Many have noticed that we are attracted to some people, while others repel us. What is sympathy and how does it arise? There is an opinion that there are 6 factors that explain why people seem attractive to us.
Similarities
Associations
Agree, the ice cream saleswoman seems prettier to us than the policeman who issued the fine. Often, sympathy or antipathy arises based on positive or negative associations with a particular person.
Physical attractiveness
Outwardly attractive people are often considered more friendly, interesting, talented and sociable. Guys are more likely to be attracted to a girl with a striking appearance, since she usually acts more confident than less attractive women. American scientists have proven that police officers behave much more leniently with beautiful lawbreakers. It is always easier for an attractive scammer to gain people's trust.
To say reliably what sympathy is, you need to take into account many components. In general, sympathy is a positive attitude towards someone, which is expressed in the manifestation of goodwill and attention.
Sympathy is the basis of the desire to communicate and admire other people. The meaning of the word "sympathy" is due to the fact that it comes from the Greek συμπάθεια, which is translated as "attraction" or "internal disposition." In fact, liking a person means that he is attractive to us. Mutual sympathy is the basis of successful and pleasant communication.
One of the conditions that allows sympathy to arise is the commonality of space between two people. Thanks to a common space, people can contact and discover in each other what brings them together.
Theoretical aspect
Ilyin divides the causes of occurrence into conscious and unconscious. Among the conscious reasons, similarities are distinguished (common ideas, values, views, interests). Unconscious reasons include a person’s status, his manners, character traits, and appearance.
Sympathy was considered by the Stoics, implying a commonality of objects; here there is a connection with sympathy, which is rather close to. The meanings of the words "sympathy" and "empathy" have been confused for many centuries.
Spontaneous sympathy often arises as a result of a person's association with nice and friendly people from our past. Antipathy awakens towards people who resemble enemies from our past.
Likes and dislikes are very relative, they depend on the characteristics of the people interacting, on the context, on the specifics of communication and the situation in which it arose, as well as time. An experiment conducted in 1985 clearly illustrates this feature of our attitude towards other people.
The relativity of sympathy is easily observed in the Gtiffitt experiment, where students perceived people more positively when they were in better conditions (a cozy room compared to a stuffy and hot room). Those people who appear in an attractive environment (exquisite furniture and soft light compared to dirty and squalid rooms) are also perceived positively.
That is, in this case, a positive attitude towards the situation was transferred to the attitude towards the person, that is, people receive a certain assessment in our perception. The manifestation of negativity on the part of the experimenter led to the fact that students gave the questionnaires to a person who was not like them.
Practical aspect
So, the conditions under which people communicate affect how they perceive each other. People feel sympathy when they are in a pleasant, cozy, sophisticated environment.
In addition, charm is of great importance. It is easy to feel attracted to people who are sincere, open, lively, and full of energy. It is a kind of charm, and its key components are: presence, strength and warmth (Kabane). Anyone can become a person, the main thing is to work on the non-verbal information that an individual sends to the world.
Everyone likes a charismatic person, he evokes admiration among those around him and the impression (not with his words, but with his behavior) that he has a lot of potential, strength, and he likes the people around him. It makes you feel good to be around him, so people want to join his company.
Here are some tips that quickly lead to increased charisma: lowering intonation at the end of sentences, slight nods, two-second pauses between messages. More fundamental factors are:
- Presence. It is necessary to be completely with the person; any distraction is very noticeable. Focusing on communication greatly increases our attractiveness to others.
- Strength and warmth. A friendly, caring and strong, powerful person makes your head spin; you want to attract and keep such a person, because he is extremely useful, and his attention flatters his interlocutors.
The most important thing is sincerity. Attempts to portray something usually encounter rejection from other people, because they figure out our game. Harmony lies in the correspondence of the internal and external, so first you need to put the internal in order.
Signs
A man's sympathy for a woman must be supported so that it grows into something more. In response, you need to show your own sympathy, no matter whether it manifests itself in approving glances or a smile, the main thing is that it is not aggressive.
How to distinguish love from sympathy? A man’s sympathy from love can be separated by the confidence and frequency of steps that a man takes towards a woman, by his care, desire to provide help, care, and desire to continue communication. A man’s strong sympathy for a woman is distinguished by the fact that he tries to prove his worth and demonstrates his capabilities.
