And behavior. Everyone has their own reasons for this, as well as their goals. But there is something that unites us all. What everyone wants is respect. This is one of the most significant factors for each of us. We respect some people and expect that they will treat us with respect.
How often do our expectations coincide with reality? Most likely, not as we would like. Respect is something to strive for.
The first and most important thing is your self-respect. Think for yourself. Would you respect a person who doesn't love himself? Of course not. For what? People are respected for what is good, positive, and distinctive in a person, but in people who do not value themselves, such qualities are very difficult to notice.
Each of our bonds has something good, something that makes us different from the rest. If you come home from work every day and feel overwhelmed and unsatisfied with life, you might want to consider making a change. There is no need to change anything radically right away. Just stop and think about what gives you pleasure, what makes you happy, and what makes you feel alive. Make a habit of pleasing yourself and giving yourself a break. Show yourself some respect. This will be a good help in developing you as a self-sufficient person. A solid appearance that is certainly appropriate for the time and place will also be important.
The second rule is considered to be the need to respect others. Precisely a necessity. Respect everyone you deal with in order to gain respect. This is very important to always remember. Everyone is worthy of respect. Every person has something for which they can be respected. If you cannot find this quality in any of the people you meet, it is worth thinking about the fact that we are all worthy of respect simply because we are Human. We were all not born and raised by our mothers to be treated with disrespect. And I don’t want to think that we are dealing with unworthy people. This means that the people around us must be worthy of respect.
Show confidence. Don’t be afraid to defend your point of view, take initiative and, if necessary, engage in self-promotion. We are often too afraid of being judged or ridiculed. There is no need to be afraid of what may not exist. You must believe in yourself and ensure that you are listened to and your opinion is taken into account. I would like to add one more point here. It is sometimes very difficult for each of us to refuse someone. We are often asked for help that is harmful or simply not useful for work, image or personal time. You need to clearly and firmly abandon the habit of giving in to everyone. Learn to answer "NO". "Wags" are not respected.
If you know exactly what you want out of life and have a clear plan for how to get it, you will instantly move into a privileged circle of goal-oriented people. Knowing this, you can, without fear, take the initiative and offer your help in projects that interest you. You will, of course, meet all of the above points. People who have no purpose will admire you. This means that you have finally received respect. This is important for everyone.
"Respect. Why can you respect a person?”
To answer this question, you need to understand the interpretation of the word “Respect”.
Respect is:
. a feeling of respect for someone or something
. respectful attitude, that is, showing a feeling of respect
Respect is always based on recognition of someone's merits, merits, high quality, importance, significance, value, uniqueness, etc.
Each person, for himself, chooses a number of criteria by which he will judge and subsequently respect this or that person. In my humble opinion, a person cannot be respected for his “beautiful eyes”. Here you need to learn one thing: main principle: respected for SOMETHING.
The respect of other people must be earned.
The Bible says: “Everyone and everyone is known by their actions, and not by their words!”
As an example, we can cite many demagogue deputies who promise to uphold the law, put schools and gardens in order, clean up the city, etc.
“On business... They will find out.”
No one will respect a person simply because such a person exists. In fact, as I think, they don’t respect a person, they respect their achievements.
It doesn’t matter what your last name is, whether your parents have a fat wallet, or whether you can speak beautifully.
Just as I wrote at the beginning - they are respected for “something”...
And this “something” is chosen by everyone himself.
One person will respect another because he is excellent at karate or knows how to cross-stitch. And another person may consider karate and cross stitching to be nonsense or a pointless waste of time. (Example.)
Many people want to be respected. Also, many people may not understand the meaning of the word “respect”, and may simply not achieve respect in their actions (not earn it, not prove themselves) and become jesters, clowns, bandits; yes by anyone. The main thing is to pay attention.
But few people think: what did you do to be respected?
It is necessary to approach any person “with clean slate" That is, give the opportunity to do something, and then decide whether you like it or not, respect it or not.
I have also met people who literally respect everyone and for everything.
Either from the breadth of the Russian soul, or from delicious vodka.
Respecting everyone means respecting no one. Just like you can’t love everyone. You need to respect not for status, but for specific actions.
It is impossible for a person in his right mind to respect Nazis, terrorists, criminals, etc.
That is why I sometimes do not understand the intention of the church to convey to people some apothegms like: “God loves everyone” and “We need to love everyone”... etc.
How can you love or respect these people...? However, it’s not for me to judge.
But I know for sure that you need to honor and respect your family and friends. Especially those who raise us, give us life, show us the way.
You need to honor your parents. Instill love for God.
And in general, try to get closer to a democratic society.
There will never be democracy in Russia. And it won’t happen not because of who is “at the top” of us, but because of the people themselves who survive in our country. Because everyone tries to benefit only themselves. And live only for your own pleasure. I don't want to contradict myself and tell people to respect each other. But I want people to treat others with RESPECT.
Why do we respect other people? Why is it so important to be respectful to elders? Or what lies behind the feeling of patriotism? Similar questions There are countless numbers, and it would seem that any adult could answer them. But in reality, most are lost in their answers. And all because they cannot understand the full depth of the word “respect”.
That's why it's so important to understand this. After all, respect is a feeling of reverence that is vital for the existence of society. Without it, it is impossible to build normal relationships, much less create a full-fledged family.
Concept
Let's start with what respect is. The essence of this feeling is quite difficult to convey in simple words, however, like any other manifestation of humanity. And yet it is possible to express the main idea.
