December 12th, 2015

On the eve of the New Year there is a proposal to let go of all grievances)

Agree, after you forgive someone, your soul becomes lighter and many pains and spasms go away. Life becomes calmer and more joyful.
But it’s not always possible to forgive and let go. Although you understand everything with your head, a small wormhole remains in your soul. In my trainings, I have observed many times how some training participants manage to truly forgive, while others need to return to the issue of forgiveness over and over again, because the offense does not go away. And not just return, but also use different techniques. There is no universal forgiveness technique that would help everyone equally.Choose a practice that suits your liking, which will help you get rid of grievances, feelings of guilt and heaviness.

10 Forgiveness Practices

Practice 1 - Visualizations for forgiveness of grievances

Tune in to mental work, sit comfortably, turn off extraneous sounds and stay in silence for 2-3 minutes.

Imagine that you are near an ancient temple. The gates are open and you enter this fabulous temple and meet your offender.

Imagine that he is about three to five years old. You can see on the child’s face that he is scared and realizes that he has made a mistake. He addresses you by name and asks for forgiveness. Imagine that as a child he asks for forgiveness for all the offenses he committed against you.

You can mentally express all the negative emotions that have accumulated.

After this, ask for forgiveness from this child and communicate with him.

After communication, we mentally say goodbye and leave this temple.

Practice 2 - Forgiveness of offense in three letters.

This practice is done in several stages

• In the first letter, write all your negative experiences and emotions. Everything that has been kept deep inside for a long time. Don’t hold back (surging feelings and memories).


• The next day, write down your remaining negative emotions again. Spit out on paper everything that might be left.


• On the third day, write in a letter how your life has improved because of that situation.


• Finally, it is advisable to burn these letters you wrote. This is an excellent cleansing ritual. And our subconscious really loves symbolic actions

Practice 3 - Letter to the offender

Another technique for forgiving letter writing. For many, writing a letter is the best way to get rid of negative emotions.

We begin the letter with the words: “I’ll tell you now something that I’ve never said before.”

We write according to this scheme:

1. This is what you did to me;


2. This is what I had to endure;


3. This is how it affected my life;


4. This is what I expect from you now.

Point 4 gives us the opportunity to understand ourselves, what exactly we need and can try to get it elsewhere.

Practice 4 - Giving the offender flowers

Perhaps the most original and effective practice that breaks the pattern of thinking is giving flowers to the offender and changing memories.

Close your eyes and remember the situation before your offense. Imagine it in every detail. Remember the details and at the moment when resentment begins to appear inside you, mentally imagine that you are taking out a huge bouquet of flowers and handing it to your offender. Imagine the confusion on a person’s face. Thus, we break the patterns of memories. And you can communicate and ask for forgiveness and forgive.

Be sure to try to mentally role-play such a situation and communicate, you will probably feel how non-standard behavior can shock the interlocutor and you will be able to move the conversation in the right direction for you - forgiveness and mutual understanding.

5 practice - Meditative forgiveness

This practice is more suitable for those people who have already gone through an acute period of resentment and are ready to get rid of negative emotions as planned.

It is more like an affirmation, repeated repetition of a pre-written text in a meditative state

Example text:

“I completely forgive (name of the offender). I forgive him without any conditions or restrictions, regardless of whether he wants me to forgive him. I forgive him because I am a free person and I refuse to carry the burden of resentment in my heart. I release all negative thoughts towards (name of the offender). I feel that as the resentment leaves my heart, I feel light and joyful. I am completely free from bitterness. I wish (the offender’s name) physical and spiritual health.”

It is important to repeat the text in a meditative state, when your consciousness is slightly weakened and you have an excellent opportunity to penetrate your subconscious and cleanse it.

6 practice of forgiveness- Empty chair

Place an empty chair in the room and imagine that the same person is sitting on the chair.

Express everything you want to say, all your complaints, all your grievances. You can use any words and expressions, you can scream and yell, throw out all your emotions, and this must be done.

Allow yourself any manifestations of physical activity, you can stomp your feet, throw objects at him. The main thing is to release all the aggression that has accumulated over a long time.

Stop according to your feelings, you will feel very empty and tired. This means that today you did a good job and got rid of some negativity.

You can repeat this action as much as you need, you yourself will understand and feel when it is enough.

7 practice of forgiveness - Meditation by Louise Hay

Close your eyes. Stay in this position for a couple of minutes. Then imagine that you are in a cinema where a documentary film is starting. And the person with whom you are associated with negative emotions appears on the screen.

