At least signs of what in our culture people call "weakness." For example, he does not cry, is not afraid, can endure any difficulties on his own, is always outwardly calm, completely independent of other people, etc. This is the role of a real Hero in our culture.
But often the manifestations are external, this is only an external facade, and deep down a person can have many deeply suppressed feelings, experiences, pain. As a rule, over time, such feelings are pushed beyond the boundaries of awareness, into the unconscious, and a person ceases to feel them, although if you look closely at such people, you can see how these deeply suppressed feelings are reflected in their body, figure, gait, and muscle tone. These feelings do not go away; they are expressed in excessive nervous and physical tension. Chronic fatigue, fatigue, insomnia, vegetative-vascular dystonia, headaches and heart pains, surges in blood pressure, irritation that comes from out of nowhere, depression, boredom, depression or, conversely, excessive activity (hyperactivity), hyperexcitability, sharp emotional ups and downs, inability to decide on your desires, understand what you want, etc. this is an incomplete list of the consequences of suppressing feelings, thoughts and emotions.
Painful and disturbing feelings, thoughts and emotions are a signal from our psyche that something is wrong, something needs to be changed. An analogy to this is the dashboard of a car, where instruments monitor the condition of the vehicle and, in case of any problem, give the driver various signals. Our body and psyche also give such signals, but as a rule, most people in our society have been taught to suppress such signals rather than pay attention to them. If something in your body hurts, don’t think about why, just take a pill, apply some ointment, go to the surgeon and they’ll just cut out what you don’t need. If your soul hurts, just don’t think about it, distract yourself, do something, drink a bottle of beer or an antidepressant. Well, what if you think about it? Perhaps our body wants to tell us something, only in its own language accessible to it? What do we do very often? The fuel light is already blinking, and we press on the gas and expect to drive another 2000 miles... Or maybe we just hope to get by? Ah, this is the usual Russian maybe... It's a shame when a completely good vehicle stops halfway. But there could be so many more wonderful and interesting journeys ahead.
According to statistics, strong people usually die from strokes and heart attacks. Such people keep everything to themselves; over time, if problems are not resolved, this tension accumulates. As a result, there is a strong overstrain of the psyche, the autonomic nervous system, which is precisely responsible for the normal regulation of various functions of the body, the proper functioning of internal organs, blood vessels, etc. Such psychosomatic disorders (mind-body), in 80% of cases, are the cause of sudden jumps pressure, various hemorrhages, ruptures and compression of blood vessels.
People are not born physically strong, and no one is gifted with incredible mental strength from birth. Psychological strength emerges over time for people who make self-development a priority. In addition to avoiding things that might bother them, mentally strong people develop healthy habits that support their psychological well-being.
Here are 8 of the things that mentally resilient people do every day.
1. Use their psychic energy wisely
It is very easy to get distracted during the day by many unimportant and useless things. Psychologically stable people prefer to use their time and energy carefully. They dedicate their efforts to what matters most to them in order to achieve their goals.
2. Reconsider your negative thoughts
Everyone has negative thoughts sometimes, but psychologically strong people do not allow them to hold them back or weaken them. Instead, they respond to their pessimistic expectations and harsh criticism with more productive self-talk. They stay motivated by treating themselves like trusted friends or helpful coaches.
3. They strive to achieve their goals
Mentally strong people set clear personal and professional goals that have meaning and purpose. They forego immediate gratification while keeping their long-term goals in mind, and view obstacles as challenges rather than barriers to success.
4. Monitor their progress
Strong people reflect daily on how they are progressing towards their goals. They give themselves time to evaluate what they do well and what areas they need some improvement in. They hold themselves accountable for their mistakes and constantly strive to improve.
5. Endure discomfort for greater goals.
While some people are willing to go to great lengths to avoid facing any stress, others endure pain just to prove that they are strong. Strong people tolerate discomfort when it is necessary to achieve their goal. Whether they exercise despite being tired or perform in public despite being very nervous, they use their suffering to...
