The soul hurts differently than the body. Sometimes it is difficult to recover from certain temptations. What do those who know from experience how to achieve psychological health write?
Righteous John of Kronstadt (1829-1908)
The treatment of mental illnesses (passions) is completely different from the treatment of physical illnesses. In physical illnesses, you need to dwell on the illness, caress the sore spot with soft remedies, warm water, warm poultices, etc., but in mental illnesses it is not so: an illness has attacked you - do not dwell on it, do not caress it at all, do not indulge it, do not warm her, but beat her, crucify her, do the completely opposite of what she asks.
Venerable Silouan of Athos (1866-1938)
It is good to learn to live according to the will of God. Then the soul unceasingly abides in God and is extremely at peace.
Hieromonk Peter (Seregin) (1895-1982)
It often happens that even with good material security and with good relations towards us from our neighbors, our hearts are gnawed by sins and passions, like fierce snakes. And if we resort to spiritual and moral means, we overcome pride and exaltation and free ourselves from vanity, envy and anger, displeasure and the lusts of the flesh that give rise to them; Our inner life, under the influence of God’s grace, is cleansed from irritability, fear and sinful anxiety, and the peace of God overshadows our soul; we feel joy in the Lord.
The chains of sin weaken, and some fall completely, and we feel quite happy, in the fullness of life, despite various external material and other worldly conditions.
Holy Scripture is a spiritual pharmacy in which the blessed Heavenly Father hid various healings for our sake. We have many different infirmities, ailments and illnesses in our souls, and therefore we demand many different healings, which we find all in the Holy Scripture. There, with the help of the Holy Spirit, who spoke through the prophets and apostles, everyone will find a cure for their infirmities: the sad - consolation, the doubting - reason and confirmation, the ignorant - instruction and knowledge. There is hidden advice for those who are perplexed, those who do not know reason, and consolation for the sad.
Elder Paisiy Svyatogorets (1924-1994)
If a person has self-will, self-confidence and self-indulgence, then, even if he is smart even than seven inches in the forehead, he will suffer constantly. He gets confused, ties himself up, and has problems. To find his way, he must open his heart to some confessor and humbly ask him for help. However, some go to a psychiatrist instead of a confessor. If the psychiatrist turns out to be a believer, he will lead them to their confessor. And an unbelieving psychiatrist will limit himself to giving them some pills. However, pills by themselves do not solve the problem.
Saint Tikhon of Zadonsk (1724-1783)
A person who begins to believe can be likened to a weak person who, seeing his incurable illness, desires and seeks a skillful doctor. So the sinner, seeing through the law his sinful weakness, from which he cannot free himself with his own strength, desires and seeks a doctor who could free him from that weakness.
Schemamonk Zosima (XVII-XIX centuries)
Is anyone dead either through godlessness or sin, who can resurrect him? The Word of God, which is life. Is anyone lost in the darkness of heresy or in the path of a corrupt life? Who can enlighten him or turn him to the path of salvation? The Word of God, which is light and truth. Is anyone sick in soul: the Word of God for healing. Are you cruel at heart? The Word of God softens him. Is he a desperate sinner? The Word of God draws him to repentance. Are you depressed by sorrows or temptations? The Word of God is his consolation, admonition and strengthening.
Saint Philaret, Metropolitan of Moscow (1783-1867)
There is nothing a person needs as much as faith. Not only the bliss of the future life, but also the well-being of the present life depends on it.
Doctor Sergei Apraksin (XIX-XX centuries)
Poor man! Instead of telling him: “Think about the reasons for your nervousness, fill your spiritual emptiness with faith and trust in God, develop a different attitude towards life with all its sorrows and joys,” they tell him: “You are sick, go and get treatment,” and so the unfortunate person runs or goes to the doctors to seek salvation from his mental illness.
Here the issue is resolved, for the most part, very simply: the word “neurasthenia” is pronounced, a comprehensive word, although it does not express anything specific (and the patient thinks that his illness is understood), and the usual treatment begins...
