Is it true that you can’t do mean things? Laws of meanness

Unfortunately, I haven’t written or thought about it for a long time. philosophical topics, and then... one not-so-fun moment made me do it!

Recently I personally encountered this appearance moral qualities person as meanness. I would like to believe that meanness has no place in this world. But, sadly, the facts are clear - meanness still exists! I unequivocally declare that grieving over a scoundrel is simply an unaffordable luxury. The meanness I lived through gave me strength, added experience, confirmed me in some ways, and gave me a new perspective on others. This is all that I believe she should leave behind in us.

Here are some thoughts E. Lukashevich I found them on one site, and they are very close to me:

“We are ashamed of poverty, but we are not ashamed of meanness. And many even believe that this is their strength. Committing meanness in order to continue living to please themselves. Meanness is a sign of stupidity and cowardice. Doing meanness to others is undoubtedly admitting your weakness. Therefore Just as the strong can endure a lot and endure a lot, the weak will do anything. And meanness has no meaning here. last place. Therefore, meanness is a sign of weakness, not strength. And if they are born fools, they become scoundrels.

What is meanness?

This is a change or even destruction of what is common, often between close people, with the aim of causing harm to another person. Common things can be connections, nature, family, property, work, moral values - anything - the main thing is that it is common. A person who commits meanness most often counts on what has become common. General - generally accepted in society. Negative influence at someone, disruptive behavior moral attitude to the person with whom he communicates. Meanness is a sharply negative moral characteristic of human behavior associated with the expression of contempt. Therefore, meanness is always a kind of crime against society.

Once upon a time in Rus' there was such a public execution. A man in the cold, naked, was doused cold water until the poor fellow froze completely. So, the person who constantly poured water on the unfortunate person was called a scoundrel. It’s not for nothing that they mentioned this now. Just think for a moment what motivated this person, what feelings he has and what feelings he is completely deprived of.

Most dangerous enemy- this is not the one who “shoots at you point blank.” This is the one who sneakily stabs you in the back, pouring out love.

Sometimes you can kill just with a word. A seemingly simple word that carries deadly power. Word, strong weapon. This is something that cannot be seen and prepared in advance. Each of our words with which we address others has its own soul and emotional coloring. Much depends on what words we choose for communication and whether we know how to use them. After all, it’s not only weapons that you can pick up that kill, it’s a bad word and a bad deed that kills, it’s indifference that kills, it’s cowardice and meanness that kill.

You know what they say: “If a person feels pain, he is Alive. If a person feels someone else’s pain, that means he is a Human!” Meanness is an obstacle on the path of spiritual development. She is a very insidious nuisance. Its cunning lies in the fact that not a single scoundrel recognizes himself as such. By the way, one of the traits of patients with schizophrenia. And I also want to note that schizophrenia, like meanness, is associated with duality.

A vile person or scoundrel lives under a guise. He constantly hides his real self, but at the same time does not consider this state of affairs to be meanness. For such a person it is absolutely normal to live with people who put their soul into him and disagree with them in their views or not accept something about them. A mean person will live in such a situation and take what he needs until he takes everything. Then, like a sucking bug, it falls away from its victim and leaves meanly and suddenly.

It is impossible to negotiate anything with scoundrels and expect sincerity. Expecting sincerity from them is a crime against oneself. You can't ask them anything. More precisely, it is possible, but it will not give you results. They cannot be returned to the agreements that they entered into with you, looking with their “pure” eyes into yours. They take everything they need from you and then throw you away as if nothing happened between you. No friendship, no trust. While someone writhes from the pain of their betrayal, they dance on their bones, calling those on whom they spilled their meanness immoral and crazy.

Of course, definitely, with vile person It is better not to have any affairs and not allow them close to your soul. Let them in, they will devour, spit out and move on, to look for another who will also be fascinated by them and put his soul into them. Scoundrels are always amazingly charming at first glance. With an equally startling discrepancy inside. If you see a scoundrel in his true form, you will not recognize his face, he is a different person. And sometimes we lose our vigilance because of smiles and false kindness.

