Self-confidence gives you many advantages. It will help you do your job better, get recognition and appreciation for it, and also achieve promotions and salary increases. It will also help you attract the attention of the opposite sex. Simply put: it will help you get what you want in life.
On the other hand, shyness and lack of self-confidence can seriously hinder your efforts and prevent you from getting what you want (and deserve). That's why we decided to dedicate an entire article to helping you become more confident. But you should not forget that this is a rather complex process. You can't transform into a confident person overnight.
Uncertainty has ruined so many opportunities.
Erich Maria Remarque
12 ways a woman can become self-confident
The 12 methods listed below work more effectively if applied consistently and in combination. Self-confidence is not an innate quality. It's just a habit. And while we know it will take a lot of time and energy to create this habit, the good news is that it is possible at all. Everything depends on you.1. Use positive affirmations
To feel more confident, you can use positive affirmations - positive statements designed to reprogram the mind. This includes statements such as: “I am worthy,” “I am a natural leader,” “Everyone loves me,” and the like. There are several ways to apply this method. You can write down your mantra somewhere and repeat it to yourself every morning or evening before going to bed.You can write positive affirmations on a piece of paper and place it somewhere you can see it (on the wall or on the refrigerator), or you can write them directly on the mirror with a marker. This is exactly what I do. When I wash my face in the morning, I have no choice but to look at these inscriptions. I have another interesting thought about how to make positive affirmations a part of your life. I already mentioned this in the addition to the previous article.
2. Fake confidence until you really are.
When people act confidently around others, they begin to feel more confident in themselves. This is one of the most amazing rules of our life. If you want to get something, act as if you already have it. One of the features of how our minds work: the more familiar the idea, the more real it is. How can you make it habitual? Through constant repetition!The more you do and say something, the more you believe it. If you want to be more confident, behave like confident people behave! It will feel a little strange at first, but don't let yourself be deterred. Time will pass, and you will notice that your behavior has become completely natural.
3. Dress smart
If you lack confidence, the easiest way to increase it is by dressing like a successful person. If you are perceived as someone important, you will begin to feel like one! Looking smart is a universally recognized status symbol, so no matter what country you are in, you should always look impeccable. Things like suits, shirts, good shoes, various accessories and gadgets all add to a person's confidence.4. Speak loudly
The way you speak and how you control your voice is directly related to your sense of self-confidence. Shy people tend to speak rather quietly. They don't want to attract attention with a loud voice. You may have noticed this yourself in various meetings. There is always one person who speaks loudest, acts very confidently, sometimes even a little arrogantly. He doesn't care much what others think. There are other people who say little; they stand quietly, and even if they are asked a question, they answer in such a way that they can only be heard with great difficulty. Next time you speak at a meeting, project your voice, speak up. You will see for yourself the impact this has on your self-confidence.
5. Sit in the front row
Where do you usually sit at large events? Are you in a rush to grab a front row seat or would you rather sit in the back? I often choose the second option, like many other people. The reason is that we don't want to draw attention to ourselves. We prefer to hide in the back rows so as not to risk being pulled onto the stage and to avoid having to answer questions.But let me ask you something. Who usually sits in the front row at all official meetings? Who sits in the front row during fashion shows? After all, most often these are the most important people among those invited.
When you sit in the front row, you place yourself among these people. You let others know that you are one of the most important people, so they treat you as such. You will also notice that you yourself begin to behave differently. In this way, you put yourself at the center of attention - outside of your usual comfort zone. All attention is on you. You have no choice but to feel confident. When faced with a situation where there is no alternative, we adapt surprisingly quickly.
In this life, you only need ignorance and self-confidence - and success is guaranteed to you.
Mark Twain
6. Body language
A confident person can be identified by the way he carries himself. Such people have good posture. They keep their heads straight. They look into the eyes of other people and keep an open mind. When a person feels uncomfortable, suffering or down, he tends to close himself off from others. And not only emotionally, but also physically.We try to make ourselves as small as possible so that people don't notice us. We try to curl up, thereby reducing our exposure surface. This behavior shows a lack of confidence. You can achieve increased self-confidence if you use the “body language” inherent to a person who feels confident. There are many articles on this topic, some of them can be found on our website.