This is how several years usually pass (and sometimes the whole life) until, finally, an exhausted person understands that the nervous “I can’t”, under the influence of various kinds of factors, is easily transformed by the person himself into “I can”...
The most irritable person, caught during a family scene, for example, by a stranger, a little-known person, quickly restrains himself and turns “I can’t” into “I can.” He who does not tolerate objections from his subordinates due to nervousness portrays himself as a meek lamb when his superiors make their way through him. In a word, various kinds of influence: shame in front of people, fear for one’s official position, passionate love and other factors easily turn the nervous “I can’t” into “I can.”
This means that we always have that lever within ourselves that we are ready to use to turn ourselves over, we just have to want to use it and not let it go. And when a person, exhausted by eternal treatment and all the other unpleasant consequences of his illness, understands this, understands that the remedy for nervousness is in himself, and not in those numerous vials that he previously emptied in abundance and without benefit, only then, having given up all treatment , he finally achieves, with the help of God, little by little, either complete, or at least relative, but lasting recovery...
The whole trouble is that we care too much about the development of external senses from sight to taste and too little about the development of speculation, which is called in the prayers “the eyes of the mind,” “the mind and the eyes of the heart, even to salvation.” These “eyes” were given to man by God for the knowledge of great truths...
The fact that faith in us is very weak, that our attitude to life is the most impossible, of course, is most to blame for our upbringing, but every adult can re-educate himself and develop a correct Christian outlook on life if he uses the means indicated for this by the Church. Of these means, the most important is prayer. There are very few non-believers, the majority are of little faith, so with this grain of faith, start praying, and you will soon feel that this grain will begin to break through, after a while it will already give rise to a sprout, from which, over time, a mighty tree will grow. Under the shade of this tree it will be easy and pleasant to rest from the heavy heat of human passions and from the storm of everyday weather, and in due time you will reap the fruit.
Just start praying, and faith will come to you on its own, and if it was weak, it will strengthen and little by little, your attitude towards life will gradually change. Prayer will distract you, at least for a while, from ordinary everyday thoughts and interests, attract your mind to heavenly things, make you involuntarily think about things that you hardly thought about before, make you feel a lot and, with the help of God’s grace, change your previous way of thinking and root faith and the pursuit of the Christian ideal. Healing from the serious and sad spiritual illness of lack of faith, prayer, combined with strict submission to the church regime, can greatly help us with bodily ailments. We have seen how useful prayer, combined with hope and faith in God, is in certain nervous conditions, which are based on spiritual emptiness and weakness of will...
Life shows us numerous examples where a nervous person, who has been treated for several years without any result, quickly achieves a complete or at least relative, but lasting recovery after he turns to God and begins to live according to the rules of the Church. I, at least, know several such examples, and I think that everyone else knows a lot of them. And for other nervous ailments, the importance of the above factors is important. Let us take, for example, the notorious brain fatigue, which modern medicine assigns a prominent place among other causes of modern nervousness. It turns out that intense work in itself rarely causes persistent nervous illness, but is dangerous only when combined with human vice and passions...
Here's what Prof. says about this. Strumpel: “...We see, therefore, that the exhaustion of the nervous system, which is the essence of neurasthenia, is led mainly by the mental work of people, accompanied by excitement of fear and hope, the mental tension of a politician constantly worried about the passionate struggle of parties, and finally, the efforts of the minds of those artists and scientists, whose indefatigable ambition impels them to keep pace with the competition.”
It follows that faith and the resulting attitude towards life, wealth, fame, ambition, etc., is a powerful preventive remedy here too...
The best preventive measure is to educate the younger generation on strictly religious and moral principles. The main task of education (in the family and school) should be the desire to instill in the child’s soul the fear of God and true love for God.
When the disease has developed, the best remedy is prayer. It is necessary to pray every day in the morning and evening, reading the morning and evening rules, at least in a somewhat abbreviated form, with attention, trying to delve into the meaning of each word.
