Often in consultations and seminars I am asked about how to learn not to let in unnecessary things: rich food, useless information, other people's stories, unnecessary people and outdated relationships, in other words, everything that overloads the body, mind and soul?
Let's start with the fact that giving “advice” like closing your mouth, door and mind from what comes from the outside is useless: they don’t work, since the reasons pushing for excessive consumption lie outside the context of willpower and character. Willpower and character are only part of what is needed to gain a sense of proportion in everything.
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I would like to say right away that not taking too much does not mean being content with little, because belittling oneself is, in essence, the other side of greed, a transition from gluttony to starvation rations, from which there is also no benefit.
By diminishing ourselves in what is necessary and significant, we block our own ability to desire and act in the direction of what we want, which always has a detrimental effect on mental and physical health.
In the minds of most people, there are two main scenarios: either to absorb everything “orphaned” that lies badly, or to give up desires completely, hiding behind the slogan “we are poor but proud.” Stuck within these polarities, a person provides himself with a painful choice, in which he loses the main thing: his own identity, or, in simple terms, himself.
The medal, which we wear on our chest with pride or apprehension, depending on the choice made, clearly demonstrates the idea stuck in our heads about “how to live,” which, like a dragon with two heads, alternately stings first in one place and then in the other. another place - either “everything goes to the house, both necessary and not”, or “I don’t need anything.”
Within such a framework, a person can exist all his life without ever finding the golden mean of applying his own strength. This is not surprising, because the truth, as usual, lies beyond the extremes.
Instead of choosing “either/or”, a decision in the context of “both/and” is possible. That is: both accept yourself and be happy with everything that you have now (and if you dig deep, each of us will find a lot of reasons for joy), but also continue to want more (but not too much - the difference between these two concepts is significant), committing steps in his direction.
That is, to combine contentment in the present and plans for the future, giving both a plus sign. With such an attitude towards yourself and life chance to be happy in the present and set clear, measurable and achievable goals for the future much higher.
Finding Joy in Life It becomes possible when a person learns not to painfully choose between values that are equivalent to himself, but looks for a way to get both.
But in order to learn to be happy with what you have now, it is not enough to decide on this “from Monday”. Such an attitude requires being in a state of completeness of oneself, the derivatives of which are calm, order and self-sufficiency, coming from within.
The answer to the question " how to enjoy life?“comes only when a person accepts his own identity, relates to himself, lives based on the understanding of “I am I,” freed from the intention of hiding behind someone or something external.
When the deep knowledge “I simply am” appears (as a fact, I am, and that’s all), then everything that a person encounters in life will be viewed through the prism of this knowledge, and therefore there is simply no place for the superfluous and unnecessary.
If you are full of yourself, you automatically have the most important thing - a playful, joyful, free self, called self-awareness, the purpose of which is to live. And to live, you need to be: light, healthy, loud, passionate, interested - at any age.
But there is a nuance here - in order to live from your own “I”, it is important to learn to separate the true from the false, your own from someone else’s, that is, to understand what my real “I” is. How to find peace and understand that you operate from a state of completeness and self-sufficiency? How to learn to make decisions that can be called “your own”?
At the end of the article, you will be offered recommendations and exercises that will help activate and strengthen this state. But for now I can say: in order to distinguish between the authentic self and the superficial self, it is important first of all to become an observer of yourself - your choices, wishes and emotional reactions. And to do this, pass any of your actions through the question “why?”
That is, “why do I need this, what do I want to do with this, what is my goal in all this and what is the value of what I want for me personally?” And learn to answer these questions honestly and to the point - every time, even in moments when the questions seem difficult and the answers are ambiguous.
This way, the very “I” will gradually appear on which you can rely - an internal core, a filter of perception, thanks to which it will become much easier to distinguish the true from the false. This is a very precise criterion aimed at understanding - everything that makes me strong, energetic and young is for my good, while everything that takes away the feeling of flight and joy is harmful.
In this case finding joy in life becomes possible thanks to liberation from endless doubts and anxieties regarding numerous “shoulds and don’ts”, “goes and don’ts”, “does and don’ts”, etc.
Through awareness of one’s own “I” and its needs, one comes to know exactly what is needed at each moment of time, and accordingly, as much attention, energy and effort is given to it as required - no more and no less.
