One of my acquaintances answered the question: “Why did you break up with this woman, because you loved her so much, you were even ready to adopt her children from your first marriage?” - answered: “They scream all the time. For any reason. It is unbearable!"
You've probably noticed that in moments of excitement or uncertainty, we often begin to speak louder than usual. It’s as if we are defending ourselves or asking for help without even knowing it. If you hear screaming, you need to react. By and large, the cry is the notorious “SOS!”, which calls out to others with a request:
Notice
Help
Understand
Stay
Change, etc.
That is, ultimately, the cry is addressed to others. Sometimes it is very important. And it requires an immediate response. In general, he says that the person is feeling bad and needs help. Everything seems to be transparent, what else is there to discuss.
But it turns out that not everything is so simple. Sometimes raised tones are used to other purposes:
Suppression of others
Suppression own fear and worries
Self-affirmation, etc.
In the end, screaming may simply be a bad habit, absorbed with the milk of a careless mother who constantly yelled at her child.
The habit of yelling comes from childhood
There are families where children are shouted at a lot. Why? You can try to find a logical explanation for this, such as the fact that the child does not hear or perceive the usual tone of speech, we have to address it repeatedly, so we shout, so that it will come faster.This, in my opinion, is where it lies main secret parental raised tones. I want to achieve results faster and with less effort. I’m just too lazy to explain something to a child, to persuade him for a long time and tediously. It’s easier and faster to shout, and everything will be our way. But in the end, in the child’s mind it develops certain style and communication algorithm. And gradually he gets used to the screams and demands an ever-increasing increase in decibels and an increasingly angry parental reaction. And then he himself learns to communicate with people in a raised voice.
Thus, ordinary parental laziness gives rise to long-lasting problems in communication and human life. In adult life we invariably copy the parental behavior patterns learned in childhood. It turns out that “that’s my voice!” since childhood. Many of us in our conscious adult lives have to struggle with, among other things, the habit of resolving issues in a raised voice.
Yelling doesn't solve problems
Among other things, this is the most easy way resolving a conflict or problem. It seems to lie on the surface. In fact, shouting does not solve problems, or rather, it only leads to temporary and superficial results. Most likely, in order to avoid the negative effect that someone else’s scream has on the psyche, eardrums and our mood, we will fulfill the request, do something to stop this scream. So to speak, let's accept emergency measures. But the very cause of the conflict will remain unresolved, the situation will sooner or later repeat itself, and then expect a new attack of screaming. A wife can raise her voice as much as she wants at her husband, who throws his socks everywhere. And in order to avoid her screaming, he will pretend that he is trying to be careful. But this will not be his conscious decision, connected with the understanding that this should be done so as not to create problems for his wife and not to disturb the order in the house. It's more of a favor that doesn't eradicate bad habit. Once the source of irritation (that is, the wife) is removed from the apartment for a while, the socks will once again scatter around the entire perimeter of the home.
You have probably noticed that it is difficult for us to do something under pressure, that is, under the influence of an angry shout. Man is designed this way; conscious actions become the most valuable to him. That is, those that he commits voluntarily out of his own good intentions. How to achieve such voluntary, conscious behavior from children and adults is a question for another article. But it can be quite difficult to achieve this by shouting, especially if this style of communication is common in your environment. People get used to everything, including, unfortunately, screams, no longer perceiving them as extreme distress signals.
Sometimes you have to watch unbridled voice battles on various political and talk shows. Everyone is shouting, no one hears anyone, no one respects and no one wants to understand. Sometimes the same type of dialogues happen between spouses. As a result, the truth is not born, the problem is not solved, but the gap of misunderstanding widens and the conflict worsens. Worst of all, love and respect disappear...
Don't be fooled by the screams
Whatever the reasons for the increased tones, do not become like the screamer and do not go to his decibel level. Sometimes it is quite obvious that this is exactly what he wants. Be calmer, wiser and stronger. A calm analysis of the situation, a deliberately quiet voice sometimes acts amazingly, like a lightning rod. It’s even better to mirror your opponent’s state by agreeing with his cry and trying to explain it from your point of view. " I understand that you are freaking out, that you feel bad, that you are nervous, etc. I feel bad too… But... Come on...»These three magic words should help you pull the sufferer out of the screaming state.
I understand… You don’t push him away, don’t brush him off as if he were an obsessive, noisy fly whose buzzing has become quite boring or infuriating to you. You are trying to understand and accept what is happening to him. This is your first and main step.