It is impossible to recognize the meanness of a person without touching his meanness. Unless... A scoundrel sees a scoundrel from afar. Without fail, he distinguishes “one of his own.” Such a person can only remove his mask in the presence of someone like him. One can only admit how many dirty and vile deeds are committed, so to speak, from the heart.

These people always make excuses for not showing their true colors.

A scoundrel, definitely a very selfish person. Of all the vices that degrade a person’s personality, selfishness is the most vile and despicable. It is selfishness that makes one behave so vilely and basely towards people.

Scoundrels do not tolerate criticism. But to condemn someone, and to relish the meanness they have committed as much as possible in public, gives them incredible pleasure. And also get pleasure from the aftertaste of collecting the fruits of the sown meanness, seeing a person with a broken heart and soul."

And this part made me understand why I came across a vile person!

"To people who do not have meanness in their nature, scoundrels are given in order to, as it were, remove the veil of a childish outlook on life and the world, learn to see the falseness of charm, learn to value yourself and not betray your interests and values. Remove from yourself the desire to shift responsibility, remove servile service to decency and much more.

Scoundrels, like manure, fertilize the soil on which souls ripen. This does not mean that we need scoundrels so much and that without them being in our lives we are unable to change and improve. But, since they exist in our society, let’s turn everything that comes to us for our good.

But. What should the scoundrels themselves do? Is it possible to cure this disease?

The answer is this. Meanness is not a disease. Meanness is a choice. Therefore, the battle against meanness always begins with a choice. In fact, everything in our life begins with a choice. The choice to live with dignity. A person at any moment can choose dignity instead of meanness and live as an individual with the name MAN. But the scoundrel doesn’t change anything, because living vilely is very beneficial to him.

Scoundrels are “mentally frozen” people. People without feelings. Since it is mean to act, they need not to feel that they are causing pain to people. They need not to notice that someone is emotionally invested in them. They need not to think that they owe anything to anyone. They prefer not to notice the spiritual contribution of other people and step over their feelings, calling it freedom to live their own lives. Definitely a scoundrel is a person who once doubted himself and considered himself small and worthless, unable to take the place intended for him and follow the path laid out for him.

Most often, people humiliate you when you have something they don't have or when your behavior hurts them in some way. In most cases, they feel uncomfortable and disadvantaged around you.

Meanness, just like revenge, resentment and envy - all this negative feelings energetic fear for something, for oneself, in front of something. Fear that destroys a person with thoughts built from these feelings. The creator of energetic fear is the person himself, therefore only the person himself can rid himself of such feelings. Remember, meanness is a choice!!!"

“Meanness is a very insidious obstacle. Its cunning lies in the fact that not a single scoundrel recognizes himself as such.”

... "Having received a blow from meanness, you should never start looking for vices and disadvantages in yourself. Don’t pull the blanket of guilt all over yourself. There’s no need for this endless “why.”

Understand that no matter what happens, there are always many wonderful and bright people around. Don't lose hope for the best. There is always your choice. Much depends on your inner mood. It's no secret that our thoughts are material. So the more often you think about bad things, the more often they will happen to you.

Listen and accept yourself. Listen and feel the world. In this world, everything happens according to the boomerang principle and everything always comes back. Show your superiority not with revenge and meanness, but with your nobility, faith in goodness and hope for the best. And let meanness, regardless of anyone and in any form, if it does touch you, mobilize you, make you stronger and force you to concentrate on your life.

I want you to remember that the meanness committed is, first of all, the meanness of the scoundrel to himself. First of all, he betrays himself and his soul. Never argue with a fool. Believe me, the scoundrel harmed himself much more than all of us who have ever experienced meanness by betraying us. Focus your gaze on the positive. Because positivity attracts positivity, and vice versa. So the choice is yours and that’s all.

Do not declare war on everyone and everything in the fight against meanness. This will only make her appear on your path more often. Do not idly waste your potential, do not violate your harmony. Don't waste your energy."

