How to set goals and achieve them? How do you understand that the goal is “yours”? Why don't we achieve some goals? How to move on dead center and enter your bright future now? Read about this and much more in this article.
How to correctly formulate goals
IN Lately It has become fashionable to make a “Dream Map”, make lists of goals, and you have probably already read more than once about how to correctly formulate goals. I’ll tell you briefly how goals are set for smart technology. The goal should be:
- Specific
- Measurable
- Achievable
- Realistic
- Determined in time
In other words, if you dream of having your own home, your goal should sound something like this: “I am buying a house in the center of Sochi for ten million rubles in February 2021.” And don't forget that the goal must be realistic. If now ten million is indecent for you large sum, or for some reason you do not have the opportunity to move to Sochi - do not set such a goal for yourself. First of all, you must believe in yourself and have an adequate attitude towards your goal. Without your sincere belief and calm attitude towards the possibility of achieving this goal in 2021, the goal has no meaning.
The goal must be positive. There should not be a “no” particle in your formulation (because your subconscious mind does not hear it) and there should be no negative words that come from the opposite direction. Such as “get rid of”, “stop” or “stop”. These words are usually followed by what you want to get rid of, not what you are going towards. For example, the goal “I want to stop drinking” is entirely focused on drinking, not on the lack of it. Also, the goal “I want to lose seven extra pounds” refers our subconscious to extra pounds, not to being slim.
The positivity of the formulation lies in the fact that it should contain only positively colored words. They focus your subconscious on what you want to achieve, rather than on what you want to get away from. The goal should be aimed at something, instead of moving away from something.
A correctly formulated goal is already a big step towards it. Most people don't even know how to formulate goals correctly and don't write them down. If you don't want to be among the majority, take your diary or piece of paper and right now correctly formulate your main goal.
So, we learned how to correctly formulate goals. We are already at the start. Now it is important to familiarize yourself with the rules of the game and begin to confidently move towards your bright future.
How to set goals and achieve them - 7 simple rules
If a person lives his life without specifically realizing where he is going, and his thoughts are scattered, he will not be able to achieve his goal. A person living in this way, at this moment solves someone else's problems, unknowingly helps others achieve their goals.
In order to start confidently moving towards your goal, you must first of all be confident in yourself. How to raise self-esteem and build inner confidence in your power, read this.
When a goal first appears in a person’s head, it means that he already has all the resources to achieve it. Our subconscious forms only those desires that we can potentially fulfill.
So if you don’t live with the flow, but strive for something more, and if you already have a correctly formulated cherished desire in your head and on a piece of paper, then fulfill these simple rules. They will help you start moving confidently towards your goal. So, how to set goals and achieve them - 7 rules:
Rule #1: The goal should only be you
Exclude other people from your goal. Your goal should be only you. When a goal includes another person, she becomes dependent on him. All this “I want him to marry me” or “I want my mom to stop controlling me” doesn’t work! The goal should be only yours, and depend only on you. As you get closer to your goal, the space around you will change, and maybe this will make your loved one want to marry you, or maybe your mother will look at you differently and allow you to make your own decisions. The main thing is that on the way to achieving your goal, focus only on yourself, and everything else will follow.
Consider the goal in detail. You need to clearly see the goal and the path to it. What color will the house on the seashore be? Where exactly will it be located? How exactly will you save money for it? How much will you save each month? If you know where you are going and clearly see your goal, over time the path to it will begin to appear by itself, out of nowhere, space will begin to change circumstances to suit your goal. Remember, the road appears under the steps of the walker. So go ahead and don't stop one step.
Rule #3: Are you worth it?
Don't confuse a goal with a dream. Ask yourself: “Do I deserve this?” Often we want something and at the same time understand that we do not deserve it for some reasons and excuses we have invented. As a result, we are afraid to achieve it. We need to boldly face the truth. To be afraid of your goal means, on an unconscious level, to not believe that you can achieve it. If you think you deserve your goal, then go for it! If not, read the fourth rule.
Rule #4: Share until you deserve it.
Break the target into pieces. Every time you share a goal, ask yourself the question: “Do I deserve this goal?” Divide it until the answer sounds affirmative and confident. You are definitely worthy of this small goal, so start with it.
Danger! Don't discount your goal if it seems small to you. Ask yourself: “What more do I need this for?” Achieve it with the same zeal and tenacity with which you strive for global goal.
Rule #5: Eco-Friendly
The goal must be environmentally friendly. In other words, it shouldn't negatively impact other areas of your life. Achieving some goals may entail, for example, breaking a relationship, losing a job or losing friends. We may not suspect this, but our subconscious mind takes this into account, and as a result prevents us from achieving our goal, trying in this way to protect us from losses.
Let's return to the goal of purchasing a house in Sochi. If, for example, one of your close relatives periodically needs your help or, say, your child would not like to leave, he has friends and school here, then your subconscious will prevent you from achieving your goal. You will actively strive for it, but something will constantly stop you.
