How to get ahead as a young girl in a big city. Life in a big city: what psychological traps lie in wait in megacities

How much do you need to earn in Moscow to live a full life, and how much is enough to survive without starving to death? I decided to calculate my expenses for
the most necessary things and calculate how my life will change - those who came in large numbers and the native Muscovites who arrived in large numbers yesterday, if the dollar exchange rate nevertheless exceeds the 100 ruble mark by the end of the year.

To exist, in my understanding, is to live with constant limitation of oneself in something. Live in some kind of barracks on the outskirts, spending 2.5 hours a day traveling to your place of work, but cheaper - 12 thousand per month. You can eat some instant noodles, soy sausage, and not the best quality pasta. After a couple of months you can swim fat, of course, but, again, “inexpensively”. And you can get into shape later, when you have more money. Again, for a while, the only entertainment you need to leave is the Internet: it is much cheaper than cinemas, theaters and amusement parks. I think that in this mode it is possible to exist in the capital with a budget of 25-30 thousand per month. As a bonus, you can get moral satisfaction from the answer “MOSCOW” to the question “what city are you from?”

But a full life in the city is when you may not enjoy all the benefits, but you have access to them at any time. For example, you don’t have to go to the theater if you don’t feel like it today, but if you feel like it tomorrow, you should get up and go. You can enjoy the architecture of the city when you have the opportunity to leisurely stroll at a time convenient for you along the old streets, alleys or avenues of Moscow. You can feel the atmosphere while living in some pretentious old house with history. Delicious food, comfortable transport and the opportunity to dress decently are a must-have option.

It seems to me that from “existence in Moscow” to “life in Moscow” the average resident of the capital can take 7-10 years, which could be spent in their hometowns, accumulating that same initial capital for a comfortable start in a larger settlement.

What does a “full life” in Moscow consist of? Let's think about it.

Apartment. It is stupid to consider the “maximum” option; such apartments are not available to poor “beginning Muscovites”. Personally, I almost always looked at apartments in areas between the Garden and Third Transport Rings. A good two-room apartment of 70 square meters with normal renovation will cost at least 75,000 rubles per month.

Nutrition. Again, you don’t need to be a regular customer of Azbuka Vkusa to spend at least 10,000 rubles on groceries every month per adult family member. Less is possible, but then you will have to give up good meat and fish, and replace them with low-grade chicken, stuffed with hormones.

Transport. Metro - 2000 rubles per month. Quite convenient, but uncomfortable due to the number of people riding. A car is comfortable, but quite difficult due to traffic jams. If, nevertheless, you choose a car, you will have to budget about 15,000 for gasoline in the family budget. Ideally, we should budget 17,000, let there be both a car and a metro.

Clothing and other consumer pleasures. Let it be 50,000 rubles.

Entertainment. Cafes, restaurants, some little things. Even infrequently, once 7 a month, this is at least 25,000 rubles.

Having added up the account, I see the figure of 177,000 rubles. This, in fact, is the amount that, by earning per month, you can start a full-fledged life in Moscow. In Volgograd, to ensure approximately the same standard of living, 80,000 would be enough.

How much does it cost you to live in your city (village)? Can you afford cafe-restaurants? Do you go to the theaters? Is it worth saving on an apartment in order to spend a lot of time commuting to work? Actually, do you live or exist?

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Most people are children of a metropolis, and to understand whether this is good or bad, you need to understand what life in a big city is.

Even at the dawn of capitalism, many people flocked to big cities to earn money. This was especially true in winter for peasants, since agricultural work came to a standstill during this time. Some, having tasted such a life, subsequently became city residents.

What are the advantages of cities?

Most often, in big cities, people are attracted by several things:

  • the opportunity to find a well-paid job;
  • obtaining education (higher and vocational secondary);
  • opportunity for professional development and growth;
  • developed infrastructure with theaters and museums, transport and catering, libraries and stadiums, hospitals and clinics;
  • availability of conditions for own implementation;
  • the opportunity to organize and develop your own business.

As you can see, there are plenty of advantages. Moreover, they are something that villages and small towns have never even dreamed of.

But, as you know in life, for all good things you have to pay, and the pros are usually followed by the cons, just as a black streak follows a white one. And city life is no exception to this.

Disadvantages of living in a big city

So what do you have to pay for living in the city? Let's try to list what a city dweller constantly faces:

  • environmental problems in which all the “charms” of life are concentrated - polluted air, saturated with exhaust gases and industrial emissions into the atmosphere. Factories and gas stations, nuclear power plants and industrial waste, landfills and dirt on the streets;
  • lack of quality products, eating dry food, on the run and in fast foods;
  • significant psychological stress, causing a feeling of chronic fatigue or prolonged depression. Headaches associated with lack of sleep are much less common among rural residents;
  • a constant lack of free time caused by the high pace of life and the time it takes to travel to work;
  • high cost of living associated with high prices for housing, food, goods and services;
  • radiomagnetic waves also do not bypass the human body, having a harmful effect on it;
  • cities gradually turned into sources of noise and not very pleasant odors;
  • the presence of criminals, beggars and homeless people;
  • high crowding of people contributes to the emergence and rapid spread of all kinds of infections and epidemics.

