Attention: Before you run out and order a paper book, relying on my taste, I would recommend finding it in the electronic version and reading it at least diagonally. A book is an intimate thing, here other people’s advice doesn’t work well :)
However, I sincerely hope that they will be useful to you.
Dominic Loro
How to get rid of unnecessary things and enrich your life
The word “simple” is my favorite. And I already talk about my love to clear and free up space. Perhaps the best review of the book by Dominique Loro will be the epigraph to it by Kobayashi Issa: “This spring my hut is completely empty, completely full.”
After reading, I was left with twofold feelings: on the one hand, it is much better than the well-known bestseller “Essentialism. The Path to Simplicity” by Greg McKeon, on the other hand, at times, in its categorical nature, the book resembled instructions to young wives, coupled with advice on luxury style. Although you will definitely learn something really useful about the reasonable organization of space and storage systems for yourself - this is a fact. It’s easy to read, pleasant, and can be filled with quotes in batches.
I won’t buy it for my personal paper library, but I left it in my reader.
Quotes:
“The floating decorative style, or “white space style,” is a style where things exist thanks to the emptiness that surrounds them. Any object becomes a piece of art, and every minute becomes precious.”
“I don’t want to own things or be responsible for them. I just want them to be there when I need them.”
“Money should be used primarily as a lubricant for the gears of life.”
2.By the way, if the topic of simplicity and getting rid of unnecessary things is really interesting to you, then I sincerely recommend Anna Chernykh's blog, dedicated to smart consumption and freeing life from junk. This is a treasure trove of invaluable advice and interesting ideas!
Brené Brown
"It's all because of me, but it's not like that"
The Truth About Perfectionism, Imperfection, and the Power of Vulnerability
I want to recommend her to everyone who has “questions for themselves.” Those who are used to self-examination, but only with a minus sign, looking for more and more new shortcomings in themselves. Who often feels painfully ashamed of themselves - they say, all people are like people, and I’m a g... but. For anyone who doesn't understand the difference between "I did something bad" And "I am bad" and instead of asking for help, he builds another wall of defense so that he can sit behind it on antidepressants and suffer. Anyone who is tired of feeling guilty all the time and wants to finally feel something different: lightness, self-confidence and in their “normality”.
The book will be especially useful for anyone who grew up with a persistent eye on “what people will say” and almost does not remember what it means to be yourself without experiencing the fear of your own imperfection. Moreover, it is written with a good dose of humor (shoutout to the author and translator!), which helps to believe in a successful outcome and facilitates the assimilation of rather complex material.
Quotes:
“If we tell ourselves when we make a mistake, “I’m stupid, I can’t do anything right,” we’re more likely to think the same thing about our child or husband when they make a mistake (even if we don’t say it out loud).”
3.Robert Holden
“I’m starting a new life!”
How to become happy right now
I didn’t even want to approach this book because of the title: I thought it would be just another crap from the standard set of motivational clichés that you don’t know how to apply later. Therefore, I was pleasantly surprised how interesting and valuable it turned out to be - inspiring, optimistic, filled with faith in the best and that this best is not in store for some lucky person, but for you.
I found so many “my” thoughts in the book that I wondered whether a book based on the Nest was needed in principle, if a good presentation of my philosophy already, in general, existed? :)
Quotes:
“The first secret of mental healing: you need to start with what you have. Feelings cannot interfere with your life - they are your life!”
“Consider that all your gifts are not come from from you, but just pass through you from the Universe to the recipient. Give selflessly, without any conditions, and then you will not be afraid of losing.”
“Struggle is always a choice. It's also a sign that you could have made better choices. Through struggle our own self defines itself; through drama it creates its history; through suffering he forms his life philosophy; through pain he tries to assert his worth; Marks its territory through endless battles; through constant exaggeration of difficulties, one’s own “I” ensures its temporary existence. Naturally, when there is no need to fight, the ego seems to dissolve into space.”
Danielle Laporte
"Live with feeling"
How to set goals that you are passionate about
An absolute must-read, because it develops an idea that has been extremely rare before in the literature on self-improvement and finding balance in life: the goals we set for ourselves must coincide with the feelings we want to experience. Because behind the points of the New Year's Eve plan are feelings– these are the ones we strive for, and not for any specific numbers, people or things. Finding out what's behind your dreams is an unforgettable and dangerous journey inside yourself. Because suddenly it may turn out that all external goals are connected by one red thread, by some one feeling that is vitally important to you: you don’t want money, but freedom; not your own house or apartment, but silence; not vivid impressions from traveling around the world, but the absence of unnecessary things on the way - no schedule, no junk, no relationships.
