Some people never go unnoticed. It seems that they have a powerful magnet hidden inside them that attracts others. It is impossible to understand the reason for this. An ordinary person with an ordinary appearance arouses increased interest among people. Absolutely everyone is drawn to him. Everyone wants to become his friend.
What is magnetism
A person’s ability to induce the affection of others. Attract their friendship, trust and love. The ability to influence and manipulate them.
A person’s magnetism helps him achieve his goals easily and quickly. Such people are successful, have no problems finding a common language even with conflicting leaders and are able to completely subordinate them to their influence.
When a person with magnetism begins to speak, everyone around him immediately falls silent. Usually he doesn’t even raise his voice and talks rather quietly. And the listeners try not to breathe so as not to miss a single word.
People with magnetism are always calm and confident. They are not nervous or excited. Anyone who is nearby feels their inner strength. It does not manifest itself openly; you won’t be able to notice it in your actions or gaze. However, it is also impossible not to feel it.
They talk a little and are always to the point. The interlocutors are listened to carefully. Beneath the outward calm of such people, an incredible will is usually hidden. Everyone who communicates with a magnetic person feels that it is impossible to suppress him. The interlocutor himself falls under his influence.
Independent development of magnetism
Some people are lucky and are born with certain character traits. They begin to appear in childhood and intensify during adolescence. Such individuals stand out greatly among their peers.
Developing human magnetism on your own is not easy, but it is possible. To do this, you will have to work hard on yourself and engage in self-development. First of all, you should remember that those around you are always sensitive to pretense. You shouldn't try to be someone else. It's important to be yourself. The original is always more valuable than the copy.
You can deviate a little from any rule. If there is a person with outstanding qualities, you can adopt them, but over time changing them to suit your image.
A person's magnetism allows him to become a leader. Moreover, such a person does not even need to compete for seniority. Those around you intuitively recognize this and give in without a fight. While a person who shouts, argues and demands attention to his person will never achieve the respect of society. Therefore, it is necessary to learn to think soberly in any situation. Only losers and weaklings become hysterical and panic.
Magnetic personalities understand people well and know how to influence them. To learn this, you will need to study a lot of literature on psychology. For example, pay attention to these authors:
- Eric Byrne;
- Tina Seeling;
- Edward de Bono;
- John Gray;
- Martin Selingman;
- Alfred Adler;
- Susan Weinschenk;
- Robert Cialdini.
In addition, you should watch people. Listen more, but speak as little as possible.
Getting rid of negative thoughts
Success in life, the ability to persuade others and a career depend on a person’s ability to attract and conquer the right people. Every individual has a body, spirit and soul. To achieve success, all three of these components must be in harmony. Only in this case will a person have strong positive energy.
In the psychology of Eastern and esoteric teachings, various methods are described to achieve harmony and strengthen human magnetism. Some options are truly difficult to implement for most people. For example, one of the ways to develop mental strength and strengthen the spirit involves long-term solitude and overcoming serious life difficulties.
Not everyone can decide to take on such tests. Therefore, you can choose another method. You can often hear the saying that a person is what he thinks about. And this is true. By directing your thought process in the right direction, a person can evolve to unimaginable heights. And by choosing the wrong direction, the individual degrades.
Psychologists advise people who dream of becoming successful to think positively. Radiate only confident and positive thought vibrations. This attracts vibrations of a similar kind. As a result, self-confidence will increase every day. In addition, more and more positive changes will occur in life.
Confidence and independence
A charismatic person cannot be insecure. Many people try to hide their shortcoming and this makes it even more noticeable to others. It is better to acknowledge it and accept it, trying to gradually work on it.
There are many ways to become a more confident person. For example, play sports and improve your body. This usually significantly improves self-esteem. In addition, you can try the following methods:
- every day before going to bed, praise yourself even for small successes;
- never think about yourself in a negative way;
- it is important to recognize your strengths and make a list of those that still need to be developed;
- you need to pay attention to your posture; a confident person does not slouch;
- It is useful to establish new contacts and restore old ones;
- speak publicly whenever possible;
- During a conversation, look at the person’s point between the eyes, above the bridge of the nose.
