Tactile contact is the secret weapon we have to create successful and lasting relationships. This is our language, given to us from birth. But over time we forget about its importance. How can we return to natural communication?

Psychologists recommend that in order to remember, tactile contact involves using your imagination and imagining yourself on a bus crowded with people. Passengers, being half asleep, by inertia continue to reproduce their thoughts and emotions with the help of tactile sensations. A couple in love holds hands, a small child seeks support from his mother - he reaches out to her and calms down.

Types of communication

Everyone knows that we can communicate verbally and non-verbally. But not many people know that with the help of movements and expressions one can convey quite complex emotions and desires. We are careful with our touch, but we can receive and transmit signals with it. That is, we have the ability to interpret tactile contact. When we touch another person, our brain displays an objective assessment.

The most accurate and not at all simple way to communicate

The researchers concluded that with the help of the voice, we can identify one or two positive signals - good mood and joy. However, research shows that sensations are a more accurate and subtle way of communicating than the sound of the voice and facial expressions.

In addition, using touch you can increase the speed of communication, that is, touch is the easiest way to signal something. Tactile contact with a man helps girls create a deeper sense of connection. Touch is also important in the mother-child relationship, as we begin to receive it even before birth. When a mother touches her baby, she gives him a feeling of security.

The importance of touch

Warm touch promotes release which increases feelings of affection and trust between people. This can explain our habit of touching ourselves: rubbing our hands, stroking our forehead, hair. Tactile contact helps us experience all the same positive sensations that the person we touch experiences. Research has shown that when we hug, we get as much benefit as the person we hug. In addition, by touching a person, we will receive information about his emotional state. Let's find out how he is configured: friendly or hostile. Is he relaxed or tense? Such information will help us choose the right tactics in communication. Therefore, we can say that tactile sensations are the easiest way to strengthen intimacy in a romantic relationship.

Tactile memory is the memory of the sensations we experience while touching an object. Let's say you once petted a snake at the zoo, and now every time you see a snake (on TV, for example), you remember how cold its skin is.

Tactile memory is not associated with the organs of vision; it is involved in it. Otherwise, we can talk about the joint work of visual and tactile memory. If vision is involved in memorization, then, as a rule, we do not remember tactile sensations.

Should you, for example, carry a baby in your arms? What if he then grows up spoiled, as grandma says? You want to hug and caress your baby, but to what extent is “calf tenderness” acceptable? Is it better to sleep with your child or separately? At what age does a baby need the closest possible contact with his mother, and when is it time to learn independence?

Should I carry my baby in my arms?

The famous Dr. Spock writes about this very serious problem: “The child wants to be carried in their arms because he is used to it and considers it his right. When the mother sits down to rest a little, he looks at her angrily, as if saying: “Woman, work!” Thus, in order not to spoil the child, Spock suggests keeping physical contact to a minimum.

But on the other hand, in infancy it is physical contact that is the main form of knowledge of the world. The child receives the maximum amount of information through the body, feeling and tasting everything that comes to hand.

Irina, mother of five-month-old Lenochka: “I give my daughter a new rattle and tell her how red it is and how loud it rings. But the child immediately puts it in his mouth and licks it, despite all my protests.”

This is absolutely normal behavior for an infant. His thinking has not yet been formed, his vision is not focused enough, so the world appears to him not in objects familiar to us (which we can name and remember), but in some blurred complex of sensations. For example, a child associates a mother with a certain smell, taste, or warmth.

In order for a child to receive enough of these sensations in infancy, he must have as many different bodily contacts, impressions of taste, smell, and touch as possible. Skin-to-skin contact helps the baby understand the boundaries of his own body and the boundaries of other objects.

The importance of physical contact cannot be overestimated for the emotional development of a child. What do you think will calm down a crying baby better - if the mother takes him in her arms, holds him close and strokes him, or if it is purely mechanical stimulation, like the now popular mobile over the crib? And the older child, having hit himself, runs to his mother so that she can take pity on him and caress him. And in difficult times, an adult sometimes needs to “cry into his vest” - what is this if not an intuitive search for the same physical contact? A contact that can protect, warm, calm...