For example, if a person ate a lot because food “closed” his inner emptiness, replaced his missing emotions, then finding his own “I”, he begins to perceive food adequately, paying tribute to the taste and benefits, but remembering that initially food is, First of all, the energy resource necessary to maintain life.
Now that the source of joy is within oneself, one can finally just eat—without gasping for “goodies” or without the constant fear of extra calories. And the task " how to enjoy life and at the same time not depend on food” ceases to seem unsolvable.
This position is relevant in relation to everything that comes into our lives, since the true “I” becomes an accurate criterion that does not need excesses. It is impossible to train such a sense of proportion without the presence of internal completeness, because if “I” does not exist for myself, I will always look for someone who will confirm my existence, and almost any person is suitable for this role (as well as food, property, position), the main thing is to have time to “grab” it, and therefore figure out what’s what and how much you need it.
Of course, gaining self-awareness (the understanding that “I am I”) is not an easy process. For this to happen, time must pass when a person lives “without himself”, because the request for true freedom can only be born from imprisonment, otherwise - if everything is relatively “normal” - where will the motivation to change anything come from?
The complexity of the birth of self-awareness largely lies in the fact that gaining internal completeness is impossible without losing external conditioning. In other words, in order to be spiritually born, one must, in a certain sense, die, having loosened the fastenings in the usual social mask that a person wears and to which he is accustomed.
But, as I wrote above, it is possible to leave this prison, starting with very simple and clear questions to ourselves: “What am I doing, why and why?” Learn to question yourself, ask yourself uncomfortable questions and look for answers to them.
Plus, it is important to stop supporting stereotypes and attitudes aimed at consolidation in one role, for example: “I am a mother and wife”, “I am a worker”, “I am weak and small”, “I never give up” “I always I’m holding the line,” etc.
This is only a small part of what a person learns about himself in the process of education and socialization, and carries with him throughout life. However, if you allow yourself to shake these colossi, under the pile of what you are used to thinking about yourself, you can discover the real you - your true self.
To make it completely clear what I’m talking about, I’ll give an example. Any conditioning always comes from a certain role and mask that a person wears without realizing it and without being familiar with it.
One of the most common masks is that of a “good person” who always says “yes” to everyone, is afraid of offending others, takes into account the opinions of others, while leaving his own in second and even third place. Such tactics of behavior are dictated by the role that a person plays, without wanting to do so and, especially, without understanding what other options he has.
What will be his solution in this case? AND how to find peace, which will come from within? The first thing is to start asking questions:
“Why should I be good? Who do I want to please? And why is this important to me?
Accordingly, answer them honestly and directly. And secondly, when it becomes more or less clear what the reason for dependence on this mask is, learn to get out of it. Live outside its boundaries. For example, say “no” every other time, defend your boundaries, declare your own rights, and so on. That is, having seen your role, begin to see yourself not only as its bearer, but also as a person who has the choice to behave differently.
And as soon as it becomes possible to allow oneself to simply be different, it is from this moment that truly close relationships become real, a truly interesting and beloved activity appears, and a person gradually gains everything that he has been missing for so long - from a dream figure to understanding and realizing your purpose.
This is the versatility of the recipe called “how not to take too much.” Having found oneself, unnecessary things become unnecessary, but true desires, which help the true “I” shine even brighter, become completely natural goals to which a person goes without unnecessary doubts, takes what he needs without distortion and 
anxiety, thereby enriching not only himself, but also the world in which he lives. And this is it - finding joy in life,
without which there is no feeling that you live, that life is yours, and you can control it to some extent.
By the way, this approach, due to its novelty, requires some training, but “you quickly get used to good things” and learn quickly, and therefore, having felt what it is like to act from one’s “I,” a person gains an understanding that is much deeper and more fundamental than everything he knew up to this point.
How to find peace and fulfillment with yourself - practical steps and recommendations:
How can we learn to “be, live, love and rejoice”? How to gain that very core called self-awareness? What to do, understand, learn in order to be able to rely on yourself in a variety of different and rather difficult situations?
Most likely, there is no clear answer to these questions for the simple reason that self-awareness is not a muscle that can be trained. But! By making intentional efforts about your life, the chance of feeling more confident and stable increases significantly.
What kind of effort is this? What are they? What are they aimed at? As you know, in order to get your results, you can and should act on all fronts. For a person, these are the following spheres: bodily, sensory-emotional, intellectual (sphere of consciousness). Accordingly, by paying focused attention to each area, a person significantly strengthens his “I”.
