If you are a dreamy person, then your frequent absence “in this world” causes many problems: necessary things are not done, desires do not materialize, life seems to stand still. Imagination is, of course, good, but how to make it so that you both dream and do it?
There is an exit. Here are some simple solutions to help you get grounded.
Eat with pleasure
Delicious, satisfying food is grounding. To stop having your head in the clouds, you need to feel the pleasure of food. Thus, your attention switches to the earthly, dense - and now you are thinking concretely, tangibly, to the point.
Move
Shift the focus from the head to the body. When your blood is raging, you have no time for dreams. Vigorous cleaning, a pleasant walk in the park, swimming in a river or pool - everything will help you to be transported to “this” world.
Set yourself a specific goal and deadline
We dream when we have a lot of free time and nothing to strive for. No, in our heads, of course, we draw pictures of a wonderful future, but we don’t take action, because we simply devote time to the very process of dreaming. Come up with a goal for yourself, divide the period of achievement into several stages and act. You will see how there will be no trace left of ethereal dreams: they will be replaced with something very concrete.
Find something to admire
The fact is that we need external incentives to come down to earth. Beautiful colors, rich colors, amazing landscapes - all this will concentrate you on life here and now. You must understand that life is not a dream, but a reality. More precisely, these are those dreams and ideas that became reality thanks to your efforts or simply as a gift from nature, people, from everything that surrounds you.
Dreams are what make a person’s life better, richer, more interesting. There is nothing wrong with them, because it is in dreams that a person imagines what he wants to achieve in life, and only after that he begins to realize his idea. On the scale of human history, until quite recently, human flight across the sky, travel into space, the ability to communicate while in different places on the planet, at great distances from each other, seemed like a dream, and only in the last century these dreams were realized by scientists and engineers. However, dreams also have a downside. Some people become so deeply immersed in their own dream world that they become unable to make their dreams come true. In this case, we can say that dreams become harmful; a person needs to think about how to stop dreaming.
If you lie on the couch all the time and indulge in thoughts about how nice it would be to have a huge fortune, without doing anything for it, the chances that money will appear to you on its own are negligible. In the same way, you are unlikely to become one if, instead of working out in the gym, you simply spin in front of the mirror, dreaming of an ideal figure. In the first case, a carefully worked out business plan and absolute compliance with it in your work will help you realize your dream. The second involves a properly selected diet and a set of exercises necessary to correct your figure. Only when you begin to make efforts and patience to make your dream come true can you expect that your goal will be achieved.
For what reason do our dreams and fantasies never come true and come true? This may occur due to the fact that the fantasy is too divorced from reality, or due to the dreamer’s lack of confidence in his own abilities.
For example, you work in a low-paid job and you don’t have your own home. Your life's dream is a luxurious mansion on the Atlantic coast. Can this dream be considered feasible, taking into account the fact that even if you save all the money you earn throughout your life, it will still not be enough to purchase a plot of land and build a house? Most likely you will decide that your goal is unattainable. However, who is stopping you from changing yourself, the way you think, finding a new job that will pay you decently, or even starting your own business? Any dream can become a reality if you constantly do something to achieve it.
For those who are wondering about how to stop dreaming and start realizing their fantasies, can I advise you to think about what they are ready to do to get what they want right now? Don’t delay the start of your actions; start moving towards your goal right now. Do something every day that will bring your dream at least one step closer to you. Constantly ask yourself the question of what you have already done to make your dream come true, and how close you have come to this at present.
When setting a goal for yourself, dreaming about something, try to do it in such a way that your dreams are as specific as possible. For example, if you are not satisfied with your figure and you want to get rid of a few extra pounds, then you must clearly tell yourself exactly how many kilograms or centimeters are extra for you. You also must, in accordance with which you will move towards your goal. In this example, you must decide what your diet will be, what physical exercises you will do and in what volume, etc. When the plan is ready, start implementing it, and you can see for yourself that your dream is quite real and achievable.
If achieving your dream is very difficult, then break it down into several simpler tasks that you can do. By achieving these goals one after another, you will begin to believe in your own strength and in the reality of your ideas.