6. Develop a sense of gratitude
You can't be your best if you insist that you deserve better. Strong people recognize that they already have everything they need. They consider themselves quite lucky and are grateful for all things, big and small.
7. Balance emotions with logic.
Psychologically strong people know that their experiences play an important role in how they perceive everything and how they behave. They pay attention to how emotions can influence their judgment and carefully balance them with logic to make the best decisions.
8. Live in accordance with your values
Although it is very tempting to build your self-esteem based on comparing yourself with others, competing with them, psychologically strong people are not distracted by such things. They focus on living their values and doing their best despite the circumstances. At the end of the day, they don't ask themselves if they beat everyone today. Instead, they would rather ask themselves whether they were true to their principles today.
Muhammad Azzahiri As-Samarkandi
It just so happened that my destiny was that at the beginning of my professional career I was engaged in research in the field of criminal psychology and learned a lot about what violence is like, by whom and in what situations it manifests itself, and how the people who manifest it feel. This experience greatly changed my understanding of the world and people, which before my acquaintance with the criminal environment was based primarily on artificial dogmas that strongly contradicted both human nature and nature in general. People are not what they want to think of themselves as and what they try to make themselves with the help of culture. In fact, people, I won’t say that they are worse than they think about themselves, they are simply closer to nature, to its cruel, but to some extent reasonable laws. And whether we want to admit it or not, the desire for violence is part of our nature. Not the only and, perhaps, still not the main, but quite significant part. We crave violence, because it is one of the ways to survive, but it often takes a perverted form, the meaning of which we cannot always understand.
Let's define what violence is. In dictionaries I found two definitions of this concept, which I will convey in my own words. And the third definition is my own, which for me personally is more complete and accurate.
Violence is an act where someone forces you to do something you don't want, sometimes through threats, sometimes through physical force.
Violence is the cruel treatment of someone in which the victim is physically harmed and suffers physical and mental pain.
My own definition of violence is this: Violence is the desire to cause harm or damage to someone through the use of force, expressed in one form or another. The purpose of this desire may be different, but it is always connected either with protection from someone or something, or with the desire to obtain something in this way. Let me explain the meaning of my definition. In nature, any violence is associated with survival. Animals commit violence for the sake of survival - they either defend themselves from someone or attack a victim for food. At the same time, not a single animal attacks the stronger, while sparing the weaker. Attacking the strong when there is a weak one is simply stupid. And only in exceptional cases can the beast do this. This indicates that the task of survival in nature is primary. And all living beings strive for exactly this when they commit violence. Moreover, power in nature, as in human society, can be different. It's not always physical strength. Some bite and scratch, some crush and choke, some sting, some deceive, some exhaust. All living beings have their strengths and weaknesses. And as you and I know, some living beings survive thanks to deception, and not thanks to physical strength. Moreover, their deception can cause serious harm to another living creature, including a physically strong one.
Consider whether the ability of herbivores to deceive a predator so well that it negatively affects its survival can be considered violence? That is, we are talking about a perfect defense that harms the attacker. For example, if a wolf cannot feed itself because everyone it hunts learns to successfully run away from it, then this will be tantamount to if the wolves themselves destroyed some species thanks to their perfect hunting skills. That is, a wolf can use one form of violence to destroy a species if it gains a great advantage over it, and this species, for example, hares, can use another form of violence to destroy a wolf, gaining an advantage over it in the form of more successful defense with with the help of escape. The point is to survive at the expense of others.
In human society, things are the same as in the animal world. Physically strong people are far from being the fittest and most resilient. Cunning is much more useful for the survival of our species. Therefore, if some person, like the victim of a predator in the animal world, can, with the help of some techniques, some tricks, bypass a more physically stronger person in the struggle for survival, while causing him some damage, then isn’t this violence? In my opinion, any trick, any action that allows one living being to harm another, for the sake of some benefit or for the sake of survival, is a manifestation of violence. And by approaching violence from this position, we will be able to see it in ways we have never seen before. For example, in skillful lies and manipulation. Or in indifference to the troubles and suffering of others. Or in denunciations and setups. Even though this may be passive violence in some cases, it nevertheless achieves the same goals as overt physical violence.