Below I suggest you pay attention to each of the areas and “work through” them.
As for nutrition, a gradual transition to so-called “intuitive nutrition” will be essential, in which a person learns to feel “his” food, how much food he needs and at what point in time.
The task is to start eating not because “it’s the right way” or because you’re so used to it, but to learn to feel it for yourself and check - is this really what I really need now? Eating enough food is a great way to “turn on” your body, begin to revitalize it, understand and live in accordance with its rhythms and needs.
- Body practices aimed at awareness of your body. I would like to offer several such practices for your attention.
energy recovery exercise:
Imagine that there is a tubular channel in your foot that starts on one sole, goes up the inside of your leg, goes around the space between your legs and continues in the other leg, ending in the middle of the sole - in the form of a rainbow.
As you inhale, feel how a stream of air enters your channels through the soles of your feet and rushes to the surface, reaching the perineum, filling your lower abdomen with energy. As you exhale, feel how your breath flows down the channels, releasing all the negative energy into the ground.
In this way, you exchange energy, throwing off negative energy and filling yourself with positive energy. Do this 9 times, ending with filling the last time, leaving the energy at the top.
exercise “4-step breathing”:
The rhythm of breathing is directly related to the rhythm of life and vice versa; moreover, being a controlled process, it allows you to harmonize the rhythm of the heartbeat, which directly affects the quality of energy and health.
Sit comfortably, making sure that your spine is as long as possible. Inhale-pause-inhale, exhale-pause-exhale. Repeat all this 9 times, slowing down your breathing rhythm. Repeat this exercise for 2-3 weeks, doing it while walking, running, doing work, playing sports, etc. When you train yourself to breathe like this, your 
thoughts will flow more smoothly, feelings will become deeper, actions will be filled with strength and determination, and energy will flow over the edge.
exercise “The habit of always keeping your stomach tucked”:
Get into the habit of keeping your stomach from the pubic bone to the navel slightly tense, as if slightly pressing the abdominal organs inward. Periodically remember this technique and tuck your stomach, pull it in, tense it.
This, as it were, “seals” and “packages” the energy of the downward flow, saturating the internal organs with it. In addition, thanks to this exercise, a person develops correct posture.
Taking care of feelings is, first and second, a connection with the inner world – your own and other people’s, with what excites you/them, worries you, makes you experience certain emotions. Thirdly, a close connection with the world of beauty and art.
- Taking care of your feelings means asking questions:
“What happens to me in connection with this or that event? What I feel? Is this good or bad for me? For what reason am I experiencing these feelings/emotions, etc.”
- Caring about the feelings of others means asking similar questions in relation to another person:
"What about him? Is everything okay? Perhaps I don’t know something about him and his life? What should I pay attention to in order to communicate better with him, etc.” It is also important to establish and intentionally build high-quality emotional contacts and develop substantive communication.
- Connection with the world of art: periodically listen to music (optimally in a relaxed state), especially classical. If you wish, sign up for singing and vocal lessons, go to a creative studio, or join a hobby group. Visit exhibitions, theatre, watch original films. Immerse yourself in the world of art in order to develop a craving for beauty.
Taking care of your consciousness is mainly an opportunity to be and remain “on”, that is, interested in the world in which you live. And also consciously develop this interest. For this:
- think and write down what interests you and find an opportunity to study it;
- pass any incoming information and/or proposals through the filter question: “why do I need this?” or “what do I want to do with this?”;
- explore the contents of your consciousness - all those attitudes and beliefs that came to you from the outside; learn to question them (who told me this and when, how much does it help me live today?). Ideally, do this with a psychologist.
- For 3 weeks, every day before going to bed, praise yourself for everything that helped you become better, kinder and more beautiful, that strengthened your self-awareness, that brought you closer to yourself, helped you see yourself as a person who is interested in himself and the world around him.
So, gradually developing and strengthening each of the areas (ideally, it is better to do this in parallel), on the one hand, you get to know yourself better, on the other, you get to know the world around you and learn to enter into high-quality communication with it. And through this - to return to yourself again as a more strengthened and self-sufficient person.
And then the questions “How to find peace of mind?”, “How to enjoy life?” will cease to be difficult and even painful for you, and actually finding joy in life will turn out to be an easy and pleasant hobby that you will begin to practice every hour and day of your life.