As you can see, the number of pros and cons of living in a big city is far from equal.

There are many more disadvantages than advantages, but people continue to be attracted to megacities.

Maybe this is because the pros are more obvious than the cons?

Or do they simply try not to think about the disadvantages once again when choosing where to live?

When wanting to decide on a place of residence, it is apparently still worth carefully weighing all the advantages and disadvantages of large cities. It is possible that it makes sense to settle in smaller and quieter ones?

If your work is connected to a large city, then it makes sense to decide to arrange your life in the suburbs. Or choose a larger city that is safer and cleaner from an environmental point of view.

The most difficult thing can be to understand what is most suitable in your particular case. Maybe it makes sense to drop everything and leave the metropolis, moving to a small one in a timely manner?

Moreover, everything always has its own price, and the cost of living in a big city may accidentally turn out to be too high for a person and you should not forget about it.

Today, most people who live in small towns dream of moving to some metropolis. The rose-colored dream of modern teenagers is life in a big city with a population of over a million people.

We'll watch enough television fairy tales about a beautiful and stormy life, and then we'll strive for an impossible dream. Living in a big city has its advantages, but there are also a lot of disadvantages.

Where is it good to live in Rus'? Big city versus quiet province.

In a big city, wages are actually higher. If we compare Syzran with the regional center of the Samara region, Samara, the difference in wages seems significant. A sales specialist at some Internet provider in Syzran can receive from 10 to 25 thousand rubles. dirty. In Samara, this figure varies from 18 to 35 (in rare cases up to 40) tr. The cost of travel on public transport in Samara is as much as 7 rubles (25 rubles) more. At the same time, by the way, the presence of stores such as Lenta and Auchan allows you to save a little on buying food.

It is believed that in a big city it is much easier, which will provide you with a comfortable life. Actually this is not true. A really good job (where you don’t really have to work, but your wallet is bursting) has always been available only to a select few anywhere in the world. If you are not lucky enough to be born into a family of high-ranking people, then you can’t really count on a warm and financial place. And if you know how to work well and efficiently, then you will never be offended with a bonus in any city. (The causes of poverty are within us)

In a big city it is very easy to find a job if you are not picky. It is possible that it will be quite dirty and dusty, and the payment will be much lower than you expect. Well, someone has to do this job too.

In a big city, any business that can be classified as a service sector feels much more comfortable. Although, if you just sit and wait for clients, then this is a road to nowhere. At least some work is needed to attract customers. Marketing is the basis of any business.

In a big city, any property is sold quite quickly and expensively, but within reason. Of course, the location of the property and the availability of convenient transportation play a huge role.

One of the downsides is that it takes a painfully long time for all residents of large cities to get to work. If in Syzran my journey from one end of the city to the other took 20-30 minutes, then in Samara it takes at least an hour.

Anyone who lives in the center of a big city will tell you with confidence that the air quality leaves much to be desired.

Residents of megacities are very nervous. The city is constantly on the move, and this does not give your head a rest even after a working day.

It is very sad to live in a big city without special water purification systems (this is an additional expense). Of course, if you don’t like drinking tea with the aroma and taste of chlorine.

In general, I came to the conclusion that there are no minuses without pluses and pluses without minuses. Live exclusively where you feel comfortable. Don't go to the big city for the sugar life. Don't think that living in Moscow will make you the happiest person. You can find yourself anywhere in the world. Everything depends entirely on us.

Who will be much more comfortable in a big city?

Anyone who dreams of getting a good education. It so happens that all the really good higher education institutions are located in regional centers. Although, now you can get . Although, in our time it is not entirely clear.

If you are a representative of the most progressive professions, then the path to the big city is forbidden to you. I can’t remember that in urban settlements and small towns they were looking for an SMM specialist or web designer.

If you have a strong allergy to flowering plants and all living creatures, then the polluted city air and the lack of excess vegetation will please your nose. Here you will breathe much more freely than in a house next to the thicket of the forest. (Personal experience)

If you are terrified of all sorts of bugs and spiders, then welcome to the big city. There is a minimum of such living creatures here.

Something like that. But the most important thing is to live close to loved ones. I hope that everyone will agree with me on this.

Most people live in cities and try to “survive” every day. If you compare the pace of life in the suburbs or the village, then everything is balanced and calm, everyone minds their own business. The feeling that the air in the city is filled with electricity and is constantly in tension, just like the people breathing it.

Urban jungle

Many people say that the city is a jungle with its own laws, where you are always afraid of not being on time or that they may simply be thrown to the sidelines of life.

Many causes of irritability and anxiety have their roots in human psychology. Everyone has their own personal or even intimate space, where not everyone can be allowed. But the problem is that in a city overcrowded with residents, you have to constantly come into close contact with strangers who, unwillingly, go beyond the boundaries of their personal comfort zone. Fear of wasting time, loneliness, an inexplicable feeling of anxiety and uncertainty about the future are perfectly transmitted between people, like a virus. And all this leads to an unnecessary marathon over time.

