Simple ways to get rid of the habit of swearing. More new acquaintances! Give vent to emotions

Swearing is considered a type of verbal aggression, the danger of which is not immediately noticeable to everyone. Like other bad habits, the tendency to express one's emotions by raising one's voice and using swear words is formed quickly and easily, but getting rid of it is much more difficult. Some people for a long time do not even notice the excess of profanity in their speech, and when they finally notice, they are horrified and begin feverishly looking for ways to get rid of this scourge.

Why is verbal aggression considered a bad habit?

The use of profanity is not at all groundlessly considered a harmful phenomenon: like any other manifestations of verbal aggression, swearing reduces the level of speech culture, vulgarizes the language and creates a painful impression of communication among interlocutors. Often and a lot of inappropriately used swear words suggest that a person has problems with vocabulary or mental health (it is known that people burdened with numerous complexes with low or high self-esteem swear more often).

Unfortunately, even awareness of the problem does not always lead to getting rid of it.

Swearing is firmly ingrained in everyday vocabulary, and is sometimes used by people consciously - as a protest and rebellion against phenomena that for some reason are unpleasant to them.

Children who swear are a special case: observing the people around them, children, with their inherent curiosity, copy the behavior of adults, who, as we know, are not always sufficiently restrained.

But be that as it may, a guy or girl who has crossed the threshold of a difficult and emotionally unbalanced puberty needs to be able to restrain his impulses and express even the strongest feelings in decent language.

How to stop swearing?

There are many ways to wean yourself from using obscene language. It is difficult to choose the most effective one, since each technique affects different people differently. Ask guys and girls who have gotten rid of this bad habit how to stop swearing, try several different methods on yourself - and you will find your own option. The most common method is considered "self-training": a person systematically weans himself from swearing, using available means.

Can:

Seek help from a friend who will be next to you and constantly remind you of the need to restrain yourself;
Learn to avoid provoking factors, at least at first - do not stand in long lines in stores, drive less often and stand in traffic jams, do not watch football (each person has their own triggers). Over time, it will become much easier to control swearing;
Use a special piggy bank in which you need to put a certain amount of money for each swear word spoken out loud. Start a piggy bank like this at work to effectively combat swearing in a team;
It hurts to slap yourself on the wrist with a rubber band for every curse - cruel, but effective, because soon swearing will begin to be associated with pain and will gradually disappear from your vocabulary;
Avoid watching movies and listening to music with lots of obscene language.

The second way is deep psychological analysis.

Sometimes, to finally break up with an unpleasant habit, you just need to understand yourself and stop being shy, complex, angry and worrying about little things. In addition, it should be remembered that the abundance of obscene language in communication immediately puts you in an unfavorable light, even if in fact you can rightfully call yourself an educated person who received a good upbringing in childhood.

Do you want others to notice your positive sides? Try to stop swearing, and a lot will change!

It is useful to learn positive thinking: if you stop worrying about little things, the desire to swear will become less pronounced. Usually, with the help of swearing, we convey the strongest emotions (usually negative), and if the emotion itself has faded away, what is the point of polluting your speech with swearing? Every time you slip into negativity, mentally stop yourself, take a deep breath and look at the situation from the positive side. Understand that there is nothing fatal about a bus that runs away from under your very nose, bad weather, or an unpleasant conversation with your boss.

Be loyal to yourself. Patience in this case is the key to success. A friend may tell you how he stopped swearing in a week, but this does not mean that you will overcome the bad habit as quickly, and this is normal. The habit of swearing has probably been developed over the years, so it may take more than one month to eradicate it.

The third way to get rid of swear words in communication comes down to changing the general manner of speech. You need to understand in what situations you swear most often, and gradually replace swear words and expressions with more decent analogues.

To make the process of replacing individual words and entire phrases easier, try to select consonant phrases - for example, starting with the same letter as an obscene curse, or similar in sound. Even if at first glance they look completely meaningless, they will certainly play their role, and you will swear much less often, and over time you will be able to completely abandon this bad habit.