But… Gives you the opportunity to express your attitude to what is happening, helps the person in distress look at the situation from a different angle, find feedback, sets you up to analyze the situation and helps you find a way out of it.
Let's try… This is already magic. The rescue. Exit. This is what they actually expected from you, raising your voice. Here the result depends only on your wisdom, kindness and generosity of soul.
In general, we all probably need to remember: when a person feels good and is happy, he does not scream. Maybe we should just become kinder and help each other be happy, and then the negatively charged screaming and raised voices will go away from our lives.
In different life situations we have to face different life circumstances
Strength, pitch, timbre vote give a lot of information about a person. Investigators, politicians, psychologists, managers, in a word, everyone who works with people knows this well. Any changes in emotions or physical condition are reflected like a mirror voice, which are not always noticed by its owner.
So, let’s imagine a situation: you touch on some problem in a conversation, and suddenly, even, calm voice your interlocutor suddenly flies up and becomes thin, almost screeching. There could be two reasons for such a drastic change in his behavior: either you scared your counterpart with something, or you angered him with something. If he starts convincing you otherwise, you have every right not to believe him. According to popular belief, when a person lies, he blushes, stutters, and looks away. This is usually true, since a lie contradicts human nature, and by telling a lie, the descendant of Adam experiences stress, his pulse quickens, the blood rushes to his head, and his palms become covered with sweat. But some people sometimes stutter and blush just when they are telling the pure truth, but when they begin to “hang noodles,” they turn into skillful speakers who honestly look into your eyes. Although it is very difficult not to believe them, the eloquence that comes from nowhere cannot but arouse suspicion. Lively and high tone vote the interlocutor usually means that your words are received with enthusiasm and joy, but sometimes such a tone indicates that they simply do not believe what you said. If joyful, excited voice your counterpart suddenly went out, became quiet and dull, then, most likely, you offended him in some way, or did not live up to his expectations. Soft, muted voice, with a lower sound at the end of each phrase, reports that the one you are talking to is sad about something or is simply tired. People usually speak somewhat more quietly with those they trust or like than with others. Demote voice, and in the event that they say something that outsiders should not know about. It would be a mistake to underestimate the impact vote on a person's attractiveness. In an experiment conducted American psychologists, a very pretty girl, when communicating with group “A”, used a beautiful, low voice, which was rich in intonation. With group "B" she spoke in a nasal, hoarse, monotonous voice. voice. Then, when the groups were asked to rate her attractiveness according to ten point scale Then the participants of group “A” gave the girl a 10, and the participants of group “B” 2 points. S. Freud's contemporaries noted that many of his patients, during psychoanalysis sessions, fell in love with their doctor, without being able to see him (psychoanalysis according to Freud does not allow visual contact between the doctor and the patient), but only hearing him voice. Sound vote, its pitch, tone, non-verbal, acting directly on the subconscious, a means on which largely depends on how a person is perceived by his environment. High, sonorous voice, by people, is associated with youth. The owner of this vote, for them, always young, energetic, full of strength and, alas! always inexperienced and immature, they are much less likely to be appointed to respectable positions. Made interesting observation, the higher voice, the lower the position. The owner of a thin squeaky vote will probably be at your beck and call. In addition, high-sounding voice Quite quickly it causes a feeling of discomfort. This happens because, in the human subconscious, a piercing, high-pitched sound is associated with anxiety, which accordingly causes discomfort. Very high and screaming voice, causing anxiety on a subconscious level, discourages the desire to communicate with its owner, reduces the degree of trust in his words. Everyone who negotiates at one level or another needs to know this. In one of psychological laboratories In the United States, a group of people were asked to listen to a dialogue and then say which of the participants in the dialogue was more credible. One of them was almost unanimously named. The fact is that with the help of simple technical means, voice this man, was made louder by only half a decibel, and this significantly increased his authority among listeners. Some people think that it only seems to them that during television advertising the sound of the TV becomes louder, but it doesn’t seem that way, this is really so. Thus, advertisers try to instill trust in the product they present. In the low voice one feels intelligence, self-confidence, and self-sufficiency. A person with low voice others perceive him as knowledgeable and, therefore, more authoritative. During the election campaign of the Krasnoyarsk governor A. Lebed, his image