In addition, it should be remembered that a person’s magnetism attracts others to him, and it is not the individual who runs after them. Therefore, you should not impose yourself and passionately desire the company of other people. Over time, they themselves will want to be close. Because a person is always interested in what is inaccessible.
The ancient Egyptian queen was not only a beautiful woman, but also an excellent diplomat. There is evidence that she had enormous influence among politicians. To do this, the woman used the following techniques:
- in communication she was friendly with everyone, without singling out anyone;
- was not afraid to appear funny and admit mistakes;
- during a conversation, she never interrupted the interlocutor, listening to him very carefully;
- at the next meeting, regardless of when it occurred, she remembered all the details of the conversation;
- when communicating on important topics, she did not flirt or pretend;
- made others feel knowledgeable and smart;
- I noticed everyone's skills and talents.
Protection from foreign magnetism
The influence of magnetism on humans is very great. Some use their talent to harm, manipulating other people without a twinge of conscience. To avoid becoming a victim of such a scammer, you need to know how to protect yourself from him.
- When a charismatic person convinces you to do something, you need to take a break and soberly assess the situation. Think about what consequences this could lead to. Agree only if the deal is profitable.
- You should pay attention to the tone and meaning of the statement. Be sure to check the information and not take your word for it.
- In the case where you lack the courage and willpower to confront the enemy, pretend that his requests are incomprehensible. You must ask for detailed explanations. This will give you the opportunity to come to your senses and assess the situation.
Van Tile Daniels
Personal magnetism (course of lectures)
INTRODUCTION
“Personal magnetism is that quality or property of a person that attracts to him the interest, trust, friendship and love of other people.”
In this case, it was mainly meant that the reader could take advantage of the results of studying the proposed lectures immediately, immediately, while the acquired knowledge could serve personal benefit. But not when hopes disappear and the strength to enjoy life dries up - when even those initiated into the secret can no longer use it to achieve personal success.
Those who have studied this course claim that the author achieved his goal. They even say that the strict avoidance of all theoretical rants in these lectures greatly contributed to the rapid understanding and successful application of the fundamental principles presented, and that the present course can therefore count on much greater success than many others that are more pretentious, but also more ambiguous and confusing works on this subject, containing incomprehensible and unconnected provisions.
Relying, therefore, on the testimony of readers, the author does not find it necessary to justify the deliberately adopted simple and conversational tone of this manual.
I take it as proven that men and women have the same desire to influence others.
This power of influence can bring a man power, power, wealth, happiness; It will give a woman public respect, popularity, self-satisfaction, love. It should be said clearly and definitely that such a desire is a good desire. There is nothing humiliating in the desire to influence others. There is nothing unworthy in the desire for wealth, since wealth in itself is only a means of increasing our own usefulness. Looking back twenty years or more, you will remember that outstanding and influential men and women of the world were held up to you as examples to emulate.
They were shining lights in the eyes of people older than you. Your parents and mentors spoke of them with respect and wished that you would follow only their path and reach the same heights that they achieved. Were they not mistaken in valuing human character so highly? I don't think so. The great minds of the world must constantly stand before us in full brilliance, and analysis and understanding of the character of one of the great people explains to us the secret of their worldly wisdom, which made their life so sublime and full of charm. May I be allowed to reveal to you the secret of their success.
In the first three lectures of this course I will try to highlight to you some general, basic features of the doctrine of personal magnetism. This will prepare you for specific study later.
RECOGNIZING POWER. - REPLACEMENT BATTERY. - PRESENCE OF SPIRITUAL CURRENT
RECOGNIZING POWER. I want to talk to you sincerely and frankly. If my simple comparisons offend the super-scientist, then I ask him to postpone his judgment until he thoroughly understands this manual and can observe the effect of the teaching contained herein in its application to everyday life. I speak for the majority in the language of easy and understandable comparisons, since every average, ordinary person, ordinary woman needs only facts. The general public does not demand scientific reasoning, but above all the improvement of its own situation.
REPLACEMENT BATTERY. Perhaps the thought has not occurred to you that you yourself (your body) are a kind of permanent electric battery, constantly either receiving or releasing power. This battery constantly produces attractive and repulsive currents. These currents are felt at times, for example, if you want to impress others; sometimes they are not recognized, for example, in cases when, in addition to your own desire and consciousness, you make a pleasant or unpleasant impression on others. Continuously and constantly, either you act (influence) others, or others influence you - whether it is according to your will, or contrary to it, it doesn’t matter. This is the first fact you need to know.