Try to set the right example for your children. Do not swear in front of them, so as not to infect them with your bad habit. Please note that in life there are sometimes moments in which even the most restrained people swear - from pain, fear and other strong emotions that are 100% beyond the control of consciousness.

We live in difficult times in a tense world - high technologies that often glitch, a lot of people around, if not glitching, are infuriating; troubles, minor problems - all this gets on our nerves. It would seem, how can one not start swearing here? But once we break down, saying the first swear word, we allow ourselves to do this more and more often. Nobody remembers when they became involved in this vicious circle. If you are looking for a way out of it, then you have come to the right place, because the topic of our article today is how to stop swearing once and for all. To know this, we first need to know what we are dealing with.

Why do people even start swearing?

1. Foul language as a way to dominate a conversation.

One famous Russian writer (let’s not advertise for him) several centuries ago noticed the main function of obscenity in conversation, and this role is still relevant today. By swearing, a person allows himself to cross a certain line, thereby showing his readiness to violate prohibitions further, and a danger to his opponent in dialogue. But the root of this is often the notorious complexes.

Another option is a person’s loss of position in a dispute, and the desire to make up for it. If in a dispute with you a person began to actively swear, it means that he recently heard in his head “Arguments have dried up, my lord! What do we do?"

2. They want to look more mature.

Option for those under eighteen. A young creature, not yet fully developed in personality, heard an interesting word from the lips of an adult, an authoritative person, and wrapped it around his not yet grown mustache. Usually there are no problems with sources of new words. And now our young Mayakovsky goes to a society of his own kind, where he boasts of his maturity with rapture. Further along the chain, and now the whole school is swearing, including the teacher of Russian language and literature. But this reason is the easiest to eliminate; it’s easy to stop swearing in the future, because you have your whole life ahead.

3. Give vent to emotions.

It would seem that there is not so much bad in this reason - well, the man cursed, splashed out the full magnitude of his indignation or awe with a strong word. Being under the influence of nervous tension, even the most persistent people sometimes begin to use shameless foul language. But the trouble here is that over time we allow ourselves to do this more and more often, and the positive effect becomes less and less. We begin to increase the number of swear words to express the same emotion, and our speech becomes polluted, like the Moscow River.

4. Because everyone around is swearing.

Everything is simple here - when a person is surrounded by obscenities, he takes it as a norm, a given, and uses it in his speech without any second thought. Herd feeling - to be the same as everyone else and not stand out, so that the boys from the neighborhood will give respect, etc. As they say, to live with wolves is to howl like a wolf.

5. Some people don't understand otherwise.

There are some individuals who seem to not hear you until you influence them with an impressive set of strong words. They are a real test for patience and the nervous system. The most cultured broadcasters often lose their temper with such people, whose speech was like a crystal clear mountain stream. But as soon as someone from their immediate circle catches senile insanity, the Moscow River flows into a mountain stream.

These are the main reasons why people start swearing. Didn't find yours among them? Write it in the comment! :) And we will continue and tell you the most effective, in our opinion, ways to stop swearing forever.

How to stop swearing

Start a home anti-material piggy bank.

Let her accumulate a more or less significant amount of money with every obscene word spoken. In a crisis, you will quickly get tired of putting money there, and you will begin to monitor your own speech, which is the goal. Controlling what comes out of your mouth is already 80 percent of success. Over time, you will begin to “filter the market” much better, and if you swear, it will only be when you really don’t mind paying 100 rubles.

Find someone who will watch over you.

Is there a person you wouldn't mind hating? Great! Ask him to monitor your speech and reprimand him for swear words every time. You can expand his powers by giving him the ability to give a kick or a slap. The effectiveness of the method increases in proportion to the deterioration of friendship with the person, as practice shows.

Receive more information from the outside world that does not contain swear words.

Read good literature, educational sites like ours, listen to good music in your native language. It is true that a person gives out what he receives. Therefore, receive only pure speech from the world, and yours will become the same.

Stop communicating with swearers in their language.

Of course, you shouldn’t lose friends just because they swear, but now you don’t. But if these are true friends, then they will accept your decision to stop using swear words, and will try to express themselves less in your presence. You shouldn’t follow their lead and swear, because that’s how it is in your communication, or to make your interlocutor feel good. Show character and willpower! They are best able to help you stop swearing.