In general, this really crazy and eccentric book (the author has a great sense of self-irony) is on my waiting list to buy the paper version, and that already says a lot. And yes, it was a real problem to choose only three quotes, because during the reading process I added several dozen bookmarks!
Quotes:
“Every action we take is dictated by the desire to experience certain feelings. What to buy, what to eat, what to say, who to talk to, what to create, who to give your love to, what to wear, what to listen to, what to bring to your home, what to finish and what to start, what to dream about - our choice is determined by the desire to feel good "
“Our productivity-obsessed society views feelings as pathological.”
“In the coldest winter, I learned that inside me there is an invincible summer (A. Camus).”
5.If you like the book, you should definitely read the author’s second book - “Light the fire. Sincere advice for those who are looking for their path.”
Marty Laney
"The Advantages of Introverts"
The best thing I've read about introverts. No water and this infuriating American style of storytelling, when half the book tells you what the book will be about, and the next half - how it will help you, but essentially there is zero useful information. With Laney, everything is clear, competent and to the point, like a real introvert. Reading her work, you begin to better understand yourself and your ways of communicating with the world, and most importantly, you always catch yourself thinking: yes, exactly, this is about me! And suddenly, ways become visible on how you can help yourself communicate better and more productively, not be irritated by the characteristics of extroverts, and appreciate your character traits that are not the most selling at first glance.
Quotes:
“Introverts don’t talk just for the sake of saying something. When they speak, they speak their minds.”
“Extroverts like to experience more, introverts like to know more about what they are experiencing.”
“Say no a few times and see what happens. Normal people won't leave you. And if they leave, say “no” even more often.”
6.For those who are interested in the topic, we can safely recommend another book: “Introverts. How to use your character traits" Susan Kane. They will be similar in many ways, but for better fixation of the material, this is what you need.
Sandy Newbigging
"Thoughtful"
How to free yourself from unnecessary thoughts and focus on the main thing
If you have more than once caught yourself with a barrel organ of thoughts playing in your head non-stop, but this music is not pleasing, but rather burdensome, this Zen book is for you. Small but very practical, it contains many exercises to calm the anxious mind, which tends to live in the past, then in the future, but never in the present, while this very present passes safely.
One of the main promises of the book is to teach you to enter a state of flow at any time, at your own will, achieving a level of highest efficiency, and to get rid of the tyranny of the list of “things-that-need-to-be-done-before-you-can-rest,” because “ you risk missing out on life by getting lost in your thoughts.”
Quotes
“Once you begin to explore your relationship with your emotions, you can free yourself from the emotional merry-go-round. Whatever emotions arise, allow them the freedom to come and go, and you will not feel stressed or uncomfortable as they flow through you.”
“If emotions don’t change, you’re probably not observing them, but have become identified with them.”
“The body follows the mind: if the mind is calm, then the body rests. Giving the body rest means giving it the opportunity for natural healing, balance: the body functions as intended and ages slowly, maintaining vitality.”
Svetlana Bronnikova
How to stop worrying about food and lose weight
Probably one of the most interesting and fascinating books on nutrition psychology. Instead of quotes, I will immediately dive into the problem in the words of the author: “Modern beauty standards are ruthless: “beautiful” means “thin.” Trying to meet these standards, millions of men and women chronically torture themselves with diets and work out in the gym. You can't stop - you'll gain weight. The price of this lifestyle is food “breakdowns” and the “yo-yo effect.” Food, instead of one of the pleasures of life, becomes a source of constant and enormous stress.
To put it very harshly, we can say: the root of eating disorders is a violation of the relationship with oneself, the inability to love and accept oneself. For many of us, food becomes a psychotherapist, a comforter, a universal solution to problems. Food becomes punishment and salvation.
To overcome this problem there is no need for violence and eternal self-control: you just need to learn to trust yourself. Hatred of one’s “fat” body and “weak” will, coupled with dietary pressures, is a dead-end path.”
Svetlana Bronnikova offers tools to get out of this impasse, talking in detail and in detail about an intuitive (non-dietary) approach to nutrition, based on the removal of prohibitions and fears in connection with food, the complete rejection of any diets not prescribed by doctors in connection with certain diseases to give the body the opportunity to take its own initiative in choosing food.
James Hollis
"Spiritual Pools"
Return to life after severe shocks
The work of James Hollis, Ph.D. and Jungian analyst, is dedicated to the dark times of the soul - those same pools into which we plunge from time to time, forgetting to breathe and denying everything in the world, starting with our own right to feel this sadness, longing, sadness and imperfection.