7. Take care of yourself
Quite often, self-doubt is a direct consequence of the fact that for some reason we feel awkward. These may be extra pounds that we would like to hide. Or we don't like our clothes. Maybe the hairstyle is not fashionable. Or the skin is chapped. Or no makeup. There can be many reasons. Look at fashion models or other celebrities. They always feel beautiful, sexy and attractive. And it boosts their self-confidence!Do the same for yourself. Change your hairstyle. Tidy up your nails. Update your wardrobe. Start exercising to become more energetic. When you feel comfortable in your body, you will begin to project good mood onto other people.
8. Play to your strengths
If you constantly think about your shortcomings, sooner or later you will lose most of your confidence. If you fail at so many things and make so many mistakes, then where does confidence come from? Instead of focusing on things you can't do, use your strengths. You may be a natural speaker, an excellent cook, or a super-gifted businessman. Carefully examine all areas of your life. This will help you believe in yourself and increase your self-esteem. Imagine someone telling you that you look great. What is your answer to this? Are you familiar with phrases such as: “Oh, that’s an old dress” or “You know, I’m not feeling very well today”? What do you usually say when you receive a compliment? It's rare to find people who know how to accept compliments. We rarely say just “thank you”, without any “buts”. But think for yourself. After all, if someone takes the time to tell you something nice, then they really mean it. Why can't you just accept kind words? Why do most of us tend to downplay our accomplishments? If you have done something good, put it on your record. After all, you deserve it! Allow yourself to believe all the good things people say about you. This is the easiest and least expensive way to boost your confidence.
In many cultures (including mine), it is considered not very polite if you simply accept a compliment. This is perceived as rudeness and arrogance. So for people coming from such cultures, this task is more difficult. Still, it's worth a try.
Self-confidence is sometimes a big stupidity. Only fools have no doubts.
Benicio Del Toro
10. Avoid perfectionism
If you strive for perfection in everything, you will often be disappointed. Being a perfect person is very difficult (if not impossible). You can always be better and faster, you can always do more. Stop trying to do everything and be perfect at everything. Recognize that good doesn't have to be perfect. And you don't have to be perfect either. , as a rule, low self-esteem because they criticize themselves all the time.Take a look at some of the confident people around you. Are they perfect? Treat yourself fairer and be more tolerant of your mistakes and shortcomings. They don't rob you of your talents and strengths.
11. Appreciate what you have already achieved
Our confidence largely depends on how much we believe in our success. If you don't see anything good in your life, your self-confidence is likely to be low. How can you believe that you are a successful person?No matter what position you are in right now, it's safe to say that you've had a lot more accomplishments in your life than you think. We tend to look to the future and always compare ourselves to an imagined, perfect model of the person we would like to be. Or with the model that we need to achieve our goals.
You are looking into a future where the ideal person you have imagined has a lot of money, is happy and has a beautiful home. Then you come back to the present and become depressed and start to feel like a failure for being so far from your dreams. However, we often forget how much we have already come and what we have achieved. We rarely look into the past to remember who we were a few years ago and compare with who we have become.
12. Set small goals for the near future.
There is another method that allows you to strengthen faith in your strength to achieve success. This method boils down to setting small, easily achievable goals. If you've been working on a large and complex task for the past few months, it's likely that at some point you'll feel very insecure. The reason is that for quite a long time you fail to achieve your goal, to get what you want.A great way to deal with this problem is to set smaller goals that represent steps along the way to solving one big task. With this approach, every goal achieved helps you regain self-confidence and confidence. The next time your boss approves of an idea, consider it a success. A nice guy/man asks for your phone number for further communication? Have a party! Have you finished everything you had to do today? Congratulate yourself! Fill your life with small joys, and in return they will make you feel like a successful person.