In the world of cinema, the so-called “love story” has recently appeared. Oscar's curse": over the past couple of decades, almost all women who received the coveted statuette divorced their husbands after the award. Could they have known that their goal was not environmentally friendly? Ask yourself: “Will achieving my goal have a negative impact? Negative influence to other important areas of my life? And if it turns out, are you willing to lose something important in order to achieve your goal?
Rule #6: Focus on the goal
Where attention is directed, energy flows there. What is your focus? On the grievances of the past? Or maybe it runs from one thought to another? Or maybe it is aimed at TV series and social networks?
Focus all your attention on the goal, think about it constantly, and do, if possible, only what brings you closer to it. This is the only way you can achieve it.
Rule #7: Do whatever it takes to get closer
Don't stand still. Each activity either moves us away from our goal or brings us closer to it. Constantly ask yourself: “Is what I am doing now moving me closer to my goal or further away from it?” Don't get carried away with the little things, focus on the main thing. The moment you don't do anything to get closer to your goal, you move away from it. Think, while you are lying on the couch, someone else is already achieving your goal.
How to understand that the goal is “yours”?
There are goals that for some reason are not being achieved. They end up on our target list by mistake. Probably someone imposed them on us, and we began to think that we ourselves wanted it. So how can you check whether a goal is “yours” or not?
Everything is very simple. Energy is released for any goal. If you have the strength for this goal, then it is yours. Your goal itself gives you the energy to achieve it.
The most important resources- inside us. It's high energy level, desire to do something, interest in it, as well as any positive emotions. Here's everything you need to achieve your goal. If, as you approach your goal, you feel an emotional and energetic uplift, then you are on the right track. After the first few steps towards “your” goal, you will have a drive, you will want to do more and more, get closer to the goal faster, you will go into a frenzy and will do everything until you get what you want.
If the goal exhausts you, you have no strength for it and you always want to take a break or get distracted, then this is not your goal. And don't even try, you won't be able to achieve it. And if by chance you are able to do this, it will not bring you the desired satisfaction.
What to do right now to ensure you achieve your goal
Take a pen and a piece of paper. Write down your goal according to all the rules you read above. Now write down point by point what you will do step by step to get to this goal. Our brain is designed in such a way that if you break down the goal into points, and these points are simple and even pleasant for you, then the brain will automatically start working.
Once you have written down all the steps, select four of them. Do one right now. Three more this week. This way you will launch in your subconscious the mechanism of movement towards the goal. This week you will determine whether this is your goal or not. If yes, she will begin to pull you towards her like a magnet. You will be surprised where strength, energy, people, money will come from somewhere for your goal. The main thing is not to lose regularity in your pursuit of the goal, the goal will pull you towards itself, but you will also need to make efforts to achieve it. And if these efforts are regular and systematic, then you are guaranteed to achieve great success.
Conclusion
Congratulations! You've just learned how to set goals and achieve them. Remember where your attention is directed, energy flows there. And where your energy is, there is your goal. How more attention and your goal will receive energy, the faster circumstances will adapt to its implementation.
Keep your focus on your goal, think about it, consider it in detail. How does she look? How do you feel when you think about her? You well? Then boldly go to her, and not a step back! Remember: every second either moves you away or brings you closer to your goal. So keep control of your movement and don't stop at anything.
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For example, every year I plan to start teaching Spanish, but I just can’t bring myself to learn even a dozen words. But stop entertaining yourself with illusions and wasting energy on it - what you put off until later for the hundredth time, you just need to cross it out and switch to something new.
❝ To achieve any goal, you need to invest the most valuable thing - energy ❞
2. Throw away unnecessary things: relationships, memories, things.
❝ Everything that went was not yours ❞
3. Write down goals and test them.
Test your new goals, ask yourself questions:
- Imagine that you have already received what you want - will it make you so happy? What will you get when you reach your goal?
- Do you have enough time, desire and motivation to get to the end?
- Is this your goal? Is she true? Sometimes we have desires based on the principle - a friend bought a new fur coat and I want the same one. Believe me, such a goal, even if achieved, will not bring much joy and will not give the charge of energy that you expected.
You can also use the well-known SMART technology. According to it, the goal should be:
S – specific /specific/
M – measurable /measurable/
A – achievable /attainable/
R – resourced /backed up by resources/
T – timed /related to time/
❝ Goals should be clear, simple and written down on paper. If they are not written down on paper and you do not review them every day, they are not goals. These are wishes❞
For those who have decided to work on themselves and achieve their goals, I offer the Success Diary - a classic diary with applications for achieving success and working on yourself
4. Systematize: desires, needs, achievements.
Let's break down our goals into desires, needs and achievements.
Desires- this is what you dream about and what you strive for, and necessity– this is something you need to do, but don’t really want to do.
For example, the first list will include the desire to go on vacation to Spain (I really want to!), and list number two will include doing redecorating in the apartment (I don’t really want to, but I have to).