This person may be alive or may have already left this world. When you clearly consider this person, imagine that something good is happening to him, which is of great importance to this person.

Picture him happy and smiling. Try to hold this image for a couple of minutes.

Then, when the image of the person disappears, imagine that they are starting to show you in this film. And something good happens to you. You are happy and satisfied.

This practice requires multiple repetitions.

8 practice of forgiveness - Sviyash Meditation

Choose a person with whom you will work with the thought form of your negative experiences. For example, let it be your father.

Begin mentally repeating the phrase several times in a row: With love and gratitude, I forgive my father and accept him as God created him (or: and accept him as he is). I apologize to my father for my negative thoughts, emotions and actions towards him. My father forgives me for my thoughts, emotions and actions towards him.

This formula works most effectively to erase negative emotions towards living people with whom you periodically meet and experience discomfort, but can also be used for deceased people. The same form is used when working with events, any phenomena, and even with Life.

With love and gratitude, I forgive my Life and accept it in all its manifestations as God created it (or: and accept it as it is). I apologize to my Life for my negative thoughts, emotions and actions towards it. My Life forgives me for my thoughts, emotions and actions towards it. This technique should be performed on every person for whom you have experienced negative emotions for at least 3-4 hours in total. And for those you barely remember, you can get by with 20-40 minutes. When you feel warmth in the center of your chest, in most cases this will mean that you have no negative emotions left in your body towards this person. And try to remember all the people with whom you might have had any negative experiences.

9 practice of forgiveness - S. Gawain.

Step 1: Forgiveness and liberation of others. Write down on a piece of paper the names of all those people who, it seems to you, have ever hurt you, treated you wrongly or unfairly. Or (and) those towards whom you still feel (or previously experienced) indignation, anger and other negative feelings. Next to each person's name, write what they did to you. And why you are offended by him.

Then close your eyes, relax, and visualize or imagine each person one by one. Have a short conversation with each of them and explain to him or her that in the past you felt angry or resentful toward him or her, but now you intend to do everything in your power to forgive them for everything

Give them your blessing and say, “I forgive you and set you free. Go your own way and be happy." When you are done with this process, write on your piece of paper, “I now forgive and set you all free,” and throw it away or burn it as a symbol that you have freed yourself from these past experiences.

The great advantage of the technique proposed by S. Gawain is that you forgive not only others, but also yourself. That is, you get rid of not only anger and resentment, but also guilt and the shame associated with it.

Step 2. Forgiveness and freeing yourself. Now write down the names of everyone you think you have ever hurt or been unfair to. Write down exactly what you did with each of them. And then close your eyes again, relax and imagine each of these people in turn.

Tell him or her what you did and ask them to forgive you for it and give you their blessing. Then imagine them doing it - i.e. forgiving you.

When you are finished, write at the bottom or across your piece of paper: “I forgive myself and absolve myself of all guilt here, now and forever!” Then tear up the paper and throw it away (or burn it again).

Practice 10 - Emotional-corrective experience J. Rainwater

Write down the disturbing or offensive episode as a short story, written in the present tense and in the first person. Restore all the events as accurately as possible (unless, of course, they became a serious psychological trauma for you). Restore all the dialogues and describe your feelings. Now rewrite the story the way you would like it to happen. Slap the offender, meet the pursuer halfway and defeat him. At least somehow, take revenge on the tormentor. Or love the person you hate. Do whatever you want. Create new dialogues. Describe your other feelings. And come up with your own ending and denouement.

Changing your life for the better, healing illnesses, improving relationships with children and loved ones, becoming calmer - the practice of forgiveness will help you do all this. Remember, as long as resentment “sits” in you, the roads to happiness are closed! And it doesn’t matter who you’re offended by: your parents, yourself or your ex-husband. You need to work with this to find strength, joy, peace and happiness.

Forgiving yourself

Forgiving yourself is the main step towards self-love; it is an opportunity to improve all areas of life and experience happiness.

To practice self-forgiveness, you need a piece of paper and some free time. Remember and write the names of all those whom you have hurt, with whom you have been cruel or unfair. Or describe a situation after which you felt offended by yourself. It is very useful to close your eyes and remember it in all its colors and details, no matter how painful it may be.