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The intensity of the feeling of emptiness that takes over a person when he or she learns about the affair of a loved one is something many of us cannot even imagine. Often this is not just a reaction to deception. This is how the human soul responds to the loss of the dream of how they imagined their marriage and what their life should be like in the future. In this case, it is not easy for them to cope with the pain and sense of loss they experience, but it is even more difficult for them to repair the damage done to pride and self-esteem.
Feeling Dignified After Discovering Cheating
Unfortunately, for many of us, even under normal circumstances, it is difficult to maintain a sense of self-worth, so the love affair of a husband or wife only strengthens our natural tendency to belittle our own “I” because of our shortcomings. People tend to pay much more attention to the mistakes they have made than to their achievements. So, for example, if we were given ten tasks and nine of them were completed, then we will most likely suffer because of one failure. Because of this preoccupation with our own shortcomings, we may fail to see the positive qualities in ourselves and be unnecessarily hard on ourselves.
Feeling of dignity after discovering infidelity. I have observed this more than once during the seminars I conduct on personal development and self-esteem. In one session (called “praise”), participants were asked to make a list of all their positive traits or abilities. Some seemed unable to get started, as if they were unable to think about themselves in a positive way. The rest made a very short list. It took them a lot of work to remember a worthy property and add it to the list. (Oddly enough, most people find it relatively easy to list their own shortcomings.)
Then each listener had to read out the list he or she had compiled in the presence of the group. Because the readers felt awkward and embarrassed, participants were warned to use words of encouragement to those reading the list (saying “spot on,” “right, sir,” “right,” “tell us something else”), and They clapped their hands whenever, in their opinion, the need arose. Even in such a friendly atmosphere, the “readers” were embarrassed to expose themselves. Although this was a learning exercise in an artificial environment, it nevertheless provided insight into issues related to our self-esteem.
Assessing the damage
It is not easy to regain your self-esteem after an affair with your husband or wife. In practice, we are unable to comprehend the full difficulty of the task without a clearer understanding of the extent of the damage caused. One way to identify the magnitude of the harm caused is this: you should pay attention to the words with which people try to express the feelings generated by an affair with a loved one. They feel devastated, deceived, humiliated and filled with shame.
Devastation
This word most often comes out of the mouths of those who try to describe their own experiences when they learn about the love affairs of people dear to them. Perhaps this circumstance is due to the fact that this is the feeling they experience first when faced with deception. When the truth comes to the surface, their shock is so great that they are overcome by a feeling of emptiness (especially if the deceived partner did not suspect anything or drove his doubts away). However, even if a spouse has strong suspicions in this regard, even then, as soon as the truth appears to them unvarnished, they experience a full emotional shock. As a rule, at this time they are overcome by bodily weakness. They feel sick, lethargic and helpless. Physical weakness oppresses them so much that for a while they lose self-respect.
Deception
The deception and dishonesty of a spouse causes even more severe torment for many than the very fact of sexual intercourse of their partners. This pain sitting inside a person is a consequence of disappointment both in the husband or wife and in their relationship. Everything turned out not to be what it seemed, and the spouse was not at all what they wanted to appear in the eyes of others. Some experience intense anger, even rage. Others are deeply offended, and they feel it terribly. A person's attitude toward cheating, although not in all cases, indicates how much damage was done to his or her sense of self-worth. So, for example, the self-esteem of someone who says, “How could you?” was probably more damaged than someone who says, “How dare you?”
Humiliation
Having overcome the feelings of emptiness and pain, the person whose partner was having an affair will likely experience a feeling of humiliation at the thought that others knew about this affair (and perhaps from the very beginning). People in most cases have the feeling that they have fallen in their eyes. Because of their embarrassment, they may begin to avoid companies and crowded events, thinking that everyone will whisper behind their back and point fingers at them. Pursued by this thought, they will hide from everyone until they try to at least partially regain their former self-respect.
Shame
The feeling of shame compared to humiliation presupposes not only the realized reality that everyone knows about the affair, but also the following: it seems to you that others find it your fault. Since extramarital affairs are considered indecent and shameful, those whose spouse has an affair believe that they are stigmatized and ashamed of what happened. They may regret marrying someone who had an extramarital affair, and their remorse further damages their self-esteem.
Self-esteem when spouses cheat
Often, a person trying to regain his former respect is influenced by the position of the spouse who had the affair. We have seen how desperately in most cases the victim seeks to find out the details and how reluctantly most husbands or wives meet them halfway. However, sometimes the deceived party is ready to tell the whole truth. Thanks to this position, greater agreement is established between the spouses.