PRESENCE OF SPIRITUAL CURRENT. The presence of force work is obvious here.
But is this the power of thinking?
No. Because the presence of this power is revealed even without conscious thought on your part. However, perhaps thinking partly plays a role here too.
Isn't this electricity?
But electricity is only the name of a force unknown to us.
What is it?
This force is called magnetism, since we do not know what else to call it. But it is best to call it spiritual current, because in many ways it can be likened to electric current. We can learn to use and control electricity without knowing the essence of the latter. The origin and source of power is a mystery to us. But we will accept it simply as a secret of nature, and move on to studying the use of this power.
PROPERTIES OF MAGNETIC PERSONALITY. - FEELING OF CALM. STRANGE LOOK. - ALWAYS POLITE. - THE WEAK WILL GET WEAKER. STRONGER IS STRONGER. - A MAGNETIC PERSON KEEPS OUT HIS KNOWLEDGE ABOUT HIMSELF. - HE WORKS ACCORDING TO CERTAIN LAWS. - YOU ARE DISPOSED TO HIM. -HE USE YOUR POWER
PROPERTIES OF MAGNETIC PERSONALITY. Our first step will be to critically observe the workings of the power exerted by the people around us; we will also understand the significant differences in its character and the logical consequences arising from its known properties.
We all know the type of magnetic personality - male or female - it makes no difference, since women are just as susceptible to magnetism as men. Let me note once and for all that everything said about men applies equally to women. Regarding the achievement of magnetism associated with influence, both sexes are quite equal.
FEELING OF CALM. If you are in the company of a magnetic personality, then the first impression you receive from such a person is a feeling of calm. He is not nervous or excited. Besides this calmness, you will notice in him a kind of reserve force lying somewhere in him, but you cannot say where it is and what it consists of. It is not in his gaze, nor in his manners, it is not in his language and in his actions. But this power is an essential point: it is part of him, and a few minutes ago, as strange as it may seem to you, it (this power) was to a large extent part of you! Some of this attractive power, which he developed and which you were previously aware of in yourself, has now passed from you to him without your knowledge. But we'll talk about this later.
A magnetic person often receives his strength from others.
STRANGE LOOK. Let me now observe this man more closely to find the reason for the charm he exerts on you. First of all, pay attention to his gaze. His eyes are not directed directly at you. He does not look into one eye or the other, but directly between both eyes on the bridge of the nose. His sharp, firm gaze seems piercing to you, but not at all defiant. You feel that he is not impudent and cannot even be so. Notice also that he doesn't look at you while talking. He waits, as if wanting to know your opinion first and then tell you his. When he speaks, he looks at you carefully, as if, we would like to say, thinking about something, however, kindly. He is not arrogant, but also does not like unnecessary arguments.
Hello, dear friends!
Success in life depends on numerous factors. But the most valuable ability is the ability to attract people, hold their attention, convince and lead the process of productive communication.
By charging people with energy and creative intentions, you can count not only on a good mood and a productive mood. A person runs the risk of becoming a leader not only for a group of people or a family, but also of developing in himself the qualities inherent in a conductor. How to understand are we like this?
Magnetic personality- who is this? Perhaps this is a person who has full rightcall yourself an experienced but not certified psychologist? Or, on the contrary, it can be assumed that this an individual who knows how balance between and innate gift?
Everyone, without exception, wants to like it people. Success in both professional and personal fields directly depends on this! It is important for us to be able to build subtle chains of sympathy in order to obtain moral and financial benefits.
For this reason we hone our skills in communication and business correspondence e or personal conversation. AND we use the entire arsenal of weapons in the context of methodsinfluence on others: facial expressions, gestures, staring or “sliding” views , appearance and tools of general behavior in the situation.
This includes all sorts of mechanisms. interventions: from external factors to internal and subconsciously manifested. And exactly demonstrates such symbiosis personality character, which is fraught with magnetism, influencing life success and achieving goals! But what are the main differences attractiveness of a person?
Features of the manifestation of qualities
1. Behavior not limited by standards
“Magneto Man” differs from others in his ability to find incredible ways to overcome difficult situations! Unusual behavior is expressed in the ability to abstract, take risks and always believe in one’s own choice and not only !