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I have one friend. He graduated from college, got a job in his specialty, worked in a bank for a year... And then he left everything and went somewhere near Ryazan to study as a civil aviation pilot, without even telling his friends about it. Such people delight and frighten at the same time. They admire the fact that they are not afraid to dramatically change their lives, do only what they want, and in general, they themselves are the navigators of their own destiny. And they scare us because they force us to take an honest look at ourselves - can we do that? Do we do in this life what we want, and not what we should? Are we in control of our own destiny instead of going with the flow? Unfortunately, we cannot always give an affirmative answer to these questions. Let's think today about what prevents us from changing our lives, and why dreams often remain just dreams.
Until a certain age, we all implement a relatively understandable program. We finish school, then go to college by our own choice or thanks to the strong recommendation of our parents. Many students, even in their third year, begin to doubt the correctness of their chosen specialty. Even more doubts arise among graduates who begin to work in their profession and, accordingly, get to know it better. After this acquaintance, some decide that they do not want to continue doing this work. But in order to change your life, you need to stop moving according to a given program. And this is difficult. Therefore, not all of those who are visited by such thoughts are ready to dramatically change their lives. What's stopping them?
Lack of time. This is paradoxical, but it is a fact - people drive themselves into a rigid work schedule, and then complain that they do not even have time to think about the future. Although this is about the same as typing with two fingers, spending a lot of time on it, and complaining that there is no time to master touch typing. Therefore, you need to stop looking for excuses and give yourself a whole day on vacation or on the weekend to do only one thing - think about what you want to change in your life and how to do it.
Lack of ideas. The second common problem is that people vaguely want to change something in life, but don’t know what exactly. To solve it, we will need that very dedicated day. We will write a lot. First, write down on a piece of paper everything you love and would like to do. Then – what do you want to do in five years. Then - after ten and so on. There will definitely be overlaps in all these lists, and they will tell you what you really want to do with your whole life. Then write what you need for this: get additional education, get an internship or start your own business. Remember if you have friends in this type of activity who are ready to help with advice, and perhaps with deeds. Based on all these thoughts, make a clear plan with specific deadlines for how you will change your life. After all, a ready-made plan is already half the battle.
Fear. But the main obstacle that prevents people from changing their lives is fear. After all, moving according to a given program (school-institute-work in specialty), we live in an understandable world. And to change your life, you have to throw yourself headlong into the unknown. This is how people are designed – everything unknown frightens us to the point of horror. Therefore, in order to get rid of fear, we need to make uncertainty more specific. Think carefully about what exactly you are afraid of. Imagine the worst that could happen as a result of these actions. Let's say you don't succeed. And then what? Think about how you will earn a living in this worst case scenario. The more clearly you imagine all the negative consequences, the less frightening they will be. In the end, the worst thing is to spend your entire life doing something you don’t like.
In fact, people who dramatically change their lives are not uncommon today. Only among my friends did someone quit their job as an engineer to go to study in Germany, someone quit their job in consulting to bake diet cakes, someone gave up a leadership position to teach fitness or teach kiting. There are plenty of positive examples. You need to look at them, get inspired and go find your own path.
Have you ever had a sudden change in your life? Have you ever thought about changing your profession?
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Each of us dreams of becoming successful in our industry. We can fantasize for a long time and imagine ourselves as famous, popular, but never do anything about it. It seems to us that the dream is unattainable, because we don’t have money, proper education, and sometimes we think that we don’t even have talent. And we put our dream on a distant shelf, periodically sighing “how good it would be if...”.
What if I told you that an unfulfilled dream will haunt you all your life? Psychologists call this incomplete action the “Zeigarnik effect.” This definition is named after the psychologist Bloom Zeigarnik, who made a scientific discovery regarding unfulfilled desires. In the course of his repeated experiments, it was found that unfinished actions are remembered almost twice as well as completed ones. That is why we remember for a long time what we did not complete or did not do at all.