A sympathetic man responds to every woman’s action with his own and initiates contacts himself; you rarely need to wait long for something from him. If a woman has openly shown sympathy, and a man is uninitiated and only occasionally responds to her attentions, most likely he is driven by politeness.
You can recognize a woman’s signs of sympathy by her concern for a person’s comfort, interest in him, and initiative. So if a woman feels sympathy for a man or a man for a woman, the main indicators of this are interest, initiation of light tactile contact, provocation (facial play) and high spirits. Author: Ekaterina Volkova
Appearance is not the only factor on which our attitude towards people depends. When we get to know a person, in addition to his appearance, we immediately notice his other properties that enhance or, conversely, reduce the impression that his appearance made on us. We note the mentality, tastes, habits, and sense of humor of a new acquaintance. There are also certain established ideas about what a positive person should be. So, many of us are convinced that a girl should be beautiful and a man should be smart. If you look at it, the requirement is quite cruel: clearly, not all girls are beautiful, just as not all men are very smart (after all, when we say “smart,” we mean that he is smarter than others, smarter than the majority, stands out from the majority). It turns out that we are ready to recognize only some privileged part of our fellow citizens as worthy of attention, defining everyone else an order of magnitude lower. In everyday life, of course, we don’t think about it, we don’t analyze this stereotype as deeply as all other stereotypes, as if we don’t take it seriously. But it lingers in consciousness, takes root, and getting rid of it, moving away from it, it turns out, is not always easy.
The next circumstance on which the emergence of sympathy depends is the dissimilarity or similarity of the partners. They often say that these people got together because they are similar to each other. It is no less often said that people got together precisely because they were very different. Depending on the situation, either one or the other is significant.
In addition, in order for people to like each other, the nature of the interaction is important. Communication is interaction, and depending on how it develops, sympathy can arise or not. Dale Carnegie's famous book, which revealed the mechanism of psychological patterns to the general reader in America and Europe, is built on one of the principles of interaction. “Do good to a person,” the author repeats in different variations, and this is what the concept of the book boils down to, “and the person will like you.” Under certain conditions, with a certain type of relationship, a person becomes more attractive to us, regardless of his qualities.
And of course, we all know how much the situation matters in the development of relationships. Everyone understands that it is very difficult to make an acquaintance or gain sympathy from someone in a crowded trolleybus. Even the most friendly people will breathe a sigh of relief when they get off at the bus stop. Indeed, certain experience suggests that there are situations in which it is easier to like each other.
Finally, we may like a person not only because he is smart and attractive, or because we did some work together, but also because at that moment we are ready to feel sympathy and love people. It's not about the person, it's not about the situation - it's about our own properties and our condition.
An idea of the reasons for the emergence of sympathy can be useful to us in everyday life, to warn against some behavioral mistakes. Such information will be especially instructive for the young reader, for our children - those who are particularly sensitive to new acquaintances and relationships with friends.
So, what properties of an object, besides beauty, do we care about?
We like intelligence, erudition, high position in society, energy, optimism. Meanwhile, even such seemingly obvious advantages are not equally appreciated by us.
Here's what one experiment showed.
In four rooms, groups of men and women were shown the same video. A man answered questions on a TV quiz show. The texts accompanying the video differed. In one case, a person seemed to us to be extremely lucky: he studied brilliantly at school and college, occupied a good position in society, he had an excellent family, and was passionate about work. He also answered the quiz questions brilliantly. In another case, he was presented as a completely ordinary person: his studies were so-so, his salary was low, and he answered questions with errors.
The ending of the video also had two options: in one case, the quiz ended without any incident, in the other, while taking the offered cup of coffee, business people accidentally poured it on their trousers. Both the loser and the “darling of fate” poured out, and did not behave like Superman - he was very upset, complained that the suit was expensive and was probably lost.
Now we will offer the reader a small test - put this book down and answer which of the four characters in the video aroused the most sympathy - the loser or the “superman” who did not spill the coffee, or one of the two who did.
It turned out that the one who attracted the most sympathy was... "Superman", who found himself in an awkward situation and was upset by coffee spilled on his trousers.