makers, during television broadcasts, further lowered the already low voice your ward. This was done so that the female part of the voters, who, as a rule, are larger than the male part, felt in A.I. Lebed a protector, a support, a man of honor. Girl speaking in a low, chesty voice voice, to men, she seems sexier than her girlfriend, who has a thin, delicate voice. The point is that low voice is caused by an increased content of male sex hormones in the blood, therefore, the owner of the contralto is more temperamental. Of course, not all men know about this, but many feel it. Voice, does not always depend only on hormones, the structure voice ligaments, breathing patterns, psychological attitude, and much more, affects the sound of your vote. Main, voice you can tune it, with a little effort and it will sound the way you want it. Timbre and strength vote, of course, depend on breathing, correct breathing- Beautiful voice. Breathing should be light and free, that is, do not try to inhale more than you are supposed to, do not try to keep the breathing process under strict control of consciousness. On the contrary, the more relaxed you are, the more air you inhale, the better your sound will sound. voice. To avoid unnecessary pronunciation and to voice was not nasal, the sound should come out of the chest, to check, put your hand on the chest, if it vibrates, then everything is in order. Strengthens breathing and, therefore, improves sound vote singing practice. I'm not advocating hiring vocal teachers, but singing your favorite songs will undoubtedly benefit you. When the arias in your performance do not bring, to put it mildly, aesthetic pleasure either to you or to those around you, in this case they will help you out air balloons Inflating them greatly strengthens the respiratory system. By the way, there is no such thing as strong vote in a weak body, so pros who are strong voice needed for career, visit regularly GYM's. Yes, and posture affects voice, with good posture, the respiratory organs are positioned correctly, which ultimately makes your voice more sonorous. It is a common belief that smoking does voice low, but this is not entirely true, it makes him rather hoarse, and hoarseness makes a bad impression on people. Hardly, the owner of a monotonous vote, will achieve success with listeners, in best case scenario he will put them to sleep. To prevent this from happening to you, try using this method. Any text better poem, try to read it out loud, in different ways. Read with pathos, with irony, with delight, etc. By the way, K.S. Stanislavsky could say the word “yes” 400 times, and each time it expressed different feelings. To determine the optimal sound, exactly yours vote This method is used, count out loud, from one to ten, gradually increasing voice, when you hear a sound that suits you, remember it, and then try to follow it. And finally, if you have developed a good voice, use it every day.
In this article you will find exercises, after which you will begin.
To open your voice
Your voice may not actually be yours. The reason is the clamps or the wrong way speaking (for example, using the same connectives). The exercises below will help you overcome these issues and discover your true natural voice.
Sound engineer
First, understand how others hear you. To do this, you can simulate a recording studio. Your left palm will be the earphone - press it with a “shell” to your left ear; the right one will be a microphone - hold it near your mouth at a distance of several centimeters. Start the test: count, pronounce different words, play with sound. Do this exercise for 5-10 minutes for nine days. During this time, you will understand how it really sounds and will be able to improve it.
Q-X
To open your voice, you need to free your throat and transfer the main work to your lips and diaphragm. To do this, pronounce the syllables “qu-ix”. On “Q”, round your lips, on “X”, stretch them into a wide smile. After 30 repetitions, try making a short speech. You will feel that the ligaments are less strained, and your lips follow your commands better.
Yawn
The easiest way to relax the muscles of the larynx is to yawn well. Do this simple exercise for 5 minutes a day and you will notice how blocks and tension in your voice disappear.
Exhale-groan
This exercise will help you discover the natural sound of your voice. Its essence comes down to voicing your exhalation.
Position: feet on the floor, jaw slightly open and relaxed. Start inhaling air, and as you exhale, make any sound. Do this without any effort - if everything is correct, you should get a groan.
When the exercise is performed correctly, the sound comes from the solar plexus. It is from there that you need to speak so that your voice is voluminous and expressive.
To make your voice pleasant
Three smiles
This exercise is performed in the same way as the previous one, but in compliance rules of three smiles. Smile with your mouth, forehead and imagine a smile in the solar plexus area. After this, begin to exhale with sound. Just 5 minutes a day - and your voice will begin to sound more pleasant and trusting.
Yoga exercise
This training is practiced by Indian yogis to achieve a deep and beautiful voice.
Position: standing, feet shoulder-width apart. First, take a few calm inhalations and exhalations, then exhale sharply with the sound “ha-a.” The exhalation should be as full and loud as possible. In this case, the body can be slightly moved forward.