Your turn
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In this article we will talk about leadership quality, the quality of a real man - confidence. How to develop this quality, how to become confident in yourself, what it will give you in life, etc. do not miss!
Confidence— is not given to us at birth (contrary to this opinion). This quality (like many others) needs to be constantly WORKED and DEVELOPED IN YOURSELF!
Why do you need to WORK and PRODUCE?
- Firstly, because without confidence you can’t go anywhere. I think you understand this yourself! Confidence is necessary for success in any field of activity. Relationships, business, sports, politics, etc. the list goes on and on.
- Secondly, because confidence is one of the main qualities that defines a real man. Not a boy, not a guy, but a MAN with BALLS.
If you are unsure of yourself = it is your decision, your choice. To be confident or not is only your choice. Do you understand? In other words, like everything else in this life. It all depends on you.
If you really HAVE A DESIRE = you want => act. If you have NO DESIRE = you don’t want = and nothing will help you = you are inactive. There is no third!
An article for those who HAVE A DESIRE and WANT TO BE CONFIDENT. Who wants to CHANGE! Work on yourself. Plow. Upgrade yourself. I have a desire. And you?
Self confidence- begins, first of all, with inner faith in yourself!
If you yourself do not evoke this feeling in yourself, if you yourself do not believe in yourself (although who else if not you?), then how are you going to become a truly confident person? This is where it all begins.
CONCLUSION: Confidence begins with INNER BELIEF IN YOURSELF! Believe in yourself! Whatever you do, whatever you say, whatever you do, you are doomed to success. You are a man, so think like a man, make decisions like a man, talk like a man and act like a man.
If you program yourself to have negative thoughts, nothing will work out for you. If you think that you are a failure and nothing will work out for you, then that is exactly what will happen. It all starts with the thoughts in our head (inside us), so watch them, avoid such crap, believe in yourself!
Life is painful, I was born in the wrong country, the government is like this, your girlfriend left/cheated on you, salaries are nothing, how to live at all, a lot of problems, why do I need all this, I’m fat, I’m shabby, I have no money, there is nothing, no car, no apartment/house, no girlfriend, I’m a loser, a loser, etc. and so on.
This is not MANLY behavior! Complaining, whining, etc. is WEAKNESS, a manifestation of an insecure person. All this needs to be eradicated, weeded out, cut down - instantly in the bud.
Otherwise, all this whining, complaints and other negativity, negative thoughts will depress you, drive you into depression, thereby making you an UNCONFIDENT person!
CONCLUSION: Confident people never complain or whine.
Yes, believe me, I understand perfectly well what really difficult life situations there are. But this is life! Do you understand? That's life! We all have difficulties, problems, failures, failures, stress, mistakes, etc. etc., without this there is no way. But you must always move forward. No matter how difficult it is, just move forward.
You have to forget about complaining/whining, etc., you just need to move forward, take it and do it while others whine/complain. This is the position of strong, confident, successful individuals.
No matter how difficult, difficult, or bad it is, you must not give up under any circumstances. You need to look for a way out, solve a problem, a way, take it and do it, this is the position of real strong and confident men.
If you whine, cry, and complain about everything, you will be screwed. If this has already happened, get out of this ass! After all, if you move forward, despite everything, you will begin to really value yourself, you will become a strong, successful, and of course, self-confident person.
As I already said, we all have difficulties, problems, failures, failures, stress, jambs, etc. and so on. However, there is no need to dwell on this. Only forward and nothing more. Remember?
The more you live in the past, the more opportunities you lose in the future.
Never reproach (criticize) yourself for anything. Don't get hung up. Draw appropriate conclusions (learn the lesson(s)) and take them into account in the future. This is the position of strong, confident, successful individuals.
Moreover, don't be afraid to endure and fail (or fail) at anything. All these failures are an invaluable EXPERIENCE that develops you and makes you stronger and generally better.
Never, under any circumstances.
This is harmful because... lowers self-esteem. The fact is that no person will compare himself to someone who is worse than him! And in life there will always be someone who will be better than you in this or that or in everything.