Why not the one who held himself with dignity to the end and avoided such an oversight? “Superman,” who stuck to his role to the end, was liked much less. Because he was too perfect. Because his advantages, so obvious and pleasant, all together alienated his image from the audience, made him inaccessible. And that is why people sitting in the hall unconsciously began to look for some shortcomings, unpleasant features in him; he seemed not so attractive. Only because he was superior to the audience in all respects!
It’s the same in life: we involuntarily compare ourselves with our interlocutor, a new acquaintance, and involuntarily evaluate our own and his qualities. Ideal communication for us is an approximate equality of advantages and disadvantages. If we are clearly superior to our partner in intelligence, erudition, social status, breadth of interests, and so on, or if our partner is far behind in most respects, communicating with him will not be very interesting.
Communication will continue only if the partner is superior to us in some other respect (say, a national champion in Japanese wrestling).
But on the other hand, if we feel that our partner is much superior to us in everything, we will also not strive for such a person. However, our consciousness, while protecting our interests better than any army, will not explain this as our imperfection. Subconsciously, we will begin to look for unpleasant traits in “Superman” and, without knowing it, we may even come up with non-existent flaws. Only because he is better in some way. Probably, the stereotype “very beautiful means evil, bad” was established using precisely this mechanism. And we will explain our reluctance to communicate with “Superman” not by the inequality of our merits, but by the fact that this, undoubtedly, unpleasant person has nothing in common with us, naturally, in all positive respects.
Many young people are unaware of this seemingly illogical feature of human perception and, when meeting, for example, girls, or finding themselves in an unfamiliar company, from the very first minutes they make a serious mistake: they exaggerate their merits, attribute to themselves sometimes non-existent achievements - and so things turn out a certain image of a knight without fear or reproach, a tennis player who defended his dissertation at the age of twenty-five, reads fluently in three languages, is sent abroad on business trips, and manages to play jazz. It seems that such an image is the best way to promote the successful development of relationships. But it happens differently. Having met such a wonderful person, a girl can brag about him to her friend, she can go to visit him or to a cafe a couple of times - for the same purpose. But she is unlikely to decide to continue the acquaintance - the same “defense mechanism” is triggered. For a serious acquaintance, a girl will prefer an outwardly quite ordinary person.
Because the girls, like the spectators who participated in the experiment, like all of us, only like those who are somehow similar to us, the most ordinary people. Who have small human weaknesses. The overly positive person on the screen allowed himself a weakness - he was as excited about the coffee spilled on his suit as the most ordinary person. He, for all his invulnerability, revealed a natural human trait, and he gained the sympathy of the audience. After all, none of us is capable of loving our neighbor only for his virtues - we love both for his weaknesses and for his shortcomings.
In general, the image of Superman, a man of exceptional merit, is one of those masks that many of us often try on in the hope of success. And this is precisely what interferes with luck. This state of affairs is well illustrated by the conflict of the film “Office Romance”. Both heroes discovered each other, began to live a real, full life only after they threw off the masks familiar to those around them - the “reinforced concrete” boss and the eternally guilty klutz subordinate.
What qualities still contribute to the emergence of sympathy? There are no such qualities. The fact is that, depending on the situation, the same property of a person can be assessed both positively and negatively; there are no absolutely “bad” and “good” properties. After all, if you look at what it means, for example, “spending”? The generosity of a foolish man. And generosity is definitely a positive quality. What is cunning? The mind of a bad person. We can judge a stingy person. But this is also relative - in a different situation we will no longer talk about stinginess, but about frugality, that is, about something without which it is difficult in family life, for example.
We can also condemn the same person for unscrupulousness, encourage him for kindness, and be indignant at his insensitivity towards loved ones.
And there is nothing strange here - because you cannot be kind in general, just like you can be brave and generous, you can only be in a certain situation, in relation to specific people. Even seemingly obvious advantages do not always bring good luck.
Remember the famous epigram “you are beautiful at the wrong time, and smart at the wrong time.”