To achieve these goals, we will use the reinforcement method: divide desires and needs into pairs and let them alternate.
That is, only by completing an item from the “need” list can you implement an item from the “wish” list. For example, after making repairs, you go on vacation to Spain.
This will be your additional motivation in achieving your goals.
❝ When you wake up in the morning, ask yourself: What should I do? In the evening before falling asleep: What did I do? ❞
5. Achievements
I highlighted achievements separately, because without personal achievements we do not move forward, we do not live, but simply exist.
Achievement is not only a million in a personal account. Learning to cook some intricate dish or losing five kilograms is also an achievement. This is what took you one step forward, albeit a small one, but you did it!
It is with such small steps of achievement that we approach our “Great Achievement”.
Setting and achieving goals becomes gambling when you put all your energy and effort into it. It’s addictive and you keep striving for new goals.
The main thing is that the first failures do not discourage you from continuing.
❝ Winners are not afraid to lose. Losers are afraid. But failure is part of the movement towards success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.❞
And in order to “not get knocked off your feet” in pursuit of your goal, take a look at the article, where you can find several tricks in order to effectively manage your time.
The ability to set goals correctly is not everything.
But, for example, Scott Adams, author of the acclaimed book “How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big,” believes that having a specific goal does not make our work more effective. “Don't set goals for yourself - you'll always feel like a failure. Instead, come up with a system and follow it.”
“Don’t set a goal to lose 10 kg, but turn it into healthy eating into your lifestyle. Don't set a goal to run a marathon in 4 hours, just train every day. Thanks to systematic approach you will gradually get closer to desired result by taking small steps every day and feeling fulfilled. You will stop feeling like a failure and increase your chances of success."
“Goals put you in a 'achieved is done' situation, whereas a system is something you do on a regular basis, patiently expecting that daily execution will help you improve your life. Systems don't have deadlines, and on any given day you probably won't be able to tell if you're moving in the right direction. But take anyone successful person and you will realize that most of them follow their systems, not their goals.”
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Today we will talk about how to set a goal and what they should be the right goals any person. In order to do anything, you should start by setting goals. Therefore, what exactly you will strive for and what you will achieve as a result depends on how correctly and competently the goal is formulated. Thus, this issue must be approached very thoughtfully and responsibly.
Rules for setting goals and objectives.
1.Good goals must be specific. When thinking about how to set a goal, try to formulate it as specifically as possible, so that there are no uncertainties or vague concepts in it. To do this, I recommend following three rules:
– Specific result. Setting a goal should include a specific outcome you want to achieve.
– Measurable result. The goal you want to achieve must be expressed in some specific measurable quantity - this is the only way you can really control its achievement.
– Specific deadlines. And finally, good goals must have specific deadlines for achievement.
For example, “I want” is an absolutely non-specific goal: there is neither a measurable result nor specific deadlines. “I want to have a million dollars” - the goal already contains a measurable result. “I want to have a million dollars by age 50” – that’s already correct positioning goals, because contains both the measured result and the time frame for its achievement.
The more specifically the goal is formulated, the easier it is to achieve it.
2. The right goals must be realistically achievable. This means that you must set goals, the achievement of which is within your power and depends mainly on you. It is unacceptable to plan something that completely depends on other people or some external factors, which you are unable to influence.
For example, “in 5 years I want to have a million dollars, which my American uncle will leave me as an inheritance after death” is a completely wrong and unacceptable goal. In order to sit and wait for 5 years for your uncle to die, you don’t need to set goals. And the most interesting thing will be when it turns out that he bequeathed his fortune to someone else. Well, in general, I think you understand.
“I want to earn a million dollars in a year.” The right goal? No, if you don’t have a penny to your name right now, you simply won’t achieve it.
“I want to increase my income by $100 every month.” This is already real achievable goal, of course, if you have calculated and understand exactly how you will increase your income.
Set yourself real goals, and you can achieve them.
3. The right goals must come from the soul. When thinking about how to set a goal, you should choose only those goals that you are really interested in and need, that attract you, that you really want to achieve, and the achievement of which will make you truly happy. There is absolutely no point in setting goals to do something through force, without desire, simply because it is “necessary”. Also, you don’t need to pass off other people’s goals as your own. Even if you complete these tasks, you are unlikely to get anything really needed from it.
For example, you don’t need to set a goal to get legal education, if you want to become a pop star, but your parents are “pushing” you to become a lawyer, because it is a “monetary and prestigious profession.”
Set goals that will inspire you, not stress you out!
4. The right goals must be positive. The same task can be formulated in different ways: with both a positive and a negative connotation. Therefore, when thinking about how to set a goal correctly, avoid negativity and use exclusively positive expressions (you write everything down!) - this will psychologically motivate you more strongly to achieve results. There are also 3 important rules here.
– The right goals should show what you want to achieve, not what you want to get rid of;
– Correct goals should not contain negations (“I don’t want”, “I wish I didn’t have”, etc.);
– Correct goals should not contain even a hint of coercion (words “must”, “must”, “necessary”, etc.).
