this country, the time frame for reconciliation is at an all-time high. Only after 3 years of separation can you file for divorce. Final freedom has been expected for years and even decades. “In this country there is no concept of “mismatch of character.” Divorce must be seriously justified, and treason or violence must be proven. Collecting all the necessary documents takes years,” says lawyer Snezhana Bugrik. The divorce procedure itself lasts at least 5 years.

In 90% of cases of divorce, children here remain with their mother. But this only applies to Italian marriages. In interethnic marriages, foreign women more often lose in court, and the child is left with an Italian father.

In Italy, alimony payments begin immediately after filing for divorce. The amount of child support is calculated individually, usually the child receives several hundred euros. Fathers provide for their children financially not only until the age of 18, but also during their studies at the university, almost until the graduate finds a job. The ex-spouse can also receive alimony until she gets married again. For example, Berlusconi's wife demanded 3.5 million euros monthly.

There is virtually no time for reconciliation. It is enough for a Muslim to say out loud about divorce three times - and the marriage will be considered broken. Not long ago, news spread around the world that one of the grooms got divorced a minute after the wedding. The guy saw the bride only in a burqa, and when she revealed her face, he immediately decided to end the marriage, which is what he did. But resolving issues related to the division of property may take several months.

Women can also file for divorce, but usually do not do so even in cases of serial infidelity. It is virtually impossible for a divorced woman to remarry. A trail of gossip trails behind her, and the mother-in-law is categorically against such a family member. “They often write that after a divorce a woman leaves her husband in nothing but what she has. But I know women who ex-husbands they left all their property,” says UAE resident Shada. Children, as a rule, remain in their father's families.

Alimony is specified in the marriage contract. In case of divorce, women prudently ask for an apartment or an amount with 4-5 zeros.

No one is immune from adultery. Most often, this act is committed by husbands, but wives can also become unfaithful. However, they need compelling reasons for this. At the same time, women are very good at hiding an affair on the side. How to find out if your wife is cheating?

Why do women cheat?

Most often, men themselves are to blame for a woman’s betrayal. It is their behavior that brings wives into such an emotional state when they are ready for many rash actions, in particular an affair. Among the reasons pushing for betrayal are the following:

• The man's indifferent attitude.
• Having family problems.
• Dissatisfaction in intimate life with my spouse.
• Husband's constant jealousy for no reason.
• Monotony in life together spouses.

All these unpleasant moments can become an impetus for a woman to cheat on her life partner. With the help of her lover, her self-esteem increases again, she gains self-confidence, and feels desired. Moreover, relationships on the side always go without problems and worries.

Changes in behavior

A woman changes before her eyes after cheating.

• She behaves very shyly, answers her husband’s questions vaguely, and often completely avoids answering. She holds hers cellular telephone nearby, and when the call rings, he immediately retreats to another room, speaking in a barely audible voice.
• Also, the cheating wife regularly writes SMS messages. Among other things, the woman looks very happy, she is always cheerful and cheerful.
• The wife stops paying attention to minor everyday troubles and no longer scolds her husband for socks scattered all over the room, trash left behind, or dirty plates, although previously this could have caused a scandal.
• The woman now always deletes her browser history, logs out social networks, if the spouses use the same computer, although previously she did not hide anything from her spouse and allowed him to use her pages.
• The girl no longer changes clothes in front of her husband, but tries to go to another room for this purpose. Perhaps she wants to hide something new underwear, bought just for a lover.
• In addition, a woman gets very irritated if her husband touches her purse or wallet, although in the past she often asked to bring her something from her bag or take something from there. A cheating wife has no access to her personal belongings.

