Therefore, if you are thinking that you need to somehow develop and improve yourself, you can take note of the following tips. Remember that self-development is complex actions based on your desire, independent studies and exercises aimed at improving your life.
Where to begin?
- Advice one. First of all, your self-development and self-improvement should give you pleasure. You do this primarily for yourself, so that later you can be in a more advantageous position over others, in order to use your knowledge and be sure that knowledgeable people will be able to appreciate it.
- Tip two. Realize whether you understand these concepts correctly and what they mean to you.
Self-development is a natural process that can take place both without a person’s control and under his guidance in the area or area he needs. This can include the skills that a person acquires throughout his life and life experience itself, the lessons that a person learns from past situations.
Uncontrolled self-development is the process itself, which is called life: birth, growing up, aging.
Controlled self-development is a conscious and purposeful action aimed at improving any qualities, skills, abilities, through independent studies and exercises of one’s own free will and desire, without outside assistance.
Self-development can be of two types: intellectual and physical.
Self-improvement is the result of self-development. In the process of self-improvement, you improve or completely change some aspect of your life.
Once you understand the concepts, it will be easier for you to work on yourself.
Tip three. Review your life in all areas and areas. What have you achieved, what have you achieved, what goals have you fulfilled and what desires have you fulfilled.
Try to find your weaknesses. Make an action plan for how you will work on yourself in what sequence and in what area.
Approximate analysis
- Physical training. You are overweight or you think you don't look attractive enough, maybe you should exercise, either join a gym or do exercises at home.
- Health. Your daily routine. How healthy are you eating? Having bad habits. Weakened immunity. Eliminate less healthy foods from your diet, give up bad habits, and strengthen your immune system.
- Your spiritual side. How often do you suffer from outbursts of anger, envy, depression, bad mood, and stress? What irritates you and how often do you lose your temper? Learn to relax, meditate, treat yourself and people easier. Set yourself in a positive mood. Give up destructive emotions such as envy, anger, anger.
- Your financial situation. Are you satisfied with everything, how satisfied are you with your situation at the moment? Maybe it’s worth changing something or acquiring an additional profession or improving your qualifications.
- Your relationship with others. Do you often have conflicts with others, do you know how to control your emotions, what are your relationships like in your family or personal life. Learn to communicate and talk, have a constructive conversation, look for compromises. Learn to work as a team.
- Intellectual development. How attentive are you to the events around you and what is happening around you. How are things going with memory? Do you know how to think broadly and see a problem from all sides? Develop creative thinking, set yourself goals and achieve them, plan your time.
You can also simplify this diagram a little and make a list of questions. Sample questions:
- What don't I like about myself?
- What doesn’t suit the people close to me about me?
- What don't my colleagues like about me?
- What do I need to achieve?
- What do I want to change?
- How to do it?
There may be several answers to these questions; in order to choose the right approach, write down all the answers and arrange them in order of greatest importance to you. You can make a table with the name graph: what doesn’t suit you on the one hand and possible solutions on the other. Or draw a circle, divide it into sectors and write the answers to the questions there.
After you have analyzed your life, you can begin self-development. To do this, you need to choose one of the most neglected or problematic areas, set a goal and achieve it. If such an area has not been found and all your areas of life are approximately at the same level, then you can start either from simple to complex, or, conversely, from complex to simple. In this way, you will gradually correct your shortcomings. To see what you're working on, write down your goal and options for achieving it below it.
Tip four. Always have a positive attitude in everything. You must believe that you will succeed. Don't stop there and move on to the next goal. Don't listen when they tell you that you can't do something or won't succeed. Rely only on your own strengths and yourself as a whole. Here only you decide what to do.
Tip five. Don’t be discouraged if something doesn’t work out, look for a different approach, develop other techniques and start over. Don't give up. Failures are meant to test your strength. They retreated, which means they couldn’t cope and didn’t really want to move forward. You will end up with a more complex problem and will have to work twice as hard. If you pulled yourself together and didn’t give up, it means you want to move forward and develop.
Tip six. Read books, do not hesitate to buy books that help in matters of self-development and self-improvement. Moreover, now there is enormous access to Internet resources that are dedicated to improving one’s life and self-development in general and in individual areas, which can be studied both for free and by purchasing a full course.