The book is small but capacious, written in excellent literary language with many figurative quotes and vivid comparisons. To tell the truth, I have never bookmarked so many bookmarks to come back later - if I had read it in paper version with a pencil in my hands, it is not yet known what would end up being more in it - paragraph indents or my notes.
In general, if you are currently experiencing stagnation, darkness, melancholy and a slow descent to the bottom of yourself, “Spiritual Pools” will be a good therapy from playing Greek tragedy and will definitely help you raise your fallen nose an inch higher.
Quotes:
“I believe that the greatest task in the relationship of two people is that each of them should guard the solitude of the other.”
“Our psyche uses depression to attract our attention and indicate to us that somewhere deep down we are lying. By understanding the therapeutic value of depression and walking through it, as if on Ariadne's thread, through the labyrinth of the psyche, in a sense, you can make friends with it. In general, if we weren’t in pain, our psyche would already be dead. Pain and suffering are a clear sign that something alive remains, awaiting our call to come back to life again.”
9.A separate post was dedicated to this book in the Nest. Follow the link for an extended review and more quotes:
Elchin Safarli
"Recipes for Happiness"
Diary of an Eastern Cook
A book that has nothing to do with the topic of self-improvement, but it is “about what makes us happy,” and this is its great resource power. Reading it, you seem to be immersed in a cozy world of aromas and colors, smells and textures, and along with the taste of new dishes, you rediscover taste for life. A very harmonizing and pleasant bestseller about food, life, culinary subtleties and oriental spices, written in the best traditions of Elchin Safarli’s love prose.
Quotes:
“Cry until tears have no meaning.”
“Happiness does not come. The ability to see it comes.”
“Every loss, disappointment, separation can lead to happiness. I am sure about that. It all depends on how we perceive difficulties - as a final fall or as an impetus for takeoff. The most important thing is not to dwell on difficulties and continue on your way. Even if we take small and weak steps, it’s okay, we’ll get stronger on the road.”
I have selected three useful books for you. They will tell you that stress is useful in small quantities, but in large quantities it ruins everything, and will also remind you of the small joys of life and hint that the best medicine is sometimes to be lazy and tasteful.
"Stress resistance"
Sharon Melnick
Sharon Melnik is an actively practicing American psychologist, and this is clearly visible in the book “Resilience to Stress.” This is a subject selection from her extensive practice, hundreds of examples that happened to specific people. Reading stories, you will actively nod: “It happened to me.” The miller will hint that life without stress would be strange, because stress is a way out of the comfort zone, and the comfort zone is a swamp. That is, a state of shock is useful in small quantities and stimulates personal growth. The main thing is not to stay in it for too long. With Sharon's help, you will establish your “horizon point”, let go of a situation in which nothing really depends on you, and understand what mysterious processes in the body make us break down.
“The first sip of beer and other small joys of life”
Philippe Delerme
You can deal with stress this way: simply keep it out of your life, filling the space with the small joys of life. And there are plenty of them around! The book by the famous French writer Philippe Delerme, “The First Sip of Beer and Other Small Joys of Life,” will help you discern reasons for joy in every weekday. The name alone makes you close your eyes and remember the rush of endorphins from the first sip of wine or beer on a Friday evening after a difficult work week. Or about an unplanned trip to the skating rink with a wonderful man. About the smell of apple pie from the oven, which your mother is baking for your arrival. About a dress bought simply because I wanted it. All the smallest shades of everyday happiness.
“About the benefits of laziness. Instructions for productive idleness"
Andrew Smart
Sometimes all we need to exhale is to lie down on the couch and only occasionally kick our legs. Yes, and that’s because I’m numb. But no, it’s simply impossible! Even when we rest, we are not really resting. We continue to scroll through an endless stream of things in our heads that we didn’t have time to do. We don’t relax on vacation, on holidays, and even on weekends we start scrubbing the apartment instead of just lying down. Andrew Smart is a neurophysiologist, and in the book “On the Benefits of Laziness” he will tell you in detail and with a thousand examples why it is harmful to work too hard. And about how to do nothing correctly. We believe this book should be on every girl's desk. Not on the table, that is. Under the pillow.