When I studied various crimes and criminals, at first I experienced a lot of negative emotions. You know, when you study all sorts of human atrocities in every detail, it is important to be able to protect your psyche from strong negative emotions, so as not to simply go crazy. And the best way of psychological defense is to rationalize and comprehend everything that you observe and what happens to you. And it was precisely this need to protect my psyche from information that was unacceptable to me at that time that allowed me to understand a lot about the nature of violence. I saw in violence not evil, but meaning and necessity. The interesting thing I've found in studying a wide variety of crimes is that different people commit violence in different ways. That is, there is a need to cause harm to other people, well, if not everyone, I won’t say so boldly, then many. But this need is satisfied by different people in different ways. Some resort to physical violence, while others resort to more sophisticated ways of harming other people, for example, pitting some people against others. I believe that this is due primarily to the capabilities of people, and secondly to their beliefs. A person can commit violence if, firstly, he is given the opportunity when he knows for sure that he will not be punished for his violent actions, and secondly, if the desire to commit violence does not contradict his beliefs. Although in the second case, people manage to find a variety of justifications for their actions. And it should be noted that sometimes they manage to do this well. For example, in self-defense you can kill a person, but this clearly exceeds self-defense.
As for so-called kind people, their kindness is often superficial. They are only good because they are weak. Therefore, they behave the way other people want it, and not the way they themselves want it. But as soon as they become stronger, for example, with the help of power and money, they immediately show their true insides to others. More precisely, they demonstrate their holistic image, which has not only a light side, but also a dark side. We then say that money and/or power, and/or impunity and spoiling have spoiled a person. But in reality, these things simply allowed him to be himself, to be who he always was, but carefully hid it. This does not mean that the person became bad, he simply became free in his desires when he became stronger. Thus, some, and perhaps many people, do not show violence only because they cannot do it - they are weak and cowardly, so they are careful in their behavior in public. But as soon as they get the opportunity to act more boldly, selfishly and uninhibited, they will immediately change. They say that in still waters there are devils. Let me clarify - there are devils in all people, but not all people allow these devils to manifest themselves.
A special role in a person’s behavior is played by his beliefs. Beliefs allow us to control our nature through reason and faith. Some people don't harm others because they think it's wrong. Maybe sometimes they do this to the detriment of their interests and to the detriment of their own safety, but if their beliefs are strong, then they will behave as they see fit, and not as they want or as they should. These people are imperfect, they have their own sins, their own shortcomings, their own weaknesses, but up to a certain point they can be very peaceful. This particular moment may become, for example, a question of their survival, when they prefer to preserve their lives to the detriment of the interests of other people. But beliefs are a delicate matter; people tend to change them when it suits them or in cases where they stop believing in something. For example, there are people who hold beliefs according to which it is not only possible, but also necessary to harm other people. Some criminals with whom I had the opportunity to communicate in my time said that they consider people trash and dirt, so they need to get rid of them. They were firmly convinced that the violence they inflicted was as natural a phenomenon as, for example, predators eating herbivores. So not everyone sees the world the way we see it. Therefore, the presence of good laws and the severity of punishment for violence is necessary for our society like air. However, even the most severe laws and fear of punishment are not able to completely deprive society of violence, since people feel a need for it. We can talk about both protection from someone, as in the animal world, and about the pursuit of some kind of predatory goals. In both cases one has to resort to violence. And some people commit violence because they enjoy it. Below I will explain the meaning of this pleasure.