I could ask any question at my discretion and receive a detailed and honest answer to it. We still have a happy marriage. And, in my opinion, thanks to the trials that befell us, we have matured.
Despite the fact that the practice of such conversations does not guarantee such a happy ending, from the stories of GPO members it is clear: frank conversation has a significant impact on the ability of a married couple to cope with all the problems they encounter along the way and save the marriage. In addition, in marriage it is easier to regain self-respect, since divorce sometimes only leads to the fact that a person blames himself for the breakdown of the marriage. One woman, who had gone to great lengths to save an apparently hopeless marriage, felt that the failure to keep her family together, more so than having an affair, undermined her self-esteem.
It is not only those who find out about marital deception who lose respect for themselves. Usually, it is also difficult for those who have had an affair on the side to believe in themselves again. Sometimes, because of the guilt that overwhelms them, they are no longer able to be married.
Her guilt is so enormous that she cannot stay with me. I want to forget about everything, but she cannot forgive herself for what she has done.
When a person is offended by the relationship of a husband or wife, it is perhaps difficult for her or him at that moment to show sympathy for their experiences. However, it will benefit both parties if they can show a modicum of compassion for the pain their partners may be experiencing. Even if they find momentary satisfaction in punishing those who have violated their vow of fidelity, it will not last long and, of course, will not help them save their marriage in the future.
Unfortunately, it is not so uncommon for those who have had an extramarital affair, trying to overcome feelings of shame and embarrassment, to downplay the significance of their act for their wife or husband. They may not realize the consequences of such behavior: it often makes deceived spouses feel as if their loved one is indifferent to their suffering.
When betrayed spouses realize that they cannot reach those who broke their promise to be faithful at the altar, they sink even lower in their own opinion. As a result, they may be interested in only one thing - what their wife or husband thinks of them, they will try to impress their life partners and thereby regain their self-esteem.
The end result is often a funny situation. Those who passionately want to get something from someone reduce their chances of finding what they are looking for. They are much more likely to achieve the recognition they desire from their deceiving spouses if they themselves begin to respect and value themselves as they deserve. It is necessary that they approach the point where the behavior and opinions of others cannot bring them down in their own eyes. They should try to think positively about themselves and not allow others' opinions to affect their sense of self-worth.
Fashion is an excellent opportunity to reveal your personality to the world. People with a sense of style pay attention to the color, cut and material of clothing. The choice is endless! Experiment and you will discover what clothes suit your body shape and express your personality. At the end of the day, the best style is the one that really suits you!
Steps
Part 1
Discover your own style- Go shopping. This will help you become more aware of what's in fashion, so you can better understand what you like and don't like in clothing.
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Dress to express yourself. Style is not a set of rules. You know yourself and your body. Style comes from within, it should reflect your personality and your aspirations. You may like a certain clothing trend, but think carefully before following that style. Use elements of fashion trends, but do not forget about your individuality.
Make an album with fashion sketches. Take a notebook or album and paste in it images and photographs of outfits that you like. When you're having trouble choosing a style or need to go shopping, just flip through the album and choose the outfits you like.
Organize your wardrobe. Clean out your closet and divide all your items into three groups: “keep,” “maybe,” and “give away.” Get creative with this activity: think about how you can adapt the item to your new clothing style that you have come up with. Give old items to friends or try selling them to a second-hand store.
Know the clothing brands. You don't have to buy all your clothes from just one brand. The most important style rule is to not let brands define you. You don't have to wear Gucci or American Eagle to be classy or classy. Style is not what you wear, it's what you wear. How you wear.
Present your own style. Let fashion guide you, but don't control you. Wear what you want. Think about what you want to tell other people about your style. What does your appearance tell strangers about you? Keep this in mind when deciding on your own style.
Remember the flowers. Each person has a color of clothing in which he feels more comfortable. If you have your eye on an item that is different from most of the items in your wardrobe, think twice. Especially if this item is a color that you usually feel uncomfortable in. There's nothing wrong with buying something that looks good or suits your style, but think twice and keep your receipt just in case.
Know when clothes suit you. To look stylish, it is very important to learn how to choose clothes. Sometimes finding that thing that fits perfectly is very difficult. If you buy clothes without trying them on, be sure to measure your chest circumference and shoulder width. For example, if you are buying a T-shirt, you will need two measurements: shoulder width and chest circumference. The shoulder seam should reach the shoulder, but should not restrict movement. Trousers or trousers should be comfortable, but should not hang.