It is from the lack of this contact that children in orphanages suffer the most. If you go there, you will soon be literally surrounded on all sides by children who, more than anything else, want to snuggle up to a reliable adult hand.

American scientist G.-F. Harlow conducted interesting experiments with baby monkeys in the 1960s. He offered the little monkeys, weaned from their mother, two artificial “mothers”: one of them was warm and furry, and the other was made of wire frame structures. Both “mothers” were equipped with bottles from which the monkeys could suck milk. The baby monkeys showed a strong preference for the first “mother.” But what’s even more surprising is that when the warm and fluffy “mother” lost her bottle of milk, the monkeys still chose her. Therefore, warm bodily sensations mean more to babies than feeding itself!

There is another problem associated with tactile contact, which sooner or later faces all parents:

How to put a child to sleep?

Dr. Spock approaches this issue quite harshly: “The child must understand that nothing will be achieved by waking up and crying. This can usually be achieved over 2-3 nights by allowing him to cry and not approaching him. On the first night he will cry for 20-30 minutes (it will seem much longer to you), on the second - 10 minutes, and on the third he will not cry at all.”

Spock's followers went even further. Once in one of the parenting magazines a couple of years ago I came across an article in which they promised to teach parents how to cope with their child’s night awakenings. To do this, the time that must be waited before approaching the crying baby was calculated with an accuracy of 30 seconds - on his first awakening, for example, it was proposed to wait 15 minutes, approach for 2 minutes, on the second - wait 13.5 minutes and approach for 1 ,5 minutes, etc. I had the feeling that in front of me was an algorithm for some kind of computer program, and not advice for living parents.

However, many parents believe that at 7-8 months the child should already fall asleep on his own. The situation is complicated by the fact that it is at this age that the baby’s need to be with his mother increases; he needs to spend as much time as possible in her arms. At this age, the image of the mother is formed when the child begins to distinguish her from other people, but so far the image of the mother is not preserved in his memory. Therefore, he has a special need for her presence. But it seems to parents that their child has already grown up enough and become “insolent.”

But the impressions of the child, however, is already quite old.

Sergey, 36 years old: “Once, during a psychotherapy session, I was able to remember my distant, distant infancy. I lay there, tightly swaddled on my arms and legs, and screamed from hunger. I felt my complete helplessness, despair, horror and thought, choking from a scream (I was still thinking not in words, but in some images): what to do when they finally come to me...”

Try to understand your baby. Believe me, he is not doing this to spite you. Having lost his mother from sight, he is not yet sure that she will ever return back. Or maybe she left for good?

At the same time, the baby often seems to actively not want to sleep and tries to resist it with all his might. The fact is that he has not yet formed the idea that after sleep he will wake up. Every time he falls asleep, it’s a little death for him.

Therefore, the baby does not understand your educational measures at all. Mom has disappeared (for a while or forever?), and the dark space is not at all conducive to calming down after the 10-20 minutes of crying allotted by Dr. Spock. In the end, the child becomes silent, but not because he has calmed down, but because exhaustion has set in and he no longer has the strength to cry.

Sleeping in parent's bed

American pediatricians William and Martha Serz first announced the need for the so-called. style of rapprochement between child and parents. The bonding style involves the baby sleeping with the parents. While the child is very small, this is really convenient. The mother does not need to get up to feed him at night, she does this, sometimes almost without waking up, and the baby does not suffer from loneliness, feeling his mother’s warmth and her smell next to him.

However, co-sleeping is not suitable for some children and parents.

I have twins growing up. From the very beginning, I realized that sleeping together was not for us. Being surrounded on both sides by babies, I could not sleep at all. But some anxious mothers find it uncomfortable to sleep even with one child. She is afraid, having fallen soundly asleep, that she will run over or harm the baby.

