Self-esteem is the feeling that you are worthy of love. Kryon says that most people born before 1989 did not have an innate sense of self-worth. But this is not our fault. There are two reasons for this that are beyond our control. The first

Exercise 4 Training a state of security with self-esteem Connect with your Divine center, remind yourself of your Divine dignity. Repeat several times: “I am priceless in the eyes of God. I am extremely valuable in the eyes of God.” Feel it

Assistants in special cases. To find any bright dream in the world. Only a pure soul is able to find a bright dream in the world. And an evil person who only dreams of realizing his selfish plans can destroy himself and the world around with his dreams. But the Lord sees everything and

Affirmations for Self-Esteem I am a self-esteemed being of Light on an exciting journey through this beautiful Earth at this wonderful time. I honor and thank my earthly parents for

Affirmations for self-respect, self-esteem and protection from other people's influences I am a beautiful Divine being, I am an angel in human form. My Divine essence is eternal, perfect and invulnerable. I am the Spirit who is the spark of God in all things

Self-Respect If a woman does not respect herself and does not feel valued, then she is not a welcome prize for a man. A man needs a prize for his achievements and masculinity. If a woman does not feel like a prize and behaves inappropriately

To gain wisdom and peace The source of inner wisdom was given to me from birth. There, in the depths of my soul, lie all the answers to my questions. By right of birth, by nature, I already possess the truth I need! And now I am discovering for myself the source of this truth in the very

Compatibility test
Our home is a reflection of ourselves. Think about who you are and what kind of home you want to live in. It happens that our apartments are completely unsuitable for our temperament: we don’t feel “at home” in them. Every day, when we come home from work, we feel as if we are visiting or in a hotel, and everything around us tells us: “You are a stranger here.”

This can happen for various reasons. For example, you did not take part in the design of this apartment, or you yourself have changed over time. It's no secret that our tastes and preferences can change over the years. And some interior solutions that previously seemed wonderful now do not cause any emotions other than irritation and alienation. In such a situation, of course, something needs to be changed.

Light, light and more light
This recommendation especially applies to urban residents. Let as much sunlight into your apartment as possible! Sunlight gives energy, activity, a positive attitude, and promotes the production of vitamins and hormones. Clean the windows and be sure to keep the curtains open.

On the other hand, sunlight is only good at the right moment. Early in the morning or late in the evening, bright light (whether natural or artificial) can cause confusion with the production of hormones that regulate sleep cycles - cortisol and melatonin. Because of this, you may wake up too early or, conversely, have difficulty falling asleep in the evening.

Therefore, ideally, of course, it is necessary to provide the ability to smoothly adjust the degree of illumination. For example, it is convenient to open curtains using a remote control, and control the brightness of light bulbs by turning the rheostat.

Purity-guarantee of health
How many times have they told the world: surfaces littered with things are the path to a depressed mood, fatigue and apathy. If you've been accumulating all sorts of small things on shelves, tables and chests of drawers for years, you shouldn't spend a lot of time setting yourself up, hoping to solve this problem “in one sitting.” Try making it a habit to put, say, five things back in their place each time you leave a room (or take them straight to the trash can).

If you have children, they usually really enjoy this game. Invite them to keep a box called “23 Things Went in the Garbage.” Or 35 things, or 17 - in a word, any uneven number. The box can be covered with beautiful paper, an applique can be made, and children can decorate it with inscriptions or funny pictures. And the essence of the game is this: weekly, together with your children, you walk around the apartment and collect exactly 23 (35, 17, etc.) things in this box that are no longer needed, but for some reason have not yet been thrown away.

This activity is fun, invigorating and helps clear away years of debris. Even if you don’t have children, play this game yourself: your inner child will certainly appreciate it.

Feng Shui and other medicines
You can approach the practice of Feng Shui and the like in any way you like. However, if you borrow from them some ways to improve the microclimate in the house, it definitely won’t get any worse.

Find out what exactly Feng Shui experts recommend. It is not necessary to follow all the tips without exception - use the ones you like the most. Perhaps Eastern teachings will advise you to have a thing in your house that you have long dreamed of - so why not please the eye every time you enter an apartment or a specific room.