In their minds, fear is so muted that decisions have thought processes uncharacteristic of most. And it’s not just a matter of mixing logic and emotions, but a productive way of guiding A intuition, equivalent to existing facts.
People with magnetism always take risks, they discourage with a non-trivial approach, which is why most people simply fall into a stupor, not expecting such conclusions or actions from a person.
In other words, it is possible boldly call it “Breaking the Pattern.” Moreover, the above standards, will never be able to settle in the head of the hero of today’s article and it is for this reason that they are admired by the masses of people.
2. Will and strength
Inner strength in individuals, is expressed in the radiation of colossal energy. But it is veiled and presented in a completely different way from the usual role. They don't need to throw it around left and right!You will not see them eccentric, nervous and throwing themselves at those present.
On the contrary, they prefer calmness at the moment of the apocalypse and are able to concentrate on important things, driving them to a more emotional place.They are characterized by a share of narcissism, self-confidence and blind adherence to the “intellectual instincts of a manager.”
Restraint can be expressed in different ways. Often, they are characterized by excellent manners, good manners and intelligence. But in my detachment and heavy control hides a rich reserve of will, capable of subjugating other relatives.
3. Purpose and understanding of your desires
In order to have the right to manage others, you need to decide what exactly you want? Magnetic people are well aware of the answer e to this question. But haste and rash decisions are alien to them. They are convinced that what they want will always come to them!
4. External signs
These people do not like to follow with their gaze and chatter incessantly. They prefer to listen rather than talk. And if they take up the speech, then eloquence, along with personal conclusions, will help the listeners to “fire up.”
They like to inspire others to take action. They get a huge amount of pleasure from this process. The level of acceptance of responsibility in this type of individuals is at a high level. They do not refuse help, support or in the words ah - encouragement.
Their the mood is always friendly.It doesn’t matter whether it’s a man or a woman, but the “magneto person” always controls the level of interest without giving everything away cards out of the sleeve immediately.
In other words, they will become a mystery to you, what is itching. There is a well-known fact narrating that people tend to obey only those who are far from understanding them.
They dosely present artifacts of advice and arguments, directing listeners to personal conclusions and conclusions. Tact and the desire to refrain from criticism and the “whip” provide them with close bonds of warm relationships with many people.
This also happens because magnet people truly know how to keep secrets. Their gestures can be rude and caustic, but at the same time, they do not skimp on friendly pats on the shoulder or a banal, silent smile.
5. Empathy
In order to win over listeners, the individual also applies the principle of empathy. That is, they join your emotional background, and after making sure that the wave connection has occurred successfully, they bring the person to the level of emotional communication he needs, gradually opening up to the interlocutor.
Own magnetism
You need to understand that we are all powerful batteries. Our super way ity is intended by opportunity share with the world with its energy. And the one who strives to give more positive thoughts guarantees replenish your strength a hundredfold.
We emit negative impulses equally as positive, but only to the second humanity will always be drawn to. The process of energy exchange, in fact, is called “magnetism”.
Man accumulates energy strength, and at the right moment shoots out the accumulated gifts.Naturally, there are minds that are endowed with such a gift by nature, but this does not mean that the required level of attractive qualities is available only to a select few. So how? develop this power?
Strengthening Magnetism
1. Correct energy distribution
Many people are faced with a dilemma when an individual appears on the horizon, whose affection you crave, like cups of water in the desert. And at the same time, the more interested you are in him, the deeper the gap grows between.
Have you ever wondered why this happens? Where does indifference and lack of comfort come from? It's quite simple! Answer the question: “Do you get anything out of this person? A attention or location?” - That’s right, no! Are you bothering him with excessive obsession? - Yes!
Simply put, subconsciously, but it receives a certain dose of energy from your mind, that is, the process of extracting it— is happening. What to do in this case?
Try to limit contact for a few days to recharge. Your mission is to preserve the energy that you have so unilaterally used.
When meeting, be indifferent, but friendly. Express calmness and self-control of intrusiveness. And within a few days you will notice how the accumulated fuse of strength will begin to work for you!
2. Healthy bossiness
In order to get closer to the desired message of confidence and authority, you need to train. Conduct monologues alone with yourself, practice speech production techniques, gestures and proper breathing.