The best option is that if the child wants and if there is a need for it (he cries, does not sleep in his crib), you can take him with you. If he sleeps quietly alone, you can make up for tactile contact with him at other times. At the very beginning of life, co-sleeping is important for the baby, but then it is better to gradually wean yourself from this habit and prepare the child for gradual separation from you. It is important that by the age of three the child sleeps in his own crib. After three years, co-sleeping with a boy’s mother or a girl’s father is fraught with difficulties in the child’s sexual development. By the age of two, it is advisable that the child is not present during the parents’ sexual relations, even if it seems to you that he is fast asleep. Accidentally seeing sexual intercourse is often perceived by a child as aggression, leaving fear in his soul for a long time.

The rapprochement style, as wonderful as it may seem, has its pitfalls. Many children raised using this method experience some difficulties in emotional development, adaptation in kindergarten, school, and communication with peers. It is very difficult for them to learn to wait - after all, all their needs were instantly satisfied. Often there is a hypertrophied attachment to the mother; it is more difficult for them than for other children to part with her. Here is one such example.

Ksyusha grew up literally without looking away from her mother. Her mother found a kindergarten for her with a gentle education style, where she was allowed to stay with her daughter for the first time. In kindergarten, Ksyusha hid behind her mother all the time, literally and figuratively held on to her skirt, did not leave her a single step, and avoided any contact with both children and adults. This went on for three months. In the end, the teachers asked my mother to leave. Gradually the girl began to get used to the team. But if she eventually managed to establish contact with children, it is still very difficult for her to interact with adults.

Too good is also not good

What happens when rapprochement style is elevated to some kind of absolute? Based on the fact that nature is wise and fair, are we being asked to build parent-child relationships on the principle of a monkey family?

Our society is still not a tribe of monkeys. Therefore, whether it is good or bad, the laws of nature by which monkeys live do not always fit into the culture of modern life. In animals, developmental periods are much shorter than in humans. At first, the cub really hangs on the mother without breaking away. But soon he begins independent exploration of the territory. The clan community of animals (as, indeed, of primitive tribes) is quite large. And when the baby gets off its mother, other adult females or young “teenage” monkeys begin to take care of it. No cub receives the undivided attention of the entire tribe, and there is not a single cub that lives only for that cub.

In our culture (especially the culture of big cities), a child often occupies a central place in the family, becoming a kind of “babe of the Earth.” When a child grows up, this concentration of attention around him often infringes on the freedom of his development (he does not try to crawl, walk, explore the world on his own), his contacts with others are somewhat limited, and therefore the baby experiences difficulties in joining the children's group.

If all the baby’s wishes are instantly guessed and fulfilled, he has no experience of expecting any joy, no need to fight. A mother who is trying to protect her child from negative emotions caused by vigorous activity often deprives him of this very activity. But it is healthy frustration that causes the need to somehow cope with problems and difficulties.

When the mother is always present in the baby’s field of vision, he does not need to retain her image in memory.

Sometimes parents say that the child screams at the slightest attempt to put him down. It is important to consider two points here:

1. The baby may have increased neurological excitability or serious pain syndromes (severe colic, for example). In this case, you need to look for the cause of constant crying and, if possible, eliminate it.
2. The parents are used to carrying the baby on themselves, and he is also used to it. In this case, it is worth trying to occupy the baby with some other interesting activity.

As a child grows up, constant physical contact limits his freedom. Often, being able to crawl and walk, the baby is afraid to tear himself away from his mother to go on an independent journey, and prefers to be held. The image of the mother is not preserved in his memory, and therefore the baby is afraid to be separated from her. His calm is possible only with close tactile contact.

Constantly carrying a child in her arms is also difficult for the mother. It’s hard physically - a grown child is very noticeable on the spine, and emotionally. After all, no mother is able to maintain emotional communication twenty-four hours a day. Therefore, often this “carrying on oneself” replaces a normal emotional connection, which includes eye contact, dialogue, children’s games, etc. Often the baby is in the mother’s arms, but the mother is not with him (she reads, cooks, sits at the computer and etc.). It is possible that if at this moment the child played next to toys or explored the contents of cabinets, this would be much more useful for him.

Is it easy to adapt to the world?

Our community is quite different from the one a small baby monkey is being prepared for. He does not need to adapt to strict educators and teachers, a capricious boss, etc. From a hothouse home environment, a human child finds himself in a rather rigid society with its own laws and rules, where he is no longer the most loved, the best, and unambiguously accepted.