In addition, read daily those selected passages from the Gospel and the Apostle that are read on the corresponding day during the church service. Do not neglect public worship, but visit the temple of God, at least on holidays and Sundays (all-night vigil and mass), choosing the temple where the service is more beautiful, and most importantly, where they read legibly and serve without haste.
Fast at least once a year. Observe fasts and all other regulations of the Church, remembering that they were created by great people who understood human nature much better than the most outstanding modern sages. By all other means: through reflection, soul-saving conversation, reading the works of the great Fathers of the Church, try to strengthen faith in yourself, cultivate in your soul an awareness of all the beauty of the Christian ideal and develop a Christian attitude towards life’s phenomena...
Remember that during the first time of such a life, a second source of thought will certainly open in you with greater or lesser force, a thought that is bad, contradictory, tempting, creating a whole series of a certain kind of “temptation.” You should not give in to this, but pray persistently, with hope and patience, remembering the following words of the Savior from the parable of the unjust judge: “Hear what the unjust judge says. Will not God protect His chosen ones who cry out to Him day and night, although He is slow to protect them?
“When you feel unbearable, don’t say, I feel bad.
Speak, I feel bitter, for bitter medicine is used to treat a person.”
Weiner Brothers, "The Loop and the Stone in the Green Grass."
Heartache. No matter how much we would like to get rid of it once and for all, it is an eternal companion of our development, a lifelong journey. We lose loved ones, unexpectedly find ourselves faced with difficult choices, difficult circumstances overtake us, we break off relationships with loved ones... And then an uninvited guest comes - pain. It does not stand at the threshold, does not observe, but unceremoniously climbs into the soul, destroying in its path joy, hope, faith that we will one day be able to recover from this burden. And your arms drop, and your back hunches, and your heart is squeezed in a vice, and there is a lump in your throat, and you want to cry, and, hugging yourself by the shoulders, swing slowly and monotonously, like a pendulum counting down the endless stretching seconds...
And since mental pain comes to each of us sooner or later, we need to learn to coexist with it during this difficult period. This post will help you think a little differently about the mental suffering we all experience. And take bitter medicine in order to heal quickly.
The first thing I recommend starting with for those whose souls are hurting right now is to recognize the postulate that pain opens your eyes to the truth . She is actually an indicator of truth. This means that the time has come not to drown in sadness like a frog in milk, but to churn the butter with our actions and understand why this pain is given to us.
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First lesson in heartache.
Answer the questions: “What truth does mental pain point me to? What experience will I learn from this situation? Write them down in your diary and return to this entry periodically. Answer these questions again after a week from the date of the first answer, after a month, three, six months. You will notice how a feeling of gratitude for what happened begins to grow inside you. Pain was a stimulus for your development, for new qualitative changes occurring in your personality in particular, and in your world in general. Sooner or later, you will thank your pain for the fact that it made you raise your head and decide to take a step forward and up the ladder of life.
Although we call this pain mental, our body helps us recover from it. The body is the wisest instrument we possess, without fully realizing its greatness and almost limitless possibilities for emotional and physical regeneration. How can the body help? It's all about the relationship between emotions and physiology. An emotion, like a wave, passes through our body, and if the process is not interrupted, we live fully, without stress and psychosomatic illnesses. But if the emotion is not lived through, torn off or driven inside, it will manifest itself in our body in the form of muscle spasms, undiagnosed pain syndromes or diseases that are popularly called “diseases from the nerves.” In order to quickly get out of a painful state, you need to actually return the body to reality. Remember, when we are in pain, we seem to freeze in time, and this happens because we focus on the emotions that broke us, we get stuck in them, like in jelly. But reality interests us little. Therefore, the main task during this period is to turn on the body.
Second lesson of heartache. If you don't exercise, start doing it. If you do, include these simple exercises in your program.
- Breathe, inhaling through your nose and exhaling through your mouth. Do this at your usual pace, do not take deep breaths to avoid hyperventilation. Focus on your breathing, try not to think about anything. 2-5 minutes will be enough.
