The classic said that people should have beautiful thoughts and clothes. But where does that sixth or seventh sense come from in a person, with which he distinguishes between what is beautiful and what is ugly? Developed by the beauty of interpersonal relationships. Polite words in the Russian language emerged from the richness of the inner world of our distant ancestors.
Verbal garbage that wastes souls
When we hear from people of other nationalities the statement that Russians are unpleasant because they communicate with each other, we want to give every Russian a phrase book in which a hundred ordinary polite phrases would be written. But many would not have taken it. They would be offended because they are proud that the whole world is swearing with “Russian obscenities.” This is scary. The people who gave birth from their midst to the luminaries of all-human culture use swearing and dirty words in all spheres of human activity.
But in the Russian language there are polite words. they can be quite long. Why not update and reintroduce the beautiful Russian word “sir” into everyday use? (And when addressing a woman, this word sounds even better and more euphonious - madam). But many souls managed to wither in an atmosphere of verbal garbage. “Hey, you bald guy, pass me the ticket!” - such a phrase will darken the mood not only of the person to whom it is addressed, but also of many others to whose ears these words reached. And many can no longer imagine that it can be said in another way. “Please be so kind as to pass it on for the ticket” - how many of us have heard such an appeal in transport?
“What difference does it make!” they exclaim, and don’t even ask. But let me! Is it really possible to call “Hey, you!” Is it more pleasant to hear than “Sir”?
How do others perceive us?
The sensitive souls of poets have already noticed changes in the mentality of the Russian people, and this happened because sentences with polite words have disappeared from our everyday life. We read the poems of our contemporary from Poland (interlinear translation): “Russians cannot create their own world, because, like a banner, they carry obscenities with them.” But the poet speaks specifically about us, about ordinary Russian people. He never saw politicians in his eyes.
And the conclusion that a simple man in the street made is terrible: you should be sent to Kolyma for such poems.
No, sir, you are wrong! You need to listen to such verses. And change yourself, and then, little by little, the world will begin to change around you. And little is required: you just need to say polite words to each other. A list of them can be compiled, for example, from the works of A.S. Pushkin:
Be kind.
Glad to serve you.
I wish you good health.
With your prayers.
Madam, I am glad to tell you that you are lovely.
Sir, my husband says the same thing.
Some will say that this is all about counts and princes. But Pushkin snatched from the midst of the people and immortalized the phrase: “The ignorant is looking for a fight, but the polite one is looking for friends.” This idea is commensurate with his novel in verse.
Children are born by adults, but they learn from adults themselves
There is a website where children express their thoughts about the benefits of politeness. Good idea.
But she lacks an attentive adult who has at least compiled a list of polite words for children. The poverty of children's vocabulary in poems could have amazed a person of the 19th century. Three expressions: “Thank you,” “Hello,” and “Goodbye” crawl from one children's creation to another. But they are not to blame. The children study with us, but, excuse me, there is nothing to learn. And children's delights about how good and wonderful it is to be cultured and polite smack of falsehood. But the adults who run that site are also deaf. They, like their children, have the same polite words in their heads. No one made a list for them, and they, like their children, do not see the need for it.
The beauty of relationships
The beauty of human relationships is narrowed, it does not find its expression and fades. And the verse of a 12-year-old girl that “words are not important, but feelings are important” does not sound sincere in an adult way.
The deception of one’s own feelings is heard in phrases that talk about the “unimportance” of words. The paradox of the situation lies in the fact that this bad taste, which the little poetess heard from adults and introduced into her work, was not noticed by the adults and was noted on the best side by the girl’s ability to select rhymes. But technology is not poetry. It is not technology that creates poetry, but vice versa. Polite words... The list of them does not need to be specially compiled, they must come from the depths of the soul. Moreover, they should be in place, not in rhyme. It would be better to fill the site with children's poems with words for grandmothers, friends, even toys! And the examples... let them be as a technical aid, so that children and adults learn to express their best feelings and make loved ones happy with them.
It is better to present the rules of behavior to a child in a playful way to make it clearer and more accessible. For this you can use riddles and games about polite words presented below.
Puzzles
Don't be too lazy to tell your friends
Smiling...
(Good afternoon)
Saying goodbye to each other
We'll say...
