What is a mat?
First of all, it should be noted that the so-called curse words in the distant past were neither offensive nor prohibited - they were widely used in folklore, in colloquial speech, in literature. Some of these words are original Slavic origin, and initially they denoted quite decent things or actions. Other words were borrowed from the Proto-Indo-European language - these are mainly names for intimate parts of the body or actions - but, again, without any "dirty" meaning.
Mat as a phenomenon is inherent in many nations, although it is the Russians who have gained the reputation of being the most “tasty” (today even Europeans and Americans use it). But let's get back to the story... Eastern Slavs there was a pagan cult of fertility - belief in the mystical unity of earth and sky. Using obscenities, the pagans scared away evil spirits. During pagan wedding ceremonies, they sang so-called “corruption songs” containing insults to the groom, so that the wife would not have to scold him in family life. It was also believed that “swear words” helped against damage and the evil eye.
The ban on swearing appeared with the adoption of Christianity - and not at all because these words themselves were bad. The Church fought against any manifestations of paganism - magical spells, rituals, holidays, etc. The Slavic obscenity became “sinful” precisely for the reason that it was in conflict with the new confession, and that’s all. However, it never disappeared from everyday use and continues to be used to this day.
True, during the “persecution” it acquired new shades: modern Russian swearing carries a powerful emotional charge, and the main emphasis is on the “dirty” concepts associated with sexual life (in Spanish swearing, for example, the worst insult is “stupid” , that is, associated with mental abilities). For some modern people swearing is not even a weapon of defense (capable of bringing murderous emotions out and thereby freeing the human psyche) or attack (disarming the enemy psychologically), but simply dirt or verbal sloppiness caused by the poverty of the vocabulary.
In addition, all the wealth has not been used for a long time swear words, fitting into a thick dictionary. Basically, only a few nouns are used, the same number of adjectives formed from them, and also no more than ten verbs, verbal forms and adverbs. Although some people know how to very inventively “give out” intricate and long curse words, known as “three-story swearing.”
The protective function of swearing
Why is there swearing in the language? For expression strong emotions speaker and for sharp emotional impact on the listener. In short, for acute, difficult, dangerous situations. We can say that swearing in people is an analogue of growling in animals, a kind of warning signal: “I am unsafe.”
People swear more often when their need for protection increases. From the transcripts of the “black boxes” it is known: the last thing the pilots say, having managed to understand the inevitability of death, is not the word “end”, but its obscene analogue. In addition, swearing is used for teenage self-affirmation (it really works effectively), as well as by adults with low self-esteem (or who feel insecure in a certain way). difficult situation). Simply put, the more vulnerable a person’s position, the more inclined he is to swear, resorting to external attributes its significance.
Sociologists believe that the modern “surge in obscene activity” is associated precisely with the unstable and confused situation of people. Today, swearing permeates the entire culture, language, including public performance than it was 20-25 years ago. Apparently, this is the result of a gigantic social breakdown, as a result of which people in general are now scared. The old foundations of an acceptable life have been broken, and new ones have not only not yet been formed, they are not even visible on the horizon.
How does swearing affect quality of life?
Real trouble can start for those who are accustomed to using “obscene” language in everyday speech. It may be quite difficult for them to control themselves so as not to accidentally lose face in a conversation with strangers, at an interview, important meeting or dinner party. In other words, speech culture is an essential element of image, and a person’s business and social success often depends on its quality.
The habit of swearing greatly affects a person’s ability to maintain meaningful communication with loved ones. But it's not our own fault swear words, A psychological reasons their use. That is, lack of confidence in oneself, in one’s surroundings, in the future as such. In such a state, a person is not able to listen to others, delve into their thoughts and feelings, imagine himself in the place of his interlocutor and sympathize. A person who swears is more negative towards others and household members, and is much less likely to offer help.
There are even rumors that swear words have a negative impact on human DNA, and the seeds of plants over which such tirades are uttered do not germinate well. Of course, the point is not so much in the sound of swear words, but in the negative energy charge that usually accompanies them. Although, in general, no one forbids saying the same words calmly and even with a smile. In the same way, swear words remain neutral if they are repeated by a small child who does not understand their meaning. But we’ll talk about how to avoid this next time.
Why is swearing bad? Today, in order to “be in trend,” popular singers, rappers, speakers of various stripes, and even coaches use swear words. personal growth. Why are we swearing? Not for the sake of self-interest, but only for connecting words or giving the necessary weight to your sayings...
“Oh my! This is... ( obscene language)» - comes from phone speakers, TV screens and the Internet. Today, in order to “be in trend,” popular singers, rappers, speakers of various stripes, and even personal growth coaches use swear words. Yes, we are quite normal and cultured people, sometimes we insert it into speech strong word. Why are we swearing? Not for the sake of self-interest, but only for connecting words or giving the necessary weight to your sayings.
At least that's what we think.
Why is swearing bad?
Let's consider the following points in this article:
- Mat is about the intimate.
- Mat is like relieving internal tension.
- Why do we need restrictions?
And now more details.
Why is swearing prohibited?