3. Stealth and restraint
Train your ability to keep secrets and secrets. For example, if they shared their secret with you - promo l read and instead of recklessly wasting energy in pursuit of the goal of gaining sympathy, and sometimes authority, by discussing trusted information behind one’s back,keep the secret.
4. Don't talk about yourself
Avoid conversations that please your own vanity or. Leave this task to others. Remember that people who seek approval from others always achieve less!
That's where I'll end today's thoughts!
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Each person has personal magnetic properties that affect others to a greater or lesser extent. Let's look at what magnetism is and how you can control it.
Our first step will be to critically observe the effects of the power exerted by the people around us. Let's look at the differences in characters and the logical consequences that follow from this.
We know the type of magnetic personality, man or woman - it makes no difference, since women are just as susceptible to magnetism as men, and are no less skillful in using the methods of magnetism in relation to others in order to influence in their own interests. Everything that will be said applies equally to women. Regarding the achievement of magnetism associated with influence, both sexes are quite equal.
Some people, at the first meeting, feel sympathy for each other, enjoy communication, willingly carry on a conversation, and feel free and at ease. Between a man and a woman there arises a certain irresistible desire to see each other as often as possible, although due to circumstances this does not always end in romance. It is unpleasant for us to communicate with others or they are simply not interesting to us, indifferent, which indicates a mismatch of energy charge or repulsive charges.
A magnetic person is secretive, keeps his knowledge to himself, is very calculating and does not want to open up right away, and is reluctant to convey his experience to others. He is stingy in his statements, listens to others more than he speaks himself. Usually such people are people born in early spring. It is difficult for them to find a common language with “winter” people. They are very lonely at heart. They achieve significant success in life, but are rarely grateful to those who helped them in their development. Favors are taken for granted. When talking, they do not look the interlocutor in the eyes, fearing that he may read information from his eyes. Often such people have deep-set eyes, a heavy, somewhat lazy look.
However, such a strange look can have an inexplicable magnetism and attractive force. Try to observe such a person to find the reason for his attractiveness to you. First of all, pay attention to his gaze during a conversation. If his eyes are not directed directly at you, but to the side, he tries not to look into your eyes, then such a person does not want to be frank with you, does not want to maintain the confidential tone proposed by you. If his gaze is firm, sharp, and seems piercing to you, but not defiant, then the person is studying you, he is open to communication, ready to maintain a conversation, to establish relationships. If he does not look you in the eyes when you speak, it means that he is waiting, as if wanting to first find out your opinion and then express his own. When he speaks himself, he looks at you carefully, as if he is thinking about something, kindly, not arrogantly, but does not allow hasty conclusions. Such a person is most often a person born in the fall.
He is proud, reasonable, and does not rush to conclusions. He knows how to influence his interlocutor, puts him at ease, but keeps a certain distance, warning you against rash statements. The actions of such a person are consistent and very predictable. It is easy to communicate with him and it is pleasant to have a business relationship. He is tactful, not prone to critical remarks, knows how to accept people as they are, is strong in character, and keeps his word. He is careful in his statements, carefully thinks through every word. He feels his interlocutor well, and if he cannot gain favor with himself immediately, he can postpone the business conversation for a more favorable time. Business man, charming. Doesn't put things off and gets right to work. Acts decisively, but deliberately.
When a magnetic person begins to strive to achieve fame, influence, wealth or success, he achieves them and takes everything by right, as a necessary result of the law of cause and effect. He achieves wealth and fame by influencing others, he controls through magnetism. With its help, he attracts people to himself and uses their abilities for his own benefit. The psychology of his character is complex, annoying many, but attracts many with its originality. In particular, it is attractive to indecisive people who are performers by nature, but not leaders. He is an excellent organizer, has an analytical mind, is practical, assertive, and knows how to captivate others with his ideas and lead. To achieve the goal, he believes that all means are good and do not go beyond the bounds of decency. He may resort to flattery, insincerity, and cunning tricks, but he is not capable of vile acts, otherwise all his magnetic attractiveness loses its power and turns into nothing.