(Goodbye)
Don't blame each other
Better soon...
(Sorry)
How beautiful it is
Good word...
(Thank you)
When you are guilty, you are in a hurry to say
I beg you, please-
(Sorry)
Never get involved in someone else's conversation,
And you are better than adults...
(Do not interrupt)
Even a block of ice will melt
From a warm word...
(Thank you)
The old stump will turn green,
When he hears...
(Good afternoon)
If you can't eat anymore,
Let's tell mom...
(Thank you)
The boy is polite and affectionate
He says when meeting...
(Hello)
When we are scolded for our pranks,
Let's talk...
(Excuse me, please)
Both in France and Denmark
They say goodbye...
(Goodbye)
If a friend meets a friend,
Friends shake each other's hands
In response to a greeting
Everyone says...
(Hello)
I wrote a letter to my mother
Yesterday I answered
And at the end he conveyed
To all friends...
(Hello)
If with a friend or girlfriend
The separation was long,
When we meet we say:
“How old and...”
(How many winters)
If you met someone,
According to the laws of etiquette,
So that the conversation goes uphill,
We ask: “How...”
(Affairs)
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Don't be rude to older people
And don't be too familiar
Tell them when you meet
Not “hello”, but...
(Hello)
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Our world is tired of evil,
So that he becomes kinder,
We are not too lazy to talk
At the meeting …
(Good afternoon)
Masha knew a lot of words,
But one of them is missing
And it’s like a sin,
It is said most often.
This word follows
For a gift, for lunch,
This word is said
If you are thanked.
(Thank you)
Children Dasha and Egorka
Pizza cheese is grated.
The mice are asking from the hole:
"Give! Be..."
(So kind)
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Puppy Phil was walking in the yard,
Suddenly I met an old bulldog.
I ask you to quickly guess:
Who should say “hello” first?
(Puppy Phil, because he is younger, and the younger ones are the first to greet the older ones)
Here comes the lapdog Zhulka,
Fashionista, imaginary...
And towards me - a gentleman,
Cute Scotch Terrier.
Can you guess it or not:
Who will be the first to say “hello”?
(A Scotch Terrier, because he is a man, and a man is the first to greet female acquaintances)
Below are some funny ones riddles about polite words by Olesya Emelyanova.
Games
1. “Learning magic words”
Tell your child what polite words mean, that people in different countries greet each other differently, and all languages have such magic words.
Learn magic words that are close in meaning - “Hello” and “Good afternoon”, “Goodbye” and “See you soon”, etc.
Or you can learn polite words in different languages of the world. For example, the word “Hello” or “Hello”.
Hello is the most popular and useful word for a traveler. And it’s the simplest thing, so it won’t hurt to know how to say hello in different languages of the world. It is interesting to note that a greeting from another language is not always literally translated into Russian as “hello”; often it will mean “good afternoon” or “hello”, and sometimes even “peace be with you”.
| Language | What does it sound like |
| Azerbaijani | Salaam Alaikum |
| English | Hello,Hi |
| Arabic (Egypt) | Ahlan wa sahlan |
| Arabic (East, North Africa) | Marhaba |
| Afrikaans | Hola |
| Belorussian | Privitanne |
| Bulgarian | Hello |
| Hungarian | Jo napot |
| Vietnamese | Chao |
| Hawaiian | Aloha |
| Dutch | Hallo |
| Greek | Geia sou |
| Georgian | Gamarjoba |
| Hebrew | Shalom |
| Indonesian | Selamat |
| Icelandic | Godan Daginn |
| Spanish | Buenas dias |
| Italian | Buon giorno |
| Latin | Ave |
| Latvian | Lab dien, sveiki |
| Lithuanian | Sveikas |
| German | Guten Tag |
| Norwegian | Goddag |
| Polish | Dzien good |
| Portuguese | Ola |
| Romanian | Buna |
| Serbian | Hello |
| Slovak | Good day |
| Thai | Sawatdi |
| Turkish | Merhaba |
| Uzbek | Salaam Alaikum |
| Ukrainian | Hello |
| Finnish | Paivaa |
| French | Bonjour |
| Hindi | Namaste |
| Croatian | Zdravo |
| Czech | Good day |
| Swedish | God dag |
| Esperanto | Saluton |
| Estonian | Tervist |
| Japanese | Konnichi wa |
2. "Be careful"
This game is best played with several children. You need to ask the children to complete the task, but they must complete it only when you call the “magic word”. Below are examples of commands, you can use them, or you can come up with your own.