Pay attention to the materials. Don't sacrifice your comfort for fashion. Touch the material from which the item is made and ask yourself: “Will I be comfortable walking in this?” Also pay attention to what material the item is made of - usually such information is indicated on the labels. Try to buy clothes made from the following materials less often:
Experiment in the fitting room. Choose clothes that suit your style or that you like and take them with you to the fitting room. You don't have to buy everything you took. On the contrary, by doing this you will reduce the risk that you will buy something unsuitable.
Find out what styles there are. You don't have to flip through fashion magazines to find inspiration. Clothing style can be found everywhere. Rewatch your favorite movies and pay attention to the different types of clothes the characters wear. You probably know someone in real life whose clothing style inspires you. You can chat with this person and ask for style tips.
Plan your style. Once you have decided on your own style, think about what clothes you can use to match it. Start with small and simple items, like a denim jacket or a pair of Uggs.
Part 3
Learn to dress stylishlyKnow how to combine clothes. You may have many pieces of clothing that look good on their own, but you're unlikely to look great if you don't know how to put them together. Explore which colors go well together. To do this, you can use special color schemes, find out which colors complement each other well. Find out when to wear heels and when to wear sneakers.
Think about the image of yourself that you strive for. Among various kinds of achievements, find in this image inner strength, something elusive that makes your personality fulfilled, harmonious and delighting others with its uniqueness and individuality.
There is one thing that a person must learn - to understand his own soul deep within himself, and remain true to it.
This is self-esteem, self-respect and unshakable self-confidence!
This is the most valuable wealth of every person, because it determines how much well-being you allow yourself to have. It is self-esteem that subconsciously influences the quality of life you create for yourself: how you assess your own capabilities and what results you will ultimately have.
Fortunately, like other beneficial qualities, self-esteem can be developed.
We offer several useful strategies that will help you become more confident in your own abilities every day and, as a result, increase the quantity and quality of your own victories.
1. Realize your uniqueness! There are billions of people in the world, but each person is unique! There is no other person who would have the same set of qualities, skills, values, desires as you, and who would show all this in the same form and with the same intentions as you do. Because every person has a unique personality and beauty! This alone is enough to love and appreciate yourself!
2. Plan manifestation of one’s own unique abilities in practice. Planning is one of the important components of internal success. It’s better to plan in the evening, so you set up your subconscious for a productive day and can see in advance at what time and what you need to do. Planning will prevent you from chaos and inaction.
The importance of this was emphasized by the world famous business philosopher Jim Rohn: “Every time we decide to do less than we can, this mistake affects our self-confidence. By repeating it day after day, we will soon discover that we not only do less than we could, but we are also less than we could be. The cumulative effect of such a mistake can be personally devastating.”
And what is probably the most pleasant thing about sticking to your own plans is that it leads to positive self-esteem!
3. Take a responsible approach to improving your self-esteem. This is an integral part of your development as a person! It will be easier for you to believe in yourself and take more from life if you have convincing reasons for this.
By the way, psychologists say that low self-esteem is the most common cause of depression!
4. Don't forget to encourage and praise yourself for your achievements. This should become your HABIT! Get a notebook and write down in it every day everything that you have done well today: these could be items in a completed plan, resolving a conflict situation, helping someone, a good deed, just a good mood all day. Anything for which you can be proud of yourself and for which you can be happy. Be attentive to such moments and collect everything that could influence your positive conversation about yourself.
Remember that by your nature you already have inner strength, and by the right of your birth you are worthy of living in harmony with yourself, worthy of happiness, abundance and all the best!
Psychological workshop (Your homework)
You can help gain self-esteem by using the recommendations given above and doing the powerful “Talk to the Mirror” exercise as homework. By doing this exercise daily, you will gain inner strength, begin to live in harmony and connect with your uniqueness!
Go to the mirror. Say your name while looking into your eyes:
- Say: “I am proud...” and list 7 things for which you are now proud of yourself.
- Say: “I forgive you for...”, forgive yourself for what has been holding you back for perhaps many years. Name 7 things for which you forgive yourself.
- Support yourself. Tell yourself: “I promise you...” and take a step towards a new quality of life. Commit to yourself to be committed to this choice.