In order to be able to adapt to this society by the age of four or five, the child must accumulate some experience of adaptation, ways of communicating with strangers, and conquering his territory. He needs to get used to the fact that he may not be “the very best...”, otherwise the difference between the home and outside worlds will fall on the baby’s head like a bolt from the blue.

How to help a child adapt?

Instead of dropping everything and running at the first call, try to explain to your child why you are making him wait, that after he waits a little, you will definitely be able to do something interesting together.

Try to include your baby in some kind of joint (or parallel) activity: setting the table together, doing laundry, etc. For example, he can work on such attractive pots, bowls, and spoons. And when you do the laundry, let your little one give her doll or duck a bath.

A system of some kind of prohibitions is also necessary. Try not to have too many of them, but so that they are clear, firm and always followed.

Don't be afraid that your child sometimes feels your fatigue. Don't overpower yourself by pretending that everything is fine, your emotional response will still not be natural. It is much better if your baby has experience of empathy and sympathy.

In a word, you cannot artificially create naturalness. Dr. Spock, while giving parents some very reasonable advice, at the same time tries too early to adapt the child to the idea of ​​a regime and a strict routine - from the very first days of life. Of course, the baby will have to enter into the culture of the society in which he lives, but this must be done gradually and gently.

At the same time, this seemingly natural style of rapprochement, elevated to an absolute, sometimes forces parents to abandon their own needs, concentrating on the child, which ultimately does not look entirely natural.

And when choosing a middle ground between a strict regime and the “call of nature,” remember that the main thing is your sensitive parental heart, intuition and common sense.

Inessa Smyk, Daria Golubeva

Based on materials from the magazine “Liza. My child"

During communication, interlocutors can touch each other: with a hug, handshake, kiss, touching an arm or shoulder, stroking the back, etc. These actions have a significant impact on the nature of communication.

Embrace

Depending on the feelings expressed, hugs vary in strength, duration, character (friendly, loving). For example, after a long separation, old friends hug very tightly, almost strangling each other. Lovers hug with tenderness and for a longer period of time. Relatives, depending on the relationship, can hug warmly or coldly. Truly close people hug each other with warmth and sincerity.

Hugging is more common among boys and men. In this way they express intense joy, delight at the meeting, and splash out excess emotions. Girls can hug each other, but less often.

Handshakes

These methods of nonverbal communication also differ in strength, duration, and nature. Sincerely rejoicing people tightly squeeze and vigorously shake each other's palms. This also speaks of the desire to continue communication and talk. If the hand extended for a handshake is limp, then they probably do not want to make contact with you. A cold hand can reveal strong anxiety, or maybe the person is simply cold. A sweaty palm usually indicates a nervous condition. If they extend their hand palm down, it means they want to show dominance, i.e. a powerful position in relation to the interlocutor. If the hand is extended with the palm up, then this is an unconscious readiness to obey.

Patting

These actions are typical for men. By patting each other on the shoulder, they often show a friendly disposition in this way, want to cheer each other up, and express sympathy. This action means in their language readiness to help in difficult times.

Touch

Touches vary in nature. They can be affectionate and gentle, rough and traumatic, light. Touching is a frequent accompaniment of communication. Through touch, various feelings and purposes are manifested.

Kisses

Kissing is widespread in nonverbal communication, and not only between close people. For example, presenting an award or flowers to a famous person is often accompanied by a formal kiss on the cheek. Formal kisses can also be cold. Mothers tenderly and lovingly kiss their children, both small and grown. Parents kiss adult children more restrainedly. A boy and a girl who love each other can kiss each other on the lips. In this case, the kiss can be superficial, tender, deep, passionate.

Body-oriented therapy has significant differences from “conversational” forms of psychotherapy and imposes special ethical obligations on the actions and relationships of the therapist.