Changes in appearance

• A girl who cheated on her husband begins to actively take care of herself, pays too much attention to her appearance. She long time puts on makeup, bringing out every feature, uses types of makeup that highlight her beauty.
• The wife wears only those clothes that suit her best. Usually these are things that add more sexuality and emphasize all feminine virtues.
• How can you tell if your wife is cheating by looking at her panties? It is necessary to observe what kind of underwear she wears. If a woman cheats, then most likely she will start buying beautiful lace lingerie. At the same time, the husband doesn’t even know about such purchases; he finds things completely by accident. My wife puts them on only before leaving.
• The cheating lady starts going to the solarium, gym, and goes on a diet. And all this in order to improve your appearance as much as possible. If previously the wife did not take her own appearance so seriously, and suddenly such changes occur, then this is unlikely to be a surprise for her beloved husband. Most likely, such changes are an attempt to please another man.

Changes in the intimate life of spouses

A good way to find out that a wife is cheating on her husband is to observe her behavior in intimate married life. There are two possible options for the wife's behavior here.

• Firstly, a woman can completely lose interest in her husband, thereby refusing sex under various pretexts.
• Secondly, a completely opposite scenario is possible, that is, sexual life becomes more vibrant. A woman behaves differently in sex and is characterized by maximum confidence and relaxedness. She wants to try more sexual positions or role-playing. Here it is worth paying attention to the fact that the wife is in a new role-playing game behaves confidently, which gives the impression that this is not such a novelty for her.

But this is not a 100% way to catch a wife cheating, because nowadays you can watch and learn anything on the Internet. Therefore, you should not immediately base accusations on changes in sexual life alone. Perhaps the wife is changing her sex tactics in order to diversify her family sex life.

Lack of expression of one's feelings

You can check whether your wife is cheating by observing how she treats her husband. Most likely, the woman will stop talking about her feelings for him, although she previously confessed her love regularly. If a man tries to ask about her love for him, the wife will begin to change the topic, make excuses, and answer dryly and monosyllabically.

It will be quite easy for men to determine that their wives’ feelings have cooled. It is impossible not to notice this. It also happens that a girl doesn’t love herself once again to confess my love, that’s why I didn’t do it often before. But in any case, the wife always shows love through care and a desire to please. But with an affair on the side, you don’t have to wait for a delicious and beautifully decorated dinner, neatly ironed shirts, or constant calls.

How to know for sure?

In order to accurately recognize whether a wife is cheating on her husband, you can use the following tips:

• A woman should not be left alone. A husband should try to go everywhere with his wife. If she cheats, she will definitely be against spending time together and will begin to come up with all sorts of tricks to leave on her own business. If the wife is not having an affair, she will not object to going out together. Moreover, it will even improve family relationships.
• You can tell the woman that her boss is sending her on an urgent business trip for a few days. During this time, you just need to observe what the wife will do. This is the most the right way, allowing you to find out accurate information.
• In particularly advanced cases, you can install a hidden video camera in the apartment and monitor what she does in his absence. Of course, this is not entirely ethical, but if there is no other way to convict of infidelity, then you can decide to take such a step.

If the spouse still knows that his wife is unfaithful to him, then there is no need to create scandals; this is unlikely to change the situation. You just need to sit down and calmly talk to the woman. For many wives, this will be a relief, as they were afraid to talk about their affair before.

I am 36 years old, my wife is 34. We are both office workers.
We lived in a civil marriage for 2 years, then in an official marriage for another 2.5 when the scandals began. Now we have been quarreling once every two weeks because of her jealousy for 1.5 years.
Reasons: in the fourth month pregnancy– early February 2014, my wife suddenly accused me of having an affair with someone at work (allegedly after a corporate party). At the end of February she accused me again. Then in March (for the third time) she said that I brought that girl home from work and physically cheated on me.
Of course, I denied these baseless accusations. The third time she brought me to tears and almost hysterics (I had never noticed such a reaction in myself before) with the statement that we needed to separate. We were expecting a child and for this we bought a two-room apartment on credit, and here we have such accusations.
Then everything only got worse and continues to do so. She categorically does not believe me, although there is no real evidence of betrayal. She can’t name at least one time when I deceived her or did something harmful. Just the opposite.
She says that she feels something, it seems to her that she knows that I think about the other one. Any facts and events are interpreted as evidence of infidelity. Logic doesn't help. Other interpretations of events do not help. Being late once every six months after work by 5 minutes. - scandal.
He denies his jealousy. He doesn't want to see it from my point of view. He refuses to talk about everything. Or there is no understanding at all, even if we speak. TO psychologist go - refusal. Lie detector - refusal, they say, the detector can be deceived. Call details - refusal. Detective agency - refusal. Those. she's right, period, and I'm a traitor.
I’ve been fed up with this for a long time, and I’m ready to get a divorce (but I’m patient for now), even leaving my child (he’s almost a year old). Although I don't want to. She supposedly doesn't want to either, but constant quarrels they only make everything worse. She starts quarrels.
She had a difficult childhood, her father constantly cheated on her mother, she divorced her first husband after 5 years of marriage (her husband’s infidelity). I had an abortion once. She is generally somewhat suspicious, suspicious, and unsure of herself. Previously this was not noticeable. Now - very much.
I don’t know how to reach a person and start living in harmony again.