Now imagine the person you offended and ask him to forgive you and give you his blessing. After this, write large on top of the sheet: “I forgive myself and absolve myself of all guilt here, now and forever!”. You will then need to burn the sheet of paper on a candle and throw the ashes into the water.

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Forgiveness practice: forgiving parents

Our parents symbolize for us not only a strong connection with the Family, but also the past, childhood. If you are offended by your parents, then the energetic support of Rod is closed for you, and all childhood memories are darkened. Involuntarily, under the influence of resentment, we tend to “paint” our entire childhood in dark colors and multiply the negative.

Resentment against parents (or just mom or dad) also has much more real consequences. For example, resentment towards a father who left the family prevents a woman from trusting men and building relationships.

Resentment towards the mother, who did not pay due attention to her son, prevents a man from realizing himself. Resentment also finds its way out in the form of illness, depression, and problems with children.

To avoid all this, it is necessary to carry out a series of practices of forgiving parents. If you have a grudge against your dad, then you need to start the practice on Sunday, if you have a grudge against your mom, on Monday.

So, every day we make two or three full bows to one of the parents, preferably in front of his photo and with respect. Bowing is best done at home alone, daily, in the morning or evening, even before bed. If the parents are not alive, the practice still works.

We put up a photo, stand next to it and thank the parent out loud. You can say this: “Mom, I accept you for who you are, and thank you for the life you gave me!” Then bend in a full bow (you need to touch the ground with 5 points - arms, legs, forehead), stretch your arms forward, palms up. Make 2-3 bows.

Additionally, with your left hand (if you are left-handed, then with your right) you need to write the following phrases 10 times and then read them out loud:

“Dear mother (name), I ask you for forgiveness for everything.

Dear mother (name), I forgive you for everything.

Dear mother (name), I thank you for everything"

You also need to work with resentment towards your father. It is advisable to carry out the practice for 3-4 weeks, and if the grievances are long-standing and deep, then longer. In conclusion, believers can go to church and pray for their parents

This is a very serious study, the results of which improve life in many aspects, improve health and personal relationships.

Forgiveness of "exes"

This practice of forgiveness helps to let go not only of former loved ones, but also of any other offenders. It is simple but very effective.

So, retire, put an empty chair in front of you. Imagine a person sitting with whom you hold a grudge. Now tell him everything, don’t hold back, you can scream, swear, stomp your feet! Speak without stopping and without controlling yourself!

When you run out of words, go to the table and write on a piece of paper: “With love and gratitude, I forgive you (name) and let you go! I apologize to you (name) for my negative thoughts, emotions and actions! From now on, be happy!” .

It is advisable to perform this practice for 2-3 weeks for long-lasting results. After it, you can improve your personal life, meet new love, and bring harmony to your home, relationships with your partner and children. Life becomes more joyful, calmer and more successful!

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Resentmentis a negative experience that appears after you have been treated unfairly, humiliated, betrayed, or hurt in any other way. Resentment is a very destructive emotion, which, with prolonged effects on your body, can cause enormous harm.

Being offended, on a subconscious level, and sometimes consciously, you wish death to those people who hurt you, and these negative thoughts come back to you. As a result, all sorts of problems with health and other areas of life begin. And it is very important to learn the ability to forgive.

You need to free yourself from negative thought forms that accumulate in your bodies. And release all suppressed emotions to freedom. This will have a beneficial effect on both your well-being and other areas of your life. It will become easy and joyful for you to walk along the road of existence. By freeing yourself from negative experiences, you will clear space for more positive emotions that will attract happiness, luck and success into your life.

In order to forgive, one must understand some laws of the universe. One of them, which is associated with negative thoughts, is the law of attraction. It turns out that nothing happens in our lives for nothing. A person himself attracts certain events to himself. And if you were offended, it means that you yourself attracted this person. This means this is your LESSON. And instead of getting angry at the offender, you should understand this situation and change something in yourself. You should open your heart to unconditional love and understanding, forgive and move on, towards joy and great happiness.

How to forgive?

There are many different techniques for releasing grievances, and on our website you can choose the one that suits you best. Try different ways of forgiveness and clear yourself of the burden of negative experiences that interfere with your happiness and health. I would also like to tell you that forgiveness is not a quick job. It takes time and some effort. And you will have to relive the pain that you wanted to forget. You need to be prepared for this. Set yourself up to do exercises to release grievances. I know that it is not so pleasant, but this holy work is worth it. Forgiveness of grievances will lead you to success and great well-being.