Kinesthetic paradise: soft and warm
Even if you don’t know who kinesthetic people are, or, on the contrary, you think that you are a strong visual person, know that soft textures help you calm down and cope with aggression. These could be fluffy blankets or sheepskin rugs...

However, if you are truly a kinesthetic person, then in the case of sheep skin, pay attention to the smell. Natural skins can have a specific smell - others won’t even notice, but for you it will be unacceptable. The same nuance should be taken into account by people suffering from migraines or severe headaches.

Think about the image of yourself that you strive for. Among various kinds of achievements, find in this image inner strength, something elusive that makes your personality fulfilled, harmonious and delighting others with its uniqueness and individuality.

There is one thing that a person must learn - to understand his own soul deep within himself, and remain true to it.

This is self-esteem, self-respect and unshakable self-confidence!

This is the most valuable wealth of every person, because it determines how much well-being you allow yourself to have. It is self-esteem that subconsciously influences the quality of life you create for yourself: how you assess your own capabilities and what results you will ultimately have.

Fortunately, like other beneficial qualities, self-esteem can be developed.

We offer several useful strategies that will help you become more confident in your own abilities every day and, as a result, increase the quantity and quality of your own victories.

1. Realize your uniqueness! There are billions of people in the world, but each person is unique! There is no other person who would have the same set of qualities, skills, values, desires as you, and who would show all this in the same form and with the same intentions as you do. Because every person has a unique personality and beauty! This alone is enough to love and appreciate yourself!

2. Plan manifestation of one’s own unique abilities in practice. Planning is one of the important components of internal success. It’s better to plan in the evening, so you set up your subconscious for a productive day and can see in advance at what time and what you need to do. Planning will prevent you from chaos and inaction.

The importance of this was emphasized by the world famous business philosopher Jim Rohn: “Every time we decide to do less than we can, this mistake affects our self-confidence. By repeating it day after day, we will soon discover that we not only do less than we could, but we are also less than we could be. The cumulative effect of such a mistake can be personally devastating.”

And what is probably the most pleasant thing about sticking to your own plans is that it leads to positive self-esteem!

3. Take a responsible approach to improving your self-esteem. This is an integral part of your development as a person! It will be easier for you to believe in yourself and take more from life if you have convincing reasons for this.

By the way, psychologists say that low self-esteem is the most common cause of depression!

4. Don't forget to encourage and praise yourself for your achievements. This should become your HABIT! Get a notebook and write down in it every day everything that you have done well today: these could be items in a completed plan, resolving a conflict situation, helping someone, a good deed, just a good mood all day. Anything for which you can be proud of yourself and for which you can be happy. Be attentive to such moments and collect everything that could influence your positive conversation about yourself.

Remember that by your nature you already have inner strength, and by the right of your birth you are worthy of living in harmony with yourself, worthy of happiness, abundance and all the best!

Psychological workshop (Your homework)

You can help gain self-esteem by using the recommendations given above and doing the powerful “Talk to the Mirror” exercise as homework. By doing this exercise daily, you will gain inner strength, begin to live in harmony and connect with your uniqueness!

Go to the mirror. Say your name while looking into your eyes:

1. Say: “I am proud...” and list 7 things for which you are now proud of yourself.
2. Say: “I forgive you for...”, forgive yourself for what has been holding you back for perhaps many years. Name 7 things for which you forgive yourself.
3. Support yourself. Tell yourself: “I promise you...” and take a step towards a new quality of life. Commit to yourself to be committed to this choice.

Often in consultations and seminars I am asked about how to learn not to let in unnecessary things: rich food, useless information, other people's stories, unnecessary people and outdated relationships, in other words, everything that overloads the body, mind and soul?

Let's start with the fact that giving “advice” like closing your mouth, door and mind from what comes from the outside is useless: they don’t work, since the reasons pushing for excessive consumption lie outside the context of willpower and character. Willpower and character are only part of what is needed to gain a sense of proportion in everything.

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I would like to say right away that not taking too much does not mean being content with little, because belittling oneself is, in essence, the other side of greed, a transition from gluttony to starvation rations, from which there is also no benefit.