Stop doing things that make you swear.

Here you need to take a little care of yourself. This is usually what sets you off. It’s bad if this is, for example, your job. But if you can’t do it calmly, then it’s better to find another one - and your nerves will be intact, and you’ll get rid of the habit of swearing. Many people often swear while driving a car. But you're hardly ready to stop driving, are you? In order not to give it up, it is better to stop expressing yourself, this is the lesser of the evils.

Unsubscribe from the public “MDK” and similar ones.

We decided to write a separate paragraph about “humorous” public pages that pour tons of foul language onto the Internet. When swearing is associated with something funny, it becomes even more difficult to get rid of it. By ceasing to worship humor, in which the main funny part is a swear word, you will take a serious step towards getting rid of your bad habit, and simply on the path of life. Look at the next public post. Would he be as cool without the swearing? That's it! And a sacred place in the news feed is never empty - subscribe to the same "MHC" - at least there is no swearing there.

Create a cleansing ritual for yourself.

Make an agreement with yourself that for every swear word you will perform a certain rite of purification (passport details and blood do not need to be sealed with sufficient self-discipline). Let's say that for every swear word you need to tear out a hair from your head or leg... Although no, it’s a bad idea. Maybe you'll like it more. The best ritual in this case is to put money into a piggy bank. But maybe your imagination will work better than ours :)

More new acquaintances!

Many people who suffer from the habit of swearing notice that in the presence of unfamiliar people they do not swear. Therefore, be more often in the company of such people, and swearing will bypass your lips. True, you will have to keep all such people at a distance from you. Otherwise, you’ll get to know each other better and build a three-story mat together. As an option -

Until about the middle of the 19th century, foul language in Rus' was a criminal offense. During the time of Tsar Alexei Mikhailovich Romanov, a person was subjected to public flogging with rods for using swear words!

Obscene speech has always been considered a sign of lack of culture and belonging to a low class. It was a kind of pointer: here is an uneducated person, leading a dubious lifestyle and not striving for positive changes.

Why do people swear

It is absurd to talk about the lack of education of modern people. Now more than ever, the environment provides an incredible amount of resources for cultural enhancement, self-development and creativity. It is logical that swearing should have become an ordinary atavism. So what is the reason?

1. The need for protection and self-affirmation

Obscene language is a unique phenomenon. It exists, but speaking it is prohibited by society. As you know, ignoring the rules occurs either out of naivety or out of fear and hopelessness. So we can’t call those who love strong words.

A person tries to hide vulnerability and self-doubt behind a demonstration of aggressiveness, independence and rudeness.

The more a person experiences confusion and disorientation in life, the more often he resorts to swearing. Like a frightened and therefore furious animal. Growling, hissing and showing fangs.

As a result, teenagers swear out of fear that they will not be accepted as their real selves. It’s easier to assert yourself according to the general laws of the pack, to be like everyone else. And adults, bearing a huge burden of responsibility, swear in order to drown out the feeling of fear due to possible failures.

The saddest thing is when people use swear words when communicating with each other. By insulting and humiliating the interlocutor, the opponent tries to assert himself at the expense of the other and at least for a second feel his superiority. Albeit in an inappropriate way from a moral and ethical point of view.

2. Laziness of mind

Indeed, why bother and waste energy on the correct construction of sentences, selection of expressive words and use of effective oratorical techniques.

After all, why waste time explaining in long-winded ornate phrases what can be expressed in one word in a second.

Pronouncing “bl...” with different intonation colors will save the sleeping brain and not disturb the memory. Disappointed: “Well, dear Klavdia Petrovna, you again forgot about the existence of a new sample for writing memos.” Aggressively: “Colleague, didn’t you see that you were placing this heavy box right on my leg?” Admiringly: “Look how incredibly beautiful it is around!”

The ability to communicate fully and beautifully is replaced by useless mooing of varying duration and tonality. Gradually, the vocabulary is depleted, and speaking correct Russian becomes more and more difficult.

