Kindness fills our lives and the lives of those around us with meaning. Kindness allows us to better communicate with others, show empathy, and be supportive. The source of kindness lies deep in your soul. Some people are inherently kinder, but this property can be purposefully developed. If you want to learn to be, start with step 1.
Steps
Part 1
Developing kindness- Learn to practice being kind and generous to people. If you've never tried it, are shy, or don't know how to approach people, all this can be overcome with practice. Make an effort until kindness and giving come naturally to you.
- There is no need to ask for anything in return. The very essence of kindness is that you do not expect anything in return, do not bind anyone with promises and do not put conditions on what is said or done.
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You can't be kind for the sake of getting benefits. Beware of deceptive kindness. Kindness is not “self-interested politeness, precisely calculated generosity, or outward etiquette.” When you are nice to a person just because it will allow you to manipulate them and get what you want, that is no longer kindness. If you pretend to care about someone while actually suppressing anger or contempt, hiding anger or disappointment behind false pleasantries, this is also not kindness.
- And lastly: reliability is not kindness. This is simply a style of behavior in which it is easier to give in, to do what they want from you, because you do not want conflicts and are afraid of the consequences.
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Be kind to yourself. Many people make the mistake of trying to take care of others while forgetting about themselves. Sometimes this stems from dissatisfaction with yourself, but most often it happens because you don't know yourself well. Unfortunately, when you do not feel solid ground under your feet, your kindness towards others risks developing into the deceptive kindness described above. Or worse, it can lead to burnout and frustration because you put everyone else before yourself.
Learn kindness from others. Think about the truly kind people you know and how they make you feel. Does your soul become warmer every time you remember them? Most likely, this is true, because kindness leaves a mark, warming you even in the most difficult times. When someone loves you for who you are, it is impossible to forget such trust and confirmation of your worth, so their kindness remains with you always.
- Remember how someone's kindness makes your life better. What is it about this person's relationship with you that makes you feel special and loved? Can you repeat from your heart what he does for you?
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Cultivate kindness within yourself for your own health. Good mental health and happiness come from positive thinking, and kindness is the source of a positive state of mind. While it is the ability to give and be open to people, it brings a sense of well-being and belonging that improves our mental and physical health.
Focus on kindness and make it a habit. Leo Babauta believes that kindness is a habit that everyone can develop. He suggests focusing on kindness every day for a month. At the end of this focused concentration, you will experience profound changes in your life, you will feel better about yourself, and you will find that people treat you better. In the long run, he says, you will improve your karma. Here's what you can do to develop the habit of kindness.
Be kind to everyone, not just those in need. Expand the circle of those to whom your kindness extends. This is very easy when we subconsciously do what Stephanie Dowrick calls “patronizing kindness.” This refers to kindness directed toward those who truly need it: the sick, the poor, the disabled, and those who share your ideals. Being kind to people who are emotionally close to us (for example, family or friends) or close in other respects (for example, compatriots or people of the same skin color, gender, etc.) is also easier than being kind to those whom the philosopher Hegel called “ others." It's also harder to be kind to people we consider our equals, but it's worth it.
- If we are only kind in “convenient” cases, then we cannot recognize that we need to be kind to everyone, regardless of who they are, what their income level is, what they believe in, what their life values are, where they come from. where they come from, whether they are similar to us, and so on.
- By choosing those we believe deserve our kindness, we unleash our own judgments and prejudices and thereby practice conditional kindness. And true kindness embraces all living beings. And while the challenges you will face on this larger path of goodness may be quite difficult, you will be surprised at the depth of your ability to be genuinely kind.
- If you believe that someone does not need your kindness and that this person can cope without your support and understanding, then you are showing selective kindness.
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Keep judgment to a minimum. If you want to be a truly kind person, throw your authoritative opinion into the trash. Instead of constantly criticizing people, work on compassion. If you usually think badly of others, think that they should be more responsible, and are surrounded by whiners and idiots, you will never learn to be kind. Stop judging people, you will never understand their motives until you live a day in their shoes. Focus on wanting to help others instead of judging them for not being better people.
- If you love to criticize everyone, are prone to gossip, or just always criticize everyone around you, you will not move beyond your intentions to be kind.