Among my friends there are very few people who have not made their dreams come true, or at least not tried many times. Like everyone else, I also had a dream - to become a clothing designer. I had a period when this dream seemed unrealistic, because so much was needed for this. But! After talking with people who achieved what they wanted, I realized that I could do it too. You see, a dream is like a grain; if it is not sown, watered, or cared for, it will die. After much thought, I would like to give you some tips on how to achieve your dreams, especially if you want to turn your dream into your life's work. Of course, I mostly address this to those who want to become a designer, but don’t know where to start.
So, tip number one . Never think that you can't do something. Perhaps you just need a little more knowledge and time. Study the topic that concerns your dream. The main thing is not to be lazy and go to meet her, and not vice versa. Set a course towards realizing your dream and gradually move in its direction. Be sure to praise yourself and encourage yourself.
Tip number two. You must have a mentor. It could be any successful person who inspires you. If you do not know such a person, you can find him among your circle. Maybe you didn't take a closer look at your friend or didn't notice the mentor in your teacher. Take a closer look at your significant other, maybe your mentor is right under your nose. Mentors help us move in the right direction, recognize mistakes and correct them, and they are always ready to help with advice.
The third tip concerns your creativity. If your dream is related to creative activity, or more precisely to its monetization, then you need to study the niche that this activity concerns, analyze competitors and develop an action plan. For example, let's say you want to become a professional fashion designer. Of course, you can’t do without certain knowledge. If so, then you need to get them. Whether you go to university or take courses is your choice.
Fourth tip. Find like-minded people and unite in communities. In any community there is a group of people whose interests will be similar to yours. Communication with such people charges with emotions, inspires, and often supports. In such communities you will always find an answer to your question and can discuss any, even the most incredible, idea.
The last piece of advice is to give yourself time. The ability to wait is a very useful quality that will be useful to you in all areas. If you decide to study all aspects regarding your goal yourself, then get ready to spend a lot of time researching it.
I really hope that my advice will help you at least one step closer to realizing your dream. The problem is growing in scale, so we have created a new annual course “BECOME A CLOTHING DESIGNER”. We have put into it all the knowledge that is necessary to become a professional fashion designer. If you are looking for mentors, inspiration, useful and educational information on how to achieve your dreams and realize your talent, then this course is for you. More information can be found at the link >>>
I would like to end this post with the famous phrase: “Find something you love, and you will never work a day in your life.”
I wish your dreams come true!
Having a dream and being a dreamer are two different states of mind. Dreamers simply go with the flow of life without real plans. Anyone who has a dream acts towards achieving his goal.
When you decide to come down from heaven, overcome the obstacles that stand in your way and organize a plan of action, you become a doer. If you're ready to get started, here are 9 steps to stop dreaming and start taking action:
Take responsibility for your actions
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can."— Arthur Ashe.
One of the most frustrating things is listening to someone constantly complain about their life. Especially when they blame the world for their problems. Perhaps the whole universe is against you, does not care about you and is deceiving you. But your actions or lack thereof are not her fault. Say this statement out loud: “I control my actions and choose how I respond to circumstances.” Say this every day. Nothing is truer than this statement.
You can and should start being active and emotional. Learn to control your anger when you are angry. When a negative thought enters your head, immediately push it back out. This will take practice because we have been programmed by our environment to behave and think a certain way. Fight to change your negative thinking, or you will remain a bitter and unhappy person. Use your aggression for good, or use it in your work.
Give and receive love and forgiveness
“Learn to fill your day with POSITIVITY. Think about how your ideas CAN work, not how they can't."— Steve Harvey.
Once you have harnessed your inner ability to control your thoughts and emotions, it is time to start focusing on the positive. The best way to start is to accept and forgive the people who have hurt you. Loving and forgiving is no longer about giving something to someone, but about receiving - you heal by letting go of negative relationships. If these people truly love and care about you, they will fight for you. If you leave and never hear from them again, then they don't care about you, so why should you? Your resentments cause you to focus on people who are not worthy of your time and attention. Anger makes you feel depressed, deceived, sad, sad and lonely. Learn to truly forgive those who have offended you and you will take tons of weight off your shoulders. You will free your mind and be able to start working towards your dreams.
Accept yourself
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”— Eleanor Roosevelt
Now that you're focused on living positively, it's time to look in the mirror and love what you see. Physically and mentally. . Don't let anyone dictate how to live your life. This will only lead to a boring, predictable, miserable and mediocre life. Do what makes you happy, don't just dream about it. Love everything about yourself, including your flaws.