3. Constant tension and stress

It has long been proven that swearing briefly helps to let off steam and feel functional again. Modern people have enough reasons for stress and conflict situations.

A person uses obscene speech as protection from the outside world. He's like a bristling hedgehog.

Such a person constantly experiences such strong psychological discomfort that over and over again he simply stops noticing the problems of other people and becomes less sympathetic and friendly.

And this model of behavior is transferred to the entire worldview, a negative self-perception is formed, other people and events begin to irritate. It has been proven that swear words increase adrenaline levels, body temperature and blood pressure. Like alcohol or drugs.

A person understands that he is beginning to be sucked into a destructive funnel of aggressiveness, a split in interpersonal relationships, and a lack of self-understanding. He loses control over himself and his life.

How to stop swearing

It turns out that swearing does not exist on its own, but is a side effect of negative changes occurring in a person.

It is useless to force yourself not to swear. You need to find the root cause and understand yourself.

Take some time for self-reflection. Take paper and pen, sit comfortably in your favorite chair, relax. Write down your ideas and reflections.

Try to remember what became the prerequisite for using swear words in your speech. Write down on a piece of paper the actions and words of other people, situations that usually cause you to fight.
How much does obscene language help you and under what circumstances? What is the problem with using it?
Imagine that you stopped swearing. Do you feel more comfortable? Or, on the contrary, do you want to pour out the accumulated aggression and negative emotions in other forms?
How badly do you need a swear word?

Analyze your answers. Consider an action plan to return the beautiful Russian language to your speech based on the recommendations given.

Change your attitude towards people and circumstances. Having understood the reasons that make you want to swear, try to either change your attitude towards them or erase them from your life.

For example, you swear while driving. It is clear that you are constantly worried internally, being responsible for the passengers and the safety of the car. Pedestrians scurrying across the road anywhere and reckless drivers are perceived by you as a potential threat. You're afraid, that's normal.

But is there any point in getting excited and using foul language, thereby reducing your concentration while driving? Other road users are unlikely to pay attention to you, and swearing will not change the overall situation on the road. Maybe it’s easier to exhale and, humming your favorite melody, calmly drive home in a great mood, without stressing yourself out.

Learn to relax. You can relieve stress by playing sports, your favorite hobby, spending time with loved ones or in nature. As you learn to make time for yourself and relieve stress, you will notice that you resort to obscene language less and less often.

Build your self-confidence. You cannot endlessly assert yourself at the expense of other people. You need your own inner core, a sense of yourself as a person that you respect, appreciate and love. Anyone who is self-confident, has inner strength and a strong spirit will never allow himself to humiliate a person and attack his pride.

Try to control your emotions. The most effective option is to mentally count to ten before answering an unpleasant person or reacting to the current situation. Replace obscene words with alternative expressions from normal Russian. It will take a little practice and patience to get used to.

Constantly develop yourself. Don't stop there. Read more quality literature, expand your vocabulary. Take part in virtual educational platforms, improve your skills, master related specialties, and become interested in the world. Set new goals, dream, move forward.

This will give you self-confidence and make positive changes in your life. It is likely that you will meet interesting people with whom it is pleasant to talk without swearing. In addition, you will learn to enjoy using beautiful and rich figures of speech.

Researchers have long recognized obscene language as one of the types of verbal aggression and a way to throw out negativity on the interlocutor, because any word spoken by a person carries energy. Sometimes the use of swearing becomes so commonplace that we don’t even notice how often we raise our voices and express our point of view through swearing.

Obscene language, used with or without reason, significantly reduces the overall vocabulary, making speech poor and vulgar. In addition, swearing causes a painful and unpleasant impression on a well-educated and cultured interlocutor, and makes one think about the mental and psychological state of a person (as is known, people with complexes, suffering from low self-esteem and other problems swear more often).

Swearing becomes so firmly ingrained in our vocabulary that sometimes, even after realizing the problem, it can be difficult to get rid of it, because it requires a lot of endurance and self-control, and the first step is to identify the reasons for the frequent use of swear words.