To achieve success, however, it would be good to remember some patterns related not so much to personality traits, but to behavior patterns. For example, one of the main recommendations of the already mentioned Carnegie - “smile” - as a rule, justifies itself. It is always more pleasant to deal with a friendly person than with a gloomy, gloomy person. It is more pleasant for us to talk with a person who looks into his eyes, rather than studying the landscape outside the window while we prove something to him. It's more pleasant with someone who trusts us. However, there must also be a measure of trust: a person who eagerly tells a casual acquaintance the most intimate details of his biography will most likely not inspire sympathy.
However, there is one feature that almost always evokes sympathy for a person. This is luck. One very common stereotype is that a good person is lucky. And we are drawn to the one who is lucky.
A group of subjects took part in an intellectual game. The contribution of all participants was the same, but one of them was rewarded from time to time by the experimenter for success in the game. Of course, everyone understood that, in fact, everyone’s successes were absolutely the same, but after a while, when asked whose contribution was greater, many answered that it was the one who was awarded who showed himself best.
Most modern people do not believe in fate, in the secret forces of nature and the like. But often a fully educated modern person gets the impression that luck (both big and small) seems to be predetermined by some kind of pattern. For example, we tend to think that if someone tosses a coin ten times in a row and it lands on the same side ten times in a row, this is not accidental.
Vladimir Makanin has such a story - “Klyucharyov and Alimushkin”, it talks about how one person suddenly became unspeakably lucky, while another was unlucky in all respects. The more one rose, the more the other suffered. The story is full of the author's irony, but there are grounds for it - our ideas, not fundamental, basic, of course, but everyday, everyday ones, are in some way close to the feelings of the heroes. We don’t want to put up with the fact that luck and fortune come to a person just like that, for no reason.
We don’t want to, if only because we are inclined to think: the world is initially, immanently fair. Without any effort on our part, good should, in principle, defeat evil, as in a children's fairy tale. We want to believe that this will be the case in our lives. This naive belief is based on prejudices, and perhaps some kind of defense mechanism is triggered, because when it comes to the fate of countries and peoples, we think quite scientifically, realistically. But our everyday experiences are often based not on scientific data, but on those little things that we hear since childhood from loved ones, which we guess about, which we begin to believe in without thinking too much.
Yevgeny Yevtushenko has one early poem, in which the conversation is about an icicle hanging from the roof. And the author, who advocates for a fair world structure, calls for an icicle to fall on the head of a bad person.
Unfortunately, in life we are often convinced that it will really fall on the head of a bad person. If so, let the loser cry.
To illustrate, we present one foreign experiment showing what such a seemingly harmless belief in the fair order of things can lead to.
A group of students at an American driving school were shown a video: a traffic accident, a pedestrian was hit, the driver was at fault. In one version of the recording, the pedestrian was almost unharmed, in the other he was seriously injured. It was proposed to determine the degree of guilt of both. The result was stunning: if the pedestrian was slightly injured or escaped with bruises, the driver’s guilt seemed unconditional to the subjects. If the pedestrian’s condition was reported to be serious or he died, some of the subjects were inclined to place some of the blame on the innocent victim.
How so? The fact is that, believing in an inherently fair world around us, we seem to have entrusted the care of ourselves to the forces of nature. They are the ones who have to make sure that we don’t accidentally get run over by a car. To avoid getting into an accidental traffic accident and experiencing undeserved misfortune. We don’t want to believe that we can innocently, like this pedestrian, get run over by wheels.
That is why some subjects blamed the pedestrian: any misfortune, in their unconscious belief, should be retribution for some kind of misconduct. Otherwise, it turns out that anyone can become a victim of circumstances at any moment. The unexpected cruelty was dictated by a deeply hidden sense of self-preservation, which found support in prejudice.
In another foreign experiment, subjects were also shown a video recording: a person on the screen was solving problems given to him. If the answer was incorrect, the person received a mild electric shock. Each of us, reading these lines, will rightly be indignant: how can one punish a mistake in this way! But the participants in the experiment behaved ambiguously. Many, watching what was happening on the screen (naturally, they were not demonstrating a real experiment), when asked what a person receiving an electric shock was like, answered that he was endowed with many unpleasant traits. The more he suffered from pain (the actor on the screen showed as the action progressed that he was in more and more pain), the less sympathy he aroused.
If it was reported that an experiment was being demonstrated taking place in the next room, the vast majority of spectators demanded that the inhumane test be stopped.