According to the law of magnetic influence, the positive must influence the negative, and the negative must allow and submit to the power of another known force, transferring part of its magnetism to this force. Regardless of whether a magnetic personality wants or does not want, he depends on the people around him, and even communication with a person who has little impact on him does not pass without a trace for him. There are individuals who are capable of influencing only a certain circle who perceive this influence: these are our intelligentsia in various fields of art and science. Such people have remarkable creative potential, which is not always in demand by all segments of society. But every magnetic personality, far from art and science, certainly falls under the influence of these people.
Magnetic personalities have different psychology, different behavior patterns, and are not the same in character. Let's consider some options for people's behavior and how to behave with them.
A magnetic personality chooses a correct, gentle manner of communication. Such a person is always compliant and polite, listens to you attentively, but you feel that under this outer calm and goodwill there is hidden an irresistible will, you feel his influence over you, this person who has to obey. In short, the impression he makes on you is that this man knows well what he wants, but he is in no hurry because he is confident that he will get everything he wants. This is where his calmness and confidence come from. Knowledge is power, and he knows that his success is based on the law of cause and effect. Most often such people are found among those born in the summer or in January. They are charming, attractive and even attractive to others. Self-confident, smart, good conversationalists. They do not like arguments, do not enter into conflicts, and are a kind of catalyst in any misunderstanding. They are reasonable, but at the same time have sparkling humor, with the help of which they can get away from any kind of trouble.
It is very important to be able to win over your interlocutor, to set a confidential tone for the conversation from the very beginning, and it is much easier for a magnetic personality to do this than for others. Such a person, in some strange way, completely inexplicable to you, quickly establishes friendly relations. You feel that from the first minutes of communication there is a desire to be with him as long as possible, mutual sympathy is established. You cannot free yourself from its influence even if you were removed from it. He captivates you with his kind gaze, you trust him, expect from him something that you lack in life. He does not force you to do anything, but warms your soul, awakens in you the best feelings, an impulse for noble deeds. Such a person easily influences your subconscious and knows how to change the worldview of everyone who encounters him. He doesn’t talk much about himself, doesn’t ask anything about you, but you feel the desire to tell him everything, to hear his opinion. His magnetic attraction is so great that you are looking forward to meeting him and want to continue the conversation. And every time you feel that the conversation is not over, there is still a lot that you wanted to say. A handshake can also be magnetic. You can tell a lot about a person by the way you shake hands. If you want to make an impression, look kindly at the person, but not directly in the eyes, but at the bridge of the nose, try to embrace his hand as completely as possible, taking it from below. Don't shake his fingers. After a quick, warm handshake, immediately remove your hand by sliding your fingers over his palm and the extremities of his fingers. This is a natural, heartfelt squeeze, and it also produces its effect. You can’t squeeze your hand too hard, it’s considered bad form, but a weak, flaccid handshake speaks of indifference to the person, of indifference to his problems. Many people are charged with the energy of the person they shake hands with, so shaking hands for too long is unnecessary.
Learn to use your abilities and calculate your strength correctly. Great power is not possessed by the one who takes up work with great zeal and begins this work impulsively and intensely. He may be able to cope with the task at hand, but he wastes his strength and energy too much and is no match for a calm and reasonable person. The latter gets to work deliberately. He laughs at his failures and patiently begins the task again, quite confident of eventual victory. For him, his work is not a struggle, as it is for others, but only a period of spiritual activity, the result of which is success.
Always avoid flattery. A charming and magnetic person never talks about himself. Therefore, others talk about him more, they are surprised, they approve, so that the result is greater than if he himself devoted time to talking in order to evoke flattery and satisfy his vanity. Every person seeks approval in one form or another, to a greater or lesser extent. Those who strive for it most intensely achieve the least.
However, you should not reveal yourself to others; keep your secret desires to yourself. The more secrets you keep within yourself, the greater your secrecy, the greater will be your reserve of saved strength, which, under important circumstances, will always serve you the necessary service.
A magnetic person is mysterious and you cannot solve him because he will not allow you to. He is incomprehensible. You also need to be like him, but you should not be intrusive or vulgar. Oddities in behavior and the desire to be original harm true strength. It is not the strangeness or eccentricity of a genius that attracts us to him. We respect genius no matter what. Arouse interest in yourself, while trying not to lose other people’s true respect for you. Therefore, try to keep others in some suspense regarding your personality. Arouse their interest in yourself, do not take even the most surprising news too emotionally, remain calm and equanimous, and react fairly indifferently to what has excited others so much.