Well what can I say? Yes, I have experienced a lot of different and contradictory emotions and feelings!!! But, most importantly, this is an experience that shook me thoroughly, made me think about the correctness of my path, and see how strongly I stand on my own two feet and will not deviate!

“A blow to the nose is direct, obvious, and heals quickly. But the blow to your self-esteem in the right way and in right time, can cripple you until you die."
~ Jay Carter, Ph.D.

We have all encountered people who are trying to somehow mock us, humiliate us and destroy our self-esteem. And it doesn’t really matter where you encounter them - at work, at home, or among your friends. There will certainly be at least one person around us who treats us much worse than we deserve.

And the worst thing is that they lower our assessment in such subtle and unobvious ways that other people may not always notice it. And if we try to explain how we feel, our tormentors will easily change everything in their own way, making us overly sensitive, selfish and prone to snap judgments, turning us from victims into offenders.

I hope that as you study them in more detail, you will begin to understand much better who is who in the world around you:

1. They make you insecure

One of the methods vile people- constantly maintain uncertainty in you. You never know when they will explode into hysterics or do something that will piss you off.

For example, it may seem to you that you have reached mutual understanding, you have common topics for fun, and you basically started to trust this person. And that's when it all goes In a similar way for some time now, suddenly a vile person does something that undoes everything that happened before and again plunges you into a state of uncertainty and uncertainty.

You never know exactly how to feel about this person, so you create emotional crutches for yourself by convincing yourself that you still like him.

2. They like to project their feelings onto you.

The projection of feelings can be explained very simply: this is when a person takes his feelings as a basis, but places responsibility for them on you. For example, a person who doesn't like you might tell you, "I don't think you like me."

They frame you in their projection, forcing you to explain and justify yourself to them. And instead of thinking about the intentions of vile people, you begin to doubt your own feelings.

3. They often try to manipulate you

Manipulators strive for power. Nasty people want to feel superior to you, and often make you feel like you owe them something. This behavior is often found among politicians and managers.

For example, if you are asked to work overtime and you already have plans for that evening, your boss may try to convince you that work is more important than your plans.

And if you remind him of those evenings that you worked overtime earlier, he will most likely try to turn everything in such a way that, allegedly, you volunteered for them yourself, or were working off some kind of “service” for your boss.

4. They always try to force their opinions on others.

Nasty people like to label people around them and then act as if everyone agrees with them. For example, by saying “you are irresponsible,” this person takes it for granted that you are just such a person, and everyone around him will agree with this characteristic.

Nasty people label you because they are subconsciously trying to crush your self-esteem into tiny pieces instead of helping you cope with the real problem (if there is one). To help solve a problem means to take on part of the responsibility, and vile people are not ready to do this.

5. Even when they tell the truth, they generalize and exaggerate it.

Beware of generalizations. Nasty people often use generalizations to make mountains out of molehills. For example, if you forgot to clean your apartment, the nasty person might say, “You never help me” (translation: You forgot to clean your apartment), or “You are no use” (translation: You forgot to clean your apartment).

Once again, instead of addressing the real problem, they attack your self-esteem. The problem is that the apartment is dirty, not that you are unhelpful or unhelpful.

6. They strike on the sly

“I don’t want to upset you, but...” (Most likely, you will be upset about something now). “I don’t want to interrupt you, but...” (But I already interrupted!).

As a rule, nasty people who are going to attack you on the sly will speak in a soft, sympathetic voice. You can see sympathy on their faces. They may seem the nicest people- just hold a dagger in your other hand behind your back.

7. They put double meanings into words.

Double meanings usually appear in phrases where the words say one thing but the tone says something completely different. For example, nasty people may ask you in a mocking tone: “How are you?” And if you answer, as you most likely want to, “Get out!”, you are a vile person with clear conscience tell everyone you know what you have today Bad mood, and you throw yourself at everyone, but he just asked how you were doing.