But first I would like to draw your attention to the views of some people on the problem of violence in our society. Some psychologists, in particular, argue that television and computer games provoke violence in society. Allegedly, life reflects television, and not vice versa. I do not think so. I believe that television reflects life, and only partially. In reality, no amount of violence on a television screen or computer monitor will reflect all the forms of violence that exist in our society. You and I know that violence has always existed, long before television, computer games and even books. People have always been evil and cruel. Of course, they also had and still have good qualities, such as kindness, compassion, mercy, love. And these qualities are also not directly related to various sources of information, including television. They are inside us. And if we want to be guided primarily by them, then they need to be developed. Various sources of information, including television, can program us to a certain lifestyle and certain actions. But for some reason it is more difficult to accustom many people to the good, kind, pure and bright than to the bad. Otherwise we wouldn't need laws as a deterrent.
I know of cases where children who had never seen a TV or a computer in their lives were nevertheless very cruel to the weak, and in some cases, to their parents. Nobody taught them how to commit violence, some of them were never subjected to violence that could cause them to become embittered. However, these children committed violent acts simply because they wanted to. They gave free rein to their natural aggression. Do you want to know why children can be so cruel out of kindness? Because kindness for them is a sign of weakness. And in nature, as you and I know, the weak are attacked. Weakness provokes aggression. But let’s return to television and other sources of information to understand another very important point related to violence.
Let's think about why the media tells us so much about violence? After all, there really is a lot of it in the same news. Maybe they want to intimidate us by showing us what a dangerous world we live in? Maybe this is some kind of conspiracy, the goal of which is to control society through fear? I think that everything is much simpler - we are provided with exactly the information in which we show the greatest interest. And we take a great interest in violence. We are often told about how somewhere someone was killed, robbed, deceived, and we still can’t get enough of this negative information. Why? Why does negativity attract and hold our attention? I believe that the whole point is that such information is important for our lives - it can protect us from potential danger by warning us about it, which is why we attach such importance to it. Good news can lift our spirits, but they are not as important to us as negative news, because everything good is normal for us. But everything bad and scary affects us better, because it appeals to our need for survival. To survive, any living creature must attach importance to all types of threats that it faces or may face. If you don't do this, then you can die. Imagine an antelope that is not vigilant and indifferent to any movements in the bushes, but it will immediately become the prey of a predator. And if all antelopes became so indifferent to the mere hint of danger, they would die out. This is why the human brain so greedily consumes information related to danger. If you don't want to be eaten, then show interest in everything that poses a danger to you.
And one more important point related to people’s opinions about violence. According to some psychologists, violence is associated with unmet needs of people. And supposedly, if these needs are satisfied, then people will not resort to violence. I believe this is partially misleading. Indeed, if a person does not have his basic needs met, he becomes aggressive and prone to violence. But even after satisfying his needs, a person can resort to violence, which we repeatedly observe from some people who have settled well in life, who, as people say, get mad when they harm other people. This happens because violence is a need in itself that needs to be satisfied. No matter how much you give a person what he needs and what he wants, he will still commit violent acts against other people, mainly those who are weaker than him, having the desire and ability to do so. Therefore, I don’t believe in people who haven’t hurt a fly in their lives. But I believe that a person can be mostly good, kind, peace-loving, sympathetic, rather than evil and aggressive, if everything goes well in his life and he adheres to peaceful beliefs.
A person is not bad and not good, not evil and not kind, he is what he must be in order to survive in this world. But this does not mean that we can shift the blame for our bad behavior onto circumstances, thereby justifying our own or others’ violence. We want to think that we are good, kind, that it is life that makes us evil, and that circumstances force us to commit violence, but this is not so. We are kind, good, but not always and not with everyone. Sometimes we can be angry, vengeful, treacherous, mean and cruel. And this is not always connected with the circumstances in which we are placed. Often this is due to the qualities that we maintain and develop in ourselves, making this or that choice in various situations. It is very easy to choose violence when you have the opportunity to commit it and it can help you achieve your goals. It is much more difficult to refrain from such a temptation and act according to your conscience, in fairness, in a humane way, taking into account the interests and desires of other people, even if they are much weaker than you.