UPANISHADS AMRITABINDU UPANISHADS SOOTHING READING OM! Let us hear joyful things with our ears, Wonderful ones! Let us see joyful things with our eyes, saints! With strong limbs, let us enjoy the appointed period of that wondrous life! (Give) happiness to us, Indra, growing in glory! Happiness to us (give), Nourishing Omniscients! (Give) happiness to us, penetrating unharmed through the (star?) wheel! Happiness [give] us, Lord of prayer, affirmer! OM! Peace! Peace! Peace! DROP OF IMMORTALITY 1. It is said: there are two types of mind: pure and also impure. The impure is controlled by desires, the pure is desireless. 2. It is the mind that is the creator of human fetters and Deliverance. The confused one is bound by things, the liberated one is outside of things, according to legend. 3. Since from the mind, (located) outside things, its deliverance comes, This means that there must always be a mindful deliverance from the body outside things. 4. When the connection with things is severed, the mind is confined to the heart. Then the being itself appears - That highest state. 5. One should stop (the movement of thought) while there is a movement of contraction in the heart. This is both knowledge and contemplation, the rest is (only) a multiplication of rules. 6. No matter how conceivable or unthinkable, the unthinkable is conceivable. (When a person) has avoided attractions, then the Good is achieved. 7. Let the center create sound, let it remain in the highest silence; By the realization of soundlessness, beings, and not non-beings, come. 8. This is precisely the indivisible Good, unshakable, unclosed. “That Good is I Myself” - having learned, one becomes firmly Good. 9. The unshakable and infinite, devoid of cause, devoid of example, Having recognized the immeasurable and beginningless, the wise man gets rid of it. 10. (Where there is no) “no beginning, no conclusion, no torment, no executor, no aspiration of Deliverance, no Deliverance” - such is this highest benefit. 11. Thus one should think alone in vigils, dreams, oblivion; He who has overcome three states does not know birth again. 12. For one self-existent, present in any being, Appearing as one or many, is seen as a moon in water. 13. The pot is wrapped in space containing the contents of the pot; Just as a pot disappears - not space, so does the cloud-like living one. 14. Like pots, appearances fall apart again and again; what has fallen apart does not know about it, and knows forever. 15. Covered with a haze of words, like darkness, does not move in the lotus. And (when) the darkness disappears, only one thing becomes clear. 16. The eternal word is the Supreme Good when the transitory ceases in it; Let him who sees the imperishable reflect, seeking peace himself. 17. Two things should be known: the good word, but also what is higher; He who penetrates into a good word comprehends the highest good. 18. Having understood wisdom from books - that highest knowledge-cognition, like straw for grain, let him completely throw away the books. 19. Cows are of different colors, milk is only one color; knowledge looks like milk, (and everything that) has signs is like cows. 20. Like butter is hidden in cream, knowledge is hidden in every being, you need to churn it constantly with your mind, as if with a churning rod. 21. Guided by the eye of knowledge, let him, like fire, be ignited by the highest, Indivisible, motionless, calm, “that Good is I myself,” according to legend. 22. The patron of all beings and also - whoever is hidden in beings, who shows mercy to everyone, then - I, a wondrous treasure, a wondrous treasure! ATMA UPANISHADA 1. Om! Then Angiras said: “Purusha (is) of three types, namely: the outer Atman, the inner Atman and the supreme Atman. (He who) has a sheath, skin, nails (on the hands), meat, hair, fingers, thumbs, spine, toenails, ankles, womb, navel, reproductive organ, thighs, thighs, cheeks, eyebrows, forehead, arms, sides, head, arteries, eyes, ears; (who) is born and dies - he is called the external Atman 2. Now - about the inner Atman. (Who), thanks to (comprehension of) earth, water, fire, air, space, desire, hatred, happiness, unhappiness, passion, blindness, doubt and other things, is endowed with the attribute of memory; (who) , thanks to high, low, short, long, extended, stuttering, roaring, explosive and mixed echoes, as well as) dancing, singing, playing instruments, loss of consciousness, yawning and other things happens to the listener, smelling, tasting, thinking, comprehending, acting; (who) recognizes the Atman, purusha; (who studies) the Puranas, Nyaya, Mimamsa, Dharmashastra; who makes discrimination in the actions of hearing, smell, gravity - he is called the inner Atman. 3. Now - about the highest Atman: He is (the one who) should be revered as the sacred syllable (Om); (which opens) to the one who thinks about the highest Atman in meditation and yoga - holding back the breath, cessation of the activity of the senses and complete merging; (like) a fig seed, a grain of millet, a hundred thousandth part of the split end of a hair; (which) is unattainable, incomprehensible, unborn,Psychologies:
Reading is one of the greatest pleasures in our lives. This is confirmed, by the way, by the results of a global survey recently conducted by an international group of researchers, trying to determine the most preferred methods of relaxation among our contemporaries. Moreover, they were not interested in all forms of recreation, but only those that brought the greatest feeling of happiness and satisfaction with life. The survey involved 18 thousand people from 134 countries, a colossal number! So, reading topped the top 10 most calming activities. What do you think is its magical power? 1
Stanislav Raevsky:
The main magic of reading, it seems to me, is that it awakens the imagination. One of the hypotheses why man became so smart and separated from animals is that he learned to imagine. And when we read, we give free rein to our imagination and imagination. Moreover, modern books in the non-fiction genre, in my opinion, in this sense are more interesting and significant than fiction. We find in them both detective stories and elements of psychoanalysis; sometimes deep spiritual dramas unfold there.