This is where negative thoughts and envy begin. Damn, he’s better than me, and he has a better car, a cooler apartment, a more beautiful girl, dresses better, he has everything better, blah blah blah...
As a result, self-esteem drops, something is wrong with me, I’m somehow different, I’m no better, I’m worse, damn it, ahhh, as a result, internal insecurity arises. Nip any negative thoughts in the bud.
So what? Realistically, so what if someone is better? Well, to hell with them! You really shouldn't give a damn about it. You are an individual, you have your own life! Live your life. Look after yourself and be yourself.
CONCLUSION: watch yourself, and never compare yourself with other people, because there is no point in that.
This is the position of weak, insecure individuals.
Self-criticism contributes to the formation of a negative perception of oneself! When you say something (bad about yourself) = you program yourself to do it. There is no need to do this! As I said earlier, we made a mistake, mistakes, messed up, drew appropriate conclusions (learn the lesson(s)) and take them into account in the future, period. You need to move forward and only forward, no matter what.
Criticism of other people contributes to the formation of an insecure and complex person. Don’t waste your strength, your energy, your time on this, there is no point in it, absolutely none. Focus on yourself. For your own purposes. And just move forward.
All this is the position of CONFIDENT, strong, successful individuals. And be sure to read these articles: and
Start doing things that help you develop a certain lifestyle. Those. do those things that will increase your self-esteem and, as a result, self-confidence.
Start going to the gym or take up some other sport, eat well, dress well, take care of yourself, your appearance, your body, take care of your hygiene, develop in general, read books, articles, literature, improve yourself, create varied hobbies for yourself - all this will help you love yourself, begin to appreciate, gain self-respect, and of course - confidence.
About clothes, by the way, if you know that you are well, beautifully and expensively dressed, then your self-esteem increases, you feel and behave completely differently than in cheap junk.
If you eat well, take care of yourself, your appearance, develop, etc. and so on. then you love yourself and treat yourself with respect. You know your worth, you are a confident person!
About goals, by the way, set goals for yourself!! When you achieve what you want, your self-esteem will skyrocket, rest assured. Confidence is based on the feeling of victory. When you win (achieve your goal, your goals, desires, etc.) you become more and more confident in yourself. With each victory you respect yourself more and more, because you set goals for yourself and you achieve them, therefore you are cool. To put it simply :) Study:
You see, if there are drunks next to you, if your surroundings are drunks, then it is very likely that you will very soon and unnoticed by yourself)) turn into the same drunk.
Another example on our topic. If there are only whiners and losers next to you (surrounding you), then you will turn into the same weirdo. Do you need it?
If you value yourself, you will never waste time on people who are unworthy of you, who bring nothing to your life, but only waste time on some bullshit, make you weaker, pull you to the bottom, torture you, “give you "only negative, etc. and so on.
It's the same with girls. Don't be fooled by just anyone. I understand that the modern world is full of whores, and in general you want to fool everyone, having as many females as possible, but my advice to you: know how to choose.
If you win a beautiful, smart, qualitatively cool girl who knows her worth, your self-esteem will skyrocket. After all, if she is so cool, and you conquered her and she is with you, then you are cool too. Do you understand? The easiest way is to remove a homeless woman from the Kursk station, but with her there will be no such effect.
Tip #8. Communicate, make new acquaintances, speak in front of your audience(s).
New acquaintances in real life (in life, and not on social networks on the Internet) are new impressions, something unusual, new experience, knowledge, communication in general, overcoming fears, uncertainty, doubts, etc. it liberates, makes you open, helps you become more confident in yourself.
Performing in front of an audience (s) is generally aerobatics, which is guaranteed to make you MORE CONFIDENT and MORE CONFIDENT every time!
Do not be afraid! Don't be shy, etc. for all this is a manifestation of weakness and self-doubt.
Someone's condemnation, opinion, etc. shouldn't worry you. You are a personality! You must have your own opinion, so express it. Rest assured, there will always be someone who disagrees with you on this or that issue. Well, to hell with it, be yourself, you are a man, a confident person!