Stand up please!
Hands up!
Please clap your hands!
Stomp.
Jump please.
Please, hands forward.
Please put your hands down.
Please, tilt your head forward.
Tilt it back, please.
To the left.
Right.
Please, take your seats.
3. “Polite is impolite”
Rules of the game. If you read about a polite act, children clap their hands 2 times. When you read about an impolite act, children stomp their feet 2 times. You can also come up with other fun moves.
Examples of actions:
Say hello when you meet
Pushing and not apologizing
Whistling, shouting, making noise at school
Give way to elders
Do not stand up when asked by the teacher
Help climb the stairs
Say goodbye when leaving
4. “Polite watch”
This is a warm-up game that can be played with one child or several. Children pretend to be a clock. Two hands are arrows that move around an imaginary dial.
Leading: Tiki-tock, tiki-tock -
The clock goes like this.
The clock struck seven in the morning,
All the kids were woken up.
Children clap their hands seven times to imitate the striking of a clock: bom-bom.
Leading: The morning has come
The sun has risen...
Answer me guys
What should you say when you wake up?
Children: Good morning!
Game continues. The arrows are moving again; The clock is ticking and now shows twelve o'clock in the afternoon.
Leading: The day has come, guys;
What should you say when you meet?
Children: Good afternoon
The game continues in the same way.
Leading: The arrows ticked and walked
And six o'clock struck.
Children clap their hands six times.
Leading: The evening has come, guys.
What should you say when you meet?
Children: Good evening.
Leading: Well done!
5. “Polite tram”
This game is best played in a large group. Because it involves the driver, conductor and passengers. Children line up one after another like a train, representing tram passengers. The driver stands in front, holding a toy steering wheel. The conductor treats passengers generously, issuing tickets not for money, but for polite words (thank you, please, be kind, excuse me, hello, etc.). In this case, the same word should not be repeated twice.
Tickets can be made from paper, old postcards or calendar cards.
If one of the passengers finds it difficult to say a polite word, one of the passenger friends can buy a ticket for it. But at the same time, knowledge of the magic polite words is mandatory.
If no one can rescue the stowaway, the conductor sends him to the driver. The advantage of the driver is that he can say any polite words, even those that have already been spoken. When all passengers are satisfied, the polite tram departs.
Nadezhda Kovaleva
Conversation “Polite words for kids”
Conversation with children on the topic: « Polite words for kids» .
Target: to cultivate a culture of behavior in children.
(Using ICT, paintings, you can play with a fairy-tale hero).
Guys, what words What do people say to each other when they meet? (children's answers).
That's right, when meeting, cultured people always say hello. Speaking "Hello", we wish each other health and prosperity.
According to etiquette (rules of behavior in society, the youngest greet the elders first. If the ages are the same, then boys and girls, men and women.
Guys, what other ones are very important ( "magical") you know the words? (children's answers).
Yes, very important words"Please" And "Thank you"! When do you say them?
Never forget to speak "Thank you", if someone helped you and did something good! Good deeds should not go unappreciated!
What should you do if you made a mistake or accidentally hurt someone? That's right, be sure to apologize! It’s not difficult, and people will quickly forget this minor trouble and will not be offended by you.
(Look at the picture. Answer questions: Is it necessary to apologize in this situation? Who should do this)
What will we say when we say goodbye? (Goodbye). What if we are seeing someone off? (Bon Voyage).
Well done boys! I really hope you remember all these "magical words» and you will always use them in your speech. Be sure to ask mom and dad in the evening what polite words they know in what situation they need to be used, and tomorrow you will tell us.
Publications on the topic:
Leisure “Polite words” Municipal autonomous preschool educational institution of a general developmental type, kindergarten "Solnyshko" with. Terbuny Terbunsky municipal.
Communication game “Polite words” Game "Polite words". Goal: continue to teach children to use “magic” words in their speech; cultivate politeness and goodwill.