- Sit on the floor, bend your knees and clasp them with your hands. Hands in a strong lock. Forcefully spread your knees to the sides, trying to break the restraining lock of your hands. Repeat 10 times.
- Stand up straight. Feet shoulder width apart. Knees slightly bent. Imagine that there is a piece of paper or newspaper on the floor below you, and you need to tear it with your feet. To more vividly imprint the image in your brain, you can actually stand on a sheet of newspaper and tear it apart with the force of your legs. An impression to remember. Repeat the exercise 10 times.
Do these simple exercises when sadness comes, when mental pain returns, when emotions take you into the past. Put your body into “here and now” mode and the pain will subside.
At a time when life is desperately difficult for us, we need to take extra care of ourselves and show ourselves love and respect no matter what. Three verbs that you should write down in your diary and look at them every day, three verbs that will slowly pull you out of the cave of mental pain. Three verbs: eat, sleep, walk. Watch your diet, don’t throw anything into yourself like into a furnace, try to provide your body with vitamins and do it regularly. Sleep is a very important component of our health. Go to bed early. The body recovers most actively from 22:00 to 03:00. This is actually a magical time when an hour of sleep compensates for huge losses. Practice micro-sleep during the day, small 10-15 minute sleep breaks. And move more, walk, walk. Get off two stops earlier and walk to work or home, spend the weekend in nature. Make it a habit to walk for at least 10 minutes during your lunch break.
And even when you feel unbearable, remember those who are close to you and begin to show concern. Sometimes it can be very difficult to do this, because all feelings and sensations are focused on yourself. But overcoming this selfishness, showing concern for another, you will feel an incredible surge of strength and desire to live. Because the people you help will thank you. And gratitude is the best incentive to get up and move on.
The third lesson of heartache. Do good things, take care of others as if you were caring for yourself.
Whether you help your parents or children, whether you build a birdhouse, go to a public cleanup, give shelter to a homeless kitten, bring milk from the market to your old neighbor, the value of your action on a global scale is not so important. But if you see grateful eyes, if you feel how things inside you are slowly becoming brighter, if you want to cry, but there is a smile on your lips, then you are on the right path. This means your soul is being healed. And very soon you will be able to see your new life, in which there will be less pain, and the belief that you can cope will grow stronger with every breath and step.
There is physical and mental pain. The first one is quite easy to deal with, because modern medicine can quickly determine its source and prescribe the necessary course of treatment. But with mental pain everything is much more complicated. Therefore, many people live with it for years without fully understanding what caused it to appear.
But psychology does not stand still. Having delved into the nooks and crannies of consciousness, experts have learned a lot about the human psyche, in particular how to get rid of mental pain. By following simple tips, you can not only overcome your internal suffering, but also regain lost happiness.
Mental pain: what is it?
It is very difficult to give an accurate description of this phenomenon. After all, the inner world cannot be measured, touched, and even less seen. But at the same time, the sensations of psychological trauma are no less painful than those of a fracture or burn, and sometimes they can be much worse.
So what is heartache? First of all, it is a feeling caused by consciousness in response to emotional shock. Depending on the cause of its occurrence, the pain can be either barely noticeable or heartbreaking. But even after minor shocks, a person feels overwhelmed and broken, as if he had run out of electricity.
And if you do nothing, then soon the pain will be complemented by despair. And when you give up completely, depression will come. But fighting this enemy is much more difficult, and sometimes even impossible without the help of a specialist.
But before you learn how to cope with mental pain, you should understand its sources. After all, this is the only way to overcome her without harming yourself.
Where do emotional shocks come from?
Many are sure that emotional distress can only arise after serious emotional upheaval. For example, the death of a loved one, the discovery of a serious illness, an accident, betrayal, and so on. Naturally, such life shocks will affect a person’s psyche, but the truth is that in most cases, the causes of mental pain are less noticeable reasons.
So, what can disrupt inner harmony and bring confusion into the soul?