Since basically bodily psychotherapy involves direct physical contact with the client’s body, the question arises of maintaining psychological boundaries and the dynamics of transference processes. This is due to the fact that contact interaction can provoke and intensify transference and countertransference reactions, adding to them a pronounced erotic context. Therefore, the therapist must be able to clearly define the boundaries of contact and exclude elements of sexualization from interaction, which requires preliminary study of one’s own physicality from the standpoint of the functioning and sublimation of sexuality.

Body psychotherapy in some contexts can be considered as a kind of practice of awakening - sensuality, trust, understanding. It gives a feeling of ZANU-renality in life, a full-fledged experience of contact with the variety of manifestations of the surrounding world that arise as a result of the conscious “inclusion” of bodily sensations in this process.

One of the ways to interact with the world and awaken sensuality (sensitivity) to the world and other people is touch. Most often, contact methods of interaction in everyday life are repressed and subjected to ritualization, which is associated with the significant power of influence and significance of bodily contact. The level of significance is always proportional to the meaning that a person puts into touch: either indifference, coldness, formality and stereotyping, or the expression of true feelings and experiences.

Touches that show a person’s attitude and feelings create a certain range of emotional experiences that cannot be ignored. These experiences always reach consciousness and transform the background state, modulating surges and manifestations of latent (hidden or repressed) experiences and relationships. A person can be ready for them, and then she adequately and openly accepts the new experience. If she is subjectively not ready for this, then she is forced to suppress the feelings that fill her at the moment of contact. Depending on the dominant set of relationships, which determines the content and intensity of reactions to subjectively significant circumstances and events, a person perceives current sensations at the moment of contact as acceptable and comfortable, or colors them in negative tones and perceives them as uncomfortable and those that require control. In any case, the source of certain states is a significant touch that a person cannot ignore, since physical contact expresses an archetypal necessity. Therefore, maintaining and clarifying psychological boundaries, based on a sense of security, trust, and maintaining distance, is of great importance for the positive dynamics of the therapeutic relationship in bodily psychotherapy.

At the same time, bodily therapy also places certain demands on the client’s readiness for forms of activity and interaction that are atypical for him. In some bodily directions, the client must take off clothes and be naked, which automatically actualizes the feeling of insecurity and vulnerability. However, even when the client is in clothes that are comfortable for him, the nature of visual contact, touching and the actions offered to him, full of therapeutic significance, psychologically exposes the personality. An attempt to escape from such experiences, to hide behind somatic (muscular) complexes is often associated with a feeling of fear and unconscious rejection of one’s own physicality.

Professional skills of a body-oriented psychotherapist

The main factor determining the success of therapeutic practice in the context of bodily dynamics is trust in the professional competence and personality of the therapist. On the other hand, the therapist must have a sufficient level of professional training so as not to provoke unconscious resonant responses on the part of the client with his own involuntary somatic reactions; he naturally reacts to the therapist’s state, feeling the measure of his own psychosomatic compliance.

The professional preparedness of a body-oriented therapist requires him to develop the following specific qualities and abilities:

The ability to resonant contact with the client’s reactions implies synchronization of their psychosomatic states;

The presence of a wide repertoire of accessible forms of motor expression and the development of plastic skills;

The ability to feel and verbalize the client’s bodily experiences, to select adequate metaphorical definitions for them;

Bodily congruence and the cognitive basis of bodily actions - the harmonious unity of internal content and external technology, the integrity of body perception and the adequacy of bodily expression to the requirements of the current situation;

A wide range of available emotional states, emotional expressiveness, authenticity of experienced states, and the ability to imitate them;

Focus on the creative search for new techniques of bodily interaction within the framework of therapeutic communication.

The quality of psychotherapeutic relationships in bodily therapy is determined by the so-called N. Vegetative (somatic) resonance(V. Reich, D. Boadella) - the bodily well-being of the therapist and the client is a certain psychosomatic analogue of the transference known from the practice of psychoanalysis. It turns out that this phenomenon is in the induced bodily sensations of the therapist, which correspond to the client’s sensations, which further leads to synchronized psychosomatic reactions in both participants in the therapeutic process / It is based on the vegetative identification (unconscious identification) of the therapist and the client. The development of this process is associated with resonant forms of bodily contact and the therapist’s reproduction of the bodily sensations experienced by the client. Resonant interaction involves autonomic, facial, mobile-tactile, rhythmic and respiratory synchronization. In addition to the transference relationship, resonant experiences can also be compared to a feeling of emotional empathy for the client.