Artem, your wife’s condition goes beyond normal (refusal to clarify the situation, groundless suspicions, excessive suspicion). Therefore, it will not be possible to improve relations or get through. She doesn't want to leave conflict situation, and by keeping you in such a scared state, she apparently unconsciously believes that she is in control of the situation, you know? Perhaps she has borderline personality disorder with accentuation of the paranoid type. She needs to contact psychologist, you need to think about how to deal with this, and decide for yourself how dear she is to you, in order to smooth out her painful relationships with loved ones. How does this destroy you? Talk to your wife, explain that you are not ready to live in constant stress, which means that either you two solve this stress by going to a psychologist, or you make a decision without her.

Golysheva Evgenia Andreevna, psychologist Moscow

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Hello, Artem. The wife has obvious problems with self-esteem, against the backdrop of past unsuccessful, painful relationships (marriage), as well as the attitude from child-parent relationships, the prevailing stereotype that all men cheat. And with all this, she needs to start working with psychologist. You should stop making excuses and proving anything, because... with these actions she only receives confirmation of her own conjectures.

What to do? Here the following option is possible: If accusations arise again, explain that this is precisely what she is destroying family, and if you don’t start resolving this issue, then there will be another failed marriage in her life.

Popeskul Alexander Alexandrovich, online psychologist

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Some interesting statistics. The vast majority of readers of this site are women... When I first noticed this, I was slightly surprised, but then I thought that, however, there was nothing to be surprised about.

Indeed, women are more likely to seek solutions to their problems, discuss them and ask for advice. Men, on the other hand, are more often inclined to hush up their problems, because a man is strong and resilient and will sort out his problems himself, right?

Based on these statistics, I am increasingly beginning to write articles aimed specifically at a female audience. But resentment is a universal thing, and therefore it is impossible not to touch upon male feelings. Just because men don't like to talk about their problems openly doesn't mean that women experience resentment on average more often than men. In addition, the resentment experienced by men can often be stronger due to the fact that they do not often give it vent.

In what relationships does a man experience resentment? Of course, in loved ones. And naturally, one of such relationships is marriage. It often happens that a young man falls madly in love and, against the backdrop of sweet expectations of a happy future together, proposes to the woman. And of course, if the feelings are mutual, at first the relationship is truly a fairy tale.

But after a few years, the man suddenly begins to realize that the fairy tale he painted for himself in his imagination does not correspond to reality at all. And the reason for this is a lack of awareness, a lack of understanding of how women really work, and a lack of knowledge of what to expect from them. But instead of understanding the situation, he would prefer to withdraw into himself and endure, endure, endure. Until, sooner or later, a threshold is crossed and a quarrel occurs, varying in strength from moderate to catastrophic.

I note that we're talking about O monogamous relationships. That is, the husband and wife are expected to sleep only with each other until the very end, that is, until death or divorce separates them. And no one cheats on anyone, has never cheated and will never cheat. It’s immediately clear that the initial premises are not the most realistic, but we’ll talk about resentment in open and “closed” relationships another time. In the meantime, here's how a wife can traumatize her husband without realizing it.