Let's go back to what violence is like to understand how often we ourselves use its various forms to achieve our goals. After all, some of us may think that they do not use violence in their lives and always act fairly, according to their conscience, taking into account the interests and desires of other people. But this may not be the case. Because we are not necessarily talking about physical violence, which is manifested in obvious form. I also, as you already know, consider deception, manipulation, gossip, setups, betrayal, insults, humiliation, suppression and even inaction in situations when someone needs help to be certain forms of violence. For me, every desire of one person to cause harm and damage to another person, to other people, is violence. Because it is not the method of achieving the goal that is important, but its result and the consequences to which it leads. Physical violence is explicit violence. And, say, lies, provocations, incitement, pitting people against each other - this is veiled violence that can cause people the same or even more serious harm as physical violence. Therefore, by analyzing his behavior, a person can understand what form of violence he most often resorts to, wanting to achieve his goals to the detriment of the interests of other people. If, in order to achieve one or another of your goals, you caused harm or damage to other people, acting contrary to their desires, interests and will, I dare to say that you committed violent acts against them. How necessary this was, you know better. But by resorting to violence, you may well have taken the easy path for you. You may not agree with my definition of violence, but then you will have to give the above actions that people do to achieve their goals a different explanation and a different assessment.
Let's now think about whether we can do without violence when trying to achieve our goals or solve our problems. Do you think that a fragile woman, protecting herself and her children from an enraged tyrant husband, who is much stronger than her, can calculate her strength so as not to cause him injuries incompatible with life? Is it possible to be honest and at the same time a successful politician? Is it possible to win a war without knowing how to pit your enemies against each other? Is it possible for a person placed in the most difficult living conditions not to cause material damage to those who put him in these conditions for the sake of their exorbitant desires? It may be possible to refrain from various forms of violence in the examples I have indicated, of which, as you understand, there may be many more, but why do this? Why complicate your life by going against your own interests just to refrain from violence? And it is impossible to do this, because in this case you will have to give up your positions wherever possible. We cannot live without violence, because it is one of the most effective ways to solve various kinds of problems and tasks. Just as it is impossible to live and survive without mutual assistance and cooperation, which are also often found in our lives, it is also difficult to live without violence. That is why we have an innate desire for violence, or one might say an instinct - an instinct for violence. Some people use it to take away, enslave, conquer and capture, while others defend and protect, defend and survive.
Now let's talk about what I promised to return to above - about the pleasure that a person can receive from committing violence. This is a particularly interesting point, thanks to which you can understand the nature and meaning of this phenomenon. Not all people are willing to admit that they enjoy the violence they observe or inflict. Only pronounced psychopaths and sociopaths spoke to me about this openly. Psychopaths and sociopaths are practically no different from each other in terms of symptom: antisocial personality disorder. The only difference is that psychopaths are born [according to some psychologists [we are talking about a genetic predisposition]], and sociopaths become under the influence of the environment. These people directly told me that they enjoy watching violence against others and using it themselves, even when it is not necessary. But I believe that other, so to speak, normal people also enjoy violence, but they just don’t admit it. Why do I think this? And just look at how much unjustified, unnecessary and often completely unnecessary violence there is in our world, which people either love to watch or commit. Think about the gladiator fights in the Colosseum and see how today people entertain themselves through fights without rules or watching films with a lot of violence and even creating it in the virtual world using computer games. People were attracted to the pain, suffering, torment, humiliation and death of other people. And there’s nothing to say about all sorts of everyday conflicts, when people wish harm to each other. Therefore, I believe that many people want to derive pleasure from violence, either committed by themselves or by someone else.