So, respect is a respectful attitude towards a person, a natural phenomenon, a deity or a homeland. In order for this feeling to arise, the object of respect must have a certain set qualities
Respect is a fickle feeling; it can arise and then fade away again. Everything depends on the moral and ethical values of a person, which, as we know, can change over time. Therefore, by instilling these values in an individual, one can influence his sense of respect for others.
Why is it so important to respect others?
To answer this question, let's give a simple example. Let's say there are two brothers: one is kind, friendly and treats others with respect; the second, on the contrary, looks down on everyone and considers himself the center of the universe. Who do you think has more chances make real friends? Which of them is capable of sincere love?
Respect is the right way find mutual language with other people, to show that they are not indifferent to the interlocutor. Moreover, if the opponent feels that he is being treated with sincere respect, he himself will most likely respond in kind.
To summarize, we can say that respect is a key element in building relationships, both loving and friendly.
Moral and ethical standards in society
IN modern society there are foundations that, although not spelled out in legislation, are still generally accepted rules. Compliance with them is extremely important, otherwise You can turn the opinions of others against yourself. Such rules include moral and ethical standards, for example, politeness, restraint, neatness, and so on.
According to these unspoken laws, there are categories of people who should be treated with respect, regardless of whether they are familiar or not. So, let's give an example of such categories of people:
- Elderly. Considering their age and the number of tests they have undergone, respect for them is quite justified.
- Women. All of them are expectant mothers, and therefore require respectful respect.
- Parents. The very fact that they gave life cannot but inspire respect.
- Teachers. Thanks to their work, many gain knowledge that can help them achieve their goals.
- Colleagues. It’s a completely understandable choice, because you’ll have to work with these people for more than one year. Therefore, it is much easier when they are in the category of friends rather than putting a spoke in their wheels.
Respect for the Fatherland: its role in the formation of patriotism
Homeland is not just six letters in one word. This is what unites everyone, makes us one big family. Love for the Motherland is called patriotism. But here’s the question: “Can he exist on love alone?” No, in order for patriotism not to dry out over the years, it must be constantly fueled by other feelings: pride, respect, gratitude.
Only by realizing all the beauty of your country, its features and shortcomings, can you become a patriot. And as mentioned earlier, respect is recognition of the merits of someone or something; accordingly, without it it is impossible to cultivate true patriotism.
Respect must be taught from childhood
The easiest way to instill respect for others is in childhood. Therefore, in most cases, this responsibility falls on the shoulders of parents, as well as teachers. They are the ones who must explain to the younger generation why this or that person should be respected.
Follows with early years teach children that elders need to be listened to and their demands fulfilled. After all, they life experience much more, therefore, their advice can be useful. They should also be reminded that each person is an individual, and therefore needs to be treated with respect.
In general, respect for human rights is an established norm for everyone. Therefore, you should teach this to your children or pupils. Otherwise, they may have problems communicating with other people in the future.
Finally, we need to talk about such a phenomenon as self-esteem. After all, how can people respect someone who does not consider himself equal to them? Therefore, you need to explain to the child that he is the same as everyone else. What's inside him is much more important than what he wears or what house he lives in.
Have you ever encountered such a person who behaved badly towards you and did not consider you? How did you feel? Were you outraged? Offended?
5. Treat yourself with respect.
It's funny, but many people expect other people to respect them, but they don't respect themselves. Have you ever scolded yourself for no reason? Do you love yourself completely and unconditionally? Are you exhausting yourself with lack of sleep, poor nutrition or something similar? If you don't respect yourself, you can't expect other people to respect you. Start by treating yourself with love. And after self-love will come the love of others.
6.Behave like a professional.
This means dressing well, being well-mannered, speaking competently and following the rules of etiquette. If you don't know the rules of etiquette, you need to familiarize yourself with them. It will be useful to attend an etiquette class, even if you have a rough idea of what they teach. When I was a student, I took several of these classes on wine tasting, table manners, first meeting behavior, and much more. I believe that they have benefited me. What is being studied there is in no way higher mathematics and what you have learned helps in practice, when you know what can and cannot be done in a given situation.
7. Don't slander.
It doesn’t matter in what field of activity - both professional and social communication, don't talk bad about people. By backbiting you will not earn the respect of other people. If you have any complaints about to a certain person or you don't like what he/she is doing, talk to that person. Don't say bad things about him/her behind his/her back because talking behind his/her back will lead to further gossip and innuendo. Whether you realize it or not, this will not only show you with bad side, and will also hurt that person. Be honest and open with the people you interact with.
8.Stand up for your beliefs.
Have you ever met people who, without thinking, easily agree with everything no matter what they are told? I have encountered such people, and in the end, their consent ceases to have any meaning. Personally, I have more respect for someone who (politely) disagrees and stands up for their position than someone who always sings along to others. Only having your own own opinion and thinking with your own head, you can achieve the respect of those around you. Don't be afraid to stand up for your beliefs. At the same time, make sure that you do it politely and do not offend others.
9. Be yourself.
Continuing from point 8, be yourself. It is always better to be the original of yourself than to be an exact likeness of someone else. People respect individuals who do not try to imitate anyone. So many people try their best to be something they are not, and in the end they lose their identity. Find yourself, understand what you are. The world needs people who are themselves, not clones of each other.
10. Be an example for others.
Actions speak louder than words. Do you set an example for others with your behavior? You stick established standards behavior? Do you gain respect by backing your words with action? A person who is respected by other people personal example pushes others to do good and right things.
And you? Did any of the advice suggested above resonate with you? Do you have any received on own experience methods on how to gain the respect of others? Feel free to write them in the comments to the article.