Basic rules of survival

In order not to succumb to depression and chronic fatigue, you must follow the following tips:

Don't try to do everything at once. The body is not a perpetual motion machine, it can also break down;

Enjoy every moment and live “here” and “now”. In the constant pursuit of money, then things and satisfaction of their needs, sometimes imposed by fashion or society, many forget about important things and waste time;

Eat healthy and high quality food. The fashion for fast food on the street has killed the culture of food and eating. Family dinners and heart-to-heart conversations at the table have practically disappeared into oblivion. The stomach has turned into a garbage can, into which everything that the eyes see is thrown;

You should take care of your safety. A city is not only people and houses, but also cars and other potentially dangerous objects. You must be careful and vigilant so as not to harm yourself or your neighbor.

Spiritual education

Everyday psychological stress leads to an exacerbation of not only physical illnesses, but also emotional ones. Irritability, aggression and outbursts of anger accompany even the calmest and most balanced people. In order not to harm yourself and the people around you, you should take care of your peace of mind. Going to fitness centers and gyms has already become commonplace for city residents, but many choose spiritual practices such as meditation and yoga.

No one will ever take care of a person better than he himself, so to survive in the city you must first of all be in balance with yourself.

Instructions

Try not to withdraw into yourself and not be afraid of new acquaintances. The big relationship problem city lies in the isolation of people, which gives rise to constant anxiety (a stranger is potentially dangerous to you). Have you moved to a new apartment? Buy a delicious pie and go meet your neighbors. Surely one of them will be good-natured and will make friends with you, and will also tell you about other neighbors, the peculiarities of living in this house, about nearby shops, and so on.

If you have the opportunity to choose a place to live, pay attention to quiet and green areas. They may be further from the city center, but you can appreciate the peace and quiet after a hard day at work.

Go for walks outside the city more often. Don't sit at home in front of the TV on weekends. Try to plan your vacation so that it is active, healthy, and opens up opportunities for communication and new acquaintances. Adequate rest will set you up positively for the work week. If the weather is bad outside, it doesn't matter. Read the poster for upcoming events and be sure to attend one of them. Go to a new movie premiere, see an exhibition at a museum, or visit a book fair.

Do good deeds. This could be helping the old lady living next door to you. Or participation in a volunteer organization. Such activities are useful for spiritual well-being and do not allow you to become embittered.

Know how to relax after a working day. TV should be in last place here. Choose a more pleasant and useful way for yourself. Take a walk after work, read an interesting book, visit friends, or join a hobby club where its members regularly organize recreational activities or activities together. If you are tired of the company of people and want to be alone, organize yourself a bath with aromatic oil and candles, turn on relaxing music and sit comfortably under a warm blanket.

Pay due attention to a healthy lifestyle. Eat right, go for morning runs, and get fit. Give up bad habits, do not relieve stress with a cigarette or a glass of wine. This can become a habit and cause serious harm to your health. You try to live with your body and soul, and all troubles and stress will be avoided.

Getting lost in one of the cities of your country is not so scary. You can ask any passerby not only where you are, but also how to get to the right place. It is much worse to get lost in a foreign country without speaking a foreign language.

How not to get lost in a big city

If, on duty or for tourism purposes, you find yourself in an unfamiliar big city, then take all measures to avoid getting lost. Write down the address of your temporary residence, upon arrival, buy a city map or download its electronic equivalent on the Internet. When moving around the city, determine your route in advance, taking in the main streets. Pay attention to street names, focus on large shopping centers, unusual architectural buildings or monuments. For safety reasons, do not walk in the dark. Do not use the services of private motorists, call a taxi through official companies.

In an unfamiliar city in a foreign country, it is much more difficult to navigate both by and by street names. Complex combinations of sounds and unfamiliar words are more difficult to remember and easier to confuse. The address of the place of residence must be written in several languages: local, one of the international ones and in Russian transcription for correct pronunciation. You should take copies of documents with you, and also find out in advance the addresses and telephone numbers of the embassy or consulate. An electronic translator or similar program on a tablet or phone will also come in handy. Be sure to check that your electronic device is charged before heading out into the city.

What to do if you are already lost

Try to go out onto one of the central streets, square or any crowded place. You should not ask directions from a lonely traveler in a half-empty alley. You can go into any office building, store or bank and ask the staff for help. If you have a mobile phone, the number of an official taxi service and money, then the best solution is to return to the hotel by taxi.

You should not travel alone in cities in developing or Muslim countries. You should hire an accompanying person or not deviate from tourist routes. Even in the European capital there are a couple of “dark places” and disadvantaged areas.

As soon as you realize that you are lost, stop and pick up a map. The first thing to do is determine your location. Go to the nearest building to find out the address. Walk forward a few houses and look at the address again. If the name of the street has not changed, then by the numbering of the buildings you will be able to understand exactly which direction you are going. Having figured out what part of the city you are in, it will be easier for you to understand how far away your hotel is, whether you should look for transport or whether you can walk.