- Being kind means by default thinking well of people rather than expecting them to be perfect.
Part 2
Developing good qualities-
Be compassionate towards others. It is very important to realize the following: “Be merciful, for every person near you is fighting a mortal battle.” This phrase is attributed to Plato and means that each of us struggles with certain difficulties in our lives, but that we sometimes forget about the difficulties of others when we are immersed in our own problems or angry at others. Before you do something that could have a negative impact on another person, ask yourself a simple question: “Am I doing a good deed?” If you cannot answer in the affirmative, you should immediately change your approach and your actions.
- Even when you feel really bad, remember that other people also feel uncertainty, pain, difficulty, sadness, disappointment and loss. This in no way diminishes your own feelings, but it does make you aware that people's reactions are often driven by pain and upset feelings. Kindness is the key to looking deeper, past these emotions, and seeing the real person inside.
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You shouldn't expect perfection. If you're perfectionist, competitive, or always pushing yourself, self-kindness may fall victim to your ambitions, a fast-paced life, and your fear of appearing lazy and selfish. Don't forget to stop and forgive yourself sometimes if something doesn't go the way you wanted.
Live in the present. The greatest gift of kindness to another person is to be close to him, and not to have his head in the clouds, to listen carefully and be attentive to him. Plan your day differently so that you are no longer thought of as someone who is always in a hurry. Living in the present means being available to others, and this can only be achieved if you are not always in a rush, squeezing people and activities into your jam-packed schedule.
- Reduce the share of technical means of communication in communication with people. Impersonal and rushed communication through technology, such as SMS or emails, has its place in life, but only if it is not the only way to communicate. Don’t waste your time communicating with people in person or having a telephone conversation that is not interrupted by anything. Send a letter instead of an email and surprise someone with your kindness, taking the time to write personally.
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Know how to listen. The very ability to listen is very valuable in our fast-paced world, where rush and intense busyness have become values, where it is considered normal to break off a conversation in the middle because you need to run. However, being busy is no excuse for being rude. When you are talking to someone, learn to hear the person with all your heart, and listen carefully to the end of their thoughts or story.
- The most important act of kindness is to truly listen to the person, looking them in the eyes, without being distracted by anything, and to give the person some of your time. Take your time and absorb what you are being told, rather than interrupting with some canned response. Show the person that you understand the situation they are in and that you are willing to listen.
- Being a good listener does not mean being a great problem solver. Sometimes the biggest help is the desire and willingness to listen, even though you admit that you don’t know how else to help this person.
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Be optimistic. Happiness, joy and gratitude often make up kindness, allowing you to see the good in others, cope with the difficulties, despair and cruelty that you encounter in life, they help restore your faith in humanity. A positive attitude ensures sincerity and unfeigned joy in acts of kindness rather than out of a sense of duty or service. A sense of humor will allow you not to take yourself too seriously and treat life’s contradictions and thankless moments with faith in the good.
- It's not always easy to remain optimistic, especially on bad days. But with enough practice, you can develop optimism by focusing on the positive, anticipating good things in advance, and enjoying the little things. And looking at life on the brighter side is a completely free opportunity.
- Optimism and positive thinking will not only make you friendly and kind, but will also bring joy to those around you. If you whine too much, you will have a harder time bringing joy to your circle.
- To cultivate optimism, you can look for articles on how to be happier, more cheerful, and more grateful.
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Be friendly. Kind people are usually friendly too. This doesn't necessarily mean that they are the most open-minded, but they take the time to get to know new people better and help them settle into a new place. If there is a new person at your school or at work, you can talk to this person, explain what’s what and even invite him to some social event. Even if you are shy, a simple smile and small talk can help you become friendlier, and such kindness will not go unnoticed.
- Friendly people are kind because they expect good things from people. They communicate with new people and friends in an open and endearing manner.
- If you are shy by nature, you don't need to completely change yourself. Just make a little more effort to be friendly with people, pay attention to them, ask about their well-being and business, showing that you are interested in them.