Long syllables
Take a deep breath, and as you exhale, say protractedly “bom-m”, “bim-m”, “bon-n”. Draw out the last sounds as long as possible. Ideally, there should be vibration in the area upper lip and nose.
A similar exercise can be done with the syllables “mo-mo”, “mi-mi”, “mu-mu”, “me-me”. But in this case, first pronounce them briefly, and only then protractedly.
Both exercises are best done every morning for 10 minutes. They will not only make your voice more pleasant, but will also help strengthen your vocal cords.
Long tongue
Stick out your tongue. First, point it down as far as possible, trying to reach your chin. Maintaining this position, tilt your head down. Then stretch your tongue upward, trying to reach the tip of your nose. At the same time, raise your head as high as possible.
To make your voice stronger
Sounds “i”, “e”, “a”, “o”, “u”
Exhale, then take a deep breath and on the second exhale say long sound"And". Do this freely as long as you have enough air. Do not force the air out of your lungs. Pronounce the remaining sounds in the same way: “e”, “a”, “o”, “u”. Perform three repetitions.
The sequence of these sounds is not random: they are distributed in height. Accordingly, “i” is the highest (activates the upper area of the head), “u” is the lowest (activates the lower abdomen). If you want to make your voice lower and deeper, practice the “u” sound more often.
Tarzan Exercise
Follow previous task, only now beat yourself in the chest with your fists, like Tarzan. The exercise is designed to fill your voice and clear your bronchi, so if you feel like clearing your throat, don't stop yourself.
Moo
This exercise activates the chest and abdomen. Exhale and inhale. On the next exhalation, begin to say with closed mouth sound "m". Perform three approaches: first moo quietly, then at medium volume and finally at very loud volume.
Growl
Raise your relaxed tongue to the palate and begin to pronounce the sound “r”. It should turn out “r-r-r”, like a tractor. Repeat the exercise three times, then expressively read about a dozen words that contain the sound “r”. Be sure to accompany the reading with a rolling “r”.
Chaliapin's exercise for tuning your voice
The great Russian singer Fyodor Chaliapin also began every morning with a growl. But he did not perform it alone, but together with his bulldog. After training the sound “r”, Fyodor Ivanovich began to bark at his pet: “av-av-av”.
You can repeat Chaliapin’s exercise or, if you can’t relax your larynx, replace it with a villainous theatrical laugh. This is done simply. WITH open mouth As you exhale, you laugh evilly: “a-a-a-a-ha-ha-ha-ha-a-a-a-a.” The sound should come out easily and freely. At the same time, you can jump and beat yourself in the chest with your hands. This exercise will instantly clear your voice and prepare it for work.
Important to remember
When performing all exercises, you need to maintain the correct one. The stomach should be relaxed and the chest should protrude forward. However, if you keep your back straight, these areas of the body will automatically take the correct position.
What can you say about a loud-talking person? That his emotional state is agitated, that he cannot control himself, he is angry.
If a person speaks quickly and assertively, then such a person acts first and thinks later. About a person who speaks slowly and deliberately, we can say that this person is inclined to weigh and think about his actions.
If during a conversation the pace of speech accelerates, accompanied by gestures, then this person imagines what he is talking about. If, during a conversation, speech slows down and becomes quieter, then this indicates the speaker’s uncertainty. If speech is confused or lowered, then quickened, then we have an uncontrollable person.
The volume of speech also says a lot: a shrill, broken voice indicates fear or strong excitement speaker. A low, calm voice indicates dignity and confidence. Clear pronunciation indicates a disciplined person, while slurred speech indicates that the interlocutor has no respect for others and does not care that he is not understood.
The intonation of a voice betrays a person, even if he tries in every possible way to hide it. By intonation you can determine whether you are kind or evil person, modest or arrogant. Even without understanding all the words and not yet being able to speak, child understands by the emotionality of speech what kind of person is: good or evil.
Be careful and study people by their voice.
You may not see a person, but as soon as you hear his voice, your imagination immediately completes his portrait. By our voice, we intuitively feel how openly and naturally we can communicate with the interlocutor. There are no two identical voices in the world.
Women are attracted to rich baritones, men - chesty, as if pouring from within women's voices. And this is directly related to sexuality. If our skin is a projection of the work of the stomach, the tongue is immune system, then the voice is a projection of the genitals. Opera singers with their trills brought men into a state close to ecstasy. Having discovered the connection between voice apparatus and the condition of the genitals, gynecologists and obstetricians have developed voice practices that reduce pain and relax the pelvic muscles, and facilitate childbirth.