Even if the author discusses such seemingly abstract topics as physics, he not only writes in living human language, but also projects his inner reality onto external circumstances, what is happening to him, what is relevant for him, all those emotions, which he is experiencing. And the world around us comes to life.
If we talk about literature in the broadest sense, how therapeutic is it to read books?
S.R.:
It's definitely therapeutic. First of all, we ourselves live in a novel. Narrative psychologists like to say that each of us lives in a certain plot, from which it is very difficult to get out. And we tell ourselves about the same story all the time. And when we read, we have a rare opportunity to move from this, our own, story to another. And this happens thanks to mirror neurons, which, along with imagination, have done so much for the development of civilization. They help us understand another person, feel his inner world, find himself in his story.
One of the hypotheses why man separated from animals is that he learned to fantasize
This ability to live the life of another is, of course, an incredible pleasure. As a psychologist, I live many different destinies every day, joining my clients. And readers can do this by connecting with the characters in the books and truly empathizing with them.
By reading different books and thus connecting with different characters, we, in a sense, unite different subpersonalities within ourselves. After all, it only seems to us that there is one personality living within us, which is realized in one specific way. By “living” different books, we can try on different texts, different genres. And this, of course, makes us more holistic and interesting – for ourselves.
S.R.:
I really love books that, in addition to good language, have a path or path. When the author is knowledgeable about a certain area. Most often we are concerned with the search for meaning. For many people, the meaning of their life is not obvious: where to go, what to do? Why did we even come to this world? And when the author can give answers to these questions, this is very significant. That’s why I recommend meaningful books to my clients, including fiction.
For example, I really love Hyoga's novels. I always identify with his heroes. This is both a detective story and very deep reflections on the meaning of life. I think it's always good when an author has light at the end of the tunnel. I am not a supporter of literature in which this light is closed.
An interesting study was conducted by psychologist Shira Gabriel from the University of Buffalo (USA). Participants in her experiment read passages from Harry Potter and then answered questions on a test. It turned out that they began to perceive themselves differently: without turning into the heroes of the book, they nevertheless seemed to be entering their world, feeling like witnesses or even participants in the events. Some even declared that they had magical abilities. It turns out that reading, allowing us to immerse ourselves in another world, on the one hand, helps us get away from problems, for example, protects us from loneliness. But on the other hand, can our wild imagination take us too far?
S.R.:
Very important question. Reading can truly become a kind of drug for us, albeit the safest one. It can create such a beautiful illusion into which we immerse ourselves, escaping real life, avoiding some kind of suffering. But if a person goes into a fantasy world, his life does not change in any way. And books that have more meaning, that you want to reflect on, argue with the author, and that you can apply to your life. It is very important.
After reading a book, you can completely change your destiny, even start it over again
After reading a book, you can completely change your destiny, even start it over again. When I came to study at the Jung Institute in Zurich, I was shocked by the fact that all the people there were much older than me. I was about 30 years old at the time, and most were 50–60 years old. And I was surprised how people learn at that age. And they finished part of their destiny and in the second half decided to take up psychology, to become professional psychologists.
When I asked what prompted them to do this, they answered: Jung’s book “Memories, Dreams, Reflections”, we read it and realized that it was all written about us, and we only want to do this. And the same thing happened in Russia: many of my colleagues admitted that Vladimir Levi’s book “The Art of Being Yourself” - the only psychological book available in the Soviet Union - made them become psychologists. In the same way, I am sure that some, after reading some books by mathematicians, become mathematicians, and some, after reading some other books, become writers.
We have had a section on our website forum for many years called “The Book That Changed My Life.” Our readers share their impressions of their favorite books and argue: can a book change your life or not? What do you think?
S.R.:
A book, undoubtedly, can have a very strong effect and, in some sense, change our lives. With an important condition: the book must be in the zone of proximal development. Now, if by this moment we already have a certain preset inside us, a readiness for change has matured, the book becomes a catalyst that launches this process. Something changes inside me - and then I find answers to my questions in the book. Then it really opens the way and can change a lot.