Technique of Forgiveness according to Margarita Murakhovskaya

Imagine that you are walking along a country road. There is a flower meadow around. The road bisects a huge field covered in beautiful wildflowers. You hear the buzzing of insects, the singing of a lark in the high sky. You can breathe easily and calmly. You slowly move along the road.

A man is walking towards you. And the closer he gets to you, the more you begin to understand that this is your father. This is your dad, only in his youth.

You walk up to him, take his hands and say: “Hello, daddy. Please forgive me for not being what you wanted. Thank you for everything, for what happened and what didn’t happen.

Daddy, I love you very much. I forgive you for everything. I forgive you for not being there when I missed you so much. I forgive you. You owe me nothing. You are free".

You begin to notice how your father is turning into a small child. He is about 3 years old. You look at this baby, and you want to take him in your arms, hug him gently and say: “I love you.” I love you very much". A small child turns into a tiny one that fits in the palm of your hand. You place it with tenderness and love in your heart, in your soul. Where he will be comfortable and calm.

You take a deep breath and exhale and move on. A man is walking towards you. And the closer he gets to you, the more you begin to understand that this is your mother, only in her youth. She is now the same age as when she gave birth to you. You approach her and take her hands and say:

“Hello, mommy. Please forgive me for everything, for the fact that I sometimes hurt you. Forgive me for not living up to your expectations. And I forgive you for everything. For what happened and what didn’t happen. I forgive "for the fact that when I so needed your support, you were not there. I forgive you with love. Now you are free. Thank you for everything, for the fact that thanks to you, I was born. Thank you for your tenderness and care"

You begin to notice how your mother is turning into a little girl of 3 years old. She is standing in front of you. You take her in your arms, press her gently to you and say: “I love you very much.” You are the closest and dearest." It becomes so tiny that it fits in your palm. You plant it in your heart, in your soul. Where she will be warm and comfortable.

You take a deep breath and exhale and move on. In the distance you see the figure of a man. And the closer you get, the more you begin to realize that it is you. You look at yourself and say: “Well, hello.” Please forgive me for everything. For always appreciating you. I really love you very much. You are the closest and dearest person to me.”

You begin to notice how the person standing in front of you becomes a three-year-old toddler. You take him in your arms, hold him close, say: “you know, I love you, I love you very much.” This wonderful baby becomes very small, he fits in your palm. You place it in your heart, in your soul, in your inner world.

Now your inner child, inner parent, inner adult is with you. These parts help you live and function effectively.

You are walking along a country road again. You can breathe easily and freely. Your soul is at peace. And now everything in your life will be different, because you are different. You are filled with self-love and your parts are harmonious. Take a deep breath in and out and open your eyes.

Forgiveness Meditation by Louise Hay

Once you are completely relaxed, imagine that you are in a darkened theater. There is a small stage in front of you. You see on this stage the person who hurt you. This person could be from your present or past. He may be alive or dead. See him in front of you and imagine that something wonderful, very pleasant and important event happened to him. He is happy. He smiles.

Watch him for a few minutes and then take his place on stage. And see yourself happy and joyful too. As if something pleasant happened to you. Imagine yourself in a great mood. You are the happiest person in the world!

Do this exercise for one month, once a day, and you will notice that you will become more friendly and calm. You will find lightness and freedom from resentment.

Exercise Revenge on the offender

It happens that your inner child wants to satisfy the thirst for revenge before forgiving. Then you should try this exercise. Just don’t abuse it, once will be enough.

Take a comfortable position and close your eyes. Relax. Imagine those people who greatly offended you. What do you want to do with these people? How to take revenge on them? What do they have to do for you to forgive them? Imagine this picture in every detail. How long do you want to see your offenders punished and suffering?

Then forgive them and feel satisfaction because you have given people peace and goodness.

Exercise Forgiveness

This exercise is very effective, it should be performed for 5-10 minutes at least once a week. It is better to do this with a partner. But you can do it alone, you just have to say positive messages loudly, emotionally and repeatedly. Taking a comfortable position and closing your eyes, say: “The person I want to forgive...” and “I forgive you for...”

If you are doing this exercise with a partner, then let him tell you words of gratitude and that he is setting you free. If you do the exercise alone, imagine that these words are spoken to you by the person you want to forgive.

After you have freed yourself from resentment, tell yourself: “I forgive myself for...”