Any swear word is about sexuality. About the act of intercourse that occurs between a man and a woman. This act is strictly intimate, and no one else is allowed into it (this is how we differ from animals), so swear words are not intended for general use.
A man is ready to do anything to get a woman. The psyche of a man can generally be described with the words: “I want a woman.” Restrictions and taboos form in a man not just “I want a woman,” but “I want THIS woman.” This is what makes the act of intercourse intimate and desirable for both. When intimacy is violated, pleasure goes away from sex, the great pleasure from loving each other goes away. All that remains is purely physiological animal mating; we become sexually poor.
If we swear - we violate the natural modesty that protects the monogamy of relationships - then we devalue sexuality. Losing shame where it should naturally be, we find shame where it should not be. With external looseness, we lose the ability to trust each other. A woman wants sex less and less, becomes more and more tense, and cannot relax. Needless to say, this is a tragedy for any couple relationship where people can potentially derive great physical and psychological pleasure from the act of intimacy?
Why do people swear?
All people have one common desire - we all want to be happy. Be it a well-educated, successful programmer or manager, or an unsuccessful guy from a disadvantaged area, who was beaten by his father all his childhood and whose mother was an alcoholic. We all want happiness, and when we don’t get it, dissatisfaction with life accumulates in us - in other words, frustration.
And there are two ways: either I “want” and diligently do something to get it, or I “want”, but cannot do something to get it - for reasons, for example, childhood psychotraumas, false installations or social psychopathologies. Then a person accumulates a lot of dissatisfaction within himself, because he wants and does not receive. He experiences strong tension, suffering and strives to quickly remove this burden of negativity from himself.
Why do people swear? Because a person throws out accumulated frustrations outward - in the form of insults, hostility and aggressive behavior. A person’s internal shortcomings are so great that he cannot contain tension. A person splashes out swearing and obscenities at the people around him, which, of course, increases the degree of hostility and aggression in society.
It would seem that this is the solution: he cursed, made a dirty joke - and felt better, the tension subsided. And you don't have to do anything. But the problem of one’s own viability and fulfillment in society, as well as social problems remain unresolved.
Why do we need restrictions, or What made a man out of a monkey
The system only works under voltage. At the training " System-vector psychology“Yuri Burlan shows that a person became a person, developing under conditions of severe restrictions - law, and then culture. This binary restriction distinguishes us from animals and still serves one purpose - conservation human species. Otherwise, we would have already killed each other in order to obtain earthly goods for ourselves.
You can't steal money - you have to figure out a way to earn money honestly. You can't compete unfairly - you have to come up with something new idea business or new product. You can't get sexual satisfaction at the snap of your fingers - a man needs to look after a woman and generally be something to begin with.
Prohibitions create the tension that a person needs to give birth to a thought, and therefore to take place in society, because thoughts precede any of our actions. There is no prohibition - the necessary thought is not born, and we are not able to adequately compete and succeed in the modern world.
Checkmate removes cultural prohibitions.
Why do we love “Comedy Club” and other comedy programs so much? Because there, through swearing and ridicule, the general tension is relieved.
They ridiculed corruption - and there is no need to think about how to eradicate it. They ridiculed our domestic nepotism - and there is no need to think about how to make famous directors stop starring their wives, children and grandchildren in their films. They ridiculed patriotism - and there is no need to serve in the army. There comes a release, psychological relief, and problems accumulate until at some point they sweep us away in an avalanche.
What about couple relationships?
Swearing and ridiculing a relationship with a woman devalues sexuality. This means that it devalues all the exploits, all the actions of a man for the sake of a woman - his desire for a career, for earning money, for authority in society. When a man speaks obscenities, he deprives himself of the “fuel” that would help him achieve his own realization in society.
Why do children swear?
They have not yet developed their cultural layer, they have not completely “come under the ban” that is so necessary for a person to realize. The pressure of becoming is enormous. Therefore, teenagers easily adopt the modern fashion for swearing, because it is very difficult to impose restrictions on yourself - it is much easier to relieve tension from any problem every time.
A person becomes a person only by developing under the yoke of law and culture. But constantly be in tension and find acceptable ways to satisfy own desires very difficult. It is much easier to take off this burden and breathe freely, at least for a minute. This opportunity, in quotes, is provided to us by the mat.
Today, obscenities and disdainful attitudes towards women are broadcast on the Internet, and the cult of quick and accessible sex is preached. Why should a man strain and do something to win a woman if it is already available, if intercourse has ceased to have value? Why endure the oppression of law and culture if you can get everything quickly and without straining?
Say a word about swearing
Let's summarize by answering the question why swearing should be prohibited and why swearing is bad:
- Any use of swear words in society destroys sexuality and deprives us of pleasure from sex and life in general.
- At the societal level, swearing provokes people to openly express hostility and aggressive behavior. Just as ties in a couple are destroyed, the threads that connect us in society are destroyed in the same way by swearing. This leads to the collapse of society.
Having understood these patterns systematically, you can independently answer the question - should I swear in society and in couple relationships? Will I get more harm or benefit from this?
Proofreader: Natalya Konovalova
The article was written based on training materials “ System-vector psychology»