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Be polite. While politeness itself is not a sign of kindness, genuine politeness shows your respect for those with whom you interact. Politeness is a good way to attract a person’s attention and get your point across. Here are some simple tricks:
- Sometimes you need to rephrase your requests or responses to other people's remarks. For example, instead of “Can I?” say “May I?” or say “I’m surprised” instead of “that’s not fair!”; say: “Let me explain it differently” instead of: “Yes, that’s not what I said.” Sometimes paraphrasing says a lot.
- Behave with dignity. Hold the door for those following you, avoid excessive vulgarity and do not become familiar with new people.
- Give compliments and be sincere.
- Find more information on how to be kind and courteous.
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Learn to be grateful. Truly kind people know how to express gratitude easily. They take nothing for granted and always thank you for your help. They know how to say thank you from the heart, they write thank you cards, and they don't feel awkward admitting they needed help. Grateful people can simply say thank you, simply because you somehow brightened their day, and not just because you did something specific. If you make it a point to be more grateful to those around you, your potential for kindness will increase.
Part 3
Let's start to act-
Love animals and all living things. Love for animals and caring for pets are also manifestations of kindness. Nothing forces you to care about beings of another species, especially now when the capabilities of humans as the dominant species are so powerful. And all the very love for an animal and respect for its own merits is an expression of kindness. Just like loving the whole world that supports and feeds us, it is an exercise of both intelligence and kindness to ensure that we do not poison the foundation that gives us a healthy life.
- Adopt and raise a pet. The reward for your kindness will be his love and the joy of having him in your life.
- Invite your friend who is leaving to take his pet for foster care. Convince your friend that love and care will help the pet cope with the absence of its owner.
- Respect the species you care for. Humans are not the “owner” of an animal, rather we are given responsibility for their well-being and care.
- Take time to help your local government look after the environment. Go on nature walks with family, friends, or alone. Share your love of nature with others to help them reconnect with nature.
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- Observe people who could really use what you have. They may never ask you for it, but you can offer it yourself even before they admit that they need something.
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Smile more. It's a simple act of kindness with far-reaching consequences. Make it a habit to smile at friends and acquaintances, or even strangers. While you shouldn't walk around with a plastic smile plastered on your face, if you smile at people, they will smile back at you, which will add joy to their day. Moreover, smiling can improve your mood. Everyone benefits when you smile, and your kindness potential will grow in the process.
- When people smile, they feel more comfortable, and smiling will also make you appear more approachable. And this is also one of the manifestations of kindness. Kindness towards people is also one of the types of kindness.
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Be interested in people. Truly kind people are genuinely interested in other people. They are kind to them not because they want something in return or because they are looking for an opportunity to receive a favor. They do this because they are truly interested in how they feel, how they live, because they want everyone around them to be happy and healthy. To become kinder, develop an interest in people, show them that you care about them by asking questions and paying attention to them. Here are some ways to learn to be interested in people:
- Asking people how they are doing is not just for show.
- Be interested in their hobbies, interests and family.
- If someone you know has had an important life event, ask how it went.
- If someone you know is about to take a difficult exam or interview, wish them luck.
- When talking to someone, your interlocutor should talk at least half of the time. Don't pull the blanket over yourself and focus more on the interlocutor and not on yourself.
- Keep your eyes open and put your phone down while you talk. Show the other person that he is your top priority at the moment.
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Call your friends just like that. You don't always have to have a reason to call an old friend. Make it a habit to call one of your friends once a week, just to see how your friend is doing. Don't call solely to plan something or ask for something specific, call simply because you miss him or her and were thinking about him or her. If you connect with friends just because, they will feel needed and cared about, and you will feel good too. This demonstrates kindness and caring.
- If you really are extremely busy, you can at least get into the habit of calling your friends on their birthdays. Don’t be lazy, getting off with an SMS message or a post on Facebook, but call and congratulate your friend from the bottom of your heart.
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Donate things to charity. Another way to show kindness is to donate some of your personal belongings to charities. Instead of just throwing away your junk or selling it for 50 cents at a garage sale, donate your unwanted items to a good cause. If you have things, books or any household items in good condition, donate these things to charitable organizations instead of storing them at home or throwing them away. This is a good way to bestow your kindness on others.
- If you have things or books that specific people need (or would like to have), don't hesitate to give them to that person. This is how you show your kindness too.