Confident people never pay attention to other people's opinions. Confident people don't care about other people's opinions. What other people think about them. What they say about them, etc. self-confident people don’t prove anything to anyone, they don’t care about it, they don’t CARE about it! Confident people are goal-oriented. They move forward and only forward, achieving their goals!
Tip #10. Be independent and don't rely on anyone.
The ability to solve your problems is a sign of a strong, truly successful male. A male with eggs that is not AFRAID OF RESPONSIBILITY! He is not afraid to take responsibility for himself, his life, making decisions, etc. A male who MANAGES the SITUATION, and not THE SITUATION BY HIM! A male who does not go with the flow, but chooses the direction that is convenient for him.
Tip #11. After a while (I’m finishing it) = GET RID OF YOUR FEARS! BREAK YOUR FEARS!
Break your fears. Challenge yourself. This really boosts your self-confidence!
How to break your fear? How to get rid of it? => The best way is to “look the emu in the face.” Yes, it’s scary, but you need to ACT, with inner FAITH IN YOURSELF! With faith in SUCCESS!
That's all. READING ALL THIS IS NOT ENOUGH - APPLY YOUR KNOWLEDGE!!! WORK ON YOURSELF. Constantly work, work and work again. Inaction will not bring you anything. There must be constant work on yourself! This is the only way to achieve something. The only way. Good luck!
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She walks like a queen. Straight back. Fashionably and stylishly dressed. The wind blows her hair and lifts her dress in a whirlwind. So she sat down, took out a mirror, looked at it, answered someone, and laughed. There is no doubt that this is a confident woman who knows her worth! Every day, flipping through magazines or sitting in front of the TV, we see such women. We can meet them in everyday life, in a store, at work, and, plunging into the abyss of everyday affairs and worries, we think with regret that for us this is an unattainable ideal, we cannot do this, we will not succeed. But in the depths of my soul, the unresolved question of how to become a confident woman haunts me and no, no, but a small ray of hope will shine, and what if...
Maybe I can, maybe I can...
It will turn out:
- become an interesting conversationalist, confidently express your point of view and not be afraid to prove that you are right
- to become a confident person who has no fear of driving a car, skiing, who is not afraid of darkness and depth, terrible diseases and much more.
- become so confident that you can finally realize your cherished dream.
Go there without knowing where, become that without knowing who
This hope, this unresolved question pushes us to search. The Internet, books, courses - everything has been completed, in my head there are snippets of quotes and lecturers’ voices. “Change your appearance, take care of yourself, get rid of approval addiction..., be bolder and more proactive, think positively.”
Advice, instructions, beliefs. So what's the result? Nothing. The same fear of driving, the same confusion and shyness hinder us when we need to defend our opinion, a lump in the throat when speaking in public, or we fall into a stupor when we need to act decisively. But most importantly, the dream remained a dream.
Why doesn't it work? I know everything, I’ve taken dozens of courses!
But how to become confident is easy copying the gait, smile, gestures, intonation and words of another person? Can something change if you repeat every day “I am the most beautiful”, “I am the most confident”?
Will confidence come from a new haircut and dress, from going to the gym? Deep down, we feel that these actions lift our spirits for a while, but the problem does not solve. Confidence is not a piece of clothing that you put on in the morning and take off in the evening, it is an internal state.
How to become a confident person without cheating on yourself?
Focus not on others, but on your ideal self! And who “you” is, Yuri Burlan’s system-vector psychology helps to figure it out, and she knows everything about people who lack confidence.
For example, the desire for cleanliness, order, work done perfectly and at the same time the fear of making mistakes, not living up to someone’s expectations, shyness is characteristic of a person with an anal vector.
And a person with a visual vector can have a huge range of emotions, impressionability, and at the same time suspiciousness and fears.
Present in the psyche, these two vectors will determine a person’s behavior, thinking and life scenario. Shy, trouble-free, unsure of his choice, dependent on other people’s opinions, a lover of making a mountain out of a molehill - this is what an anal-visual person can be when he does not know how to correctly use his talents.