Vile people are great masters at composing double-bottom phrases. They may even seem harmless to observers, but you immediately feel how they hit the target.

8. They love to interrupt conversations.

Another valuable tool of a vile person is to cut off a conversation mid-sentence. If he asks you to tell you something about yourself, you can be sure that he will cut you off before you finish answering.

And their questions are often tricky. If you are asked something like “Have you stopped drinking cognac in the morning?”, know that there is simply no correct answer to this question. A nasty person may even cut off a conversation with you in the middle, leaving you alone with a bunch of unspoken thoughts.

9. They take you to the top and then cut off your wings

But when you really need help, the vile person will gently and unobtrusively turn your attention to your own. negative traits. So he can chop off your wings to amuse you enough own feeling superiority and give you confidence that you need it.

10. They use the “double drag” on you.

“Double nonsense” is the most vile of all their methods, because with it you will harm yourself both if you agree with them and if you resist. For example, if you sign up for courses to improve self-esteem, your “other half” may begin to envy you or think that your increased self-esteem threatens her with something. And in the end you are faced with an ultimatum: “Either me or your courses.”

Of course, you are not going to give up your established personal relationships for the sake of courses - but by doing so you are depriving yourself of the slightest chance to contribute to own life the slightest positive change.

How to avoid the influence of vile people

Now that you've learned about 10 ways nasty people ruin your life, you'll not only have a much better idea of how to counter them, but you'll also have a better understanding of the nasty people themselves and their intentions.

No wonder they say that knowledge is power. And even if we can't avoid some people in our lives, we can at least avoid their pitfalls.

And all that is needed for this is to turn more attention on the behavior of the people around us, and behave with them more confidently and assertively.

Appearing after betrayal. How to survive this unpleasant period in life? What is meanness? How to fight the desire to take revenge on the offender? The science of the soul and human relationships helps to understand this.

Is meanness a manifestation of a strong character or one’s own weakness?

No person is born a scoundrel; he becomes one due to many factors: moral education, the influence of people around him, as well as encounters with betrayal. Being offended or betrayed by someone from his inner circle, he himself becomes a scoundrel and a traitor.

What is meanness? This is, to a greater extent, a manifestation of the lack of certain moral standards. In the understanding of a scoundrel, actions that bring pain to others and negative emotions, are something acceptable, ordinary. However, when convicted of betrayal, frame-up, or other negative behavior, such people usually deny everything. Therefore, meanness in psychology is akin to schizophrenia - like sick people, scoundrels do not accept normal, healthy interaction with society.

Most scoundrels - weak people who use meanness as a defense and a tool to help them assert themselves at the expense of the suffering of other members of society. They betray without feeling any remorse; they extract from a person everything they need to achieve their goals and satisfy their own needs.

Decoding the concept

What is meanness? The definition of the concept in psychology and sociology looks like this: this is a destructive effect on common interests and the goals of people aimed at causing harm to a certain person. In addition to preferences and goals, the victim and the scoundrel may have in common tools, family, home, work, values and much more. Language is also common, and words and phrases uttered to humiliate another’s dignity are considered meanness.

Who is most at risk?

Exposure is especially dangerous for people with low self-esteem and frequent bouts of depression. This is due to the fact that they are most prone to negative consequences betrayal and meanness, such as suicide.

These concepts have precise definition- these are the actions of one person aimed at humiliating feelings self-esteem another. Meanness is when betrayal can be an accidental, one-time action, which the traitor himself will later regret.

Potential traitors

People whom we are accustomed to trust - lovers, relatives, colleagues and friends - can “stab a knife in the back” at the most unpredictable moment. Often this situation arises due to fleeting desires or emotional outburst. Many people try to regain their former trust after committing an act, but this is not so easy. According to statistics, although most victims forgive their offenders, they still continue to hold a grudge deep down in their hearts.

What is meanness? This is, first of all, an act that destroys harmonious relationships, destroying something common, something that unites the victim and the scoundrel. Complete this negative action Anyone can, it’s enough to know certain pain points of a person, his preferences. Situations from life help to understand in more detail what meanness is.