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Do good deeds for no reason.“Do good for nothing, without expecting any reward, and someday you too will be repaid with kindness.” These are the words of Princess Diana. Such spontaneous acts of kindness are just as common as deliberately planned ones; there are even groups whose goal is to fulfill this important civic duty! Here are some examples of spontaneous acts of kindness:
- Clear the snow from your neighbor's driveway after you clear yours.
- Wash your friend's car.
- Deposit money into the parking meter for overdue parking time.
- Help someone carry a heavy bag.
- Leave a gift on someone's doorstep.
- To learn more, search for a thread on how to practice spontaneous acts of kindness.
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Use kindness to change your life. Changing the way you live and perceive it seems like a daunting step. But you can use Aldous Huxley's prescription for changing your life: “People often ask me what the most effective methods are for changing your life. I’m a little embarrassed to say, after years and years of research and experimentation, that the best answer is just to be a little kinder.” Take Huxley's many years of research to heart and allow kindness to change your life, leaving behind aggressive thoughts and actions, hatred, fear and self-deprecation. Let kindness restore strength weakened by despair.
- If someone drops something, pick it up and give it to the person who dropped it. Or you can offer to raise it. Or even offer to lift together, despite the size!
- You can't like everyone, and that's okay: even the kindest people on earth can get irritated! Just remain polite no matter what.
- If a stranger smiles at you, do not hesitate - smile back, this is a kind deed.
- Showing kindness increases from person to person, so pass on kindness without expecting anything in return. And goodness will definitely return to you.
- Don't think in the moment. Your good deed done today can teach someone to do good to others, for this person you will become an example and inspiration. Moreover, kindness spreads like ripples on water: many are surprised, years later, how one kind deed touched a person and inspired him to do something amazing, or gave him the strength to believe in himself. Always remember that goodness always remains in the soul.
- Ask the person you're communicating with how they're doing, and then really listen to the answer. Kindness is caring and compassion, and everyone wants to be heard.
- Help a blind man cross the road.
- Cook lunch for a friend who is going through a tough time.
- Bring a heavy suitcase to a person who is obviously struggling with it.
- Be kind to the poor or homeless, give them money or feed them.
- Visit a nursing home and spend an hour or two playing cards with someone who doesn't have visitors.
- If you say hello to people along the way - from the shopkeeper to your boss - it improves people's mood and makes them feel comfortable. Try to do this every day.
- Goodness is free, so share it with everyone, every day. Offer to look after the pet of friends who are leaving. If you have a sick neighbor, ask if he needs anything to buy when you go to the store. Stop to talk to someone who is lonely, have a cup of coffee with them and pay the bill.
- Buy a bag of nuts and a few chocolates from the supermarket and give them to the homeless.
- Look at the aphorism “be cruel to be kind.” Think about why this saying is so popular. Do you think it is appropriate to look at life situations from this angle? When you think someone really needs to learn a lesson, often in order to get back on their feet, one of the kindest things to do is to step back and not give advice: let the person change by going the whole way themselves, perhaps taking an extra detour than pave the way for him. We all understand that we cannot change someone. But kindness allows us to change the situation of this person so that he himself can take a step forward and change. Therefore, we do not need to view our action as cruel, but rather as enabling.
Warnings
- There is no need to brag about your good deeds, be modest. Doing something good just because of the approval of others is not entirely good. Helping someone who has no idea can bring the same sense of satisfaction.
- Make sure your act of kindness is appropriate. Sometimes unsolicited help can backfire. “No good deed goes unpunished.” Sometimes it happens that we think we are helping, but in fact we may cause harm because we did not have enough information regarding the problem.
- If you are very upset and angry with someone, think about the fact that a good deed creates a much greater debt than an unavenged evil. People can come up with all sorts of excuses for doing a bad thing, but you can’t just run away from the fact that you were simply forgiven because of your kindness.
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Essay “Why is it necessary to be kind in our time?” You can write using the option provided.
Is it necessary to be kind in the modern world?
What is kindness and is it difficult to be a kind person? In the modern world, full of hatred, hypocrisy, and insolence, this virtue is extremely rare. Give alms to a beggar near the church, help a neighbor with repairs, or simply give a stranger a ride home because there is a terrible snowstorm outside. Is it really that difficult? Yes and no.