What does all of this mean? How can this unexpected behavior be explained?
We are all, as a rule, ready to come to the aid of a person when something depends on us. We are humane when we have responsibility for what is happening around us. We are responsible for the fate of the person on the screen, when in our power, interrupt the experiment, and we will not allow him to suffer.
But what if his fate does not depend on us, and we are unable to change anything? It turns out that some people in this situation may not feel empathy for the suffering of others. And not only do they not feel sympathy, they may even look for some kind of justification for his deplorable situation. That’s why some people found the man on the screen unpleasant. And although the experiment was conducted abroad and from an ethical point of view, not everything in it can suit us, its conclusions are directly relevant to us.
And the main conclusion is that our behavior largely depends on how developed our sense of responsibility is. Responsibility is the key to moral education, and this is something that should never be forgotten. First of all, those who work with young people. Isn’t it the lack of responsibility for what is happening around that the cruelty of teenagers is often rooted? And not only teenagers. Let's analyze our own actions. It is unlikely that anyone will leave a friend or relative, or a neighbor in a train compartment without help if he suddenly becomes ill. We are kind of responsible for him. But then a man fell on the street - and passersby walked by. There are no people in charge.
If we try to analyze our attitude towards a particular situation, towards the hero of a movie, we will also notice that we often involuntarily, without noticing it, justify a large number of injustices and cruelties. And we sympathize not so much with the victim for a just cause, but with the winner, the one who was lucky. After all, winners are not judged... What a dangerous stereotype, fraught with the most unexpected consequences!
We must tirelessly explain to our children that lucky people are not always good. That the only quality that guarantees success in communication is naturalness. (This has been proven by numerous experiments.) A young man invents himself because he is not confident in his own strengths, in his own merits, in the fact that he can be liked for who he is.
We foresee an objection: many will remember that it was natural behavior, when they were themselves, that was not successful. But here the matter is different. Remember a physical education lesson at school or a class session - you are preparing to high jump, and the coach looks at your preparations with skepticism. You take a running start, and the coach mutters under his breath that you took up this task in vain, you’d better play chess - but the run up is not right, and the size of your feet is not suitable... Most likely, in such conditions you will knock down the bar, even if it costs well below your limit.
So, the main thing in communication is to convince your inner opponent. Or - if he does not want to listen to your arguments - try to “turn down the volume” of his voice. Try to treat yourself with sympathy - and you will see that those around you will begin to share your feelings.
We must always remember that in most cases it is possible to win the sympathy of a particular person. But it is impossible, of course, to please everyone. Not only because all people are different. Focusing on the sympathy of the majority of others can lead to certain difficulties. How many examples do we know today of how a person who made a discovery, put forward a bold hypothesis, only recently found himself in isolation; the majority did not agree with him. Moreover, the majority did not sympathize with him: we all know that in other times “every decent person wanted with all his heart to see the “heretic” at the stake.” If Galileo and Copernicus had strived to be pleasant to everyone around them, we would still probably think that it is not the Earth that moves, but the Sun.
In addition, trying to please everyone, a person is unlikely to be happy.
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Sympathy is...
“Sympathy is an elusive current that suddenly arises between people and attracts them to each other”
Natalya Solntseva
How do you know that you like a person? You want to spend more time with the person, communicate on different topics, just walk together, call and find out how they are doing. . Something invisible and elusive. When wordless understanding and attraction arise between people. In my opinion, this is sympathy.
Some people believe that opposites attract. Thus, we can conclude that we sympathize with those people who have qualities that we do not have in ourselves, but we would like to have.
There is also the opposite opinion that sympathy arises between similar people. And the more similarities two people have, the more they will like each other.
Most often, sympathy is a personal feeling. But there is also something imposed. When someone praises you. Or an opinion that is authoritative for you tends to look for and notice only positive aspects in another person.
Does sympathy only occur between the opposite sex? Undoubtedly, when a young man sees an attractive young lady, he involuntarily begins to feel a feeling of sympathy for her. And a girl, having met a pleasant man, she begins to show him signs of attention in every possible way.
But there is also friendly sympathy. How can you find a friend among such a huge number of people around you? This is where sympathy comes in. When you come to work and one of the girls seems pleasant and interesting to you, you begin to communicate and over time, closer ones develop.