For example, “I want to get rid of poverty”, “I don’t want to live in poverty”, “I want to have no debts” - not correct wording goals, because contains negativity. “I want to become rich” is the correct formulation of the goal, because... contains positive.
“I must become rich” - incorrect positioning goals: you owe only to banks and creditors; it is much better to formulate the goal like this: “I will become rich!”
Positive goals are much easier to achieve than getting rid of negative ones!
5. Goal setting must be written. When your goal is written down on paper or in an electronic document, it will psychologically motivate you much more to achieve it. Therefore, when thinking about how to set a goal, keep in mind that you need to record your goals in writing. And it is a mistake to believe that you will already remember well what you have planned. Even if you have good memory, a goal that you have not recorded anywhere is easiest to change or abandon it altogether.
Goals in your head are not goals, they are dreams. The right goals must be written down.
6. Break down global goals into smaller ones. If your goal seems too difficult and unattainable, then break it down into several intermediate, simpler ones. This will make achieving a common global goal much easier. I will say more, if you do not break important life goals into intermediate ones, then you are unlikely to achieve them at all.
Let’s take our first goal, “I want to have a million dollars by age 50,” as an example. If this is all you set for yourself, you will not complete this task. Because it’s not even clear how exactly you are going to earn this million. Therefore, it is necessary to break this strategic task into several smaller, tactical ones, showing exactly how you will go towards your intended goal. For example: “Save $100 a month for”, “Within a month”, “Open by age 30”, etc. Of course, these are just approximate goal trends; the correct goals should look, as you already know, more specific.
A global strategic goal will be achieved if you break it down into several intermediate, tactical ones.
7. Goals can be adjusted if there are objective reasons. If you have already set a clear and specific goal- this does not mean that it cannot be corrected. However, and this is very important, adjustments to goals can only be carried out if there are objective reasons. Reasons like “I can’t do it” or “I’d rather waste this money” cannot be considered objective. Anything can happen in life and in the world around you that will have a significant impact on achieving your goal. And when such force majeure circumstances occur, the goal can and should be adjusted, both in the direction of weakening and in the direction of strengthening.
For example, you set a goal to save $100 a month in a bank deposit in order to collect a certain amount. At the time the goal was set, the deposit rate was 8% per annum. If bank rates drop to 5% per annum, you will need to adjust your goal: either save more, or, if this is not possible, reduce the amount you want to collect. But if rates rise to 10% per annum, you will be able to adjust the goal in the direction of increasing the planned result.
In adjusting goals according to objective reasons there is nothing to worry about - circumstances may arise in life that could not be predicted.
8. Believe in achieving your goal. It is necessary not only to set the goal correctly, but also to believe in achieving it. This will psychologically help you go towards your goal and overcome all obstacles encountered along the way.
Belief in achieving your goal - most important factor on the way to success. There is no point in setting goals for yourself that you do not believe in achieving.
I hope this article helped you understand how to set a goal correctly and what your good goals should be.
You will find many more in other publications useful tips and recommendations that will become your assistants on the path to success, and will also teach you how to competently manage your personal finances, because achieving almost any life goal has its financial side. See you again on the pages of the site!
How to achieve your goals
What goals to set, how to set goals correctly, and necessary steps to achieve any goal you set.
Good time to you! IN last article we examined the importance of what success in any area of life primarily depends on, as many people think, nonsense.
And today we will consider: what goals need to be set, how to set them, and what is generally needed to ensure that you achieve your goals.
By and large, I won’t tell you anything particularly new, everything has long been known, but rather I’ll draw your attention to some key points, and I’ll give you a simple one, but really working diagram which I use myself, and which helps me step by step to achieve certain successes.
I won’t say that I achieved great results financially, but it’s also good that I was already able to get out of deep hole in the form of considerable debts and loss of housing after his first unsuccessful experience in business.
So, as for goals in general, I am sure that the first thing that should be most cherished for any person is target - BE HAPPY.
That is, you need to want not to survive, not to somehow reach old age, but want to truly be happy! This means living a life in which you will increasingly feel comfort, peace and joy within yourself.
And until this goal becomes paramount for you, some fears, laziness and excuses will stop you all the time.
“Everything comes true when the decision to be happy becomes a lifestyle.”
But very, very many people, without even realizing it, live just by survival, just to somehow live. They are not trying to change anything for the better, to achieve something, but simply go with the flow, living in the usual (old) comfort, not caring about the quality of their life, and believe famous saying- "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush".
Well, okay, if this tit can still fly somewhere, but for some it has been half-dead for a long time, its wings have been cut off and it’s not like flying, but weaving spruce-spruce.
Of course it's very important be able to live comfortably, being content with what you have, but you need to strive for the crane .
Therefore, you just need to set yourself main goal become happy. This is the most important and wonderful goal!