Russian scientists conducted a study in which listeners were asked to use their voice to determine the age of a person who uttered the same phrase with different emotions. Emotions of anger and fear increased the stranger’s age by ten years, while joy and goodwill instantly rejuvenated him. like this psychological feature This should be taken into account by those who want to avoid aging for a long time.
For example, women with high notes in their voices tend to speak quickly and are called talkers. Thus, they run away from their experiences and talk about unresolved problems. They give in to society’s aggression and are afraid of life’s obstacles.
Steals the power of the voice and city life. In the metropolis, it is not customary to shout loudly, sing, speak, expressing emotions. Children usually ignore such prohibitions in the first years of life, but at a certain point their parents, educators, and teachers begin to “muffle them.” If the pressure of prohibitions is too great, a person will lose his inner strength.
To stay strong personality, it is useful to give free rein to your voice more often. Look for every opportunity. For example, outside the city, allow yourself to be heard - holler, scream, listen to the echo of your voice. Sing karaoke, sing drinking songs with friends. At home, teach yourself to hum or at least hum any melody under your breath. Keep your posture upright and look your interlocutor in the eyes, this will make both your voice and yourself stronger. Play with your children, copy the voices of cartoon characters and animals. Laugh, don't giggle, cry, don't hold back your tears, scream, don't hold back your anger.
The intonation of the voice changes depending on the emotional or physical condition. It is important to discover certain patterns. If some characteristic consistently appears, then we can draw conclusions about the possible thoughts or actions of another person.
There are a lot of speech characteristics, so it makes sense to focus on the most informative ones:
From time to time there are people with loud voices. What is behind this? To assess the significance of this, it is necessary to understand in what situations a person speaks loudly. Most often, the loud voice belongs to people who are trying to control situations and people. The volume is somewhat overwhelming and sometimes even scary.
Therefore, people who strive for dominance and use an authoritarian method of control often use this technique. In some cases, a person’s manner of speaking loudly may be combined with constant interruption of the interlocutor. This is not only an attempt to establish control over the situation, but also evidence of selfishness and bad manners. Some people believe that a loud voice responds to confident people. However, in many cases this is not the case. Rather, people speak loudly, wanting to be paid attention to. They don’t know any other way to attract attention, that is we're talking about about demonstrative behavior.
We often observe when people try to compensate for short stature, poor physique, etc. with a loud voice.
Sometimes the manner of speaking loudly reflects a reluctance to show attention to the interlocutors. People who are confident in themselves resort to loud voice rarely and appropriately, most often for a certain pressure.
Quiet voice may belong to a self-confident person who does not see the need to dominate the conversation or attract attention to himself. A quiet voice sometimes indicates, on the contrary, indecision and lack of perseverance. Often such a voice is possessed by arrogant people, who force people to listen to them with their manner of speaking.
IN noisy places a person who usually speaks quietly is forced to start speaking louder. If this does not happen, it means that he lacks observation, sensitivity, and perhaps he is overly arrogant.
If during communication a person speaks quietly, looks calmly into the eyes, and his gestures are unhurried, then the situation as a whole is comfortable for him. A quiet voice may be accompanied by a reluctance to make eye contact and fidgety gestures. This means that the person is experiencing discomfort, perhaps he lacks self-confidence.
In any case, it is worth taking a closer look at the expression of the eyes and gestures.
Fast speech
It is necessary to distinguish between constant rapid speech and reaction to certain circumstances. It has been noticed that most often people with fast speech are very active and know how to make decisions without thinking. This type of people sometimes lacks caution; excessive impulsiveness leads in some cases to hasty conclusions.
In some cases fast speech serves as compensation for uncertainty, a desire to attract attention. Both are caused by low self-esteem.
Rapid speech can also indicate that the interlocutor is lying. The words leave his lips quickly, as he wishes to quickly free himself from false information. It is easier to hide the truth under a stream of words.
IN similar situations you need to pay attention to other signals and understand whether they contain signs of excitement or uncertainty.
Slow speech
The most common two are the following options. Confident people speak slowly, calmly and quietly. People who are in a state of discomfort also speak slowly, which should be indicated by other signals.
Sometimes during a conversation, a speaker may slow down his speech if he wants to emphasize something. important point, if something bothers or confuses him, if he is composing or tired.