Abstract of the educational activity “Polite words and manners” 2nd junior group Abstract of the educational activity “Polite words and manners” 2nd junior group Goal: promoting the moral development of children. Objectives: - consolidate the ability to use.
Summary of the lesson on communicative development for the junior group “Polite words” Summary of a lesson on communicative development for the younger group Topic “POLITE WORDS” Educator Olga Kolesen Goal: Create conditions for development.
Summary of a lesson on speech development “Kind and polite words” Summary of a lesson on speech development “Kind and polite words.” Topic: “Kind and polite words.” Purpose: Encourage children to engage in dialogue.
Lesson notes for the first junior group “Polite words.” Lesson notes for the first junior group “Polite words.” Goal: developing a culture of communication and a culture of behavior. Objectives: Continue.
Summary of a lesson in the middle group on the topic: “Polite words” Purpose: To consolidate the ability to use words of gratitude and polite words in speech.
Goals:
- Expand your stock of “polite words.”
- Bring children to understand the need to observe the rules of politeness.
- Cultivate a kind, polite attitude towards each other.
- Guys, let's talk about polite words today. What kind of words are these? These are ordinary, kind, simple and useful words, and they became polite because it is simply impossible to live in the world without them.
You must not only know these words well, but also be able to pronounce them magically, and learning such magic is not difficult, you just have to want to.
You will graduate from school and become doctors, teachers, artists, astronauts. But first of all, you must grow up to be real people: kind, brave, sympathetic, polite. And you also need to learn this. That’s why try to use magic words as often as possible, which will make you feel warmer, happier and brighter..
There is great power in the word. A kind word can cheer a person up in difficult times and can help dispel a bad mood. A bad word is to offend, upset, spoil the mood.
In order to become polite and well-mannered, you need to learn several rules of politeness.
So, first rule– it’s important to remember the main polite words. Now I’ll see if you know them.
Even a block of ice will melt
From a warm word... (Thank you).When we are scolded for our pranks,
Let's talk... (forgive me please).The old stump will turn green
When he hears... (Good afternoon).If you can't eat anymore
Let's tell mom... (Thank you).
Both in France and Denmark
As we say goodbye... (Goodbye).The boy is polite and developed,
He says when meeting... (Hello).
– You know the main polite words. But why does it happen that people know these polite words, but do not always pronounce them and thereby upset those around them and their friends?
What a word!
Very expensive!
He said about his granddaughter:
What a shame -
I gave her a briefcase
I see - I’m very happy!
But you can't be silent like a fish,
Well I would say... (Thank you)Uncle Sasha is upset
He told me this...
Nastya is a nice girl,
Nastya goes to 1st grade
But...it’s been a long time since Nastya
I don't hear the word... (hello)And what a word -
Very expensive!
I met Vitya, a neighbor...
The meeting was sad:
He's like a torpedo on me
Came from around the corner!
But imagine! - in vain from Vitya
I was waiting for the word... (Sorry)
- You need to remember and second rule of politeness– you need to find the right words in time and use them, that is, know who, when and what to say. Tell me, is Vitya polite or not?
Vitya offended the baby,
But in front of the school in the ranks
Vitya asks:
- Sorry, I admit my mistake.The teacher came to class
I put a magazine on the table,
Next is Vitya:
- Sorry, I'm a little late.- Tikhomirov, show me
The city of Pskov is on our map
- Sorry, -
Vitya whispers, -
I'm not ready for the lesson.The debate has been going on in class for a long time,
Is Vitya polite or not?
Get to the bottom of this dispute
And send us the answer.
– What answer can you give? (You cannot cover up bad deeds with polite words.)
– Samuil Marshak’s poem “If you are polite” will tell you what to do.
– Thus, we have come to the third rule of politeness - it is important not only to know the rules of politeness, but also to follow them. Let's play the game "Polite - Impolite." If we clap politely 2 times, impolitely - 1 time.
- Say hello when you meet...
– Push, but don’t apologize...
- Interrupt during a conversation...
- Be able to maintain silence in class...
- Be able to listen to a friend.
- Let the girls go first...
– Say “Goodbye” when leaving class for home
- To talk loudly...
- Help pick up a fallen thing...