If you manage to interest others, stop, you are on the right track. Leave your opponents or like-minded people for a few days. Wisely save the energy that you can uselessly spend in the near future in order to win the sympathy or authority of others.
Think about whether you did something today that you would really like to tell others about? Save this for later. Keep it a tight secret. This is not so easy, but the habit of talking about every trifle for the sake of momentary satisfaction or encouragement makes it difficult for you. It overcomes your caution, makes you powerless, you lose your power of magnetism. Suppress lust in both body and soul. This is a law about fortitude that is not difficult to verify. First of all, resist the outside force and turn it to your advantage.
If you practically apply the rules outlined above, you will soon notice a clear change in yourself: your self-esteem, unconscious dignity and sense of strength will increase. After each deliberate suppression of the desire-force, you will actually feel a new power in your nerves. Then you will notice a big change in the way other people treat you. First of all, many will look for communication with you, the opportunity to talk with you and spend more time. By following the rule “don't satisfy curiosity”, you can always easily maintain and strengthen your fusion. Continue to attract surprise and attention from others, but do not let it be seen that you are doing this on purpose.
You have probably met people in your life who attract others to themselves. Usually everyone wants to be friends with such a person, with him the company seems complete, but without him everything is somehow wrong. Everyone is drawn to him and wants approval. Ever wondered why that is? Why are some people like magnets, while others simply don’t notice? In fact, the secret of a magnetic personality is quite simple, let's figure it out,how to become attractive.
Sometimes people think that charisma is an innate quality bestowed by nature, but this is absolutely not the case. Your demeanor, the way you feel and present yourself are all acquired skills. And of course you can change and customize them as you please. Tell me is it difficult? It may be difficult, or it may not. It depends how you feel about it. After all, developing your attractiveness is fun, the process is actually interesting. It's like you become a great artist...and you are your own creation.
Imagine that your character and demeanor are plastein, from which you can make anything you want. Where to start is your decision, and I will try to give some guidelines that you may find worthy of attention.
So, what does it take to become an attractive person?
Be unique
The first thing to learn is that you must stand out from the crowd, be different from others. This, of course, does not mean that you should pour a bucket of paint on yourself and go for a walk down the street. You must have a special worldview, your own individual style. There is no need to imitate anyone, your highlight is in your uniqueness, let them imitate you.
Approach life with passion
Are you feeling happy? A simple question - are you happy right now? How did you spend your day today? What interesting things did you do? Which of these would your friends like and say “wow, this is cool, I want the same”? Do you get the idea? Live a vibrant life so that people will be interested in hearing about you. Travel more to different cities and countries, and you will be able to talk about your adventures. Find an activity that you enjoy and that interests others. And most importantly, be happy.
“True charisma is the ability to generate intense inspiration within oneself and demonstrate it outwardly. This ability makes a person an object of close attention and unconscious imitation on the part of others.”
L. Greenfield
Don't talk about yourself, talk about others
How to develop charisma? Yes, it’s very simple...tell me, do you like it when your interlocutor talks only about himself all evening? I think it's unlikely. And when does he talk about you? When he is interested in you, how do you feel about him? The conclusion from this is simple - no matter how much you want to talk about your beloved self for hours, don’t do it. Well, at least if you want to achieve your goal. Talk to people about them. Be sincerely interested in them, then they will begin to be drawn to you. You will always be welcome. Of course, you will have to listen to various stupid stories... well, what did you think, you ended up in a fairy tale?
First impression
You will never have a chance to change your first impression of yourself. And it plays a big role. Not the key one, of course, over time they may know you better and understand you, but take my word for it - the right first impression gives a huge advantage. Therefore, get ready for the first meeting, don’t do anything stupid, it’s simple.
Be able to masterfully
Are even your eyes sweating from the demands?) Nothing, it will be even cooler next. You must become a virtuoso. What? Yes, in anything, even learn tricks with a coin, but you must do it better than anyone in our mortal world. Because attractive people are people of action, so don't get distracted, you have to become completely focused. Find your life's work and hit one point. Of course, this is not easy, develop willpower and everything will work out.