Our life is built on two eternal contradictions - good and evil. It has always been this way. Day follows night, a rainbow appears after a thunderstorm, good always triumphs over evil. There are many more kind people in the world. It is a fact. And the more we sow goodness, the more abundantly it grows in the hearts and souls of everyone.
But why is it sometimes difficult to be a kind person? The answer is simple! Today our life is full of some illusions and insincerity. That’s why sometimes there is a lack of some simple understanding and mercy on the part of others. For some reason, people are used to living according to the law: my house is on the edge. A quiet existence, to achieve one’s own goals, empty words, promises. Sometimes you think about all this and get scared. For the country, for yourself, for the future generation. After all, it is born this way, different.
Therefore, in my opinion, an excess of kindness will never be superfluous. He who does good to others does good to himself. He cleanses his body and soul of negativity. Kindness changes our soul, it opens the most intimate doors with the bright rays of the sun.
In the modern world, kindness is not in fashion and is sometimes cynically ridiculed. If not as a manifestation of stupidity and naivety, then as weakness and whim... We forbid ourselves to be kind, even when we want it. But maybe in vain?
Kindness towards others is the basis of all traditional spiritual practices, however, today kindness is not the main quality. If you want to make a career or achieve high achievements, she is not your friend.
Psychoanalyst Adam Phillips and historian Barbara Taylor wrote a small but insightful book, “On Kindness,” and told in it, why you shouldn’t be ashamed of good feelings and actions. A life filled with kindness, lived in empathy and understanding the weaknesses of others, is what we naturally strive for. People secretly do good deeds, but find no words or cultural support to express them. Living in accordance with our sympathies, it seems to us, will weaken or confuse us; We are convinced that kindness undermines the foundations of success.
Kindness - why is it bad?
On the one hand, being kind is risky, because we become more sensitive to the joys and misfortunes of others. And trying to step into another person's shoes can be very uncomfortable. But if the pleasure of being kind - like all human pleasures - is inherently harmful, it is still one of the most fulfilling and rewarding, say Adam Phillips and Barbara Taylor.
But without good deeds, we deprive ourselves of the joy necessary to feel well-being and happiness. These days, good relationships are expected, sanctioned and required only between those closest to you.
Kindness is considered either the highest form of selfishness (it gives a feeling of moral superiority and manipulation) or a form of weakness
Kindness is widely suspected of being either the highest form of selfishness(gives a sense of moral superiority and the ability to manipulate), or a form of weakness (kindness as a way by which the weak control the strong, because the good are only kind because they do not have the courage to behave differently).
If we believe that the meaning of life lies in competition, then kindness certainly seems old-fashioned, even a nostalgic relic of a time when we could still feel compassion for others. How can kindness help you achieve goals (moral approval does not count) in a society where your personal achievements have become the leading value? – the authors of the book ask themselves.
Paradoxes of kindness
And yet, part of our “I” suffers in the absence of good deeds. This paradoxical relationship with kindness perhaps explains the internet's "angry culture" like nothing else.
We ourselves do not allow ourselves to be mentally generous to the fullest extent, but nothing outrages us more than the unkind manifestations of other people towards us.
Today we feel a lack of kindness and constantly complain about the cruelty of others.. We consistently need kindness, and yet most of us fail to let it into our lives.
Children are kind by nature, but society corrects their behavior
Children are naturally kind, but society corrects their behavior, write Adam Taylor and Barbara Phillips. And they explain how this happens. One of the first formative traumas of a child is his understanding of the need for others (in reality, the mother is as vulnerable in her love for the baby as the baby is in her dependence on the mother).
Child experiencing anxiety trauma(“What should I do for my mom so she will take care of me?”), which brings out his natural kindness, but this concern is often rejected later. We call avoiding it self-sufficiency, but in its pathological form it turns into narcissism.
Kindness connects us with others - this is her joy. But its dark side is that we immediately become aware of our own and others’ weaknesses. However, vulnerability is our common biological heritage. In other words, kindness opens up the worlds of other people to us, which we so want and at the same time are so afraid of...