- Call your neighbor an offensive word...
- Say in the dining room: “Bon appetit.”
“I see that you have learned polite words well.” But your attentive and polite attitude should be manifested not only in words, but also in actions.
You and I are in constant communication with acquaintances and strangers at home, in a store, at school, on the street, in the theater. Therefore, everyone, both adults and children, must comply rules of politeness:
- We must address other people politely.
- It is correct to behave in someone else's house.
- Be a hospitable host.
- Be able to listen to others and not interrupt in conversation.
- Know who needs to be called “you” and who needs to be called “you”.
- You need to be able to help another person, but do it in such a way as not to emphasize that you are doing a good deed without bragging about it.
- You must be able to accept help, not refuse advice, not think that you are better than everyone and can do everything yourself.
- Boys are required to have a “knightly” attitude towards girls: the ability to let them pass ahead, to give way.
- Girls should also be able to be polite and know words of gratitude.
- In your relationship with each other there should be mutual support and in no case rude treatment, offensive nicknames or nicknames.
- Never respond with abuse to abuse, or rudeness to rudeness.
- Remember! Politeness is the best cure for anger, rudeness, and lack of culture.
– There are many rules, but the main thing in them is to take care of loved ones, always be friendly to people, and be able to be friends.
“Nothing costs us so little or is valued so dearly as politeness.” (From the novel “Don Quixote” by the Spanish writer Miguel Cervantes de Saavedra. Words of Don Quixote). You should always remember these words!
– And now we bring to your attention the scenes. Take a closer look, maybe you will recognize yourself in them.
1. Poem by A. Barto “Lyubochka”
– What is Lyubochka really like?
2. Sketch “Sporting Goods”.
Dad came with the children to the Sporting Goods store.
Dad promised to buy Nyusha a jump rope, and Fedya a ball. Fedya turned to the seller:
- Show it. My dad will buy me...
– Do you think Fedya approached the seller correctly?
– Teach Fedya how to talk to the seller.
Scene “In the store”
A mother and son are at the counter. The boy cries loudly:
- Oh, I want a hockey stick! Buy it, buy it!
“But you already have a hockey stick,” his mother persuades him, calm down, please don’t shout!
- And I want this one! Buy it!
– Do you think the boy behaves well? So how should it be? (Play out a scene).
– I hope that you will not repeat the mistakes of our heroes and will remember all these polite, magical words, treat each other carefully, kindly and know how to be friends.
Hello, dear readers! Today the topic of our conversation is words of politeness. When and how to teach a child to use such important words? What is the best way to introduce children to the concept of politeness, and, most importantly, teach them to use this knowledge in practice?
Let's first figure out what it means to be polite? Based on definitions, politeness is one of the character traits of a person, responsible for good manners, the ability to communicate courteously with others, to be respectful and sensitive. A polite person must know the rules of etiquette and use polite words.
Synonyms for the word “polite” in Russian are courteous, attentive, respectful, respectful, amiable. Antonyms for the word “polite” are harsh, rude, ill-mannered, discourteous.
What are the polite words?
There is a so-called “basic” list of polite words. They are divided into groups:
- Words of greeting and farewell: Hello; Hello; Good morning or Good morning; Good afternoon; Good evening; Good night; Goodbye.
- Words of forgiveness: Excuse me, please; Sorry; I'm sorry.
- Words of gratitude: Thank you; Thank you; Grateful.
- Request words: Please; Allow me, please; Let me please; We can ask you.
- Words of parting words, support, invitations, congratulations: Bon Voyage; Bravo; Be healthy; Welcome; Welcome; Help yourself; Nice to meet you; Enjoy your meal; Only after you; Let me introduce myself; Will you be so kind; Congratulations; Let me help you.
These words can be learned with your child. To simplify the task, special rhymes and songs have been invented. And a little later we will meet them!
How to learn politeness?
You should not expect that good manners will appear in your child on their own. Politeness is not an innate, but an acquired trait. To raise it, a child must constantly have a personal example before his eyes, and it is best for this to happen in the family. In addition, targeted politeness training is also needed. In this way, serious results can be achieved.