One of the partners sets up his partner, pursuing selfish goals - taking his position. He knows where the victim keeps important papers what route does he take to get to work? The scoundrel does everything to prevent him from getting to the office by a certain time, and passes off his work as his own. As a result, a person loses good position, loses heart and considers himself insignificant.
After 10 years of marriage, the man began to lose interest in his wife. Gradually, his attention completely switched to another woman - a colleague (secretary, old acquaintance). And at one moment, succumbing to temptation, he commits an act of treason. His wife finds out about this from the lips of her rival, and everything in her life turns upside down. Trust in the man she still loves disappears, and she begins to suffer and suffer.

What not to do if you become a victim of a vile act

If you have been negatively impacted, you should not make hasty decisions. Besides this, you don't need:

Build a plan for revenge. Revenge is no less destructive for inner world person than the consequences of betrayal.
Throw a tantrum. Excessive emotionality takes away a large number of strength, and recovery takes longer.
Trying to figure out the relationship with the offender. In a fit of anger, he cannot objectively assess the situation, which only aggravates his situation.

What is meanness? This is the direct impact of the offender on the victim. Trust placed in the wrong person, communication with him - all this weakens the victim’s vigilance. Don’t be naive, hoping that the scoundrel will change and this won’t happen again. Having committed an unpleasant act once and benefited from it, he will not miss the opportunity to take advantage of your trust again.

How to properly deal with resentment, anger and the desire for revenge? Advice from psychologists

Experts agree on one thing: if you have become a victim of betrayal or a vile act, then the first thing you need to do is calm down. What happened in your life is not necessarily a deliberate betrayal. It could just be a mistake by the person who loves you.

Calmness and composure will help you overcome the crisis after a vile act. To fully understand the problem, you need to:

Reconsider the situation in which you and your abuser find themselves. You need to be 100% sure that he is really a cruel scoundrel, and not a narrow-minded person. A cruel person intentionally hurts people and gets pleasure from it, while a narrow-minded person could simply make a mistake and go astray from the right path.
Try to forgive. Yes, it is to forgive the offender, and not to bear a grudge. The resentment hidden in the depths of the soul carries only negativity, and it seems that the weightless soul is heavier than a pile of stones.
Know how to switch, change “minus” to “plus”. This effective method, helping to quickly recover from betrayal. No matter how powerful a negative blow may be, you need to know that both pain and mental anguish are internal problem, and not external, and over time everything will pass. Think about the essentials. For example, will you suffer so much if your wife (husband) leaves you, and after a couple of days you find out that you have become the owner of a substantial inheritance. So what will take your full attention?

Meanness is not easy negative impact, used by one person. Today, meanness has become a thing for many, so be careful when communicating with new acquaintances.

Why do people behave meanly and what to do about it? Almost every person in life has the feeling that they were treated basely - not according to the rules, not according to justice, not according to expectations. Deceived, betrayed, framed, circumvented - the most fantastic ethical squiggles are possible. The simplest explanation is because people are bad and evil by nature. This explanation can sometimes be comforting, but at other times it can be emotionally traumatizing and promote depression. One might think that individuals can be bad. This can also be comforting, but it may arise troubling question, why do I come across them specifically?

I want to offer not the most comforting ideas on this matter. More precisely, they do not necessarily console immediately, with just one thought. But over time, they can provide the basis for a more flexible understanding of what happened.

People behave meanly because it is not mean for them. There may be several options:

- The effect of “false consent”. We often overestimate the typicality and universality of our ideas about life. We can believe that our opinion is the only correct one, and all people adhere to it. And if someone does not adhere, then this is a deviation. Whereas for another person this deviation may be hisideas about moral standards - about what is vile and what is not. This kind of thing, no matter how offensive it may be, happens.

- The “actor-observer” effect. A person who commits an act most often explains his actions by the influence of circumstances. And witnesses to this act most often explain his actions to his personal qualities. And what from the outside may look like meanness, from the inside can be perceived as survival in difficult circumstances.