The feeling of sympathy allows us to find suitable people, those with whom we want to connect our lives. Those who will understand us, who will be there, who can teach us something new. This feeling helps us form our social circle. Do you agree that you will not communicate with a person who is unpleasant to you?
Since there is a concept of sympathy, it means that there is an opposite feeling. Antipathy is a feeling of disgust, hostility towards a person. Sometimes it's hard to explain. Has it ever happened to you that when you met, you immediately realized that you never want to meet with this person again?
And here we have two poles. Sometimes antipathy is explained by the fact that we see in a person undesirable qualities that we have in ourselves. That is why it is so unpleasant for us to look at him, because we see reflections of ourselves.
And the second point, we see those qualities that we lack and this causes jealousy, envy, anger. Therefore, it is better to exclude such a person from life so that he does not become an eyesore, as they say.
Basis of sympathy
What are the signs that we will like a person? By what criteria can we immediately determine that this person is suitable for us and we will communicate with him, but that person is not suitable at all and it is better to stay away from him?
The first is similarity. Whatever you say, we always like those people who are similar to us in some way. A person tends to experience pleasant and positive emotions even towards the person with whom he shares the same day or month of birth.
Man is a social being. We all, one way or another, seek approval, confirmation that others also think like us. That is why it is so pleasant to be in society with people who share your views and interests.
In the 70s of the last century, psychologists conducted a test for sympathy based on similarity. A salesman in a music store needed to sell one device. And when he told the buyer that he listens to the same music or likes the same genre, the percentage of sales increased significantly. Today this technique is widely used in sales and in general.
There is even a special term in sign language - mirroring. If you want to gain favor from him and, ultimately, an affirmative answer to your proposal, then you just need to take the same pose as him.
The second is proximity. You can call it physical. We are most pleased with those people who are in close proximity to us. Of course, without violating.
Agree, it is much easier to start a relationship or friendship with the person who is next to you than with the one who.
In addition, proximity ensures similarity in attitudes, favorite activities, and belonging to a certain social group.
The third point is reciprocity. We are more likely to experience pleasant emotions towards those people who give something in return. A person tries not to maintain close relationships with those who only take and use.
We are pleased to feel sympathy in return. Therefore, we are more likely to be friends with the person who shows initiative towards us, shows support and responds.
For example, you told a stranger a lot of personal information about yourself, but he did not tell anything about himself in response. In this situation, he will seem distant, unpleasant, closed, unsympathetic to you, and you will not want to repeat meetings with him.
The fourth factor is appearance. I think the majority will agree with me that external appearance plays a very large percentage in communication, especially when meeting people. We are drawn to beauty, we want to surround ourselves not only with beautiful things, but also with beautiful people.
Of course, appearance is not the main thing, what matters is what a person is, but you must admit that when two people approach you, you are more likely to pay attention to the one who is well-groomed, beautifully dressed, neat, who smells delicious, and so on.
Have you ever seen a downright ugly model in a magazine? Or a completely disgusting actress whom you can’t even look at without tears? No. This is because we tend to trust attractive and good-looking people more. We consider them more open and friendly. And these are important qualities for establishing trust between people.
And many scammers take advantage of this. So, they always look brand new. You will never see a ladies' man in torn pants and a dirty jacket. After all, he understands perfectly well that in order to make the right impression, you need to take good care of your appearance.
What's next
Sympathy between a man and a woman most often develops into a romantic relationship. Although I know many examples when they remained friends. It’s difficult to immediately understand what this sympathy will lead to. It happens that it is difficult for a person, so they do not move beyond friendly communication.
How do people express their affection? They are drawn to each other, want to communicate, do things, invite them to meetings, make and show all sorts of signs of attention, reveal their souls, share their secrets.
But there is another option. How do boys at school show that they like a girl? That's right, they pull your pigtails and hit you with a briefcase. And in some adults you can notice this pattern of behavior. Since he treats me so deliberately negatively, it means he definitely likes me.
Be more open and sociable and this will definitely help you better connect with others.
All the best to you!
Find out how it can manifest itself sympathy between man and woman!