It happens that things go awry for no specific reason. Even familiar tasks turn out to be overwhelming. What's the matter? The inner peace is simply lost, the fragile mental balance is disrupted. The cause is often attacks by evil spirits (demons, devils). They use every opportunity for this. To calm down, believers must use prayer.
Benefits of Spiritual Exercises
According to Nicodemus the Holy Mountain, prayers are like arrows. Any, even the shortest appeal to God during the day will have its effect. It is not for nothing that the Apostle Paul taught Christians to pray constantly. Many people often want to be perfect in everything. This is a trap that lures you into - if you can’t immediately become a great prayer book, then you shouldn’t do it at all. But by taking one small step every day, you can go all the way to heaven. Therefore, it is worth praying regularly.
What texts are effective for calming?
Despondency most often overcomes those who are far from church life. Such people should start with the simplest spiritual exercises, which even a child can do. There are many small texts. Despite their brevity, they have a powerful effect on calming the nerves. You may have even heard them many times, but never thought about how much benefit they can bring:
- They will help you get out of a conflict situation.
- They will make the emotional background calm.
- They will relieve tension and calm the nervous system.
A strong prayer to calm the Mother of God
You should engage in prayer communication in a calm environment. They advise you to put your phone away, turn off the TV, and take a comfortable position. Traditionally, Orthodox Christians pray standing, but why not sit on a chair at home if it will help you let go of restless thoughts? Look at the images, take a few breaths, then start saying the text:
Virgin Mary, Hail, Blessed Mary,
The Lord is with You: blessed are You among women,
and blessed is the fruit of Your womb,
For you gave birth to the Savior of our souls.
It is worthy to eat as one truly blesses Thee Theotokos,
ever-blessed and most immaculate and Mother of our God.
The most honorable cherub and the most glorious without comparison seraphim,
who gave birth to God the Word without corruption,
We magnify the real Mother of God Thee.
Don’t expect any special states or visions right away. The Holy Fathers generally teach to be wary of them until a person reaches a certain spiritual maturity. But it’s very good if you want to repeat the prayer in public transport, while performing mechanical work. There are no restrictions on the number of repetitions, but it is better to say in dozens. Monastics read this text 150 times a day, using rosaries. Any time is suitable, it is important that there is a desire.
Strong morning calming prayer
But there is also a prayer that has a calming effect if said early in the morning. This effect occurs due to the correct setting for the entire coming day. Words addressed to the mind calm the soul. The person stops worrying, he understands: this does not improve the situation. You must trust the Almighty and do what depends on you - no more and no less.
The text was compiled jointly by several elders who lived in Optina Hermitage. Therefore it is called a calming prayer.
Lord, let me meet with peace of mind everything that the coming day will bring me.
Lord, let me completely surrender to Your holy will.
Lord, at every hour of this day, instruct and support me in everything.
Lord, no matter what news I receive during this day, teach me to accept it with a calm soul and with the firm conviction that everything is Your holy will,
Lord, reveal to me Your holy will for me and those around me.
Lord, guide my thoughts and feelings in all my words and thoughts.
Lord, in all unforeseen cases, do not let me forget that everything was sent down by You.Lord, teach me to correctly, simply, rationally treat everyone at home and those around me, elders, equals and juniors, so that I do not upset anyone, but contribute to the good of everyone.
Lord, give me strength to endure the fatigue of the coming day and all the events during the day.
Lord, You yourself guide my will and teach me to pray, hope, believe, love, endure and forgive.
Lord, do not leave me to the mercy of my enemies, but for the sake of Your holy name, lead and rule me.
Lord, enlighten my mind and my heart to understand Your eternal and unchangeable laws that govern the world, so that I, Your sinful servant, can correctly serve You and my neighbors.
Lord, I thank You for everything that will happen to me, for I firmly believe that all things work together for good to those who love You.
Lord, bless all my exits and entries, deeds, words and thoughts, deign me to always joyfully glorify, sing and bless You, for You are blessed forever and ever.
Amen
Wise words teach us not to lose our presence of mind in any situation. When a believer understands that everything comes from God, he stops being afraid. The world no longer seems dangerous and hostile. Sometimes it becomes difficult because there is no trust in others. A person tries to control every action of loved ones and colleagues. It's very tiring and frustrating. Isn't it better to be responsible only for your actions? After all, the Lord does not require more.
How to Calm Your Soul with the Bible
Often nervous tension speaks not so much of troubles in life as it indicates spiritual problems. The root lies in distrust of. For most, it is typical to perceive the Creator as a formidable judge who does nothing but count our mistakes. Of course, few people are able to live normally under such pressure. Try to remember that the Lord is, first of all, our loving Father.