- Choice of priorities and competition of motives. People can violate someone's moral standards in this way, because at this moment it is not a priority for them to comply with them. Other tasks may be a priority - for example, getting out of a situation with minimal damage to yourself. Or survive. Or keep a face. Or do it faster. Or benefit. A person may take place fight of severalmotives - selfish or altruistic, socially desirable or undesirable, personal or professional.

- Centerednesson myself. Often, assessing another person’s action as vile, we automatically believe that our interests are his interests. By acting in accordance with his own interests, which are different from ours, he seems to be betraying you. And it may seem that this action is directed specifically at you. But it may be that we have identified our interests with his. Whereas the other person acted based on his own interests, which were not necessarily related to you. Or, he could understand your interests in his own way and think that he is doing you good.

People behave meanly, despite the fact that for themselves it is mean, but they have reasons for this:

- There are many different systems values and norms that are different moments time influence a person. Each person is simultaneously a member of several different communities, each of which has its own norms. And many people are not always able to combine these requirements - sometimes they have to violate the norms of one community in favor of the norms of another. The most basic everyday example- husband who drank after work. He violated the norms of his family community - his wife, mother-in-law and mother, for example. But he followed the norms of the community of male colleagues.

- In a person difficult situation There is no available “mean” way to react, and the method that he learned a long time ago works. After all, in social experience Each person has many patterns of behavior. This is what we acquired in childhood, at school, at old jobs, in various campaigns. These experiences do not always correspond to official or relevant norms for the individual. They are often subcultural in nature and correspond unofficial norms. Dvorov, for example.

- Conformity effect. As shown by social psychological experiments, most people can be influenced by others contrary to their principles and morals. Under pressure from random company, a person may not behave very well. Later he may greatly regret it and be tormented by his conscience, but at that moment the influence of the group turned out to be stronger.

- The effect of self-justification. There is a concept that people need to hold positive images of themselves - for example, as decent reasonable person. To maintain this self-image, sometimes people have to justify their actions by adjusting their ideas of good and bad. Like, I couldn’t do anything bad or stupid, which means what I did was not bad.

I do not pretend to provide an exhaustive explanation of the reasons for various controversial actions - rather, I listed the effects that are known to me, both from experience and from study. I would be glad to add any additional information from your experience. But about how to survive a situation when you were treated basely according to your feelings - to be continued.

Almost every person in life has the feeling that they were treated basely - not according to the rules, not according to justice, not according to expectations. Deceived, betrayed, framed, circumvented - the most fantastic ethical squiggles are possible. The simplest explanation is because people are bad and evil by nature. This explanation can sometimes be comforting, but at other times it can be emotionally traumatizing and promote depression. You might think that some people are bad
. This can also be comforting, but an alarming question may arise: why do I come across them?

I want to offer not the most comforting ideas on this matter. More precisely, they do not necessarily console immediately, with just one thought. But over time, they can provide the basis for a more flexible understanding of what happened.

People behave meanly because it is not mean for them. There may be several options:

- The effect of "False Consent". We often overestimate the typicality and universality of our ideas about life. We can believe that our opinion is the only correct one, and all people adhere to it. And if someone does not adhere, then this is a deviation. Whereas for another person, this deviation may be his idea of moral standards - about what is vile and what is not. This kind of thing, no matter how offensive it may be, happens.

- The “Doer-Observer” effect. A person who commits an act most often explains his actions by the influence of circumstances. And witnesses to this act most often explain his actions by his personal qualities. And what from the outside may look like meanness, from the inside can be perceived as survival in difficult circumstances.

Choice of priorities and competition of motives. People can violate someone's moral standards in this way, because at this moment it is not a priority for them to comply with them. The priority may be other tasks - for example, getting out of the situation with minimal damage to yourself or surviving. Or keep a face. Or do it faster. Or benefit. A person may have a struggle between several motives - selfish or altruistic, socially desirable or undesirable, personal or professional.