1. Life behind the mask. In the modern world, you often have to lie, not only to others, but also to yourself. This is necessary to present yourself in a better light - to become more significant. But you will have to pay for the lie with your peace of mind, because our consciousness does not like being played with. And even more so, it will not calmly accept the fact that they want to change it.
2. Unfinished tasks. Quite often, mental pain arises from dissatisfaction with one’s own actions. For example, when, because of work, you have to sacrifice a child’s performance, or when, instead of going to the gym, a person lay on the couch all day. All these unfulfilled dreams, plans and meetings fall like a dead weight on your shoulders and are guaranteed to lead to emotional depression.
3. Impotence. Lack of money, strength, beauty, health, knowledge - this list can be continued for a very long time, but the essence is the same - powerlessness. When a person cannot get what he wants, he suffers.
There's nothing worse than unrequited love
Heartache from love is a separate case. Unlike other troubles, unrequited feelings can hurt greatly. And the more a person strives to get the object of his desire, the stronger the pain digs into his heart.
In such cases, it is often said that the person seems to be drying out. This is partly true, because apart from dreams of his beloved, he is not interested in anything. It becomes completely unimportant what is happening around, what people are around and what to do next.
And in order to save its owner from danger, consciousness sends him an alarm signal - pain. In this way, the brain tries to force a person to look around and understand that it is impossible to live like this any longer.
Three strict prohibitions
Before you begin your own healing, you should remember one important rule: never slide into the abyss of vice. Indeed, during this period the temptation is very great, and, alas, many succumb to it, making more and more attempts to quench their pain with the help of alcohol, nicotine and drugs.
This method not only does not relieve pain, but also increases emotional distress. The feeling of one’s own lack of will complements the already gray picture, pushing one to give up. Having set foot on this path, a person is deprived of the opportunity to reason sensibly, which will certainly lead to defeat.
Therefore, it is worth strictly prohibiting alcohol, drugs and cigarettes. This will not only help you concentrate on finding a solution to the problem, but will also keep you healthy. And, as you know, it is worth its weight in gold. It is much better to get addicted to green tea, it is not only healthy, but can also lift your mood a little.
Awareness is the first step to peace of mind
As stated above, heartache comes in many forms. Therefore, it is important to understand what caused it this time. Having looked into yourself, you should understand your own feelings, how long ago they appeared.
In most cases, the answer lies on the surface, you just have to look a little closer and you will find it. After this, solving the problem will be much easier, because, knowing the enemy by sight, you can build a war strategy.
But sometimes there are several sources of emotional excitement, and they are so closely intertwined that it is difficult to distinguish them from each other. Therefore, even when the main problem is found, you should continue to search, because who knows what else is hidden from view.
Perhaps, at first, such an exploration of one’s own consciousness will not be easy, but you should not stop. Over time, such a practice will become habitual, moreover, the brain will begin to take it for granted, opening access to hidden corners of consciousness.
Not all problems can be solved
Sometimes it is impossible to eliminate the cause of mental pain. For example, you cannot resurrect a dead person, erase memories of a loved one, become someone else at one moment, and so on. What to do then? How to cope with mental pain?
Answer: no way. It is simply impossible to completely get rid of such pain, no matter how much time passes. The only thing that remains is to learn to live with this feeling, to accept it as part of yourself. This will help reduce the pain just enough that you can calmly coexist with it.
Although this does not seem like a very happy prospect, it is still the reality. And accepting it means embarking on the path of getting rid of suffering. This is the only way to get the much-desired peace and begin to experience joyful feelings again.
Eat, sleep and walk
Due to emotional stress, the body weakens, and as a result, problems become more and more difficult to deal with. Therefore, it is very important not to forget about things like sleep, food and walks in the fresh air.
- When going to bed, a person is left alone with his problems, which sometimes makes it very difficult to fall asleep. But you need to understand that without night rest the brain does not work well, which will further aggravate the situation. To fall asleep faster, you should use counting rhymes; they help you to distract yourself and relax.