Three types of behavior and three main motives:

How to stop swearing

First of all, realize that swearing is not the root cause and main problem in your life, but just a byproduct of tension and psychological discomfort that has been felt for a long time. At first, a negative worldview, anger, and a critical perception of oneself are formed, which is why it is so important to engage in introspection if you really want to solve a number of problems, including stopping swearing. Take a piece of paper and write down the answers to a few questions:

Remember in what situations do you use swearing most often, what people, events are the provoking factor?
How does taboo vocabulary help you and how does it hinder you in communicating with people?
Imagine that you were able to cope with the problem and no longer swear. Have there been any positives in your life? Or, on the contrary, is there now no way to vent aggression?
Are such words really necessary, are they so important to you?

Make an agreement with the friend or relative you spend most time with to reprimand you whenever you swear or fail to control your anger.
At first, avoid provoking factors - driving, long lines, conflicts with unpleasant people, listening to obscene songs, etc.
In a team, it is very effective to combat swearing with the help of a piggy bank, into which you need to put a certain amount for each swear word spoken.
Try to change your speech style - start replacing any curse words with decent words, thinking about each phrase and pronouncing it to yourself.

If a child swears - what to do?

If you suddenly discover that your baby can swear like a real shoemaker, it’s time to reconsider your parenting methods because, most likely, the child’s behavior is the result of parental indifference. When mom and dad are busy doing something of their own and are not paying attention to their baby, why not attract attention with a swear word, ideally when this happens in a public place and a large audience becomes witnesses. Spanking, admonitions and strict lectures will not have any positive effect, and may lead to even worse consequences.

Before you start fighting child abuse, you need to find out what the motives for the “crime” are; they depend, first of all, on the age of the child:

The eradication of swear words from a child’s speech should not be accompanied by the same swear words, otherwise the ban will not be effective. When prohibiting something, be sure to support the monologue with arguments and your own example. Don't shame your child in public or use lip slaps as punishment.

From the very moment the baby is born, make sure that relatives around him do not use taboo vocabulary.
If a swear word does come out of your child’s mouth, for the first time pretend that you didn’t notice it and watch his reaction. If a child expects a response from you, it means he well understands the meaning of the forbidden word and is simply provoking his parents. Perhaps, without waiting for punishment, he will lose interest in the word and forget about it.
When an incident occurs in a public place, do not get angry and do not scold your offspring. Apologize, pretend that nothing criminal happened and continue the conversation. And at home, having calmed down, express your opinion about the child’s behavior.
Often children themselves ask to explain the meaning of a particular word. Try to convey to your child that this word is a dirty word and is only used when they want to offend the other person.
If swearing does appear in, ask your son or daughter to tell you what this or that word means to him, and whether they know its meaning. Try replacing it with a phrase that is similar in meaning, but more decent.

Mat refers to bad habits, rude and ugly. In our country, obscene language is prohibited in public places, and a foul-mouthed offender may face administrative liability and various monetary fines. It is believed that swearing is a native Russian habit.

Why do people start swearing? And what pleasure do they get from it? Some are so dominated by obscene words that they don’t even notice their uniqueness. How to stop swearing and clear your speech of swearing? This habit repels many people, it is especially unpleasant when dirty words come out of the mouths of modern emancipated girls.

Obscene language prevents a person from succeeding in society and in the service

This habit is characteristic of all people without exception, even the most educated and cultured. Mat can be found in every culture and in almost every language. Individuals in creative professions are especially famous for their passion for swearing. So why is obscenity so common?

Stressful situation. Doctors have found that when a person experiences stress, the level of his intellectual abilities drops sharply. Verbal and logical comprehension of what was said is stopped. The body automatically launches barriers of psychological defense, which is expressed in the pronunciation of curses.
Mental protection. Sometimes the body has to save the vulnerable psyche of people experiencing an emotional outburst. This is especially true for many representatives of blue-collar professions.

People swear, referring to animals, nature, inanimate objects, as if personifying them and expressing their own dissatisfaction with something. At the same time, a sharp outburst of negative emotions occurs in the body. A person gets rid of them and does not retain them in his psyche. Therefore, in some way protecting yourself.