Choose your surroundings wisely
“We met not by chance, You are either a blessing or a lesson.”
This path will end many relationships in your life. People who don't support you, who take advantage of you and are negative should leave! At first, you may feel lonely and insecure. If you focus on yourself and not on them, these feelings will go away. It's time to move on. Time to let go. Those who truly love and respect you, who accept you for who you are, will stay. They will support you throughout your journey. Your relationship with them will become more valuable to you than it ever was. If you give your all in a relationship and they don't give anything back, stop running after them the next time they leave. You will thank yourself for this in the future.
Learn to ignore negativity from other people
“I don’t know what the key to success is, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.”-Bill Cosby
Since you have set out on your path, there will always be people who will try in every possible way to pull you off it. Therefore, before starting, you must complete the steps described above. If you are prepared for the attacks of the haters, you can rise above. It is easier to criticize others than to work on yourself. Knowing this gives you a sense of peace about where you and where they are in life. It's obvious that you are taller, even if others don't think so. Keep moving and let them say what they want.
Make your plans carefully
“Failure is not the opposite of success, but inaction.”— Royce Liano
Freeing your mind from emotional confinement gives you space to focus on your dreams. Now that you have a clear understanding, it's time to take action. As a doer, you need a game plan. Write your end goals at the top of a piece of paper. Below, write down the steps you plan to take to get there in an organized, realistic manner. Let's say your goal is to become a nurse. Your possible first step is to volunteer at your local hospital to see if it's something you really enjoy. Next, you can make a list of schools that you can apply to. The third step is to collect the necessary documents for admission to the respective colleges. See what you got? The sum of all the small actions you take equals your goal. Write them down in your list of daily, weekly, monthly tasks, and get closer to your dream.
Do ANYTHING, ANYTHING
“Success usually comes to those who are too busy to look for it.”— Henry David Thoreau
Many people get to step 6 and stop. Your plan will not magically come true on its own. To get results later, you need to do something today. So start exploring, traveling, volunteering, writing, calling, asking, developing, or jumping on any opportunity that will help you get ahead. You may have to make difficult decisions to ultimately reach your goal. Start with what you can, do your best, that's where it starts.
Accept failure and detours
“I didn’t suffer defeats. I just found 10,000 ways that don't work."- Thomas Edison
We've all had epic failures in life. It's time to stop looking at these failures as the end of everything. Failure is an integral part of success. Ask any highly successful person if he has ever had failures and he will tell you that he has had hundreds of them. Failure just means trying another way. Start looking at failures as positive experiences. How can we learn without making mistakes? An error is the result of an attempt. People who avoid failure in everything lead mediocre lives. We are not like that. We long for true happiness and inner peace. I remember in the past, I would go to work with trepidation and fear. Now, thinking about work, I feel calm and happy. It's still hard work. But now it's a job I'm passionate about.
When you set out on the path to achieving your dreams, be prepared that along the way, it may change a little, or change a lot. Your passion is already programmed within you. Unleash your potential and talent through this process and keep moving forward no matter what you receive.
Use social connections and resources
“Opportunities don't happen. It is you who create them.”-Chris Grosser
Sooner or later, you will realize that you need others to help you get to your goal. Do you get information and experience from them or recognition for your talent. Browse good informative websites, attend courses or lectures where you can learn and interact with other people. Put your pride aside and promote yourself, your work and/or knowledge without shyness. Take seriously everything you find and anyone who helps you. Opening one door can lead to many more opportunities.
Start with the first step. Don't stop halfway. If you follow these 9 steps from dreamer to doer, you will overcome your fears and take a leap of faith. Congratulations, now your life will begin for real. Please note that this will be hard and at times not fun. Stay focused, but don't forget to take time to clear your mind and relax. I hope you are now feeling inspired to step out of your comfort zone and take a chance on happiness.
“Dreams seem to float down a lazy river. The path to success is like riding a roller coaster. Find the courage to get on this roller coaster and keep going until you feel sick.”—Margot Daughtry.