Honoring and accepting their parents is the main responsibility of children. Sometimes this is difficult to understand and do because of various kinds of grievances against parents. This especially often applies to fathers who left the family. Also, if the child was sent to an orphanage or to be raised by other relatives. There may be many reasons, but this does not negate the need for acceptance. As the fifth commandment says: “Honor your father and your mother, that it may go well with you and that you may live long on earth.” These words convey the meaning that we are not doing this for our parents, just like obedient children, but we need to do this, first of all, for ourselves. So that we live a long and happy life and pass this gift on to our children.

There is now a lot of information about parental adoption; here we will talk directly about the practice of adoption. There are a huge number of such practices, but, in my opinion, the most effective is "40-day practice of working through birth scenarios with both parents". The advantages of this particular practice are as follows:

• It involves simultaneous development of relationships with both parents.
• This practice includes an element of bowing, which means that the law of hierarchy is observed.
• With its help, we build internal relationships, i.e. in it we can tell our parents about all our pain without fear of an emotional response; this is a dialogue at the level of our souls.
• Here we can ask for blessings for a happy destiny, if in reality this is not possible.
• Naturally, through our parents we also establish a connection with our entire family on the maternal and paternal lines.
• It takes little time, from 3 to 5 minutes a day.

So, the practice itself:

Kneeling, forehead touching the floor, arms extended forward, palms up. Imagine that your parents are standing right in front of you - mom on the right hand, dad on the left. And in this situation it is necessary to start a conversation with the parents. You can tell your parents one by one, first your father, then your mother, what is in your soul, what grievances live in your heart. At this moment, there may be resistance, a feeling of shame, a reluctance to do the practice, or maybe, on the contrary, you will want to cry, you will feel your heart opening up. In any case, you need to give free rein to your emotions, this is the healing process. Our bodily tensions and pain come out with tears and various kinds of emotions.

After you have spoken out your grievances, I suggest saying "Prayer at the dawn of life" from the book "Orders of Love" by Bert Hellinger. First we turn to dad, then to mom:

“Dear dad, I accept everything you give me, all of it, without exception.

I accept everything for the full price it cost you and costs me.

I will create something from this, for your joy (in memory of you).

It shouldn't have been in vain. I honor and keep this

I accept you as my dad, and I belong to you, like your child, your daughter.

You are the one I need, and I am the child you need.

You are big and I am small. You give, I take.

Dear Dad! I'm glad you chose mom.

You both are the ones I need. Only you!".

A comment:

• “I accept everything you give me, all of it, without exception.”

It is accepting everything that you received or did not receive from your parent. The most important thing here is that you give thanks for the fact that he gave you life. If it weren't for him, you wouldn't have been born.

Children often blame their parents for giving them too little or not what they wanted. But you must admit that if your parents had the opportunity to give you everything you wanted, wouldn’t they really do it? The same can be said about attitude. The way your parents behaved towards you is often a model of behavior that they adopted from their parents or close relatives. They were taught that way; they didn’t know any other methods. And note, no matter how much we resist, we often adopt the behavior style and life scenarios of our ancestors. These are the laws of the tribal system. By accepting what was, and by accepting without judgment, you launch a new scenario, free from resentment and the influence of the problems of your ancestors.

• “I accept everything for the full price it cost you and costs me.”

This is accepting your parent simply as a person who also had the right to make mistakes and seek happiness. If your parents separated during your childhood, for example, your dad left, you stayed with your mom, and suffered a lot, and saw your mother suffering, then it is important to understand that it was their adult choice. If the relationship between them became unbearable, then why did either of them have to suffer in this marriage? Marriage for the sake of children does not bring happiness to either the parents or the children. Children subconsciously and personally see problems in relationships and adopt the script that marriage is suffering.

This phrase also implies that we accept all that it has cost us personally. Those. our same suffering, pain, feeling of injustice, etc., as a lesson for your soul. They say that we choose our parents even before the moment of incarnation, exactly the same parents that we have or had in order to learn the lessons of our previous lives.

• “I will create something from this, for your joy (in memory of you).”

When we blame our parents for our troubles and misfortunes (they didn’t allow them, they didn’t help them, they didn’t give them), we remain with them in a symbiotic relationship with the “-” sign. And this means that we are not separated from them. Blaming allows us to abdicate responsibility and not be responsible for our own failures. But the danger here is that in this way we block the flow of ancestral energy from our parents to ourselves.