How a wife traumatizes her husband in 6 different ways

1. Refusal of sex. This is in first place for a reason, since this is almost the surest way to ruin a man’s married life. Dear women, every time you deny sex to your regular sexual partner, it is a painful blow.

You see what’s the matter... Let’s talk openly. Men are lustful animals. They always need sex. Whether married or not. Even if he is 20 years old, even if he is 50. Rich or poor, ugly or handsome, a young sexy male fucker-bachelor or a modest middle-aged fat man-loser-married. In sadness or joy, in grief or resentment, men always want sex.

Of course, the frequency of the question varies from man to man. Everyone's libido is different - some people want sex 5 times a week, for others, once will be enough. This doesn't change the essence. The bottom line is that regardless of his character, he expects that because he is with a woman and he has a relationship with her, this automatically implies regular sex with her Always.

Yes, yes, I know what you might say. “It is not my responsibility to satisfy him.” “I’m not a prostitute for him, I’m the wife and mother of his children,” “Sex is not the most important thing.” But here's the thing - if you marry him, if you want happy relationship, and your relationship is monogamous, I have news for you. It is your responsibility to fuck your husband. And for your husband, sex is very important, even if it is not the most important thing in a marital relationship. Why is this so important to him? Because he is not only a caring father and faithful husband, and also a lustful animal, as I mentioned above.

Does this mean that I blame or reproach women? In no case! . Therefore, you should go through the husbands.

Husbands, come to your senses! Did you really expect that he Honeymoon, what did you have at sea when you fucked your newly married wife several times a day - is this the norm? Or is the first year of your relationship the way it will always be? I have news for you - women are biologically designed in such a way that they get tired of the same man in a long-term monogamous relationship over time.

Do you know why? Because genetic code, which people carry within themselves, has not changed for millions of years. And this code programmed women to search for a suitable male who would provide them with offspring and protect these offspring (amusingly, these two roles can be performed separately by two different men). How long does it need to be protected before it gets back on its feet and can escape? 20 years? 15 years? 10 years? No, less years than the fingers on one hand.

Therefore, from a biological point of view, a woman is “not interested” in sleeping with you for 20 years the way she was in the early years of your marriage. Because if you have been living together for a long time, then from a biological, sexual, animal point of view, you are no longer perceived by a woman as the man with whom she sleeps. At least not as much as it was before. Now you are more like a relative to her, and biology does not allow sleeping with relatives.

What about emotions? We are not animals, we are people, and not everything is controlled by biology. Yes, that’s true, not everything is decided by biology. But emotions are exactly the same biology, and they serve to ensure that you carry out your biological program. Your male biology has programmed you to have sex throughout your life. The point is not that we have more than just biology. The bottom line is that the biology of men and women when it comes to the sexual component of relationships is completely different. She needs to get offspring from a quality male from sex. And you, men, need sex to spread your biological material throughout planet Earth. And no amount of social concoctions from above can drown it out. fundamental difference between male and female biology, no matter how much society denies this, trying to equalize men and women or reduce the importance of biology to nothing.

What does all this mean in terms of the subject matter of this site? After all, the site is not dedicated to evolutionary psychology, but to resentment. And this means the same thing as always. on his wife, man. If you don’t like that the frequency of sex is decreasing, write it down on paper. And then, when you clear away the resentment and see the situation as it is, you can decide what to do. And perhaps you will understand that from now on you can no longer count on the same woman to be the source of your male joy and satisfaction throughout your life. But more on that another time...

2. Permanent commands. We are talking here about women with a more dominant character. Such women consider themselves “strong and independent,” and in practice this is expressed in attempts to constantly control the situation. If the situation does not correspond to the scenario of events, directives are issued to correct the vector. Such women have a vector for everything, including their husband. So it falls to him, the poor fellow.

Here again, men, wake up! A woman commands you only because you allow her. Yes, there are men who like to submit to a woman, but this is not about them. They do not feel offended by this type of communication with a woman. Therefore, if you are reading these lines, most likely you are not one of them. Clean your brains, remove all your fears and limiting beliefs that make you unable to resist a woman. And then it will be clear what to do.