Regular reading of the Gospel stories will help you reconsider your point of view. Pay special attention to behavior. After all, he showed pity for the real “scum” of society - lepers, prostitutes, thieves, bandits. He did not hesitate to sit at the same table with bribe takers.
Does this really indicate vindictiveness and a desire to punish? Of course not. The Lord strives to bring everyone back to Himself; He loves everyone. Otherwise, I would not have given up my only Son to die.
Read several chapters a day from the Bible. There are many specially designed plans: excerpts from different books are united by one theme (for example, joy, love, fear, anxiety). The plans are available for free download on the Internet; invite your friends to read. It is important to stop focusing on your bad feelings. Holy words will help you feel peace in your soul and not be nervous.
Saints who help you calm down
Many righteous people have experienced difficult times in life. Some were born and lived in poverty, while others were arrested and tortured during their lifetime. But difficult circumstances did not at all prevent them from finding peace in their souls, nor turned them away from God. Why did this happen? Because the saints learned to hear the voice of the Lord within themselves, they were able to discern the Almighty behind temporary events and enter into communication with Him. They will also help ordinary Christians with this.
In a state of anxiety and irritation, one should pray to the righteous:
- Bishop of Myra;
- To the Righteous.
Prayer to the Great Martyr Barbara, so as not to be nervous
Holy glorious and all-praised Great Martyr Varvaro! Gathered today in your Divine temple, people who worship the race of your relics and kiss with love, your suffering as a martyr, and in them the Martyr Christ himself, who gave you not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for Him, with pleasing praises, we pray to you, the well-known desire of our intercessor: pray with us and for us, beseeching God from His compassion, that He may mercifully hear us asking for His goodness, and not leave us with all the necessary petitions for salvation and life, and grant a Christian death to our belly - painless, shameless , in peace, I will partake of the Divine Mysteries, and to all, in every place, in every sorrow and situation who require His love for mankind and help, He will give His great mercy, so that by the grace of God and your warm intercession, always remain in good health in soul and body, we glorify the wondrous one in our saints The God of Israel, who does not remove His help from us always, now and ever, and forever and ever, Amen.
Prayer to St. Nicholas the Wonderworker for peace
O our good shepherd and God-wise mentor, Saint Nicholas of Christ! Hear us sinners, praying to you and calling for your speedy intercession for help; see us weak, caught from everywhere, deprived of every good and darkened in mind from cowardice; Try, O servant of God, not to leave us in the captivity of sin, so that we may not joyfully become our enemies and not die in our evil deeds. Pray for us, unworthy, to our Creator and Master, to whom you stand with disembodied faces: make our God merciful to us in this life and in the future, so that He will not reward us according to our deeds and the impurity of our hearts, but according to His goodness He will reward us . We trust in your intercession, we boast of your intercession, we call on your intercession for help, and falling to your most holy image, we ask for help: deliver us, servant of Christ, from the evils that come upon us, and tame the waves of passions and troubles that rise up against us, and for the sake of Your holy prayers will not overwhelm us and we will not wallow in the abyss of sin and in the mud of our passions. Pray to Saint Nicholas of Christ, Christ our God, that he may grant us a peaceful life and remission of sins, salvation and great mercy for our souls, now and ever and unto ages of ages.
Saint Tikhon of Voronezh, Zadonsk Wonderworker
O all-praised saint and saint of Christ, our Father Tikhon! Having lived like an angel on earth, you, like a good angel, appeared in your wondrous glorification. We believe with all our souls and thoughts that you, our merciful helper and prayer book, with your honest intercessions and grace, abundantly given to you from the Lord, are constantly contributing to our salvation. Accept therefore, blessed servant of Christ, even at this hour our unworthy prayer: free us through your intercession from the vanity and superstition that surrounds us, the unbelief and evil of man. Strive, quick intercessor for us, to beg the Lord with your favorable intercession, may He add His great and rich mercy to us sinners and unworthy His servants, may He heal with His grace the incurable ulcers and scabs of our corrupted souls and bodies, may He dissolve our petrified hearts with tears of tenderness and contrition for our many sins, and may He deliver us from eternal torment and the fire of Gehenna: and may He grant to all His faithful people in this present world peace and silence, health and salvation, and good haste in everything, and such a quiet and silent life lived in every piety and purity, vouchsafe me with the angels and with all the saints to glorify and sing the All-Holy Name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit forever and ever. Amen.