This phrase says that now, as an adult and a mature soul, I leave grievances in the past and move on with pure thoughts and intentions. I take everything that you were able to give me with gratitude, and now I myself will try to increase and improve it. Now I take responsibility for my life myself and go offline. And to continue this thought: "It shouldn't have been in vain".

• “I honor and treasure this, and if allowed, I will pass it on, just like you.”

Energy in the family flows from the eldest to the youngest. Our parents take energy from their fathers and mothers. By accepting our parents, we allow the ancestral flow to flow from them to us, thereby we pass this flow through ourselves and pass it on to our children. Also, by honoring our parents, we set a good example for our children. After all, everyone wants their child to love and respect them.

• “I accept you as my dad, and I belong to you, like your child, your daughter.”

I unconditionally and without judgment accept you as my parent. I don't need anything else.

• "You are the one I need, and I am the child you need."

This means that our souls initially chose each other to undergo their lessons.

• “You are big, and I am small. You give, I take.”

It was said above that energy in a family flows from the eldest to the youngest, but not vice versa. In accordance with the law of hierarchy, parents are always big figures for us, and we are small for them. They appeared in the family before us. When we condemn our parents, lecture them, reject them, conditionally become their parents, believing that they themselves do not know how to do anything or cannot cope, we take on the function of being older, smarter, more experienced, etc. Thus we block the flow. Our parents give us energy, and we take it from them as the next generation, and nothing else.

• “Dear dad! I’m glad you chose mom. Both of you are the ones I need. Only you!”

It is accepting both parents as one for you. And also gratitude for the fact that they chose each other so that you could be born.

After the prayer, you can ask your parents for blessings for a happy destiny, for health, for harmony in family relationships, for everything that you need. And at the end of the practice, thank your parents.

The best day to start working with the family is considered 10th lunar day "Fountain"- day of family, home and kindred. It is advisable to perform it in the morning, while your consciousness is still clear. The practice is performed for 40 days without breaks. And this is very important! There are very frequent cases when a person simply forgets to do the practice one day. This is the resistance of the mind, which is accustomed to keeping everything under control and acting in the usual way. After all, change is always scary for our minds. If you miss a day, start the countdown again.

While doing the practice, it is important to monitor your sensations in your head and body. The side of the body (right or left) in which there will be the most sensations (numbness, tingling, pain, etc.) will signal what kind of problem there is. If in the maternal, then sensations can arise in the left side of the body, if in the paternal, then in the right. Do not be alarmed by these sensations, this is normal, and as you practice, these sensations will pass.

Easy practice for you!

Hello, dear friend! We continue to work with the first area of ​​the Wheel of Marriage - the area of ​​Forgiveness, and transform the negative emotions of the past into gratitude and love. Your task for today is to forgive your father.

And before I tell you how and why to do this, I will ask you to write reports on the site daily, even if this report is one line. If your report is not on the site, then you are out of the Game. I must understand that you each take one step towards your happiness - only these steps are the key to our common success. Agreed?

Now let's return to our topic. So, your relationship with men is greatly influenced by your relationship with your father. It is the attitude towards your father that lays the foundation for your future attitude towards the men in your life. And it doesn’t matter whether you grew up in a complete family or not, and whether he is alive now.

At a young age, a girl compares all men with her father. As an adult, no matter how you feel about your father, sooner or later you will begin to feel the same way about all men. Unless you specifically work through and forgive grievances and discontent.

For example, Marina, a subscriber to the “I Want to Get Married” club, grew up in a complete family, at first glance quite prosperous, but she cannot build relationships with men. Men pay attention to her, but she constantly “runs away” from them. As soon as someone shows a little more pressure, she immediately builds a “protective” wall, begins to distance herself and behave with arrogance and sometimes even rudeness.

It turned out that she was very contemptuous and still treats her father this way, although he has long left this world. She believes that he was weak and weak-willed, that at the moment when she needed help and support, he betrayed her and abandoned her, and many more grievances and various claims over trifles.

She experiences the same feelings for all men, regardless of their social status, appearance, age, etc.

Therefore, if you do not resolve your internal conflict with your father, do not forgive him and do not let go of everything that has accumulated over the years of your life, firstly, it will be difficult for you to become happy, and secondly, it is almost impossible to create a happy relationship with a man.

PRACTICE OF “FORGIVENESS OF THE FATHER”

So, take a piece of paper and write down those grievances against your father that you remember. Write down all negative thoughts and complaints towards your father. Write down all the unpleasant situations, negative thoughts, emotions and feelings that you experience towards him. You should get at least 70 points.