An anal-visual woman can be a teacher or doctor, a kind and caring wife and mother. And when she tries to remake herself, it only gets worse - devastation and uncertainty appear. And why all? Because she doesn’t know what she’s capable of - what strength she has inside!
A happy woman is always confident in herself
Any woman will become confident if she's happy, if he embodies his true, natural, and not fictitious desires.
Understanding how our unconscious works, where fears or shyness come from, we make these qualities our allies, we stop breaking ourselves and comparing ourselves with others. The realization comes that all women have different talents, and, in accordance with this, each has its own role. For one it is important to be visible - to walk on the catwalk or play on stage, and for the other - to be a wonderful mother and beloved wife, and only this makes her truly happy.
Many participants in the training on system-vector psychology were able to answer the question of how to become a confident girl and woman. Here are some of the reviews.
— Three rules for a woman’s confidence
— Reasons for women's lack of self-confidence
— How to become a self-sufficient lady: four important points
— 4 simple rules that will help you become satisfied with yourself
- Conclusion
Many people feel envy when they look at confident women. They always stand out from others, they have an even posture, their heads held high, they have confident gestures, but at the same time they look elegant and stylish.
Such ladies are in demand in society, everyone wants to communicate with them. Many try to imitate them and are interested in how to become a confident woman. There are three main points that are part of the image of a confident woman:
1. Ideal well-groomed appearance.
Nothing will help an insecure woman more than a perfect appearance. There are several tips on how you can quickly improve your appearance and see how confident you become, how it will make communication easier and allow you to stand out from other women. Read about it and follow the advice of experts.
2. Correct presentation of your thoughts.
When communicating with people, it is important to monitor your behavior, expression and sentence construction.
It is important to learn how to start a conversation correctly and look decent.
The main points are often called the following:
Direct look
Facial expression
Posture
Gestures
3. Special behavior when communicating.
It is important to monitor the expression and facial expressions of your face. With the help of facial expressions, you can quite easily express friendliness; all you need to do is smile.
Try to practice expressing your emotions near the mirror, and simply hide unnecessary ones from your face.
Smooth posture and feet shoulder-width apart will give confidence to any person.
Be sure to control your gestures.
Reasons for women's lack of self-confidence
The main reasons for self-doubt:
1. Ignorance of one’s “I”.
During her life, a woman goes through a number of roles: girl, girl, woman, wife, mother, employee, grandmother. And at every stage of life, she identifies herself with the role she performs. She “merges” with the role so much that if she is taken away, the woman will be confused and will not be able to find her “I”.
For example , when identifying herself with children after they have grown up and no longer need round-the-clock care, a woman loses the meaning of life, which becomes a big blow to her internal mechanisms. If life had its own goals, then as children grow up, life will not lose meaning, only the emphasis on being busy will shift.
2. Lack of meaning in life.
Lack of meaning in life causes anxiety and uncertainty. The woman does not know “where she is going” and “why she needs this.” All actions are accompanied by a lack of positivity and desire. While a woman who knows the highest goal of her life is filled with positivity, confidence in herself and her future.
3. Live only with your head.
If a woman succumbs to progress, the latest technologies and begins to live only with her “head,” joy disappears from her life. Emotions do not burst out, intuition freezes, this can “result” in a woman’s uncertainty. When she cannot explain some action from a scientific point of view, her built inner world will be shaken.
4. Ignorance of your values.
Lack of personal values leads to internal conflict. Without a foundation, a person cannot build his future. He may be lost between the choice: work or family and not understand how he can combine them together and live happily.
5. Personal boundaries.
It is difficult for a person who lacks self-confidence to refuse people around him; he cannot simply say “no,” as a result of which his own interests fade into the background. The inability to refuse leads to the need to perform various tasks that cause discomfort. The constant feeling of which makes you feel uncertain about the possibilities of achieving your goals.
How to become a self-sufficient lady: four important points
1) Work on yourself.