3. Attempts to change it. Women get married expecting a man to change over time. Men get married hoping the woman will never change. Please, here's Venus and Mars, that's all. A man gets married, hoping that everything will be as it was at the very beginning. Stable relationships are those that do not change.

Give a man a beautiful, smart, cool woman with big breasts and/or an elastic ass + a set of all the qualities that are pleasant to him, and he will be happy. As long as it never changes, it always remains as it is.

But that's only with male point vision. From a female point of view, stable relationships are those that have development. Women are more dynamic creatures than men.

Women, especially those with a dominant character, expect that a man will adapt to new circumstances and, as a result, change if necessary.

Amendment - change if necessary to her. Personally, he may have no intention of changing, because why? And so everything is fine. But the fact that his wife constantly criticizes him and hints that he shouldn’t do this, or that he needs to do better, over time begins to settle in him in the form of resentment.

4. Excessive use of phrases “You always...”, “You never...”, etc. Oh, women love it. “You never help my mom.” “You always leave the toilet seat up.” Well, are you really ready to swear that he Always is doing something there or never Is there something it doesn't do? You don't have to answer, I already know the answer.

Again, the trick is the difference between the communication styles of men and women. The fact is that for men and women these words mean different things. For a man, the words “always” and “never” are defined by their lexical meanings which can be viewed in explanatory dictionary. For a woman, these words are subordinated to the expression of the emotions that she experiences at one time or another. And if the emotions are strong enough, they bypass the linguistic filters in a woman’s head, and are ultimately displayed as the words “always” and “never.”

Men, don’t attach any importance to this - just get used to the fact that women work this way - there will be less resentment. Don't cling to words, you're taking them out of context - her context emotional state Here and now. And the resentment that you have already accumulated - what do we do with it? We are working on it, of course. Without pity.

5. Making him responsible for his emotional well-being. A caveat should be made that not only women do this, everyone does it. And men, and old people, and children. And in relation to everything around. It’s not me who bears the grudge, it’s you who offended me. It’s not me who is a fool and a lazy person, it’s the state that is bad and steals. Etc.

But still, if we compare men and women in marital relationships, women more often behave with men in such a way that it is the husband’s fault that she is feeling bad at heart. There is an interesting apparent contradiction. On the one hand, women are more emotional, but on the other hand, they are less likely to realize what causes their emotions. And as a result, they do not realize that when they blame their husband for their emotions, nothing changes. He doesn't understand what he can do with you. Except to apologize for nothing automatically so that you calm down.

But men, again, the responsibility for the offense is on you. You, too, do not shine with awareness if you suffer from similar situations. After all, what happened was that your wife directed her Bad mood, and you have already formed a feeling of guilt in yourself. Then you take responsibility for her bad mood and begin to accumulate resentment, slowly hating yourself more and more along the way. No problem, work it out.

6. Indifference to his efforts. Do you want to hurt your husband? Stop appreciating what he regularly does for you and your children.

A single man does not need so much money to maintain his existence at the same level. This means that a lot of his motivation to work harder is you and perhaps your children. Unfortunately, this is often not realized or forgotten over time.

A single man does not need to help your mother, fool himself by communicating with your relatives, or be faithful for decades. Unfortunately, this is often not realized or forgotten over time.

I do not mean at all that men in marital relations make great effort to their preservation than women. Not at all. Forgetfulness towards each other is a universal human flaw that affects both men and women. Fortunately, it is possible to fight it - after all, the elaborations were invented for a reason.

Work it out, husbands and wives!

What is the conclusion from all this? There are two of them. The first is mutual understanding between men and women and conscious attitude to how differently women and men perceive reality and communicate - this is a guarantee harmonious relations. Second, if you have a grudge against your marriage partner, work through it! At the same time, in the process of clearing your brain, you will acquire the necessary transparency of awareness so that you will not have such problems in the future, regardless of your gender or marital status.