Tip seven. Write down your successes; for progressive work on yourself, you can indicate the time frame within which this goal should be implemented or achieved. Set a realistic time period so that later you won’t be upset that you didn’t meet the allotted time.
Tip eight. You should always have motivation and a ready, clear answer for why you are engaged in self-development and self-improvement. First of all, you do this for yourself. If someone doubts your abilities and intentions, do not take their words seriously, these people themselves simply cannot muster the strength and start working on themselves.
Tip nine. Be realistic, write realistic goals and realistic deadlines for completing the task.
Tip ten. Know how to control your emotions, sometimes it is better to remain silent than to rage. Give up the negativity.
Tip eleven. You can get yourself a notebook in which you will write down your goals and dreams. Also a separate notebook for writing down the goal and options for achieving it.
Always remember that it is never too late to develop yourself, and that most importantly, the process of self-improvement is ongoing. When you have achieved some goals and realized that your development has become a little higher, move up further, look for new goals and tasks.
Planning your time can help you in self-development. If you don’t have time for a lot or don’t know what time to engage in self-development, then schedule your day. First, on the tasks that you perform and those tasks that need to be done. After that, pay attention to how much time it takes you to complete a specific task. To create a planner for your time, write down on a piece of paper the tasks and time period for completing each task. The next day, try to follow the plan that you made for yourself. If it doesn’t work out, then you can either reduce the number of tasks or reduce the time of some items, allocating more time to what you don’t have time for.
| Heading:Self-development, personal growth, personal effectiveness- these are the topics closest to the theme of my blog about happiness. I think that anyone who thinks about happiness and takes steps towards becoming happy sooner or later poses the question - how to develop themselves? Which way to pull? Which direction to follow? And without personal effectiveness in our modern society there is absolutely nowhere. You can’t even go on the ice :) If you haven’t had time to deal with these questions, then don’t be upset - the answers to them are already ready. How to develop yourself? Bloggers of the Russian-speaking Runet asked themselves this question several years ago. All you have to do is choose the one that best suits your spirit and honor it. My rating, I hope, will help you with this.
The idea for this post arose as a result of completing (and at the same time me too:) as part of a marathon to increase the number of visitors to the blog in which I am participating. We were given the task of finding competitors, and for two days I buried myself in the most interesting texts and books. The result is this list of the best blogs on the topics of self-development, personal growth and personal effectiveness. So let's get started.
How to develop yourself? The best blogs on the topic of personal growth and personal effectiveness.
- www.lifeidea.org I put Mikhail Suboch’s blog “Effective, interesting, happy life” first in my rating, not because I took it from him and he put mine on his list of the best sites about self-development. Rather, I interviewed him, because I was immediately captivated by his manner of writing, clearly formulating thoughts and ability to present to the reader only the most necessary, essential things. It seems that there is no topic about self-development that he would not write about, and a technique that he would not try on himself over the years of the existence of his blog. The fact that he learned to get up at five in the morning deserves great respect :) In general, I recommend it!
- http://kolesnik.ru/ This blog immediately amazed me with the number of readers - 8463! Either something is wrong here, or just right. After reading what the blog author Vitaly Kolesnik offers, I immediately realized that this is what is needed for those who wondered - how to develop yourself. Now Vitaly works as a trainer and conducts special trainings on self-development in the Czech Republic. I was just dying to come there myself :)
- http://www.samorazwitie.ru The author of the blog “Self-development and success”, which describes the context of the blog as “Personal growth, effective communication, productive work, time management and also a lot of kind words addressed to pop psychology” works incognito (in any case case, I didn’t find his names on the blog). This doesn’t stop him from writing thoughtful, interesting posts about how to develop yourself and lead an effective life. If you love individualism, this blog is for you!
- http://newgoal.ru/ The author of a blog named Andrey publishes articles on the blog, both his own and those written by others, which he considers interesting, dedicated to personal growth. And he has already accumulated a great many such articles. Everything is very useful. What pleased me was the versatility of the author. He publishes a variety of perspectives on personal growth and self-development issues. I recommend!