But you can’t say that you taught politeness once and that’s for the rest of your life. It is very important to constantly support and encourage the desire to be polite in children. Just so that they don’t stumble, don’t succumb to temptations from the outside. The world is huge and there is enough of everything in it. We regularly hear rude words, people addressing each other incorrectly, and profanity. And being a black sheep among “advanced” peers can be very difficult.
Poems and riddles for remembering polite words
There are special riddle poems for learning words of politeness with children:
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Clumsy dog Kostya
The mouse stepped on its tail.
They would quarrel
But he said "..."
(Sorry!)
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Having met a bunny, the hedgehog is a neighbor
He tells him: “...”
(Hello!)
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And his neighbor is big-eared
Answers: “Hedgehog, …”
(Hello!)
***
Don't be too lazy to tell your friends
Smiling...
(Good afternoon!)
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If you step on your foot
At least by chance, at least a little,
Just say: “I’m sorry”
Or better – “...”
(Sorry!)
***
Kicked out the cuckoo Roma
A strict nanny from home.
To everyone who will pamper,
To the house...
(Welcome!)
***
Saying goodbye to each other
We'll say...
(Goodbye!)
***
Wagtail from the shore
Dropped a worm
And fish for a treat
She gurgled: “...”
(Thank you!)
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Lisa Matryona says:
“Give me the cheese, crow!
The cheese is big, and you are small!
I’ll tell everyone that I didn’t!”
You, Lisa, don't complain,
And say: "..."
(Please!)
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Fat cow Lula
She was eating hay and sneezed.
So as not to sneeze again,
We will tell her: “...”
(Be healthy!)
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If the parrot Gosha
He will give a good concert in the jungle,
Everyone will applaud
They won’t forget to say “…”!
(Bravo!)
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If we bake cookies,
For a treat for all my friends,
We will tell them: “Don’t be shy,
To your health..."
(Help yourself!)
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Moth at sunset
Flew into the light.
We are, of course, glad to meet you.
Let's tell the guest: "..."
(Good evening!)
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Katya baby Ignatka
Put me to bed in bed -
He doesn't want to play anymore
Speaks: "…"
(Good night!)
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Deer at two o'clock
The fox came to visit.
Fawns and deer
They told her: “...”
(Good afternoon!)
Samuel Marshak “Lessons in Politeness”:
A bear about five or six years old
Taught how to behave:
- When visiting, bear, you can’t roar.
You can't be rude or arrogant.
We must bow to our acquaintances,
Hats off to them
Don't step on paws
And don't catch fleas with your teeth,
And don't walk on four.
No need to slurp and yawn,
And who yawns to his heart's content,
He should cover it with his paw
A gaping mouth.
Be obedient and be polite
And give way to passers-by
And respect the old ones.
And grandma bear
In fog and ice
Accompany you home!
So Mishka is five or six years old
Taught how to behave...
Although he seemed polite,
He remained bearish.
He bowed to his neighbors -
Foxes and bears,
I gave up my place to acquaintances,
He took his hat off to them.
And strangers attacked
The whole heel is on the paw.
Sticking my nose where it shouldn't be,
He trampled the grass and crushed the oats.
Belly up
In public on the subway.
And the old people, the old women
Threatened to break a rib.
A bear about five or six years old
They taught us how to behave.
But, apparently, the teachers
Wasted time!
You need to discuss poems with children, ask questions, invite them to think and remember. For kids, you can choose beautiful books with poems. They are simple and easy to remember, especially in a playful way. Heroes of poems, fairy tales, and cartoons will clearly show why and how to be polite.
It is very important that members of the family in which the child is being raised also communicate politely with each other, using the words “thank you,” “please,” and “sorry.”
Always try to be the first to say hello, thank, and say goodbye, without waiting for the child to remember about it. At the same time, explain to your child the rules of politeness, who needs to be greeted and who not, etc.
Be sure to take into account the child’s age during the learning process and praise him for successes and achievements, even small ones. And don’t forget that your child takes his example from you! Therefore, carefully evaluate how politely you behave with your acquaintances and friends. Maybe something needs to be adjusted? Start with yourself!
Learn with your children politeness, sincerity and finding the right words. This is a huge contribution to the future! And then you will always be pleased to watch the behavior of children.
Songs and cartoons about politeness can be found here:
Happiness to you and your children!