- Healthy eating. You should not eat stress with anything, otherwise stomach problems will be added to the mental trauma. It is also worth taking care of your daily intake of vitamins and minerals; they will strengthen not only the body, but also the psyche.
- Walks. Even though in times like these you might want to hide from the world, you shouldn’t do that. Short walks around the area will not only enrich your blood with oxygen, but also help you unwind a little. The main thing is not to delve into yourself, but to try to catch something new in the surrounding landscape.
Sport is the best doctor
Nothing dispels sadness like active training. Fortunately, in the modern world there are a huge number of all kinds of sports clubs and gyms, so finding the right one will not be difficult.
Sport can not only distract from current problems, but can also strengthen the will. Will make the mind more resistant to psychological stress and stress. He teaches you to win and overcome your own fears and failures.
The most difficult thing in this method is to take the first step, go out the door and go to the right address. And if you still can’t force yourself, then at least you should start doing exercises in the morning. Even if not much, it will help.
Visits to a psychologist
Experts know how to get rid of mental pain. A qualified psychologist will not only help you find the cause of suffering, but will also suggest the most effective ways to solve it. Unfortunately, many people are afraid of such meetings, because, in their opinion, this is a manifestation of weakness, and sometimes even worse - a mental disorder.
But the reality is that a psychologist can really help. And if you make an effort on yourself and turn to him, you can avoid many problems, including the appearance of depression.
But be that as it may, one thing is important - mental pain exists, and we need to fight it. There are many methods for this, but their essence is one - move forward, no matter what happens.
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Healing consists of several stages. Let's use a wound as an example. Let's say you cut your hand deeply, what should you do to make the wound heal?
Step one. Recognize the presence of a wound.
When the wound is visible, we see damage and blood - this stage goes away by itself. But this is not the case with emotional wounds. Sometimes we spend years trying to deny our own. No, everything is fine, nothing hurts, nothing special. We devalue our own injuries, saying that somewhere people are dying of hunger, so this is nonsense. Does our pain disappear somewhere from this? No. Stays inside. Deep. Sometimes too deep.
I was talking to a friend once. Her husband left her after 20 years of marriage. Without explanation - he took it and left. And she sits and says, I wish him happiness, let everything be fine. I collected his things myself. I brought it to him myself. She persuaded the children not to be angry with their father. Two years have passed - and she gives him gifts for the New Year and birthday. I gave him everything - the car, the apartment. She went to her parents. The children are already studying in another city. You don’t need anything from him, let everything be fine with him.
And she herself is sick. It hurts so bad it's scary. She wrinkled sharply and grew old. I say, are you crazy? What are you doing? Surely it hurt you?! Why are you pretending that everything is fine?
And she smiles so strangely and says - no, big deal. He’s probably better off there, but why, I can handle it. You are the one to blame. And he continues his song about the main thing.
And only a year later she wrote me a message: “I hate him. You was right. I suddenly realized that he just used me and threw me away. Trampled. Destroyed. I hate..."
This is where her healing began. She saw her huge wound, acknowledged it, and was able to move on.
It was painful, yes, to admit that you are not highly spiritual, and such betrayal hurts you. But without this, healing is impossible. How can you cure something that is “not there”? How can you ignore the presence of a wound and at the same time expect that it will heal on its own? Yes, if the wound is small, the body may be able to cope. What if it’s deep?
This stage is inevitable. While we seal the wounds, they only become inflamed and spread poison throughout the body. Whether we like it or not, we first need to remove all these band-aids and honestly look into the depths. See your injuries, your wounds, your pain. I know this from myself; for many years I turned a blind eye to the fact that I had enormous pain associated with my dad and mom. The problem did not go away from such closing of eyes.
Step two. Cleansing.
What to do with the wound? Handle. Wash, clean, disinfect. So that there is no inflammation. So that the body can cope with this on its own. If you don’t clean it, but just smear it and bandage it, healing will not happen. Cleaning is unpleasant, painful, scary. Sometimes a very deep cleansing is needed if the wound is too advanced.