Why do some people enjoy seeing or committing violence? What practical benefit could this have from the point of view of nature? Usually, any pleasure is an incentive and at the same time a reward for a person doing something that nature needs. For example, we derive pleasure from copulation in order to strive for this process through which we reproduce. What gives us pleasure from violence? Probably the whole point is that in this way we carry out natural selection, allowing the fittest to survive and the weakest to die. It is quite possible that a person rejoices in violence because he sees how his competitors in the struggle for resources and living space are eliminated, either by him personally or by someone else. At least from the reasoning of those people who revealed to me all the secrets of their love for violence, I draw exactly these conclusions. When other people feel bad, we can feel good about it precisely because we avoided the fate that befell them. This, of course, does not mean that man is always a wolf to man. Everything, I think, depends on the circumstances. If a person is satisfied with his life, if he understands how much we all depend on each other and knows how to show empathy, then in most cases he will show pity and compassion for those who are subjected to violence, and not enjoy it. The struggle for survival does not necessarily have to be reduced to the destruction of the weaker. Cooperation and mutual assistance also contribute to this and, according to some scientists, to a much greater extent. However, when people are dissatisfied with something and do not understand much, they are controlled primarily by aggressive instincts.
So doing good deeds and helping other people can also give us pleasure, not only because of our beliefs, but also because of our innate desire to survive through cooperation and mutual assistance. Life, as you see, is multifaceted; you cannot always adhere to one strategy for survival and development. Sometimes you need to lend a helping hand to your neighbor, and sometimes you need to use force to get around someone or get them out of your way. Therefore, nature allows us to enjoy both conventionally good and conventionally bad actions.
Sometimes some people cannot and do not want to resist the temptation to use force, no matter in what form, to solve some of their problems and realize their desires. Still, power decides a lot in our world, which is why people love and respect it. However, we know that violence alone will not get you far, that the more of it in our society, the less comfortable and more dangerous it is to live in it. Therefore, any fight against violence, primarily ideological and cultural, and less often in the form of retaliatory violence, is a noble and, from the point of view of nature, promising undertaking. Natural selection can be looked at both from the point of view of the survival of the strongest and fittest individuals, and from the point of view of the survival of the entire species. In the second case, we can conclude that it will be much easier for humanity to survive if it is united and peaceful, if the strong help the weak rather than destroy them.
How does a strong person differ from a weak one? Now we are not talking about physical strength and endurance. With the proper degree of perseverance, almost anyone can cultivate these qualities. Becoming a strong person psychologically is much more difficult. And is it even possible?
Strong man: what is he like?
A strong person is what many people want to be in life. It is believed that such a person will be able to get settled and achieve what he wants. How he does it is not so important, the result is a priority. At the same time, a strong personality is characterized as cruel and rude, unshakable in judgment. But at heart, a strong person can be a fluffy kitten. Not everyone knows him closely, but they judge him by his external manifestations of fortitude.
But what about the psychology of a strong person? It is characterized by the following:
A strong personality may seem difficult to be around, live with, or work with. In fact, such a person is an example for others. Looking at it, you can understand that moving in the direction of your dreams and achieving results is a must. You can learn a lot from a strong person. The main thing is to understand this and be able to see the advantages of other people.
Portrait of a weak man
A weak person is the same as a strong person, but with a minus sign. That is, everything is the other way around for him. Yes and no. There are signs by which a psychologically weak personality can be easily identified in his environment. To do this, analyze the behavior of your friends. Or perhaps something from this list is about you?
- A weak person complains more and more often than other people. Life is like a roller coaster, there are ups and downs. But even being at the top, a weak person complains about his existence, finding a reason for this. And instead of trying to get out of a difficult situation and solve problems, he talks about difficulties to others, regardless of their opinions and desire to listen or lack thereof. This turns people away from the weak person and introduces another reason for complaint.
- A weak person does not strive to leave his comfort zone. He is afraid of life changes, even if they promise only the best. Vegetating in routine, he builds a life. He thinks that it is safer this way, he feels protected, even if in fact this is not the case.
- A weak person does not take other people's opinions into account. Yes, you need to live your life the way you want. But being able to find a reasonable grain in the opinions and statements of other people is very important. To a certain extent, it pays to listen to others. This gives impetus to the development and improvement of one’s own personality.
