Ending a relationship is always difficult, but it's even sadder when you notice the same problems over and over again. It could be your choice of men or something else. In any case, it's time to change the situation for the better.
Learn how to break this vicious cycle by taking a few important steps to discover the cause of the problem and eliminate its consequences. Here are some tips to help you move towards a better relationship.
Take responsibility
If your partner is to blame for all your failures, you will not be able to improve the situation and find a happy relationship. Start by accepting your responsibility for your mistakes. At the very least, you choose the wrong partners and ignore warnings. Without admitting your guilt, you will not be able to learn from your mistakes and move on.
Forgive yourself for your mistakes
Once you accept your fault for a failed relationship, it's worth forgiving yourself, even if you simply trusted the wrong people. Beating yourself up won't help you make the right choice next time. If you think you deserve everything that happened, you won't be able to attract someone who will treat you right.
Find the source of the problem
Try to objectively identify the reason that pushes you into relationships with the wrong people or leads to an incorrect perception of relationships. It could be low self-esteem or a biased view of others, in any case, try to identify it. Perhaps you are attracted to a certain type of man, even if he is not the right one for you. Find out what leads to failure and don't keep repeating the same mistakes.
Analyze the warning signs
To break the vicious cycle of failed relationships, you need to pay attention to the warning signs. If you get involved with bad guys, just end the relationship as soon as they start treating you badly. If his jealousy is causing problems in your relationship, don't turn a blind eye to the first signs of possessiveness. Once you understand what to pay attention to, you will begin to make good decisions.
Set your priorities
Once you have analyzed your problems, it is important to understand what you want from the relationship. Try to determine your real priorities, and then you will understand who to pay attention to, and you will stop contacting partners who are attractive but not suitable for you.
Go beyond your taste
Even if your problem isn't that you're choosing the wrong people, it's always good to give new people a chance. Try a new approach to choosing a partner. This will show how well you communicate with men you would normally avoid.
Visualize your dream relationship
Having a positive attitude is very important when you are ready to date again. It will also be helpful to imagine what kind of relationship you want. Direct your thoughts in the right direction. Focus on your qualities and how they will help you get the right partner.
Accept help from friends and family
Improvements don't always come as quickly as you'd like, so it's worth taking advice from people who really care about you. They will help you choose a partner who is right for you. The best way to break the cycle of failed relationships is to confide in people who have observed your love problems from the outside.
Try blind dates
Another way to get help from friends and family is to let them set you up on a blind date. Even if you don't feel an immediate connection, try this method to move on.
Stick to the new rules
Once you understand what you were doing wrong and how to break the cycle, stick to the new rules you set for yourself. Don't ignore them just because a new acquaintance seems damn attractive. If you decide to change, don’t back down from it for a minute.
The vast majority of my clients complain that they live in constant tension...
What are the reasons for living in tension?
Mental stress comes from worrying about money., total control over all processes in life, because of the fear of not being able to do something in time, the fear that your competitors will pass you by, that your friends are married and you are not etc….
There is always a specific situation that causes this condition. Constant tension is the lot of people with different incomes. Its insidiousness is that we may not realize it, being immersed in the routine of everyday life, however, it is precisely this that is the background, basic state on which our current life is built, and, most importantly, future events are created!
Staying in this state for a long time, usually, creates endless a series of problems. Why is this happening?
It's simple. Tension is created by CONSTANT UNCONSCIOUS CONCENTRATION OF ATTENTION ON THE PROBLEM . This, in turn, RECREATES in our lives what we focus on.(a certain level of vibrations, I’ll tell you more in another article). It turns out to be a vicious circle.
For example, If you have debts, loans and you live in constant worry about money, your background emotional state is a state of money shortage. Consequently, you will recreate (attract) situations in which you will lose them, again and again (breakage of household appliances or cars, expensive treatment, etc.).
Remember the saying: “Where it’s thin, it breaks”? This is exactly what she's talking about... All attempts to increase income and pay off debts, living in a state of tension about this, will most likely lead to failure.
How to break the circle of problems?
Is it possible to get out of this state and series of problems? Yes, definitely.
The most important thing to know is that exactly at s, your Consciousness is the Source of everything that is in your life. Any problem that causes emotional stress is only your Creation, Creation.
Deficiency, For example, money does not exist objectively, it is born of your worldview, your subconscious beliefs. Those. Debts, a certain level of income are entirely your creation! And if you are the Author, then you can change the situation!
Method to solve problem No. 1.
Identify, recognize and eradicate the negative subconscious beliefs that created the problem, and then create new, positive ones for yourself, and continue to live according to new laws. In fact, reprogramming the subconscious. To identify the subconscious reasons that led to a certain problem, you may need the help of a specialist.
Method to solve problem No. 2.
Conscious attention management. Realize what specific situation or circumstance is causing tension... By an effort of will, completely remove your attention from it and direct it to creation, to the search for ideas, to prospects, goals, plans... Do not let the attention that you can control slide to the problem!
Today, all the people in the world who have money can be represented as a pyramid.
Its base, the lowest and widest, is the huge number of people who are in poverty. The layer that is higher and smaller in area means the people are more affluent. And so on.
But at the very top of the pyramid there are only a few people - the richest people in the world, with a huge amount of money.
Such a pyramid can also be looked at from a different angle - from the point of view of all the means that people have at their disposal. This time the picture will be completely different.
The largest layer of very poor people has minimal resources, the next layer has more money. And so on. At the top is a giant amount of money belonging to just a few people.
It turns out that the pyramid has turned upside down and cannot be stable. Lyudmila Golubovskaya considers this situation as the main one in the emergence of social upheavals, revolutions, and wars.
“And remember: always before the start of a revolution, the rich got even richer, and the poor got poorer.”
It turns out to be a closed karmic circle. Let's return to karma again: bad internal energy creates difficult living conditions for a person, which give rise to despair and hatred in him.
“Hatred, together with difficult living conditions, leads to the fact that in subsequent incarnations a person is born rich, but now he himself is hated by the poor.
Since while he was poor, he had not yet managed to become an altruist, then, having become rich, a person continues to be an egoist, mishandles money, spends his good karma and is again born poor.”
A person who is rich and wealthy must handle money correctly - help humanity overcome poverty
And this will continue until each of us opens this circle with two correct means.
First remedy- being in a state of poverty, a person will give up hatred, will try to realize at the deepest internal level the fact that now his karma is not good, because he created it himself.
At the same time, he will make efforts to improve his karma, will do good deeds, work and develop.
Second remedy lies in the fact that a person, now rich and wealthy, handles money correctly - helps humanity overcome poverty, ignorance, disease and other social problems, supports the development of everything progressive.
Here we should remember our eleventh exercise on the principle of “tithing”, when we explained in great detail why it is so necessary to share money with other people.
Let's imagine a situation where the richest people in the world share with those in need, help them, finance their projects. Those, in turn, share with representatives of that layer of the pyramid, which is located next door, but a little lower. And on and on.
In this case, the pyramid would gain stability - funds would gradually flow from the top of the pyramid to its base. Therefore, it is so important to remember and constantly practice one simple rule:
“By giving money - helping another person, we restore the harmonious distribution of energy in the world, restore its stability. Then it will be a pyramid, firmly standing on a broad and regular base.”
Always remember: a lack of money- this is a state of weakness, the inability to influence anything, the inability to change life for the better. While possession of money- this is the opposite state of power and the ability to materialize almost instantly all material and spiritual benefits.
“A person who has this living energy, capable of almost instantly “materializing” into any wonderful and happy events, is capable of creating a whole sea of good.”
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