- http://improve-me.ru Blog of the girl Alexandra about self-development and personal growth. She doesn't have as many subscribers as previous blogging gurus, but I couldn't ignore her blog. Firstly, not many girls write (well write:) about self-development, and secondly, her blog is really informative and interesting. I think it will be especially interesting for the female half, since the approaches to self-development of men and women are still different.
- http://www.yourfreedom.ru/ Blog of Dmitry Balezin. He has been working on the topic of self-development and personal growth since 2004 and has already managed to write a book on this topic. Its advertising on every page is the only thing that prevents self-development with the help of his blog :) Everything else only helps. There are a lot of articles and all are useful. I recommend!
You will receive an answer to your question where to start self-development after reading this article. Here I will share with you a technique that will keep you busy just 40 minutes a day. These classes will be your answer to the question of how to start self-development right now! No lifestyle changes are required from you at the moment, just 40 minutes of practice daily! Almost immediately you will feel relaxation, improved well-being, and it will not require lengthy preparation from you. But more on that later, first let me start with a preface.
By typing this article, I feel a huge responsibility. Because I am well aware of what a delicate, careful attitude a person requires towards himself at the moment of searching for the starting point from which self-development begins.
How and when to start self-development? How it should NOT be started.
That is why I will try to give the most clear and most appropriate answer to the main question of this article. But not every answer can be successful, no matter how accurately it does not reflect the main stages of self-development, there is always a danger that this answer can scare you away, make you give up precisely at that moment, which may turn out to be the most responsible, important moment in your life when it is determined whether you will follow the path of self-improvement or continue to live your previous life. I'll explain this a little below.
Many information sources trying to answer the question " how to start self-development?“, dump a bunch of advice on the reader. These tips cannot be called harmful or incorrect. They are simply untimely. Since they propose to begin making fundamental changes in lifestyle, habits, daily routine, social relationships, etc., in general, radically revise the existing, familiar state of affairs.
Such advice, calling for drastic, rapid changes, requires colossal willpower and energy in the person to whom they are addressed. After all, not everyone is able to immediately give up their favorite habits, and begin to organize their free and work time, stop aimless, unproductive wandering on the Internet and take up reading books or other sources that contribute to the self-development of the individual along with general erudition.
People get used to their way of life, for this reason they are not able to, with the wave of a magic wand, rebuild it and begin to change for the better. Moreover, such a radical transition to new habits, as well as routines, requires such things as willpower, character, determination, focus on the goal, the ability to make decisions, and bear responsibility for them. But these things are components of personality development, they develop as you go through the stages of self-development.
And if someone asks " where to start self-development”, then the conclusion is drawn that this “someone” is still only at the origins of this path and, therefore, may not possess some of the above-mentioned qualities.
It turns out that in the service of a good goal there was a wrong approach. My task is harmonious self-improvement, which I understand as the balanced development of intellectual, physical, aesthetic, social and spiritual qualities. We are not going to rush anywhere just yet. After all, I do not offer any quick solutions, but am aimed at the progressive gradual formation of you as an individual.
How to start self-development today
Therefore, I am not going to expect any rapid changes from you, but I will suggest starting small. From such a “small” thing, which will not be a challenge to your usual way of life, will not take up a lot of your time and effort (you will only need 40 minutes of time a day). But later, with regular practice, it will bring a lot of life benefits. And only then, gradually, when the time comes, you will begin to make changes in your life, in your character, in your environment.
You will have time to decide what you really want, what qualities to develop, what to focus on and where to move, but this still requires some help, a springboard. You can start by forming this “springboard” right today, without postponing it for the future, because it does not require special training or special skills.
I would like to emphasize once again that the use of this Eastern practice has been successfully reflected in Western culture, proving its effectiveness within the framework of exercises on relaxation, control of consciousness and neutralization of states of mental discomfort, maintaining discipline, moving from the field of esoteric knowledge to the field of scientific knowledge. Meditation is an effective tool for self-development!
But there must be a clear understanding that this practice is not an end in itself, just as for a runner the development of leg muscles is not the ultimate goal, it is simply a tool to achieve the desired result: for the runner it is victory in a running competition, and for you it is a harmonious and balanced self-development. You meditate not in order to ideally master the technique of meditation (although mastering it would be quite good, even necessary), but in order to make it easier to grow and develop as a person.