By diminishing ourselves in what is necessary and significant, we block our own ability to desire and act in the direction of what we want, which always has a detrimental effect on mental and physical health.

In the minds of most people, there are two main scenarios: either to absorb everything “orphaned” that lies badly, or to give up desires completely, hiding behind the slogan “we are poor but proud.” Stuck within these polarities, a person provides himself with a painful choice, in which he loses the main thing: his own identity, or, in simple terms, himself.

The medal, which we wear on our chest with pride or apprehension, depending on the choice made, clearly demonstrates the idea stuck in our heads about “how to live,” which, like a dragon with two heads, alternately stings first in one place and then in the other. another place - either “everything goes to the house, both necessary and not”, or “I don’t need anything.”

Within such a framework, a person can exist all his life without ever finding the golden mean of applying his own strength. This is not surprising, because the truth, as usual, lies beyond the extremes.

Instead of choosing “either/or”, a decision in the context of “both/and” is possible. That is: both accept yourself and be happy with everything that you have now (and if you dig deep, each of us will find a lot of reasons for joy), but also continue to want more (but not too much - the difference between these two concepts is significant), committing steps in his direction.

That is, to combine contentment in the present and plans for the future, giving both a plus sign. With such an attitude towards yourself and life chance to be happy in the present and set clear, measurable and achievable goals for the future much higher.

Finding Joy in Life It becomes possible when a person learns not to painfully choose between values ​​that are equivalent to himself, but looks for a way to get both.

But in order to learn to be happy with what you have now, it is not enough to decide on this “from Monday”. Such an attitude requires being in a state of completeness of oneself, the derivatives of which are calm, order and self-sufficiency, coming from within.

The answer to the question " how to enjoy life?“comes only when a person accepts his own identity, relates to himself, lives based on the understanding of “I am I,” freed from the intention of hiding behind someone or something external.

When the deep knowledge “I simply am” appears (as a fact, I am, and that’s all), then everything that a person encounters in life will be viewed through the prism of this knowledge, and therefore there is simply no place for the superfluous and unnecessary.

If you are full of yourself, you automatically have the most important thing - a playful, joyful, free self, called self-awareness, the purpose of which is to live. And to live, you need to be: light, healthy, loud, passionate, interested - at any age.

But there is a nuance here - in order to live from your own “I”, it is important to learn to separate the true from the false, your own from someone else’s, that is, to understand what my real “I” is. How to find peace and understand that you operate from a state of completeness and self-sufficiency? How to learn to make decisions that can be called “your own”?

At the end of the article, you will be offered recommendations and exercises that will help activate and strengthen this state. But for now I can say: in order to distinguish between the authentic self and the superficial self, it is important first of all to become an observer of yourself - your choices, wishes and emotional reactions. And to do this, pass any of your actions through the question “why?”

That is, “why do I need this, what do I want to do with this, what is my goal in all this and what is the value of what I want for me personally?” And learn to answer these questions honestly and to the point - every time, even in moments when the questions seem difficult and the answers are ambiguous.

This way, the very “I” will gradually appear on which you can rely - an internal core, a filter of perception, thanks to which it will become much easier to distinguish the true from the false. This is a very precise criterion aimed at understanding - everything that makes me strong, energetic and young is for my good, while everything that takes away the feeling of flight and joy is harmful.

In this case finding joy in life becomes possible thanks to liberation from endless doubts and anxieties regarding numerous “shoulds and don’ts”, “goes and don’ts”, “does and don’ts”, etc.

Through awareness of one’s own “I” and its needs, one comes to know exactly what is needed at each moment of time, and accordingly, as much attention, energy and effort is given to it as required - no more and no less.

For example, if a person ate a lot because food “closed” his inner emptiness, replaced his missing emotions, then finding his own “I”, he begins to perceive food adequately, paying tribute to the taste and benefits, but remembering that initially food is, First of all, the energy resource necessary to maintain life.

Now that the source of joy is within oneself, one can finally just eat—without gasping for “goodies” or without the constant fear of extra calories. And the task " how to enjoy life and at the same time not depend on food” ceases to seem unsolvable.