First, start by working on yourself, your character, your habits. Let's say you are a person by nature, prone to shyness and gentleness. Don't be upset! After all, self-confidence goes well with these qualities, resulting in a very charming and pleasant girl.
After all, confidence without such character traits makes a woman a bitch, calculating and cold. The attitude of others towards you may well be friendly and welcoming, and confidence is precisely the invisible force that all women need.
However, you must be able to set your own assessment objectively and strive to improve it all the time. Also remember: self-respect is the step from which respect for others begins. Always tell yourself: “I deserve the best! And not because I’m special, but because I’m me!”
2) Don’t lower your own standards.
Your own bar should always be set high, and the standards you set for yourself should be high as well. Never relax or reduce them. Of course, you need to love yourself under any circumstances, but you must agree, how much more pleasant and easier it is to do it when you actually have something to love for.
If possible, try to be the best in everything - at work, at school, while at the same time strive to always look excellent. If you have thought out every detail of your wardrobe, every highlight that makes up your image, then you can say with complete confidence: “I look stunning!”
By setting high enough standards for yourself, and making every effort to meet them, you can rest assured that everyone around you will begin to treat you with no less respect, because you, the new one, deserve to be treated in the most noble way. You need to learn to recognize lies, insincerity, and not allow anyone, even your best friends and close relatives, to take advantage of the fact that you treat them well.
Only by stopping any attempts to take advantage of you can you make others respect you. At the same time, you can rest assured that such decisive actions will make people remember it for a long time, and they will no longer try to do this to you.
3) Be active.
All your concerns and fears need to be collected together and thrown away. There is a very good psychological technique: take a blank sheet of paper, write down all your experiences and concerns, you can use a regular list, then take this sheet... and burn it. During this peculiar ritual, imagine that all your fears are burned along with the paper: the fear that you may not be understood, not heard, considered funny, awkward, and so on.
Practice speaking in front of a group, in front of an audience. It is best to do this in front of a mirror, alone.
Don’t be afraid to make a mistake, don’t let it undermine the confidence that has begun to appear in you. Yes, you can learn from mistakes, this truth is not just beautiful words. Take any mistake as a new lesson, very useful, let the smile never leave your lips, and boldly move on, forward.
4) Do not doubt your abilities.
But initially everyone has confidence, but everyone takes this confidence for granted and does not use it to the fullest. Many people find it more convenient to pretend to be a loser, no matter how ridiculous it may look from the outside. This is how they try to relieve themselves of unnecessary responsibility: “What can I take from me?” Maybe this life position is convenient for someone, but not for you, on your way to developing your own confidence. Constantly remind yourself: “I can do it, I can do it!” I believe in myself, I believe in my success!”
Even the most self-sufficient, confident and independent women have doubts. There are moments in everyone’s life when they completely lose faith in themselves and their abilities. Your task is to prevent such moments from happening in your life, even if only for a short time. What strengthens your self-confidence is what you can do best.
And the last thing - do not change very dramatically, you should not radically, at one moment, change your entire life, its usual way of life. It is very difficult to change a character that has developed over the years, and this must be done gradually, step by step. Organically introduce the standards that you have set for yourself into your world so that those around you will get used to the new you. Then, over time, you yourself will get used to the new image. The first changes will give you the first confidence - and then your transformation will happen by itself.
4 simple rules that will help you become satisfied with yourself
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“I’m never lucky...”, “No one will ever love me...”, “I’m not beautiful, I’m not attractive...”. Are these thoughts familiar to you? Most women are accustomed to belittling their capabilities, talent, and self-esteem. Therefore, today we will talk and give some recommendations and advice on how you can become a confident woman, without resorting to the need to visit a psychologist and, moreover, take some kind of antidepressants.
Why am I not confident in myself?
The roots of self-rejection and self-doubt most often lie hidden in childhood, and, unfortunately, as adults, we often cannot get rid of our complexes. And daily beliefs are the programming of our brain, which actually makes us like this.