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Kindness towards others is the basis of all traditional spiritual practices, however, today kindness is not the main quality. If you want to make a career or achieve high achievements, she is not your friend.
Psychoanalyst Adam Phillips and historian Barbara Taylor wrote a short but insightful book, “On Kindness,” 1 and told in it, why you shouldn’t be ashamed of good feelings and actions. A life filled with kindness, lived in empathy and understanding the weaknesses of others, is what we naturally strive for. People secretly do good deeds, but find no words or cultural support to express them. Living in accordance with our sympathies, it seems to us, will weaken or confuse us; We are convinced that kindness undermines the foundations of success.
Kindness - why is it bad?
On the one hand, being kind is risky, because we become more sensitive to the joys and misfortunes of others. And trying to step into another person's shoes can be very uncomfortable. But if the pleasure of being kind - like all human pleasures - is inherently harmful, it is still one of the most fulfilling and rewarding, say Adam Phillips and Barbara Taylor.
But without good deeds, we deprive ourselves of the joy necessary to feel well-being and happiness. These days, good relationships are expected, sanctioned and required only between those closest to you.
Kindness is considered either the highest form of selfishness (it gives a feeling of moral superiority and manipulation) or a form of weakness
Kindness is widely suspected of being either the highest form of selfishness(gives a sense of moral superiority and the ability to manipulate), or a form of weakness (kindness as a way by which the weak control the strong, because the good are only kind because they do not have the courage to behave differently).
If we believe that the meaning of life lies in competition, then kindness certainly seems old-fashioned, even a nostalgic relic of a time when we could still feel compassion for others. How can kindness help you achieve goals (moral approval does not count) in a society where your personal achievements have become the leading value? – the authors of the book ask themselves.
Paradoxes of kindness
And yet, part of our “I” suffers in the absence of good deeds. This paradoxical relationship with kindness perhaps explains the internet's "angry culture" like nothing else.
We ourselves do not allow ourselves to be mentally generous to the fullest extent, but nothing outrages us more than the unkind manifestations of other people towards us.
Today we feel a lack of kindness and constantly complain about the cruelty of others.. We consistently need kindness, and yet most of us fail to let it into our lives.
Children are kind by nature, but society corrects their behavior
Children are naturally kind, but society corrects their behavior, write Adam Taylor and Barbara Phillips. And they explain how this happens. One of the first formative traumas of a child is his understanding of the need for others (in reality, the mother is as vulnerable in her love for the baby as the baby is in her dependence on the mother).
Child experiencing anxiety trauma(“What should I do for my mom so she will take care of me?”), which brings out his natural kindness, but this concern is often rejected later. We call avoiding it self-sufficiency, but in its pathological form it turns into narcissism.
Kindness connects us with others - this is her joy. But its dark side is that we immediately become aware of our own and others’ weaknesses. However, vulnerability is our common biological heritage. In other words, kindness opens up the worlds of other people to us, which we so want and at the same time are so afraid of...
About the authors
Adam Phillips is a psychotherapist, essayist, and author of more than 15 books on psychology.
Barbara Taylor is a historian and professor of humanities at Queen Mary University of London.
1 A. Phillips, B. Taylor, On Kindness (Penguin, 2009).
“He who does good to a friend does good to himself.” “When you give, you receive.” “It’s time to give when you don’t have much.” These and a million other quotes about kindness teach us to be compassionate, generous, honest, and understanding. For real. Human.
No matter how many fairy tales are written and films made, with different endings, good still triumphs over evil. And in life too. We believe in it. Today is World Spontaneous Kindness Day, reminding us of the importance of being human. Be, not seem to be. Dalai Lama XIV says that you need to do good deeds, and not just think about it. Taking action is the main thing.
We chose facts about kindness from different books. Read, think about it and, most importantly, implement good ideas. We think this is the most important thing in life.
1. Kindness changes the world
Everything we have done only for ourselves dies with us.
Everything we have done for others and the world lasts forever.
Albert Pike
Tal Ben-Shahar, a positive psychology scholar and author of What You Choose, writes about what many of us are afraid to think about. The fact that many events in the world around us do not depend in any way on the efforts of individual people, and yet we greatly underestimate our ability to change the world for the better.