But the point here is that in itself this goal vague, it does not indicate what we need to be happy. Therefore, first of all, let’s look at what it could be and where to look.
What goals should you set for yourself?
We have many areas in life and each is important in its own way:
- Internal, State of mind , this is the most important thing! If you experience mental suffering, all the time or often feel some kind of internal pain, then everything else (given below) begins to lose meaning. And this is the first goal that you need to set for yourself - to find spiritual comfort. After all, life is, first of all, internal state , not achievements, events and situations.
- Physical health , at poor health, for example, a person is paralyzed, even having a million dollars will not make him cheerful, money can only provide some comfort.
- Job (creative realization), if a person goes to work like it’s hard labor, is forced to obey, endures and is afraid of losing his job, and every morning begins with the thoughts: “God, how can I get through another working day, I wish I had the weekend soon,” then one can hardly talk about happiness;
Take a closer look, everyone has some plans for you, your work colleagues, companies (organizations), the state and even your loved ones. Everyone wants something from you, but by and large no one cares about what you want. But it is very important not to ignore your sincere desires, satisfy them and do what you want in life. exactly for you likes it and gives pleasure.
Remember what aroused your interest or try yourself in something new, and listen to yourself, what causes a pleasant response in your soul. This could be any activity - dancing, music, painting, knitting, photography, cooking, gardening, programming, or even animal training.
And start getting involved in this, study and gradually become an expert, in the future, this can become the main source of your income, because it is in what they love that people achieve greatest success. Especially now, when, with the development of the Internet, a lot of new professions and opportunities for self-realization and earning money have appeared.
And for this it is not at all necessary to take drastic steps, quit your previous job or start a revolution, act for the future, just start trying things and learning.
- Financial(material) sphere, if there is not enough money and you have to worry all the time about where to get something to at least eat normally and give the essentials to your family, this is also not very rosy and will always be stressful. I'm not even talking about our dreams and desires - to travel, to pamper ourselves, our family, etc.
- Personal(family) relationship. A lonely person can live well, but he will be happy only if he has been able, so to speak, to develop deeply spiritually, when he can only be pleased with his own existence. But you and I are not some kind of enlightened people, not Buddhist monks, And constant loneliness it will be a burden to us.
- Environment and friends , all this is also important for joy and pleasure in life, and our success largely depends on it.
But you need to be careful in choosing such people and not be afraid to leave those who do not support and inspire you.
- Self-development . Here I’ll just say - it’s always important for us to strive to develop, even in the smallest steps. We don’t have such a thing that having achieved some result, you can hang in this state and somehow hold back development. We either move forward or degrade.
If, for example, you are overweight and have weak muscle tone, then it would be good to strive to develop your body if you are worried internal problems and you often experience negative emotions, and perhaps there are emotional disorders, then it is important to take care of your inner world, learn and apply something to improve your well-being and its stability.
In general, you need to set your own goals in these areas, because all these moments together make us happy, inspired and energetic, and for everyone they will be somewhat different, because we are all different, for everyone different conditions and resources, different predispositions and inclinations, and for everyone right now something may have a special need.
How to set goals correctly.
Take a pen, a piece of paper and, slowly, think and write down what your goals are now. What do you want from life? First write down everything that comes to mind, it could be 10, 20 or more goals.
Next, take another piece of paper and write down from all the previously described goals, the most-most necessary , the most cherished 2-3 goals for you, which you cannot imagine without happy life, what you will commit to with all your heart, what excites you when you think about it. In general, determine what you will want to wake up for every day, what will give you the feeling that your life is not in vain.
By the way, one of these goals, on this period life, will have priority over the rest, this is the most what you need now, but priority may change over time.
When you write these two or three goals, leave between them free place about a third of the sheet, here we will enter “ necessary actions».
So, for these purposes, describe in detail, how would you like to live and what to do? For example, I would like to do this, have such and such a family, have such and such, specifically in numbers, material income, where and how to live, for example, in own home on the bank of the river, the house has so many rooms, there is a garage, etc., in general, describe it in more detail and more colorfully.
And don’t write some pipe dreams, like: to have a billion dollars and for everyone to love me, but let them be brave and hot dreams, but what is certain is that realistically achieved in some foreseeable future(for example 1 or 3 years).
You can take your time and draw up a sheet of goals gradually, over several days, now the main thing is begin, and then, without delaying too much, bring it to the end.
How to achieve a goal - specific actions
After describing the goals, in the space left, write the following paragraph: “The most necessary actions leading to the goal.”
At this point, think and mark those specific actions that need to be taken to achieve what you want.
Moreover, write actions starting with the smallest steps, what will be the first and what will happen next.
For example, if you are single and want to start a family, then the first action would be: go outside and walk to where you can meet certain people, or find a dating site. And the second step will be: without any extra thought, while still feeling embarrassed, approach and talk to the person, say at least a few words or write him a message.