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Have you ever had situations where friends just came to your aid, even when you didn’t ask them? If yes, then congratulations, good friends. How did you feel about these people? They will feel the same for you - gratitude, closeness, joy from your presence. Therefore, feel free to help people, push them forward, believe in them, support them. Discard thoughts of envy, you want to be attractive, not an envious person who waits for the mistakes of others, instead of developing yourself. Master this and understand how to become a charming person.
Be a leader
How to become an attractive person? Be a leader! Always and everywhere you must lead the situation; there is no need to stand aside cowardly or bored. Who will notice you there? It is strong leaders who attract people to themselves, give hope for the future, who will want to be drawn to you, to be like you... and therefore to be close to you. These are the secrets of attractiveness. Can you? Prove to yourself that you can do anything!
Don't get attached to others
And then I’ll say something that might surprise you. After all, since you are reading this article, you really need people. So, get ready - fuck people! Yeah, I didn't make a mistake. Remember one simple rule of attraction that probably outweighs all others - either you are drawn to them, or they are drawn to you. Man is designed this way: what we already have is not interesting to us. We always want what is nearby, but not ours. So, don’t give yourself to anyone, but be close. Live your life, bright and rich, you don’t need to want to be with someone like a puppy, it’s hard, but that’s the price for what you want.
Confidence
Do you want to know how to develop magnetism? Learn to observe yourself from the outside. People perceive best what they see with their eyes. What will they see in you? Look at yourself and evaluate honestly. Like? What do you think is missing? Very often - confidence. And you must be filled with it, you need to radiate strength. Let it be visible in every movement, in every gesture or word? Let the fire burn inside, which will make everyone feel hot. Dress well, work on your figure, straighten your back, train your gait. Don't listen to anyone around you, everyone can become chic. Stand. You want to make your dream come true. Do something about it. Read more here.
Get rid of thoughts about shortcomings.
Do you often criticize yourself? Do you often worry about your appearance, voice, or are you afraid of a lot of things? Oh yes, this is a dream image, everyone around will reach out to this, just let me... Well, you understand. You need to forget about your shortcomings. I mean, of course, it’s worth working on them, improving yourself... but for the sake of all that is holy, get rid of your complexes. After all, they double the negative impression. So, as soon as you forget about them, you will instantly (!) become twice as attractive. Have you thought about this? Follow this advice if you want to develop personal magnetism.
Spend more time on your development
You know, a charming person is, first of all, an interesting person. Anyone who writes with errors and knows nothing more than yard tales is unlikely to become a magnet for people. Therefore, learn, develop, history, mathematics, quantum physics, music, art, or, for example, travel are at your service. There will always be something to tell people. Watch films, there are many interesting stories, remember them, analyze them. Go to the gym, dance, football, tennis, whatever... develop yourself, do it with passion, and you will notice that people begin to look at you differently.
Develop a sense of humor
Remember - a sense of humor is a limitless source of strength. Learn to perceive any situation with humor. Did something not work out? Find the funny parts in it and try again. Know how to joke at the right time in the company of friends, but do not turn into a clown. Here, as in everything, you need a sense of proportion and taste. A person who knows how to smile and joke is always an attractive person.
“Charisma should be understood as the recognition that there is some supernatural quality of personality, regardless of whether this quality is real, imaginary or assumed.”
M. Weber
Have your own point of view and don't adapt to others
You must have your own opinion and the will to defend it. Even if everyone thinks differently, that doesn't mean they're right. Anyone who had the strength to defend his position in such a situation is already worthy of attention.
Watch your speech
A charming personality is often revealed through conversation, so learn to speak beautifully and correctly. Not monotonously or quickly, but just in moderation. Think about what you say, prepare in advance if necessary, learn to control yourself during the conversation and do not let the conversation take its course, this is important if you want to develop personal magnetism.
Internal state
But here you need to approach the issue very carefully. You must learn to feel CALM, CONFIDENT AND FUN every second (!). These are the three pillars on which your state of mind should be built. Lightness of soul, inner strength and a little spark of fun add charm to everyone, always.
Now we've figured it outhow to develop charisma. This is not easy; you need to approach each aspect separately and work through it. Slowly, methodically, moving forward every day. But if you decide, then after some time you will wake up and not recognize your life. That's for sure. Good luck to you!