It doesn’t even make sense to talk about this for a long time. This goes without saying. When the soul is sick, the same rule applies. Cleanse the heart, cleanse the wounds, live everything, pull it out, let go.
Step three. A regime of special care and attention.
If you cut your hand, then you take care of it for some time, do not swim in the sea, for example, do not carry heavy objects. Follow the doctor's recommendations. It's the same with the soul.
When you start clearing away the rubble, you also need a special self-care routine. More warmth, more caring attitude.
When I was going through childhood traumas - and this period actively lasted about 2-3 years, I cried almost every evening. It took a lot of energy, although it became much easier. Considering that I already had a son, a husband, and also the need to work with my loved one, it was not easy. Sometimes I couldn’t do anything, I was so crushed by the weight of the past. And I lay in bed with my son all day, we ate completely unhealthy food, watched cartoons, didn’t go for walks, I cried, wrote letters, lived. And at the same time, she physically could not lift herself out of bed.
Many people think that it is so simple, just think. I just dropped it and moved on. Yes, if there are few of them, if they are small and shallow, that’s what you should do. When someone just stepped on your foot, why bother for too long - let it go and forget about it. But if life has been difficult, and so much has accumulated that it’s even difficult to breathe?
Don't listen to any "positive thinking gurus". Like, smile and everything will pass. If you put on a smile, raise your hand and say, “to hell with it,” none of this will go away. It will remain inside, even deeper. You need to get it out.
The longer you denied your pain, the deeper it went. The more effort and time it takes to get it all.
Find opportunities to rest and recuperate as you begin this process. No, this is not the time when you sit on your phone or watch TV. This is the time when you relax and replenish. Walks in nature, prayers, meditation, taking care of your body, massage, aromatherapy, 
the ability to simply sleep during the day, go to bed earlier, energy-saving mode in communication. Don't put too much pressure on yourself during this period.
The more you can immerse yourself, disconnecting from everything else, the faster you can go through this process. Sometimes it is useful to give yourself 2-3 months off for intense and healing time.
Family, by the way, is not a hindrance to this. Just remove all super-tasks and attempts to do everything from your head. Make do with simple dishes, delegate household responsibilities, communicate more, go for walks together.
Relax - both physically and emotionally. And take care of yourself, pay attention to your soul.
Step four. Constant treatment of the wound.
Disinfecting once is not enough. You know, our world is like this, bacteria are here and there. Not only physical microbes, but also microbes of the soul, sit here and there and are ready to pounce.
And while the body is weakened, it needs help. By clearing in time everything that can start the inflammation process again.
For example, if you are working with your relationship with your mother, sometimes it is useful to take a break in the relationship for 2-3 months so that the wounds heal, so as not to cut to the quick again. Mom hasn’t changed, she can do the same thing again, she will hurt you again. If you have given yourself the opportunity to live and get stronger, then it will be easier for you to face the “new blow”. 
Or if we're talking about the body, it's quite strange to fast for a week, remove toxins, and the next day run to McDonald's, right? You need to gently get out of the diet, detox, fasting. You need to approach this very carefully, then fasting and detox will have an effect.
Throughout his life, a person has experienced mental or physical pain at least once. But we forget about physical pain very quickly as soon as we cure it. And the pain in our souls does not leave us for many years, only slightly dulling the small details in our memory.
Reasons for the development of pain in the soul
This is pain that appears after a strong emotional shock. Pain in the soul arises due to fear, anxiety, vanity, while a person cannot breathe, and bad thoughts creep into his head. We can say that mental pain is the sobbing of the heart. It's a slowly eating, inexplicable feeling that only time can heal.
For some time, the pain in the soul dulls. But as soon as you encounter a similar situation or meet a person who brought you suffering, the mental pain resumes. To protect themselves, many close themselves off from everyone, plunging headlong into their careers, earning millions and occupying a respectable position in society. They remember childhood or youth grievances very well and perhaps thanks to such experiences they have become stronger.