Self-centeredness. Often, assessing another person’s action as vile, we automatically believe that our interests are his interests. By acting in accordance with his own interests, which are different from ours, he seems to be betraying you. And it may seem that this action is directed specifically at you. But it may be that we have identified our interests with his. Whereas the other person acted based on his own interests, which were not necessarily related to you. Or, he could understand your interests in his own way and think that he is doing you good.

People behave meanly, despite the fact that for themselves it is mean, but they have reasons for this:

There are many different value systems and norms that influence a person at different points in time. Each person is simultaneously a member of several different communities, each of which has its own norms. And many people are not always able to combine these requirements - sometimes they have to violate the norms of one community in favor of the norms of another. The most basic everyday example is a husband who drinks after work. He violated the norms of his family community - his wife, mother-in-law and mother, for example. But he followed the norms of the community of male colleagues.

A person in a difficult situation does not have an available “Nice” way to react, and the method that he learned a long time ago works. After all, in the social experience of each person there are many models of behavior. This is what we acquired in childhood, at school, at old jobs, in various campaigns. These experiences do not always correspond to official or relevant norms for the individual. They are often subcultural in nature and correspond to unofficial norms. Dvorov, for example.

- Conformity effect. As socio-psychological experiments show, most people can be subject to the influence of others, contrary to their principles and morals. Under pressure from random company, a person may not behave very well. Later he may greatly regret it and be tormented by his conscience, but at that moment the influence of the group turned out to be stronger.

- The effect of self-justification. There is a concept that people need to hold positive images of themselves - for example, as a decent, intelligent person. To maintain this self-image, sometimes people have to justify their actions by adjusting their ideas of good and bad. Like, I couldn’t do anything bad or stupid, which means what I did was not bad.

I do not pretend to provide an exhaustive explanation of the reasons for various controversial actions - rather, I listed the effects that are known to me, both from experience and from study. I would be glad to add any additional information from your experience. But about how to survive a situation when you were treated basely according to your feelings - to be continued. Danila Gulyaev.

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What is meanness? This is, to a greater extent, a manifestation of weakness by a person, the absence of certain moral standards. In the understanding of a scoundrel, actions that bring pain and negative emotions to others are something acceptable and commonplace. However, when convicted of betrayal, frame-up, or other negative behavior, such people usually deny everything. Therefore, meanness in psychology is akin to schizophrenia - like sick people, scoundrels do not accept normal, healthy interaction with society.

Most scoundrels are weak people who use meanness as a defense and a tool to help them assert themselves at the expense of the suffering of other members of society. They betray without feeling any remorse; they extract from a person everything they need to achieve their goals and satisfy their own needs.

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What does Sneaky mean? Today, when capitalism has flourished, only money has become important for a person. Most people believe that it is necessary to take everything from life, and as quickly as possible, without regard to anyone’s interests and desires. Such a person began to deservedly be called Vile, what this word means, you can read a little below. Don’t forget to add the site fashionable-slova.rf to your bookmarks so that you can easily decipher the most popular words.
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So let's move on, what does Sneaky mean? This term comes from Old Russian, which was previously borrowed from Polish language"rodłu". Originally used in the meaning of “common people”, “socially low”.
Vile - this is what they call a person who is morally low

Synonym of the word Vile: brute, scoundrel, scoundrel, radish, scoundrel.

Mean people. Verse: About meanness

About meanness
Conscience, nobility
and dignity -
Here it is, our sacred
army.
Give him your hand
Don't worry about him
and into the fire!
Bulat Okudzhava

I got a friend the other day
asked a question
How do I feel about life?
to meanness and malice.
Not simple. Thought about it
seriously,
Like the hour of my answer
struck during confession.
Say it's meanness
I do not like -
Doesn't mean anything.
I can't stand people like that
and, moreover,
I'm trying to be mean
envy, evil
Nip it at the roots
initial,
So that pain to people
didn't carry
Didn't burn my heart
sadness...