And if now you are prevented from doing these actions by being overweight and the uncertainty associated with it, then we set ourselves intermediate goal: “Start eating right and playing sports in order to become more confident and attractive.”
The same applies to the most important thing – our health.
What does it take to feel good, cheerful and energetic? And now think about how best to achieve this - what actions, where to start here and there?
These actions should be reliable, that is, proven, proven and working effectively, and not some of your own or someone else’s, little-tested stories and conjectures.
Example. For your good health, stable, good health and energy I need:
- relax regularly (what specific actions?)
- proper rest (when, how and what?)
- playing sports (what sport, what do I like best, what will be especially useful in my case?)
- learn (which ways exactly?), etc.
That is, describe specific actions in stages necessary to achieve the goal.
Scheme:
- Described in detail clear goal, which we set for ourselves
- (the most effective actions)
- (... action)
- (... action)
- Second detailed purpose
- (... action)
- (... action)
- (action), etc.
We consolidate our goals
After writing a piece of paper with goals and actions, often find a separate minute and remember (dream), periodically look through this sheet, and even better, if you at least sometimes (preferably more often), and for example in the morning, rewrite the goals in a separate notebook, in this case motor skills will be activated. It has been scientifically proven that the brain begins to perceive information described by the hand differently, more deeply and purely, and assimilates it better. Imagination and writing on paper are the most powerful tools for self-development.
It will also help greatly if you record your goals on an audio player and listen to the recording from time to time. After all, it is important not only to know your goal well, but fix it in your mind, make it an idea And start living for her . After all, there is nothing ideas are stronger, if some thought has built a nest in our head, it begins to control our life, and it’s good if this idea is useful!
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What you should always remember
Dreaming and acting towards your goals is important remember the present otherwise, constantly thinking about where you would like to be, you lose the ability to enjoy life here and now.
It doesn’t work in life that, well, I’ll achieve my goal and then I’ll live and become happy. In life it's the other way around at first you relax mentally and begin to relate more simply to yourself, to your goals and life itself, and without unnecessary stress, without burnout, you begin to move towards your plans, that’s all magically, although not always quickly, it works.
Therefore, keep a big goal for the future, but try seize the day , solving small problems as they arise, and not thinking about everything in advance, and not driving yourself to illness with the race for achievements. Big goal, as a bright landmark to which you need smoothly pursuit.
Just don’t forget that everything you do is primarily for the sake of your happiness, and to be in good mood and be content with life, you can right now, and this, oddly enough, depends only on you!
How to achieve your goals
Having set goals and periodically remembering them, begin to move towards this, trying no distractions to harmful thoughts, useless and stupid people, quarrels, arguments with someone and empty activities.
And start already right now, at least just do it taking your first steps without waiting for the perfect moment .
One of the biggest mistakes many people make is to constantly wait for that perfect moment to start something. Their whole life passes in this expectation, until their dream one day turns into disappointment. And this happens very often in life.
People think like this: I’ll start when I’m ready, when I gain more knowledge, or when my condition improves and I gain confidence, or in general, when some stars align and there’s a sign from above.
In fact, it's simple - there will never be a perfect moment, and you you're disturbing yourself change life for the better. You are afraid and listen to your fear, you have no faith in yourself and your strength. Probably sometime earlier you made a mistake and perhaps more than one, or maybe someone told you some kind of “nasty” thing, you believed it and that’s it. And now you are fixated on the fear of failure, which now prevents you from doing something necessary, and some people even began to think that he is in life.
And the maximalist always thinks that they are not competent enough, that they need to gain more knowledge, although, in fact, you don’t need to gain anything, it’s enough if you just know something well and can bring real benefits with it, and perfection will come with practice and time.
And all you need is trust yourself, trust life And take the first step!.
Of course there is a risk, but risk, this is second gold, it is always there, and it is different from recklessness great opportunities to make your life and the lives of your loved ones happier.
And often in life, some one required action is more important than all knowledge, just as a few seconds can change everything. For example, when meeting someone, when all you need to do is make up your mind and just start talking.
Finally:
Surely, many of you are now thinking, “Oh, I’m reluctant, I’ll write about my goals later, I don’t have time for that right now,” or “This is not so important, I won’t write anything, it’s unlikely to help anyway.” This means that your old beliefs have worked inside you, which are slowing down and ruining your whole life.
For those who did, save this sheet with goals and actions, review and apply it, it will be very useful to you!
If nothing comes to your mind right now and it’s incredibly difficult to think about goals, perhaps
Sincerely, Andrey Russkikh P.S. Watch Brian Tracy's video on how to set goals.
We do not achieve all of our goals - and often the matter is not laziness and weakness, but the inability to correctly formulate tasks and determine priorities. Mann, Ivanov and Ferber published a book by self-improvement consultant Robert Sipe about how to use brain science to increase productivity and focus on the practical implementation of your ideas and desires. “Theories and Practices” publishes a chapter from the book.