The pain in the soul is not physiological, but mental. In our lives, circumstances often arise when we really want to express our opinion, but due to a number of circumstances we are unable to do so. After this, the person may experience an attack of coughing or suffocation. After a person speaks out, it immediately becomes easier.
It follows from this that you don’t need to keep a grudge in yourself; if you have any complaints, say so directly, you shouldn’t accumulate negativity in yourself. The offense must be forgotten, but it’s not that easy. The fact is that needs and desires do not always coincide with stereotypes. Taboos and prohibitions prevent you from fully realizing your desires and needs. This often happens when the prohibitions in childhood are very strict.
Why is it important to get rid of pain in the soul?
Psychology is a very serious science, so its justifications regarding mental pain tell us that we need to pay attention to such things and try to get rid of this kind of illness. This problem relates more to the psychomatic direction, and therefore it is necessary to combat this illness with special techniques.
Why is pain in the soul dangerous? With its pressure, it very often leads us to real illnesses, for example, coughing, and for many, suffocation occurs. As you can see, the consequences are very dire.
Pain in the soul, resentment and anger can result in diseases such as:
arthritis, hypertension,
anorexia nervosa.
Don't be afraid to seek psychological help? to get rid of mental pain. Why carry a feeling of resentment throughout your life?!
How to get rid of mental pain?
What medicine will help in this case? The most effective advice to get rid of pain in the soul is to speak out. Yes, yes, just pour out your soul to your best friend, girlfriend, loved one. At least after this kind of “confession” people get better and this is a scientific fact.
Some tips for those facing this problem:
Never accumulate negativity in yourself, try to get rid of it, speak out, throw it all out. If you keep everything in your soul and head, this can only complicate the situation. Believe me, psychologists have noted many times that psychological disorders often lead to deterioration in physiological terms.
Don't be offended by people, even if they did something bad to you. To get rid of the pain in your soul, forgive everything, it will be easier for you.
Pain in the soul lately very often leads girls to a state of anorexia, so in no case violate your diet, be vigilant, watch your health.
If you experience this type of discomfort, you may need to see a doctor. Cases have been recorded where, as a result of seemingly ordinary mental pain, people developed ulcers and hypertension.
How to get rid of mental pain - psychologists advise
Mental pain has become increasingly widespread among other ailments that arise from psychological trauma. How to deal with it? Are there any effective tips in this situation? The question is very difficult, because sometimes our pain is caused not by some nonsense, but by a real “catastrophe” in life, which does not allow us to sleep or spend time normally.
Some tips to help with the question:
- broke up with your boyfriend, no problem. Don’t cry into your pillow, this will only make you worse, don’t call, don’t write or ask him to come back, why humiliate yourself. Do something good for your body and soul, buy a gym membership, yoga, attend various language or beauty courses, update your wardrobe. Live for yourself, walk, have fun.
- if others do not accept you, then to get rid of mental pain, get yourself a pet, immerse yourself in reading, take up cooking. There are many ways to occupy yourself and improve yourself; you shouldn’t reach out to people and then they will reach out to you.
How to get rid of mental pain through self-hypnosis?
An excellent method recommended by psychologists is self-hypnosis. For example, your first love was not like what they write in books or what films are made about, you were offended, humiliated, or cheated on. The first desire that comes to mind is to take cruel revenge on the offender. In a fit of anger, this seems to be the only correct decision.
But it’s better to get rid of mental pain, just forget this person, erase him from your memory. To do this, imagine the moment you met in detail, but regard your offender as a completely different person. As if nothing bad happened, but mentally burn the memory of that evil. Clearly imagine pictures and pleasant moments with that good person, as if it all really happened. Convince yourself that everything is fine and there were no hard feelings. This method has helped many, if not completely cured, then at least halved the pain that the past insult brings.
As you can see, all our psychological disorders, including pain in the soul, lead to serious complications in our body. All this is directly related to the nervous system, our feelings and emotions. Try to find support among your family and friends, and don’t forget to contact a psychologist - in this situation, he will be able to guide you along the right path.