I think such entities
That they spray evil like poison,
You can't call them people,
The word "bastards" is appropriate.
They live only for this
And immensely happy
When they do evil on the quiet,
Some people are getting on their nerves.
They slander vilely behind your back,
Gossip spreads like mucus,
Gloatingly waiting for such a moment,
To inject the last poison.
From those who, in spite of anger,
Strong with love and kindness,
Who won't give his hand to a scoundrel?
Disgustingly he will close the entrance to the house,
Who speaks eye to eye,
Who is sacredly faithful to friendship -
For vile souls they are a thunderstorm,
They will run cowardly into the crack,
not at the door...

I know the truth is simple -
Everything boomerangs
in our life,
Fate and the weight of her cross
Commensurate with your strengths.

Statuses about meanness

This behavior should be avoided whenever possible, but some people simply cannot avoid the temptation to do something like this because that is how they are wired. Statuses about meanness show how bad this quality is and what problems it can bring. Smart statuses make it possible to understand how it is desirable to act in certain situations, as well as a little shame on those people who are inclined to behave inappropriately. Excellent statuses, a selection of which are presented below, make it possible to realize the real essence this concept.

Only a woman can tolerate constant manifestations of meanness from a man and cannot say “No” to him.

Law of meanness of childhood number 1: the guests have just started playing interesting game, as the parents were already getting ready to go home.

Sometimes you meet people who can do mean things in such a way that they have no time to betray everything decent people.

Apparently I’m growing up, because from the same category, for example: “How could you cause such a dirty trick?” I move on to another: “What kind of meanness did he do to me?”

Best status:
According to the law of meanness, your most beloved and dearest person lives in another city hundreds of kilometers away from you. I hope this is how love is tested.

If you know that you can do something big, why waste yourself on small dirty tricks?

Any meanness is easy to understand and justify, but it would be very stupid to forgive it...

According to the law of meanness, if you have a boyfriend, then a couple more people are running after you. All you have to do is break up, and no one needs you.

As soon as you eat some onion, handsome guy calls for a walk.

Video Alex Shevchenko - Vile people in our lives

Aphorisms and quotes about meanness

The world is full of decent people. You can recognize them by how clumsily they do mean things.
Charles Peguy

If a person acts like a swine, he says: “For mercy, I’m just a man!” And if they treat him like a swine, he exclaims: “Excuse me, I’m also a human being!”
Karl Kraus

Alexander Vampilov

If you want to offend a little educated person, don't call him a scoundrel; better say that he is poorly brought up.
Samuel Johnson

“I’m a small person!” - he said and hit below the belt.
E. Westin

The man who bites the hand that feeds him usually licks the boot that kicks him.
Eric Hoffer

He who is incapable of anything is capable of everything.

Major villainies are made out of hatred, small ones - out of fear.
Charles Montesquieu

They are especially ashamed of meanness if they failed to complete it.
Alexander Furstenberg

The world will be treated by our meanness.
Arkady Davidovich

Meanness in war is cunning, and cunning in peace is meanness.
Gennady Matyushov

When doing meanness, do not refer to time. Remember that time can take its toll on you.

The world is coming. And our old-fashioned meanness can't stand the competition.
Arkady Davidovich

The wisdom of the cunning is meanness.
Mikhail Libman

Everything decent is rash, everything thoughtful is meanness.
Alexander Vampilov

Meanness is a shorter path to positions that are usually given as a reward for valor.
Tacitus

Don't look for scoundrels. Good people commit mean things.
A. Vampilov

A scoundrel, and sometimes a fool, more often succeeds in society than a decent and intelligent person: it is easier for scoundrels and fools to adapt to their tone and habits high society, where, as a rule, only meanness and stupidity reign, while decent and sensible people do not immediately agree with them mutual language, and therefore waste precious time and are left with nothing.
N. Chamfort

Scoundrels are the strictest judges.
M. Gorky

Scoundrels are successful in their affairs because they treat honest people as if they were scoundrels, and honest people They treat scoundrels as if they were honest people.
V. Belinsky