Reduce the number of goals
Write down the 5-6 most important goals you want to achieve in the next 90 days. Why exactly so much? The main thing at this stage is to reduce: the duration and number of items on the list. Why? There are five or six goals, because, as we already know, consciousness is not able to effectively cope with excess information. It is easy for him to focus on only a few tasks at a time. Of course, there is a right time and place for what is called dream creation, when you get rid of all the limitations of thinking and time and indulge in bold and crazy thoughts. This exercise is useful for expanding your horizons and the capabilities of your mind, but now we will do something else. Take a calendar and determine your next milestone in about 90 days. Ideally this is the end of the quarter, the end of the month is also suitable. If end point will come in 80 or 100 days, this is normal; the main thing is to be close to 90. Why is this important? Because for about that long, a person can be very focused on one important goal, without hitting the reset button, and still see real success.
It’s not for nothing that almost all diets or workout programs last approximately 90 days. A great example is the insanely popular at-home fitness program P90X. "P" stands for "power" and "X" stands for "Xtreme." Essentially just a marketing ploy. But behind the number “90” there are serious scientific justification. The program is not called P10X, because you won’t achieve much success in 10 days, but it’s not P300X either: no one can stick to the program for that long without a break. Why do you think Wall Street places so much importance on quarterly financial reports companies?
Because it is in this period of time that significant changes can be introduced without losing focus. In any important endeavor, a period much shorter than 90 days is too short to see real progress, and much longer is too long to clearly see the finish line. Study the next 90 days and write down numbers from 1 to 6 on a piece of paper. You will write down 5-6 most important goals that you want to achieve in 90 days. Now analyze all areas of your life: work, finances, physical health, mental/emotional state, family, community involvement - to ensure your list is comprehensive.
While you're writing down your most important goals for the next 90 days, let's review what makes a goal effective. In the previous chapter, we looked in detail at the five essential characteristics of your goals, and here I will again list them briefly.
1 . What you write down should be meaningful to you. These goals are yours and no one else's, so be sure to record what you really want to achieve.
2. What you write down must be specific and measurable. We're talking about a 90-day program with a clear end date, so general phrases like “increase income,” “lose weight,” or “save money” are inappropriate. Be clear about what exactly you intend to achieve during this period. How much money can you earn or save? How many kilograms to lose? How many kilometers to run? What will your sales be (define specific numbers)? Your numbers or details themselves are not important to me, but specificity is necessary. By neglecting this step, you will miss out on most of the opportunities this process gives you.
3. Goals must be of a suitable scale: requiring effort, but at the same time achievable from your point of view. Remember: you have about three months to do everything, and then you’ll have to sound the all-clear. So choose goals of a suitable scale. When performing this exercise, you will have to choose between the options “a goal that is bolder so that you have to strain” and “a goal that is more modest so that you are on the safe side.” The choice depends on your experience and previous successes. If you are used to easily achieving the main thing or you are a little bored, then choose a more daring goal. If you are doing this for the first time, then you should choose a more modest goal.
4 . Even if this is obvious, I will emphasize: goals need to be recorded in in writing. You will be doing both yourself and me a disservice if you read all this and do nothing. I didn't say "think about what you want to achieve in the next 90 days", I said "write it down." I assure you that the coordinated work of the eyes, hands and brain raises the choice and design of goals to a high quality. new level. So, get your goals down with pen and paper, not just in your mind.
5 . You'll be reviewing what you write on a regular basis, so be honest with yourself and create goals that you're excited to achieve. Once you have laid the foundation, we will develop whole plan with the need to be accountable to yourself and the programming elements, so be aware that you will be interacting with these goals.
Enough descriptions - it's time to work! Take a pen and paper and write down your 5-6 most important goals for the next 90-100 days. Give it as much time as you need, and then get back to reading.
Define your key goal
Now you need to determine which of these goals is key for you. You may ask, “What is a key goal?” And that's great, because you've probably never looked at your goals like this before. Your core goal is the one that, when seriously pursued, supports most of your other goals. Looking at your short list, you will probably notice that there are connections between many goals; you might even realize that some are competitive with each other. But I have found that in almost all cases there is one goal that, if pursued persistently, is most likely to achieve the desired results in all areas. I don't want to overcomplicate this. You may already know which of your goals fits this description.
Often, when a person gets to this stage, one of the goals he has written down will jump out at him and seem to shout, “Hey! Make my dreams come true!” If you have already found this goal, simply mark it on the list and then continue reading. If the key goal is not immediately visible, that's okay too. I myself often had to figure out which of my goals was key and where to direct my main efforts. You need the one with most likely will help you reach the rest.
There are several options. Sometimes achieving a key goal indirectly causes the implementation of others, almost automatically. It happens that a key goal requires the achievement of others as an intermediate stage or an auxiliary tool. And sometimes a core goal can impact your life so much that you gain the strength, confidence, and energy to crush any wall you encounter. Here's an example. Recently I started to figure out what I want to achieve in the remaining 100 days of the year, and I came up with the following:
1 . Personal selling.