Many studies have proven that thoughts can influence our character, and, consequently, our lives. However, you can learn to accept everything more positively, think about yourself and the world around you in an encouraging way, and gain confidence in your strengths and capabilities.Here are some examples of common opinions about yourself and, in return, positive statements that will not only increase your self-esteem and become a confident woman, but will directly change the way people around you treat you.
After all, your own opinion and what others think about you are two parts of one whole. The way you accept yourself is how your environment will most often look at you.
It's better to be alone
Some women are afraid to break off personal relationships that have actually ended or are burdensome, for fear of being left completely alone.
They think: “I would break up with this person, but who else will look at me. I am not beautiful".
To gain self-confidence, a girl needs to replace it with the famous and wise expression: “It’s better to be alone than with just anyone.”
Fear of loneliness is a completely natural feeling, especially for a woman. But? If you hold on to a union that doesn’t suit you, you are deprived of the opportunity to determine how interesting you are to other men.
Most often, some certain time passes before you have a new gentleman. But this will only benefit you. You will be able to take care of yourself, visit a cosmetologist, put your thoughts and feelings in order, and just take a break from a relationship that did not bring you joy.Discover new abilities in yourself
There are women who are afraid of career growth due to lack of confidence in their own strengths and professional abilities.
They think, “Now that I have my dream job, I’m afraid I won’t be able to do it.”
It needs to be replaced with: “I have coped with difficult tasks before, I can do this job too.”
Sometimes some insecure women become depressed when they are offered a promotion. Having taken a new position, they begin to stay late at work in order to complete the entire required volume, become completely fixated on the process, afraid of missing something, and, in the end, become so exhausted that they are ready to submit their resignation letter of their own free will.
In this case, it is necessary to properly organize working hours and the entire process. Do everything progressively and thoughtfully, update your knowledge if necessary, and do not be afraid to seek advice from more experienced colleagues. Gradually you will get involved and find that the assigned load is up to you, and you are successfully coping with it.
And the most important thing is to be sure that career growth is the result of your efforts, personal capabilities and purposeful nature, which are appreciated.
Appearance is a factor of self-confidence
Some women constantly compare themselves with models from glossy covers and, naturally, lose.
They think: “I will never become so beautiful. Why change anything then?
Should be replaced with: “Yes, I’m not perfect, but I have to look as good as possible.”
First of all, remember, before filming, make-up artists, stylists, and hairdressers work on photo models. Photographers are experts at using the right lighting, and they know how to make the light highlight the best features and nuances.
Yes, and do not forget that today in the world there is Photoshop with its truly magical properties. Each photoshopped model is an unearthly beauty.
Therefore, you should not look so closely at glossy faces and figures, but rather take a closer look at yourself. Every woman has something that makes her special in the eyes of others.
Find your “zest” and beat it as profitably as possible. And it is then that you will have that image of a truly self-confident girl who does not doubt her merits and objectively evaluates her capabilities and beauty.
Naturally, your task is to do everything possible to improve your appearance. Change your hairstyle, makeup, go on a diet or do fitness.
Fortunately, modern cosmetology has a lot of opportunities to help a woman change herself. And there will always be time and funds for this. Ultimately, you do this for yourself: after all, nothing gives you more confidence than realizing your own attractiveness.
Allow yourself to make mistakes
Some women suffer from self-doubt because they are afraid of making a mistake or making the wrong judgment about something.
They think: “How could I freeze such stupidity. Now for others I am a narrow-minded person.”It should be replaced with: “Every person can say or do something stupid. No one is immune from this.”
Women always attach great importance to their actions or words. Most likely, few people paid attention to what you said, and if they did, they did not attach any importance to it.
If you realize that you did something stupid, talk to those who were specifically affected. Be brief and don't go into long explanations. If a person is offended by your words or actions, admit that you made a mistake, close the topic and never return to it again.
And the next time doubts begin to gnaw at you, in order to become a confident woman, say out loud to yourself: “I don’t have time to think about myself like that.” And firmly continue on your path. You are a calm, strong, attractive and confident woman. What I wish you to become is what I sincerely wish you to become.
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