People who are deep in thought often slow down their speech.
Stuttering speech
Some people's speech has a lot of stops and pauses. Slow speech has its own rhythm; in stuttering speech, a pause often occurs unexpectedly, and the duration of the pauses also changes. Pauses can be caused by uncertainty, nervousness, and embarrassment. Sometimes this indicates insincerity. But it is also likely reverse situation. A person wants to express himself more precisely, he searches for words, and as a result, a pause occurs.
To determine what is causing the pause, it is worth taking a closer look at the body language. A person may start to stammer if they are excited or lying. It is advisable to pay attention to his eyes, breathing rate, and gestures. It is by these signs that we must judge a person’s condition. A liar will not only stammer, but also avoid the interlocutor’s gaze and cover his mouth or other parts of his face with his palm.
A nervous person accompanies his speech with pauses with fussy movements of his arms and legs. If a person just strives to accurately express his thought, then his concentration should be manifested in his eyes and gestures.
Of course, the desire to concentrate one’s attention leads to the same pauses that often occur in the speech of very talkative people. But for the latter, the pause is associated with the loss of the thread of the conversation, which is very clearly indicated by eye movements.
In some cases, slow speech turns into obvious stuttering, which is most likely associated with great nervousness, and maybe even with illness.
In most cases the voice becomes higher from joy, fear, excitement, etc. The voice “breaks” from a large emotional stress. Various emotional states confirmed by body language and people’s behavior.
When a person is tired, sad, depressed or wants to impress others, the voice becomes significantly lower. But even in this case, you need to pay attention to body language.
Speech stresses
You need to listen carefully to speech accents. Wanting to emphasize a word or idea, the speaker can use speech stress. It is easy to recognize if you simultaneously perceive body language. For example, simultaneously with speech stress, the speaker sometimes leans forward, nods his head, raises his hand, etc. The rule is once again confirmed that it is desirable to learn to notice in the interlocutor’s behavior a deviation from the stereotypic, habitual behavior. Then it is possible to understand both the person’s intentions and his character.
If you notice an indifferent or flat voice in your interlocutor, pay attention to his body language. A weakly colored voice can correspond to anxiety, boredom, depression, or loss of interest. Sometimes they try to disguise an even voice strong feelings, for example, resentment, jealousy, envy. The reason must be sought, again, in body language. This will allow you to correctly determine your next steps.
Pretentiousness in the voice, pomposity can be explained for various reasons. This is how people behave who are insecure and crave recognition and approval from other people. They want to appear successful, rich, smart, etc. in their eyes.
By the way, a person’s pretentiousness is very clearly reflected in his signature. Affecting big capital letters, underline, large lower case reveal snobbery in a person. But even here you need to be very careful. If the upbringing did not correspond to the character of the person, then pretentiousness is visible in the writing of the initial of the name, and pretentiousness is already evident in the writing of the surname. true traits character.
Aspiration
Usually we do not hear the interlocutor's breathing in a conversation. When this happens, we must try to find out the reasons. Conscious aspiration is most often associated with sexual interest. But it may be due to other reasons. For example, anxiety, heavy workload, mistrust, nervousness or stress. You can get a hint by paying attention, again, to body language. Usually nervous condition It manifests itself not only in uneven breathing, but also in behavior, such as drinking too much water or exaggerated hand gestures. Distrust is usually accompanied by shaking the head or other gestures.
Most often, this is one of the ways to manipulate the interlocutor without the help of words, resorting to plaintive and drawn-out sounds or even sobs. Usually the role of whiners is played by followers. They lack strength and self-confidence. They want others to take care of them. Whiners are good at sensing weakness in another person, so it is better to immediately take a certain position towards them.
Unintelligible speech
More often slurred speech found in people who are insecure, unable to express their thoughts, anxious, shy or tired. People with this manner of speaking are not leaders, do not strive for leadership, and lack cheerfulness and energy. They are characterized by sluggish movements, weak handshakes, and fatigue from life.
The magic of sound
Everyone should know that there is no other voice like his; and if this specificity is lost, then falsehood arises.
By the voice of a person you can determine his character, mood and even emotional properties. The timbre of a voice, like the unique pattern of fingerprints, is strictly individual, and in the USA, England and Italy, a voice recording is considered an indisputable legal document that cannot be falsified.
Someone is given by nature a pleasant voice, and someone has to live with the opposite. But there is always a way out - you can work on your voice. When used skillfully, speech and voice become powerful psychological weapon, acting on the subconscious of the interlocutor.