Within the body-oriented approach, the somatic components of empathy are especially important for building a therapeutic relationship. Equally important is the client’s attunement with the therapist. The characteristics of bodily “responses” are based on regressive states, often associated with repressed childhood dissatisfaction with maternal care, which means a lack of significant bodily contacts (touching, stroking, caressing). Therefore, resonant reactions on the part of the client must be considered in the context of transference dynamics. On the part of the therapist, such synchronization also reflects the characteristics of countertransference experiences and his ability to realize and controllable age regression.

The reaction of the physical well-being of the therapist and the client can be explained by the period of formation of the joint unconscious - the “body” (according to J. Moreno) in connection with their stay in the common procedural and semantic space of therapeutic interactions (interactions). For the therapist, such unity is a technical element of therapeutic work, and for the client, it is an opportunity to acquire somatic and emotional experience that “corrects” the dynamics of symptoms (F. Alexander).

Most bodily techniques in psychotherapy are aimed at a person’s exploration of his physicality and its nature. There is an assumption: if a person understands his body, he will be able to understand the mental content that he embodies with its help. Embodied mental content has an informational nature and always correlates with the bodily structure and its functionality; the body is considered as a specific way of existence of energy. The form and organization of energy are natural, specific and always correspond to the nature of its information content. This gives grounds to talk about the complementarity of the physical and mental organization of the personality. Understanding this fact opens the way to the meaningful use of bodily techniques that can ensure full, integrated human development.

Body-oriented techniques occupy their own unique niche, sometimes differing significantly from traditional forms of psychotherapy. Their main feature is that among the methodological techniques, those that directly relate to the human body predominate. Pathological reactions of the individual are also viewed through the prism of bodily dynamics in which they are reflected.

Body-oriented methods are based on the idea of ​​human psychosomatic integrity. Any dissociation of its components into physical and mental components will be incorrect and will lead to erroneous conclusions regarding the nature of psychological problems and possible strategies for overcoming them.

Within the framework of this approach, a large number of different techniques and techniques have been developed. They mainly concern the bodily dynamics of a person: her breathing, plasticity, movements, sensitivity, motor skills, facial expressions, voice, vegetative reactions. And although the human body is accessible to direct contact, “visual” and objective, subjectively it constitutes the intimate sphere of the individual. In this regard, there are certain professional requirements for the person of the psychotherapist, as well as additional requirements for professional ethics, which is associated with the obligatory nature of physical contact in the process of psychotherapeutic interaction.

Body-oriented psychotherapy is actively developing, integrating with psychodynamic and existential-humanistic areas of psychological assistance. On its basis, a synthesis and eclectic search for new, often alternative methods of psychotherapy and human development occur.

Everyone enjoys being paid attention to. Tactile contact is an integral part of any close interaction. Of course, business relationships hardly involve strong hugs, but friendly meetings, as a rule, cannot do without them. Every person, one way or another, wants to feel needed, in demand and understood.

Tactile-visual contact helps build trusting relationships between partners, teaches them to be lenient and attentive. Only by looking into the eyes of your interlocutor can you fully verify what feelings he actually experiences.

The essence of the concept

Tactile contact is a special form of interaction in which effective communication occurs between people. Agree that it is much easier to convey some important thought to a person if you touch him. Each of us is very pleased when he is appreciated and expresses his feelings with the help of strong handshakes.

What does tactile contact mean? Most often, with its help, people express their emotions aimed at a specific interlocutor. The desire to take your hand and stroke it is associated with the need for understanding, which we all so need. If a person is absolutely indifferent to another, then he will never touch him under any pretext. Closed people, as a rule, avoid tactile contact and are afraid to show it.

Feeling safe

Look at the woman holding a child in her arms. She just glows with happiness! She is not afraid of any obstacles, nor is she afraid of the prospect of losing her individual prospects. A woman-mother always sacrifices something for the sake of her baby: work, time, relationships with friends.