This position is relevant in relation to everything that comes into our lives, since the true “I” becomes an accurate criterion that does not need excesses. It is impossible to train such a sense of proportion without the presence of internal completeness, because if “I” does not exist for myself, I will always look for someone who will confirm my existence, and almost any person is suitable for this role (as well as food, property, position), the main thing is to have time to “grab” it, and therefore figure out what’s what and how much you need it.

Of course, gaining self-awareness (the understanding that “I am I”) is not an easy process. For this to happen, time must pass when a person lives “without himself”, because the request for true freedom can only be born from imprisonment, otherwise - if everything is relatively “normal” - where will the motivation to change anything come from?

The complexity of the birth of self-awareness largely lies in the fact that gaining internal completeness is impossible without losing external conditioning. In other words, in order to be spiritually born, one must, in a certain sense, die, having loosened the fastenings in the usual social mask that a person wears and to which he is accustomed.

But, as I wrote above, it is possible to leave this prison, starting with very simple and clear questions to ourselves: “What am I doing, why and why?” Learn to question yourself, ask yourself uncomfortable questions and look for answers to them.

Plus, it is important to stop supporting stereotypes and attitudes aimed at consolidation in one role, for example: “I am a mother and wife”, “I am a worker”, “I am weak and small”, “I never give up” “I always I’m holding the line,” etc.

This is only a small part of what a person learns about himself in the process of education and socialization, and carries with him throughout life. However, if you allow yourself to shake these colossi, under the pile of what you are used to thinking about yourself, you can discover the real you - your true self.

To make it completely clear what I’m talking about, I’ll give an example. Any conditioning always comes from a certain role and mask that a person wears without realizing it and without being familiar with it.

One of the most common masks is that of a “good person” who always says “yes” to everyone, is afraid of offending others, takes into account the opinions of others, while leaving his own in second and even third place. Such tactics of behavior are dictated by the role that a person plays, without wanting to do so and, especially, without understanding what other options he has.

What will be his solution in this case? AND how to find peace, which will come from within? The first thing is to start asking questions:

“Why should I be good? Who do I want to please? And why is this important to me?

Accordingly, answer them honestly and directly. And secondly, when it becomes more or less clear what the reason for dependence on this mask is, learn to get out of it. Live outside its boundaries. For example, say “no” every other time, defend your boundaries, declare your own rights, and so on. That is, having seen your role, begin to see yourself not only as its bearer, but also as a person who has the choice to behave differently.

And as soon as it becomes possible to allow oneself to simply be different, it is from this moment that truly close relationships become real, a truly interesting and beloved activity appears, and a person gradually gains everything that he has been missing for so long - from a dream figure to understanding and realizing your purpose.

This is the versatility of the recipe called “how not to take too much.” Having found oneself, unnecessary things become unnecessary, but true desires, which help the true “I” shine even brighter, become completely natural goals to which a person goes without unnecessary doubts, takes what he needs without distortion and anxiety, thereby enriching not only himself, but also the world in which he lives. And this is it - finding joy in life, without which there is no feeling that you live, that life is yours, and you can control it to some extent.

By the way, this approach, due to its novelty, requires some training, but “you quickly get used to good things” and learn quickly, and therefore, having felt what it is like to act from one’s “I,” a person gains an understanding that is much deeper and more fundamental than everything he knew up to this point.

How to find peace and fulfillment with yourself - practical steps and recommendations:

How can we learn to “be, live, love and rejoice”? How to gain that very core called self-awareness? What to do, understand, learn in order to be able to rely on yourself in a variety of different and rather difficult situations?

Most likely, there is no clear answer to these questions for the simple reason that self-awareness is not a muscle that can be trained. But! By making intentional efforts about your life, the chance of feeling more confident and stable increases significantly.

What kind of effort is this? What are they? What are they aimed at? As you know, in order to get your results, you can and should act on all fronts. For a person, these are the following spheres: bodily, sensory-emotional, intellectual (sphere of consciousness). Accordingly, by paying focused attention to each area, a person significantly strengthens his “I”.

Below I suggest you pay attention to each of the areas and “work through” them.

As for nutrition, a gradual transition to so-called “intuitive nutrition” will be essential, in which a person learns to feel “his” food, how much food he needs and at what point in time.