Currently, psychologists have identified the main emotional reactions person to various variations in the pitch and timbre of the interlocutor’s voice.
A high and sonorous voice is associated with youth, energy and, alas, with immaturity and inexperience. According to statistics, women and (especially) men with such a voice are much less likely to be appointed to important positions. An interesting observation was made: the higher the voice, the lower the position.
Moreover, a piercing, high-pitched sound is read by the subconscious as an alarm signal. Thus, a high-pitched voice that sounds for a long time causes an involuntary feeling of discomfort in the interlocutor and reduces the degree of confidence in the words. The owner of a very high voice should, more than anyone else, pay attention to the content and intonation component of his speech.
Those with a low voice are luckier: such a voice is associated with self-sufficiency, confidence, and intelligence. A person with a low voice is perceived by others as knowledgeable and more authoritative. The lower a man’s voice, the stronger and more reliable he looks in the eyes of a woman.
Low alone velvet voice a person we have never met can evoke the strongest feelings of love. This is due to the subconscious reading of the interlocutor’s gene code. The fact is that low voice is caused by an increased content of male sex hormones in the blood, therefore, the owner of such a voice is more temperamental. This is why a woman with low in a chesty voice, rich in intonations, seems sexier to men than the owner of a monotonous thin voice.
By a person’s voice, one can determine his character, mood and even spiritual qualities. The timbre of a voice, like the unique pattern of fingerprints, is strictly individual, and in the USA, England and Italy, a voice recording is considered an indisputable legal document that cannot be falsified.
Some people are genetically given a pleasant voice, while others have to live with a “nasty” one. But there is always a way out - you can work on your voice. When used skillfully, speech and voice become a powerful psychological weapon that affects the subconscious of the interlocutor.
Psychologists have identified the basic emotional reactions of a person to various variations in the pitch and timbre of the interlocutor’s voice.
A high and sonorous voice is associated with youth, energy and, alas, with immaturity and inexperience. According to statistics, women and (especially) men with such a voice are much less likely to be appointed to important positions. An interesting observation was made: the higher the voice, the lower the position.
Moreover, a piercing, high-pitched sound is read by the subconscious as an alarm signal. Thus, a high-pitched voice that sounds for a long time causes an involuntary feeling of discomfort in the interlocutor and reduces the degree of confidence in the words. The owner of a very high voice must, more than anyone else, pay attention to the content and intonation of his speech.
Those with a low voice are much more fortunate: it is associated with self-sufficiency, confidence, and intelligence. People with such a voice are perceived by others as knowledgeable and, therefore, more authoritative. The lower a man’s voice, the stronger and more reliable he looks in the eyes of a woman. By the way, statistics also do not deny the influence of voice on success with the opposite sex. You probably noticed the emergence of romantic thoughts while talking on the phone with an unfamiliar man with a pleasant timbre of voice.
Just the low, velvety voice of a person we have never seen can evoke the strongest feeling of love. This is due to the subconscious reading of the interlocutor’s gene code. The fact is that a low voice is caused by an increased content of male sex hormones in the blood, therefore, the owner of such a voice is more temperamental. That is why a woman with a low, chesty voice, rich in intonations seems sexier to men than the owner of a monotonous, thin voice.
Watch your posture - with good posture, the respiratory organs are positioned correctly, which allows it to be light and free. The sound should come out of the chest. To check the correctness of the exercise, place your hand on your chest; if it vibrates, you are on the right track.
Singing strengthens breathing and improves the sound of the voice. Left in the apartment alone with yourself and household chores, try to sing something loud enough. Inflate balloons - this greatly strengthens the respiratory system, advises Horoscope.ru.
Vary your speech with intonations, especially if you tend to present information “on one note.” Read it out loud several times small segment text (a poem is best), filling it with new intonations with each new reading.
Learn to clearly formulate the idea that you want to convey to the listener. This will save you from the treacherous “mooing” in pauses between meaningful sections of speech. Stock up on arguments in favor of your opinion and place your emphasis correctly.
It is impossible to convince someone of something by quietly chewing phrases. Remember that information presented just half a decibel louder is much more successful in persuading the listener and is better absorbed by him. Set the optimal “volume level” for your voice. Count out loud from one to ten, gradually raising your voice; when you hear a sound that suits you, remember it, and then try to follow it.