To get rid of the habit of swearing, you need to admit that you have this problem.

It turns out that swearing is good for your health? But we should not forget about society - the environment of the people with whom we come into contact. Mat, if it is necessary, must be present in accordance with the established rules of ethics and morality. For example, burping, emitting gas, blowing your nose - this is also necessary for health, but no one does these actions in public.

Swearing and obscene language

Psychologists distinguish between situations when people simply sometimes swear, and when they constantly communicate in obscene language. It’s one thing when a person swears while under stress, and quite another when a person constantly uses obscene words, even when he is in a calm mood. This passion demonstrates the following qualities:

infantilism;
lack of culture;
psychological weakness;
disrespect both for oneself and for others;
the presence of a neurotic or psychological disorder.

Coprolalia - the need to swear

Before choosing the most suitable methods for yourself on how to stop swearing, you should find out whether such a habit is a mental disorder? In medicine, there is the concept of “coprolalia,” which means a person’s tendency to constantly swear.

Coprolalia comes from the Greek language and in translation this word sounds like “copro” - excrement, “lalia” - speech. This disorder is often observed in people suffering from schizophrenia, Tourette's syndrome and a number of other serious diseases. In this case, a person is automatically and unconsciously drawn to swear. One of the symptoms of these disorders is severe, progressive personality degradation.

What consequences can result from the presence of obscene words in everyday life?

In addition to coprolalia, there are a number of side disorders associated with an attraction to obscenity. This:

copropraxia (showing offensive, uncivil gestures to all people);
coprography (uncontrollable urge to write obscenities and draw indecent drawings wherever possible).

Where did swear words come from?

We all know very well that when you want to swear, words are used that reflect the essence of the reproductive process and the reproductive organs themselves. Why is the swear word based on these words? Yes, because people have been brought up for centuries and millennia in the traditions of Puritanism, when it was believed that intimate intimacy and the organs of the reproductive system are something shameful, shameful and dirty.

What purpose does a person pursue when swearing? The desire to insult and humiliate the opponent more painfully and forcefully. At moments when a stressful situation blocks the competent vocabulary, a person automatically uses words and expressions that are considered the most offensive.

A useful reminder when dealing with your own bad language

And he makes a big mistake. After all, by insulting other people, a person, first of all, humiliates himself. To believe that when using obscene curses, the swearer seems to rise above the others is a big self-deception.

How to stop swearing

To rid yourself of uncultured expressions (by the way, many people themselves feel very uncomfortable when another portion of swear words comes out of their mouths), there are several methods. Study them, one of them will definitely help you.

Own re-education

This method is especially recommended for the fair sex. How to stop swearing at a girl - adopt this technique. It consists of several steps.

Help from friends. Friends and trusted girlfriends become the first assistants in this difficult matter. Ask them to constantly remind you that swearing is not and is prohibited. Let your friends monitor the purity of your speech and pull you back every time you have a breakdown.
We identify the provocateur. To stop a girl from swearing, the provoking factor should be identified. That irritant that activates the desire to speak obscenely. What exactly is annoying? Slowness of the second half, traffic jams, queues in markets or even the inability to access the Internet? All provoking situations that lead to swearing should be avoided.
Instead of swearing, money. Take a large container and turn it into a piggy bank. You should add a certain amount there every time you utter another swear word. You cannot spend the accumulated money on yourself - after all, this is one of the methods of punishment. Decide for yourself who to give the “abusive” amount to.
For every swear word there is pain. There is no need to torture yourself with whips. There is a more humane way. Place a rubber band on your wrist. And now, with every swear word that comes out, pull back the rubber band and hit yourself painfully on the arm. Soon a conditioned reflex will develop in the brain that every swear word will be followed by pain. Soon the brain receptors themselves will begin to block a person’s consciousness for the next abuse.
Let's turn on our imagination. It is unlikely that you will want to swear in front of your old and dearly adored grandmother or little brother/sister (son/daughter). Every time you want to swear loudly, imagine that they are nearby. The desire to swear will immediately fade into the background, and soon it will completely stop visiting the person.