The task is to start eating not because “it’s the right way” or because you’re so used to it, but to learn to feel it for yourself and check - is this really what I really need now? Eating enough food is a great way to “turn on” your body, begin to revitalize it, understand and live in accordance with its rhythms and needs.

• Body practices aimed at awareness of your body. I would like to offer several such practices for your attention.

energy recovery exercise:

Imagine that there is a tubular channel in your foot that starts on one sole, goes up the inside of your leg, goes around the space between your legs and continues in the other leg, ending in the middle of the sole - in the form of a rainbow.

As you inhale, feel how a stream of air enters your channels through the soles of your feet and rushes to the surface, reaching the perineum, filling your lower abdomen with energy. As you exhale, feel how your breath flows down the channels, releasing all the negative energy into the ground.

In this way, you exchange energy, throwing off negative energy and filling yourself with positive energy. Do this 9 times, ending with filling the last time, leaving the energy at the top.

exercise “4-step breathing”:

The rhythm of breathing is directly related to the rhythm of life and vice versa; moreover, being a controlled process, it allows you to harmonize the rhythm of the heartbeat, which directly affects the quality of energy and health.

Sit comfortably, making sure that your spine is as long as possible. Inhale-pause-inhale, exhale-pause-exhale. Repeat all this 9 times, slowing down your breathing rhythm. Repeat this exercise for 2-3 weeks, doing it while walking, running, doing work, playing sports, etc. When you train yourself to breathe like this, your thoughts will flow more smoothly, feelings will become deeper, actions will be filled with strength and determination, and energy will flow over the edge.

exercise “The habit of always keeping your stomach tucked”:

Get into the habit of keeping your stomach from the pubic bone to the navel slightly tense, as if slightly pressing the abdominal organs inward. Periodically remember this technique and tuck your stomach, pull it in, tense it.

This, as it were, “seals” and “packages” the energy of the downward flow, saturating the internal organs with it. In addition, thanks to this exercise, a person develops correct posture.

Taking care of feelings is, first and second, a connection with the inner world – your own and other people’s, with what excites you/them, worries you, makes you experience certain emotions. Thirdly, a close connection with the world of beauty and art.

• Taking care of your feelings means asking questions:

“What happens to me in connection with this or that event? What I feel? Is this good or bad for me? For what reason am I experiencing these feelings/emotions, etc.”

• Caring about the feelings of others means asking similar questions in relation to another person:

"What about him? Is everything okay? Perhaps I don’t know something about him and his life? What should I pay attention to in order to communicate better with him, etc.” It is also important to establish and intentionally build high-quality emotional contacts and develop substantive communication.

• Connection with the world of art: periodically listen to music (optimally in a relaxed state), especially classical. If you wish, sign up for singing and vocal lessons, go to a creative studio, or join a hobby group. Visit exhibitions, theatre, watch original films. Immerse yourself in the world of art in order to develop a craving for beauty.

Taking care of your consciousness is mainly an opportunity to be and remain “on”, that is, interested in the world in which you live. And also consciously develop this interest. For this:

• think and write down what interests you and find an opportunity to study it;
• pass any incoming information and/or proposals through the filter question: “why do I need this?” or “what do I want to do with this?”;
• explore the contents of your consciousness - all those attitudes and beliefs that came to you from the outside; learn to question them (who told me this and when, how much does it help me live today?). Ideally, do this with a psychologist.
• For 3 weeks, every day before going to bed, praise yourself for everything that helped you become better, kinder and more beautiful, that strengthened your self-awareness, that brought you closer to yourself, helped you see yourself as a person who is interested in himself and the world around him.

So, gradually developing and strengthening each of the areas (ideally, it is better to do this in parallel), on the one hand, you get to know yourself better, on the other, you get to know the world around you and learn to enter into high-quality communication with it. And through this - to return to yourself again as a more strengthened and self-sufficient person.

And then the questions “How to find peace of mind?”, “How to enjoy life?” will cease to be difficult and even painful for you, and actually finding joy in life will turn out to be an easy and pleasant hobby that you will begin to practice every hour and day of your life.

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