- A weak person gives up without a fight. This is perhaps the most obvious sign of a psychologically weak personality. This is expressed not only in the inability to finish what has been started, but also in the lack of perseverance. A strong person forgets that success does not come to those who have done nothing to achieve the result.
- A weak person is jealous of other people. He does not achieve what he wants himself and those who succeeded. But each person has his own, the circumstances of his achievement are not the same. Instead of biting your nails out of envy, you should find your own path.
- A weak person gets angry. Of course, no person can live without manifestations of anger. But what is the object towards which this anger is directed? If this is anger at yourself for your inability to achieve something, it will most likely direct you on the right path to self-improvement. But if this is anger at circumstances, at other people who have succeeded, where will it lead? It is absolutely impossible to never be angry. But unjustified destructive feelings break a person from the inside.
- A weak person tends to dramatize. He talks about how hard it is for him to cope with life’s troubles and characterizes his life in a negative way. They say about such people that they are pessimists, because they do not see the light ahead. But negative mental projections are imposed on life, leave an imprint on a person’s present and future, and there is no escape from this.
You can understand the difference between a strong person and a weak one without resorting to an in-depth analysis of the personality. There is an ordinary, everyday understanding of “strength” and “weakness”. But at the same time, it can vary from person to person, and the category is determined.
How can a weak person become stronger?
There are no hopeless people. Anyone can become stronger if they want. You should get rid of your shortcomings gradually. To do this, follow the advice of psychologists.
Remember that there are no exceptionally strong or weak people. We are all strong in our own way, but sometimes we need support and understanding. Therefore, a strong person is not alone. He helps loved ones and is not afraid to ask for reciprocity if he needs it.
I don’t know about you, but I am completely convinced that the phrase “The best man wins” will be relevant at all times. Only if previously everything came down to physical characteristics, then modern reality forces a person to improve on all fronts. Therefore, it is not surprising that people began to think more often about how to become stronger. Of course, we are talking about the context of the whole life...
First of all, you need to set yourself up for positive success. It is not enough to just think: “I want to become stronger.” You need to firmly and confidently say: “I will become stronger” and put as much emotion into this phrase as your heart is capable of. This kind of setup, despite its absurdity, allows you to achieve good results. Try it, just don't be a hack.
So, for those who want to know how to become a strong person, I have prepared 17 tips that can bring amazing results. They make up only a small fraction of the entire journey, but do you remember where the journey of a thousand miles begins? You can apply them all at once, or one at a time. You can implement one thing every month or every week. You can completely score. Remember that everything depends on your choice.
1. Form your view of things.
It is very important to learn to formulate your own thoughts on any issue. In our century, people themselves become slaves to other people's opinions, so it is very difficult to maintain individuality of thinking. I brought this point to the first place precisely because of its complexity. Learn to get rid of other people's opinions and form your own objective judgment. Perhaps the post “How to Find Freedom” will help you.
2. Do physical exercise.
It is also important to know how to become physically stronger. A truly strong person is strong not only in spirit and mind, but also in body. Therefore, it is very important to monitor your physical norm. You don't have to sign up for a gym. You can start running or doing morning exercises. Usually this is enough. If you want something more exciting, you can try some sports. I bet you'll like it.
3. Set goals.
It's important to know where you're going. The best guide is a dream or goal. But if a dream is something vague, then a goal is a real finishing line that can be torn off. In fact, setting and achieving goals brings unprecedented personal growth.
4. Survive falls.
Failure is the best mentor. Believe me, nothing brings as much life experience as falling. Only by experiencing real difficulties can we become stronger. Therefore, there is no need to be afraid of failures, just do what you set out to do. You can never truly taste success if it comes too easily. Treat falls like a good teacher who is genuinely interested in your knowledge.
5. Love yourself.
It is important to understand one thing - you have incredible potential hidden within you, thanks to which you can achieve anything you want. It doesn’t matter how grandiose your plans are. If you can truly love yourself, then no obstacles will prevent you from achieving your results.