In the movie Pay It Forward, a schoolteacher asks his students to give a report on how each of them could change the world for the better. One of them, Trevor, decides to do three good deeds, volunteer to help randomly selected people three times, and then ask them - instead of thanking them - to help someone else three times and have them ask for the same thing, and so on.
If every person who is helped by someone in turn helps three other people, then in twenty-one “steps” every person on Earth will have received help from someone. The film tells the story of how Trevor's good deeds create a positive influence that spreads like ripples on water. This influence deeply touches the lives of people whom Trevor himself has never even met.
In our global village, social connections are strong and every action ripples through time and space. That's why it's important not to stop doing good - .
The feeling of helplessness in the face of global problems is rooted in our belief that the contribution of an individual is a drop in the ocean. But if you find a way to do something good and “infect” other people with it - even just a few - you can create significant change.
Change the world for the better. Repay others for what they have done for you and inspire them to do the same.
2. Doing good makes us happier.
Without kindness, true joy is impossible.
Thomas Carlyle
Generosity and generosity are wonderful human qualities. They are very beneficial for physical and mental health. The ability to share time, energy or money with people helps to increase feelings of happiness and reduces the risk of depression, stress levels and has a beneficial effect on relationships with others.
It turns out that we naturally feel happier when we are generous. When we give something to someone, our altruism activates the parts of the brain that are responsible for pleasure, communication with others, and trust.
People who are actively involved in philanthropic activities increase their self-esteem and strengthen their faith in their own strengths. Simply put, we are happy - .Showing kindness activates the production of endorphins in the brain. These biological reactions create euphoric feelings of peace and happiness in a generous and generous person.
3. Being kind means being a strong person.
The great thinker of the 20th century, Stephen Covey, calls courage the father of all virtues. Courage and respect help us become complete, whole individuals. The formation of a personality requires considerable life experience; you have to go around the built building many times and in different ways until you notice where it has sagged and where it has sagged as a result of past mistakes, and only in this way can you gradually come to the integration of your internal character.
This is why building a strong character requires patience. Men who begin small and work on themselves every day, with high principles in mind, are sure to begin to spread their influence until they become models of true character and, as a result, mentors and teachers to others.
There is always time for a good deed, -These individuals become catalysts for change and Transition Persons who can break cycles of negative behavior in their families, organizations or communities.
4. Kindness is an act of giving.
Generosity, whether material or spiritual, changes a person. For the most part, we tend to give, especially when it is convenient for us or socially approved. This is how man is made. If you look at it, we are constantly giving something away - time or energy. But when you spend time with your children, staring at the TV, surfing the Internet on your tablet, or constantly thinking about problems at work, this is not a real act of giving.
The most valuable gifts have nothing to do with money. They are associated with deeply personal and emotional manifestations of the human soul: understanding, moral support, spiritual closeness and kindness.
It is very important to give and love when you cannot demand the same in return. That’s why giving is so difficult, but so important for personal growth, -It's easy to be a giver when all you have to do is take money out of your wallet. Whether it’s a matter of investing time and mental strength in someone or something. Giving gifts with soul is much more difficult than with money. But generosity changes everything when it comes from the depths of the soul. And this is the most important thing.
5. Kindness is the path to originality
The desire to help others helps the person himself. This is a natural consequence of being exceptional. To take the path of “otherness” from others, you need the ability to share experience. How can I purchase it? Doing good deeds again. Don't be afraid to get attached to something that will give you incentive and motivation. You can train with someone, take an art class, help animal shelters, or go on a charity mission to African countries. Over time, you will realize that you have acquired new experience, you can pass it on to others and you will become an extraordinary person, unlike anyone else - yourself.
Kindness changes people -
Genuinely care about others. Kindness at its core is genuinely caring for others, wanting the best for them, understanding their needs, desires, hopes, and even fears as if they were your own. Kindness is warm, cheerful, patient, trusting, loyal and appreciative. Piero Ferrucci sees kindness in “putting in less effort”, then this will relieve us of negative feelings and feelings of resentment, jealousy, suspicion and manipulation. In general, kindness is a sincere concern for all living things.