In the mother's arms, the baby feels protected from all adversities. Her gentle palms will lull him, caress him. It is tactile contact that provides a child with a sense of security from everything in the world. This is the most powerful weapon in the world against any antisocial behavior. It has been noticed that many illegal acts are committed only because no one cared about such individuals in childhood. A mother’s love creates the child’s soul and forms his trust in the entire world around him.

If a mother devotes insufficient time and attention to her offspring, then there is a high chance of developing an unsociable, aggressive or withdrawn person. No one can replace a mother's love for her baby. One can only imagine how lonely and unwanted the orphans feel.

Showing love

When we touch another person, it is as if we are telling him: “I care about you.” Anyone who loves necessarily strives to show his affection not only in words. How can you express your feelings? With a glance or touch. Tactile contact between a man and a woman implies a deep feeling of each other at all levels. Sometimes it is enough to look into the eyes and say a kind word, otherwise only careful handling and tactile warmth will help. Each of us wants to feel that he is loved and cared for.

Expression of confidence

In fact, we only allow ourselves to be touched by people we can completely trust. And this is by no means accidental. This is how our psychology works. Tactile contact is a very important and significant thing in everyone’s life, so it should not be avoided or tried to be pushed away. There are people who really don’t like hugging, even with loved ones. Such manifestations indicate that not everything is so smooth in their lives, there are internal problems and contradictions in interaction.

Trust is expressed through free tactile touches and stroking. Taking a person by the hand means showing him special warmth, spiritual closeness, and a desire to help. If we want to calm a friend or relative, we hug him. And this almost always has a positive effect on a person, allowing him to calm down. The fact is that hugs open the heart and help restore spiritual closeness and trust if they have been lost for some reason.

Relationships between spouses

The interaction between husband and wife is a special moment that causes many different debates. Family conflicts are the most powerful in impact. It is believed that it is in relationships with the most dear people that we learn important life lessons, without which our personality would not be fully developed. After all, no one can become happy alone. The participation of a partner and the presence of a deep relationship with him are always required. And here you can’t do without tactile contact.

The spouses know each other like no one else. It's not just about individual character, manners, habits. Each of us has our own weaknesses and ailments, and then being close to a loved one can affect our condition and attitude.

Sexual interaction

Tactile contact with a man necessarily includes touching. When two people decide to devote their lives to each other, over time they know well what their partner likes and are able to guess his mood. Physical intimacy is impossible without a great sense of trust towards your spouse. Both men and women are equally in need of sincere love. But not everyone, unfortunately, knows how to correctly express their emotions. Every person wants to feel significant and loved.

Relief from stress

When you come home after a whole day of work, it’s so nice to know that a loving family is waiting for you. A hot dinner, attention and care - this is what your partner expects. With the help of tactile contact, you can free yourself from stress, find peace of mind, and throw off the burden of problems and fatigue. Nothing invigorates a person more than the knowledge that someone needs him, his opinion is valuable in itself and important.

Tactile contact is a real salvation from stress. When we touch a person, he always feels how important a figure he is in our life. Even relationships between friends and girlfriends can be very close if there is room for mutual hugs and pats on the shoulder. Sometimes tremendous support is required and tactile contact is clearly indispensable. The more emotions we learn to show in life, the easier it will be for us to build interactions with other people.

Nobody likes cold and indifferent people for whom saying an extra word is a problem. Everyone wants to feel a certain amount of support and protection from those who are constantly nearby. Any relationship is built on mutual trust and common interests. It is difficult to imagine that friends will tolerate a nervous, hot-tempered person around them, from whom nothing but trouble comes.

Instead of a conclusion

Tactile contact is present in almost all forms of interpersonal interaction. The deeper and better the relationship between people, the more handshakes, hugs and a fully conscious intention to be close to each other in their communication. Often, a person’s self-confidence is formed directly under the influence of how significant he feels in the company of relatives, friends, co-workers and, of course, family. Happiness depends on a circumstance that allows the individual to fully express his feelings.