Personal growth is probably possible without meditation, but since I am speaking from my own experience, I am talking about what has helped me. I don't know any other ways. For me, meditation served as an impetus for moving forward and the beginning of self-development. Finally, after a long prelude, there was a specific and clear answer to the question of how to start self-development: “start meditating!”
Firstly, as I already wrote, this will not take more than 40 minutes a day, it does not require any special conditions (you don’t have to give up everything to collect your belongings and leave for Tibet :-)). You can even do it on public transport on the way to work/school. Although it is advisable to still do this in calm atmosphere. But if this is not possible, then even the metro will do).
Is meditation difficult?
You don't need to have a lot of training to start meditating! You will master the technique with practice, it will come with time. Also, you don't have to change your habits right away, just add meditation in the morning and evening to your daily routine. The main condition is to do this regularly, don't forget and don't forget, only then will you feel the beneficial effect.
The effect manifests itself differently for everyone. I have it in six months. Don't let this deadline scare you: There will be no immediate results!. You must firmly understand this and come to terms with this thought. In my opinion, instant results are a myth, a phantom. All important, fundamental changes in personality are long and gradual character) So where to start?
Meditation is your practice, which will provide you with the necessary skills for self-development; it is a kind of fundamental exercise that you need to start doing first of all. This is also necessary, just as a beginning gymnast should start by stretching before moving on to everything else.
First, familiarize yourself with the theory in, and then you can begin the practice itself. Remember, no one is rushing you, you don’t need to have time to read it all in the shortest possible time. If you are too lazy to study all this theoretical material, then start practicing right away, but at least read the conclusions outlined in the first step.
In conclusion, I would like to note that although the main long-term effect of meditation does not appear immediately, you will feel some positive changes almost immediately after starting practice. This is because you will simply be regularly relax and put your thoughts in order(this refers to instant effects), which is already good. In addition, you introduce a mandatory exercise into your routine, which you will do every day, strictly twice a day for 20 minutes per session, this will already introduce some minimal additional order into your life (whatever you do every day, it doesn’t matter meditation this is exercise or daily jogging). This teaches you to keep your promises to yourself, to maintain discipline, which is perhaps one of the most significant stages of self-development.
I hope you are ready to get started. Wish you luck!
First, you need to define the concepts of self-development and self-improvement: how they differ and what methods are used.
Self-development is a person’s independently organized work on himself, the result of which is intellectual, personal and spiritual growth, the emergence of new knowledge and skills.
The next stage is self-improvement, i.e. bringing a person’s moral, moral, intellectual abilities and skills to a higher level.
In the process of self-development or self-improvement, a person understands that he is doing the right thing, his intelligence grows, social behavior changes, his health improves, and his appearance improves. Following this, it increases. Intellectual growth entails personal growth, i.e. a person becomes calmer, more confident, and harmonious in his social manifestations.
Reasons for self-development and self-improvement
The reasons behind the desire to become better are based on basic human needs (according to Maslow's pyramid). There are three main reasons:
As part of the first reason, people start playing sports, quit smoking, and try to eat right.
The second reason forces a person to acquire the necessary knowledge, skills and abilities.
The third reason is identical to self-improvement, when a person strives to know his Self and improve his existing achievements.
Where to start self-development
The very first and most important thing in this process is to decide what it is needed for, and what goals are facing a person who has embarked on the path of improvement.
For a more complete and profound understanding of the final goal, it is necessary to imagine, realize and feel it. This can be done using a complete muscle relaxation procedure. You need to sit in a comfortable position, preferably alone with yourself, close your eyes, and in complete silence concentrate your attention, will, and emotions on your goal. You need to feel it, realize it, imagine it materially. 
After such an immersion, the brain begins to think clearly and work towards the task at hand. It's time to create a personal self-development diary, a general example of which is presented below:
There can be as many such plans in a personality development diary as you like. It all depends on the person’s goals, desires, and dreams. The diary may contain plans for both intellectual and physical development. Each item is listed by day of the week and hour.
Let's describe the plan using a specific example - to learn English and speak it at a conversational level. Then the plan will look like this:
- Learn English.
- I need to speak English in order to get a prestigious job (become a tutor, pass on knowledge to my child, etc.).