Behavioral changes

To get rid of the addiction to constantly swearing, you should convince yourself that it is something disgusting. Mat is far from the most successful and useful habit. First of all, the people around him create the impression of the foul-mouthed person as a person of a low level of development, with the absence of any education.

What slogans can be used when fighting a bad habit?

Mat negatively affects career growth and personal success. This fact has long been proven by psychologists.

What steps should be taken to achieve this?

Identify the origins of this problem. At what point did you start swearing? Is this a childhood habit or were you just trying to imitate someone?
Realize and admit that you have an unpleasant habit. The most important condition is to understand that this problem exists and must be dealt with. And at the same time, you should never blame other people - no one forced you to swear - this is entirely your personal cost.
Switch to positive thinking. Swearing and humor are incompatible. Learn to think about everyone and perceive any situation, even very unpleasant ones, from a positive and funny angle. In any problem or annoying misunderstanding, first of all, look for the funny moments. At first it’s not easy, but over time, humor and irony will walk alongside you and turn into wonderful helpers. After all, it is the ability to be ironic at oneself, the presence of a subtle sense of humor that attracts most people.
Arm yourself with patience. Sometimes it is very difficult to wait for someone or something for a long time or to toil in line behind a sluggish person. I want to push, curse. Stop. To wean yourself from swearing, you should become patient and stress-resistant. There are different techniques for this: from the ability to relax to ordinary internal mathematical calculations to the emergence of a sense of calm.
Find motivation. Decide what you need to achieve, why do you need to wean yourself from swearing? Maybe raising children with dignity, making necessary and useful contacts, getting a promotion, or the desire to meet a pretty woman? Or maybe it’s worth surrounding yourself with the halo of an intelligent and cultured person? Especially at a new duty station? Decide and set yourself a goal.

Replacement of speech behavior

The first step to cleanse your own ability to speak is to become aware of this habit. Are there any favorite swear words that are used all the time? You should find the relationship between your “favorite” swear word and the source of irritation that makes you want to swear.

Then try to understand how unpleasant swear words sound from the outside. Listen to the speech of other people who swear. Can this really be considered attractive and smart? Listen to your own perception of what emotions a swearing personality evokes in you. Not very positive.

Try replacing swear words with old Russian curse words that sound funny and amusing

It is precisely these emotions that you provoke towards yourself in the people around you. Do you need this? As soon as you realize that swearing sounds unattractive and repulsive, gradually remove swear words from your own vocabulary. Compiling a preliminary list of your most frequently heard swear words will help with this.

Psychologists advise looking for alternatives to other swear words that start with the same letter or have a similar sound. For example: “Arctic fox”, “Mlyn”, “Eshka’s cat”, “ridge”, “yokanny babay”. These meaningless and funny-sounding words can help a person completely stop using swear words.

You can also replace such “baby talk” with smarter and brighter-sounding words. To do this, simply enrich your own vocabulary. Arm yourself with a dictionary and for each swear word, select a replacement that you think is worthy.

Psychologists, based on a number of studies, claim that on average, about 20-22 days are enough for a healthy person to change his speech habits and get rid of the manner of swearing. The following useful tips will help with this:

Mark on your calendar every day that goes by without swearing. If for 2-3 days you manage to never utter a swear word, reward yourself for this with some nice purchase.
Don't forget about the children. Little imitators will definitely use your swear words, enriching their own young vocabulary with it. So that you don’t have to blush in front of the teacher or teacher later, spare the kids from your own swearing.
As soon as you feel a surge of irritation and negativity, run to the gym. Or buy a homemade pear that will withstand all the blows when the owner is in a bad mood. This is much better than polluting the surrounding air with selected obscenities.
When you really want to swear, close your eyes and slowly count internally to 10. Count smoothly, taking deep breaths. As soon as it ends, you will understand that, in principle, you no longer want to swear.

But still, do not think that swearing is something terrible and disgusting. Sometimes even geniuses and people respected by everyone swear. It is important to know the measure and place. Remember that the main goal is to abandon the regular use of swear words in any situation, to forget exactly that swear word that has become an integral part of one’s own personality and behavior. Good luck!