2. Personal income.
3. Pay the debt off.
4 . Run 355 km and do 35 strength training sessions.
5 . Meditate at least 50 times.
6. Take 14 days of guilt-free vacation by disconnecting from everything.
These were the most important goals. Please note that they are all specific and measurable. I knew I needed to boil them down to one and get serious about it. Strictly speaking, there is no right answer; none of them were better or worse than the others. Deciding where the major effort would yield the greatest return was entirely up to me. Guess which target I chose? Sales. The number itself wouldn’t tell you anything, but I’ll describe my line of reasoning. By fulfilling the sales plan, I would thereby receive income and ensure repayment of the debt. Achieving my goals would also allow me to find time to take a vacation. What is the connection with training and meditation? I knew that maintaining physical, mental and spiritual health will give to me the right energy. So all these goals are interconnected.
If the main effort is directed towards a key goal, the subconscious mind actually takes on all these goals and the likelihood of achieving them increases significantly. Do you understand? Your next step- do this with your goals: determine which one is the key to the rest. If you have not yet selected it, then choose slowly. Make sure you are confident in your key goal before moving forward.
Confirm the reason
Now that you have one goal to focus on, it's time to answer the most important question: Why? Why is it important for you to achieve it? The answer can be suggested by intuition. Sometimes the stars align in such a way that it dawns on you. You say to yourself: “I don’t need unnecessary reasoning. I have never felt such enthusiasm before, I am eager to fight!” If so, great! Just write down your thoughts as a guide. If insight does not occur, try to stimulate your thinking with these questions:
Why do I want to achieve this?
What will achieving this goal give me?
How will I feel when I make this goal a reality? Self confidence? Delight? Peace? Inspiration? Strength?
How will achieving this goal help me become better or stronger? What do I need to grow in?
What else can I do after getting this result?
There are no wrong answers to the question “why”, and the more you have, the better.
Visualize your goals
To focus and tune your mind, you need to visualize your goals. So far, all your actions have been related to making plans. Most people don't even get to this stage of thinking about their goals, so you're already ahead. But there is still a lot you can do to speed up the process. Your subconscious is billions of times more powerful than your conscious mind. It thinks and works differently in many ways. As we have already said, one important key to the subconscious is to understand that it operates with images. The conscious mind controls coherent, linear thoughts, one after another (which even sound like sentences in your mind), and the subconscious, in fact, just sees pictures and persistently strives for them.
Take advantage of this: give your brain something to look at! Give him images to work with. Sometimes I have clients store images in a notebook or folder. Sometimes - create a dream board and hang it in your workplace so that you can see all the images at once. Many of my clients place pictures of their goals on cards along with affirmations. There are many ways to visualize your goals. Experiment and choose what suits you best.
Create supporting rituals
You won't have to sing hymns or sacrifice a lamb. To create a ritual, you consciously build certain automatic patterns of behavior that become tied to your goals. This is not just a technique I made up. Here are three books that convincingly proved its benefits to me:
The first two books helped me understand the science behind habits, and the third helped me create a step-by-step program that is now bringing great benefits to me and my clients. Do you know that most of your thoughts have become habits? Dr. Deepak Chopra claims that more than 99% of the thoughts we have today are repetitions of yesterday, and 99% of tomorrow will be repetitions of today. Actions are determined by thoughts, and many of them - at work, in relation to health, finances - are carried out out of habit. They are brought to the point of automation. Think about what you do in the morning from the moment you wake up until you go to work: how often is one morning similar to another? You put your feet on the floor, stand up unsteadily, brush your teeth, take a shower, drink coffee, get dressed, have breakfast (maybe), drink coffee again, check email, drink coffee again, wake up the kids, make them breakfast, drink coffee again and leave.
Track your morning activities for a few days, and you might be surprised at how similar each day is to the next. So you already have automatic behavior patterns; I advise you to do them consciously for a while, and then replace them with new ones. There are two periods during the day when this will need to be done.
The first is as soon as you wake up in the morning. The first hour - or rather, the first few minutes - is a very good time to program your brain for success. During this time, it moves from sleep to wakefulness, and its waves are configured in such a way that your subconscious mind is extremely receptive to the “thought seeds” that you sow. Have you noticed how the first minutes after waking up can set the tone for the whole day? Have you ever gotten up on the wrong foot? Be mindful and you'll begin to see practical connections between starting your morning effectively and your results throughout the day.
Most people miss this opportunity: in the morning we are either nervous for various reasons, or we move as if in a fog, not fully understanding what is happening. And many successful people purposefully use the beginning of the day to prime their minds and focus on their dreams and goals.
The second period when you need to program yourself is the last few minutes of your day. They are important for many of the same reasons as the first hour of wakefulness: it is a transitional phase for the brain. During last hour Before going to bed, find the opportunity to once again repeat your goals and some affirmations in the form of images, and then express gratitude for all the good things that happened during the day.