- Objectives: learn the alphabet, understand grammar, increase vocabulary.
- Translate texts daily, listen to songs in English (at 17:00); watch films without translation weekly (Sunday, 11:00).
- Do not reschedule classes (I will study after I watch the series); do not reduce the time allotted for classes.
- After a year - proficiency in English at a conversational level.
How to start improving yourself
After development, improvement begins, the main goal of which is to know oneself and the inner world.
At this stage, a person conducts self-analysis: identifies positive and negative ones, considers relationships with loved ones and other people, and analyzes personality areas that need to be improved.
The transition to self-improvement looks something like this: eradicating the smoking habit entails eliminating alcohol consumption and switching to a healthy lifestyle (sports, yoga, proper nutrition). At the final stage, interest in the biological and energetic components of man appears. A person has his own thoughts, philosophical reflections, his personality becomes bright and multifaceted.
Every day we get up in the morning and do something! To make the new day more productive for you and not be similar to the previous one, you can come up with rules for self-improvement. Follow 10 simple steps and improve yourself!
1.) Meet your day wisely
Try to get up early. Oddly enough, practice shows that waking up between 6.00 and 7.00 is much easier than getting up later and barely crawling out of bed, hating the alarm clock.
And then do exercises for at least 5-10 minutes. This state of affairs will give you the opportunity to recharge your energy for the whole day, which will significantly affect your work activity. This way you will be able to get a lot more done, and you will be in a positive way.
2) Schedule your own day every day
Follow time management tips. As a rule, those people who live according to their own schedule can accomplish much more than those who do not. Make a schedule of your life down to every hour, at a minimum you will rid yourself of laziness, and at a maximum you will increase your productivity significantly. And in general, you will see where you spend your time and what things you managed to do during the day!
To plan my working time, I use the Eisenhower matrix, it helps me prioritize:
3) Rest
Try not to overwork and rest. Rest in the right way so that after your rest you do not need another rest.
And often ask yourself the question:
Does what I do bring me pleasure?
After you receive the answer, I think many actions and objects will cease to have any value for you.
4) Be generous
It will never hurt you if you smile at someone once again.
A smile is the most valuable commodity you own.
Regarding the manifestation of generosity in material terms, try to share your funds only with people who are exceptionally pleasant to you.
5) Accept what you can’t change
If you can’t change something, then there is no point in changing it, calling for it frantically. In addition, no one knows for sure how this event will affect you in the future, it is worth adding that it may be positive, even if it is not visible at the moment.
6) Learn a new language
Learning a new language will only have a positive effect on your mental abilities, speed of thinking and mastery of new information. Learn at least one new language (German, English, Spanish) and you won’t regret it in the future. It is worth adding that the amount of reliable information in English is many times greater than in Russian.
7) Try to discover new facets
Don't get stuck on the same thing. If you discover some new hobbies for yourself, this will only have a positive effect on you.
Never painted or photographed, but do you feel creative potential? Well, start doing this, because no one will see your drawings if you think they didn’t turn out well.
8) Never run from your fears
Look your fears in the eye and sooner or later you will be able to overcome them.
However, if you don’t fight them, you will never be able to get out of it, and as a result, you will remain at the same level you are at now.
In general, the topic fears- a separate thing. If you need to go into more detail on it, write in the comments to publish an article on this topic.
9) Live in the present tense
Many people live in the future. They think that just a little more work is needed and everything will change. This “just about” usually drags on until old age, but then it’s too late to change anything.
The same applies to those people that they live on past memories. It is pleasant for them to dream about how good it was five years ago (in the family, at work, they did not experience any problems, they lived carefree), but now everything is bad. Sound familiar? I would call this feeling pity for past times and for myself. But the present day has its own pleasures and time does not stand still. already!!!
10) Never put off your work
If you put off things that need to be done today, you will not be able to achieve your goals with the necessary efficiency. By putting something on the back burner, you take a step back. And time moves forward!
Fomochkin Maxim gave advice.
I wish you all success!!! See you again!
To everyone who regularly reads the blog, I want to say that I am resuming the publication of new articles. And glad to see you all!!!
P.S. Read Richard Branson’s book “Take It and Do It” – it’s very motivating for achievements!!!