Without re-reading, burn or flush this list down the toilet and, while taking a shower, say the following:

“Dad, I forgive you. I forgive you, dad, for all unpleasant moments, situations and circumstances. I forgive you and accept you for who you were and are. I accept you. And I love you for who you are (or were). And you forgive me. You forgive me and accept me, you love me for who I am and who I was.”

You can imagine that pure light, a stream of energy, is flowing down on you from above, and it washes away all troubles, resentments, anger and discontent from your body and from your life.

You will need to forgive every offense until one day you won’t even be able to remember why, exactly, you were offended by your father then? And even if you can remember, you will only be left with a slight bewilderment: “Is that all? Why were you offended?”

After forgiving one offense, take on the second, third, fifth, tenth, and so on. Farewell and farewell. Goodbye until your soul sings. Goodbye until you feel how tired you are of living with old experiences and emotions that have been unnecessary to anyone for a hundred years, and how you want a new life, new events, new relationships and happiness in your personal life!

By the way, if you don’t have a very good relationship with your mother, then forgive her too!

I performed the technique in the toilet room while everyone was sleeping - I wrote grievances on toilet paper and, without rereading them, flushed them away. And then I took a shower. It took me 7 days to forgive and accept my father. When I did this practice, I lost 300 - 500 grams every day.

MEDITATION “I LOVE YOU, DAD!”

So, turn on the audio recording of the meditation and relax:

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Imagine that you are walking through an endless green meadow. Clouds slowly float above you, the sun gently warms your skin, you feel light and pleasant. Beautiful flowers grow around you, and a light wind brings their delicate scents to you. You walk along a path among tall grass and breathe in deeply the fresh smells of the meadow. A river flows to your right, and the quiet murmur of water reaches you, relaxing you. You walk along the river through a green meadow, and the path gradually leads you into the distance...

And then a barely visible dot appears in front of you. She is still far away, but you feel something familiar and close. You come closer and closer to her and see... a cradle with a newborn. In the newborn you recognize your father, who cries bitterly due to the lack of maternal love.

Become the mother he yearns for. Take him from the cradle and press him to your chest. Then remove him from the diapers. Clean his bottom if necessary and place it on your chest.

Examine his skin and know that any redness, pimple or diaper rash on his body indicates a lack of maternal love. Ask him for forgiveness.

Start hugging and kissing him. Make him stop crying.

Take care of this baby with all your heart to feel that he seems to dissolve in you, to be forever protected by your love. Take care of him, like a newborn, as much as possible in order to quickly make up for lost time.

Watch how he grows, develops and turns into a young, handsome man, the same as you saw your father in childhood...

Look into your father's eyes and say in your mind:

“Dad, I forgive you. I forgive you my grievances.

I forgive you everything that I was dissatisfied with.

I forgive you for not always understanding me the way I wanted.

I forgive you for your severity.

I forgive you for the fact that you could not always give me as much attention as I would like.

I forgive you for not always accepting me for who I am.

I forgive you for sometimes putting pressure on me and wanting me to be what you wanted.

I forgive you for the fact that besides me, you had other interests in life, and you could not be only with me.

I forgive you everything! I take back my grievances. I'm taking them back. All my bitterness, whims, rude words that I once told you. I take away all dissatisfaction with you, all negative energy towards you. I take it back and transform it into Love. And I will carry this Love within me. I will give this Love to people, and here is a piece of my love for you... I forgive you, dad. I love you. Forgive me too."

Look into your father's eyes again, feel the love and joy. Feel that you have been freed from your childhood grievances, from your rejection. Hug him, feeling the closeness and kinship of your souls.

You can do this meditation as many times as you feel necessary. It gives very good results.

Keep a special file on your computer or a forgiveness notebook. Write down everything that you do, what feelings and reactions arise, and, of course, the results and improvements that will begin to occur in your life somewhere after a week of forgiveness.

And one more task for today. If your parents are alive, then call them and tell them that you love them and ask for their forgiveness and blessings for a happy personal life. If they are no longer alive, light a candle in the church, ask for forgiveness from the soul and also ask for a blessing.

As soon as you do all three actions today - make and destroy a list of grievances against your father, conduct the meditation “I love you, dad!” and ask for a blessing of some kind, put a plus sign here:

Till tomorrow!

With love, your guide to personal happiness Yulia Shchedrova

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