Shyness is not a feeling that helps a relationship begin. It is often difficult for us to understand what emotions experiences an object of sympathy and desire towards us. It is very difficult to guess or feel someone else's soul. Sometimes even fairly close and dear people cannot cope with this, let alone strangers. This is especially true for those who deep down dream of growing acquaintance into a good long-term relationship. But before you think about starting a relationship with anyone, you need to find out whether the guy you like really shows special interest in you. The following tips will help you understand what signs guys can give so that you can regard them as the first sign of interest.
There are many signs that characterize ways of expressing sympathy between a guy and a girl. You just need to detect them correctly. If you are able to understand and support them in time, then your chances of continuation of acquaintance increase several times. After all, men often hide their timidity under apparent bravado. Sometimes they are afraid to take the first step in the absence of visible feedback signals coming from the girl they like. And it’s not typical for girls to flirt without full confidence that a guy will show keen interest in her.
And how in this case determine a possible expression of sympathy?
It should immediately be noted that there is hidden and overt sympathy. The latter is much easier to notice than the first, which will require some effort to identify.
First of all, it arises between a guy and a girl sympathy manifests itself in the gaze. The expression that the eyes are the mirror of the soul is appropriate here. Therefore, in the eyes you can read everything a person experiences. feelings and emotions towards you. All that remains is to learn to read; you can learn these lessons on your own, but it is much more effective to do it on women's trainings, in effective practical classes..
Hidden sympathy may manifest itself in a timid glance thrown by a man in your direction from time to time. Many factors can influence the frequency of glances. The most important thing is to detect the fact that your person has been examined. Agree, it’s hard not to notice when his eyes scan you. When you try to catch his eye, you will most likely see him look away or blush slightly. However, it’s difficult to resist here, and for a moment you can see how a timid glance rises to you again. The guy will strive to find constant contact with you. You will notice that he will try to stay close to you so that at the opportunity he can exchange a few words or be able to admire you unnoticed.
Manifestation open sympathy also expressed in the gaze. The only difference is that this look will be much bolder and more persistent. In addition, in his gaze there will be a clear call for dialogue and a silent answer. In his eyes you can read the following: “Do you like me? Maybe we’ll get to know each other better?” like this sympathy gives a more daring and appraising look, which seems to be feeling your figure, stopping for a long time on some parts. In the eyes of the object of sympathy, one can read approval of your forms. Of course, not every girl will like such open views. After all, they are perceived as obscene, it seems to her that the guy is able to see in her only object of sexual desire. However, for men, this is just a signal emanating from the subconscious, calling a man to evaluate his chosen one from all sides. It’s quite easy to identify a man by his gaze. If he looks at a girl he likes, his pupils will immediately dilate and any manifestations of irony, negativity or aggression will immediately disappear. In a man's gaze slips tenderness and affection.
However, the gaze is not the only weapon of women and men, with the help of which it becomes possible to express their own interest in the opposite sex. How else can you find out if there is a chance to make a guy or a mature man fall in love with you? How to understand who is interested in you?
Another way is sign language, with which you can recognize and evaluate any person without talking, just by observing his postures. Women have a richer range of nonverbal signs of attention compared to men. Expression of sympathy manifests itself in a banal desire to look good in the presence of the desired object.
There is another unconscious movement that can give a man away. This is attracting the girl’s attention to the main “sense organ” of the male. And these are just instincts, and not a desire to quickly get you into bed.
Another obvious gesture that speaks of male interest is a special stance, when the hands rest on the sides, the body is directed towards the girl, as if aiming at the object of sympathy.
And, of course, a smile is a powerful weapon for both sexes. A smile doesn't always mean sympathy, because some use it to win over a person for further benefit. There is also a series of smiles, indicating a negative attitude towards the person.
Even the voice can give away a carried away man. However, this will be expressed in a change in the voice of the man who is nearby at the time of the conversation. When addressing a girl, his timbre will change, and his speech will have melodious notes as his voice turns velvety.
If you try a little, then sympathy It's pretty easy to tell between a guy and a girl. Its manifestation may consist in interested timid glances or eloquent gestures. The most important thing is to understand the man’s call in time and respond. This will allow you to outgrow your sympathy in serious and strong relationships. I want to get married, women's training, how to make a guy fall in love with you