Prayer to the Martyr Tryphon for nerves
O holy martyr of Christ Tryphon, quick helper and quick to obey the intercessor to all who come running to you and pray before your holy image! Hear now and at every hour the prayer of us, your unworthy servants, who honor your holy memory in this all-honorable temple, and intercede for us before the Lord in every place. You, the saint of Christ, shining in great miracles, exuding healing to those who flow to you with faith and intercede for those in sorrow, you yourself promised before your departure from this corruptible life to pray for us to the Lord and you asked Him for this gift: if anyone in any need, sadness and illness of soul or body, if he begins to call on your holy name, may he be delivered from every excuse of evil. And just like you sometimes the daughter of the princess, in the city of Rome, tormented by the devil, you healed her, her and us from his fierce machinations, save us all the days of our lives, and especially on the day of our last breath, intercede for us. Then be our helper and quick drive away of evil spirits, and our leader to the Kingdom of Heaven. And where you now stand in the presence of the saints at the Throne of God, pray to the Lord, that we may also be worthy to be partakers of everlasting joy and joy, and that with you we may collectively glorify the Father and the Son and the Holy Comforter of the Spirit forever. Amen.
Prayer to Saint John of Kronstadt
The Lord is the destruction of my despondency and the revival of my boldness. Everything is Lord for me. Oh, truly this Lord, glory to You! Glory to You, Father Life, Son Life, Holy Soul Life - Simple Being - God, who always delivers us from spiritual death, caused by passions to our soul. Glory to Thee, Trinitarian Master, for from one invocation of Thy name you enlighten the dark face of our soul and body and bestow Your peace, which surpasses all earthly and sensual good and all understanding.
Prayer to St. Athanasius of Athos for peace of mind
Reverend Father Athanasius, a great servant of Christ and a great Athonite miracle worker, during the days of your earthly life you taught many on the right path and guided you wisely into the kingdom of Heaven, comforting the sorrowful, giving a helping hand to those who give you a helping hand, and a kind, merciful and compassionate former father! Even now, dwelling in heavenly lordship, you most especially multiply your love for us who are weak, in the midst of life, we are in need, tempted by the spirit of malice and passions that war against the spirit. For this reason, we humbly pray to you, holy father: according to the grace given to you from God, help us to do the will of the Lord in simplicity of heart and humility: to overcome the temptations of the enemy and the fierce sea of passions, so that we will calmly pass through the abyss of life and through your intercession to the Lord we will be worthy of achieving the Kingdom promised to us Heavenly, glorifying the Beginningless Trinity, Father and Son and Holy Spirit, now and ever, and unto ages of ages. Amen.
Before the icon of the Mother of God “Joy of All Who Sorrow”
Hope of the unreliable, strength of the helpless, refuge of the overwhelmed, protection of the attacked, intercession of the offended, bread-loving, delight of the hungry, nectar of heavenly rest for those thirsty, Mother of the Most Blessed God, Most Blessed and Immaculate Virgin! I alone resort to You, to Your protection I wholeheartedly bow my knees, Lady. Do not despise crying and tears, the joy of those who cry! Even if my unworthiness and the damnation of my sins terrify me, but this whole-bearing image assures me, in which I see Your grace and power, like an inexhaustible sea: the blind who have received their sight, the galloping lame, wandering as if under the canopy of Your charity, those who have been laid to rest, and those who have abounded at all times. ; Looking at these images of pardon, he came running, blind with his spiritual eyes and lame with his spiritual feelings. Oh, Unstoppable Light! Enlighten and correct me, weigh all my sorrow, weigh all misfortune, do not despise my prayer, O Helpful One! Do not disdain me, a sinner, do not despise me, a foul one; We know that you can do everything, the greatest will, oh my good hope, my hope comes from my mother’s breast. I am committed to You from the womb of my Mother, I am left to You, do not leave me, do not depart from me, now and ever and to the ages of ages. Amen.
;What else can you do? When something is constantly bothering you, it is useful to be distracted by creative activity.. After all, for example, in large families, rarely does anyone suffer from depression - the elders take care of the younger ones, they simply have no time to indulge in sad thoughts. But people can be lonely. Then a good solution is volunteering, helping the elderly or orphans. Seeing how bad it is for others, a person quickly forgets his far-fetched fears.
It is useful to attend church services - it has already been proven that church bells are the best sedative. Divine chants also have a beneficial effect on mood. Just being under church vaults is good for your health. A person consists not only of a physical, but also a spiritual part. Start doing it and you will notice changes for the better. As a result, your mood will improve, joy and a taste for life will appear.
Prayer to calm down and not be nervous - Orthodox strong was last modified: April 20th, 2018 by Bogolub