6. Read more.
Did you know that our brain perceives information projected in the imagination as real? But, unlike animals, we are able to independently control the flow of our thoughts. This way we can lose many difficult situations that may arise in the future. Books are a real treasure trove of such situations. We literally play every scene live and draw the necessary conclusions. It's not for nothing that all successful people read a lot.
7. Learn to lose.
It is important to understand that you are responsible for your life. It doesn’t matter who exactly is to blame for the current situation. If this has somehow affected your life, YOU ARE TO BLAME. If a girl leaves you, don’t complain about her, but look for the reason in yourself. If you were fired from your job, don’t insult your boss, but become a better person. The only way.
8. Finally, start learning for real.
Education is actually a very useful thing. Many underestimate it, citing as an argument phrases like: “I will never need this.” Yes, we never use most of the knowledge we acquire at school or university, but it helps us develop. For example, geometry develops logical thinking very well and can teach you how to correctly reason your answer. By getting to know different areas of philosophy, we can find answers to some questions in the future.
9. Give free rein to your imagination.
In the most ordinary things, you can achieve unusual results if you use your imagination. Try doing everything with your left hand the next time you have to clean the house. It will turn out quite funny, and you will probably remember this cleaning for a long time. But fantasy can also be used in other situations, for example, you can learn a passage or formula and do push-ups at the same time. Oh yes, I already wrote about this in the material “How to develop memory.” Fantasy can open up unprecedented boundaries for you and find ways even in the most difficult situations.
10. Find something you love to do.
Nothing gives such a powerful impetus to action as doing what you love. These could be some true goals or just a hobby. Such activities will give you strength and make your heart beat joyfully in anticipation of future activities. It is much better if your favorite activity is your life goal. Together, such actions will not only make you stronger, but will bring real greatness.
11. Learn to say no.
And we are not just talking about some requests. It is very important to learn to focus on one thing, discarding all external factors. If you look at all the things you did today, you will probably notice that most of them do not have any practical benefit. They just destroy you. Give them up in favor of truly important things!
12. Give up unnecessary connections.
We often surround ourselves with people who negatively influence us. We feel awkward around them and want to leave the company as soon as possible. Or maybe we're just annoyed by their endless whining and complaining. Remember what they say: “Tell me who your friend is and I will tell you who you are.” We often adopt our behavior from those around us, so it won’t be surprising if you soon start complaining too. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy spending time with and you will immediately notice the difference.
13. Start realizing your dreams.
You can become a truly strong person when you realize your dreams and help realize the dreams of others. Every day, devote at least five minutes to getting closer to your desires and then success is guaranteed to you.
14. Throw away all negativity.
This does not mean that you need to put on rose-colored glasses and rejoice at every leaf (although this option will also work). You just need to treat the world not as a firing line, but as a sea of opportunities that you can realize. If you constantly think about the negative, then sooner or later depression will begin to strangle you with its huge hands. Believe in a positive result and it will definitely come.
15. Ask for forgiveness.
Have you ever had situations that you still regret and constantly remember? Perhaps this is one of the effective ways to become stronger spiritually. Ask for forgiveness from everyone you've ever bullied. Especially if your conscience constantly reminds you of these cases. In this day and age, it is very rare to hear a sincere “Sorry,” so you can become a role model for other people.
16. Get rid of all debt.
You can't continue to grow stronger if you're saddled with debt. It's like ballast, constantly dragging you to the bottom. First, deal with your financial debts. Then follow through on all your promises. Only if nothing is holding you back can you move forward truly quickly.
17. Help others.
Just like that, without any hidden intentions. You can sign up to volunteer or help your neighbor-grandmother lift bags of groceries. You can even do something more: plant trees or organize a holiday. Such actions fill our lives with meaning and completely kill bad character traits.
The article could be supplemented with a bunch more points, but I decided to focus on these 17. If you have anything to add or ask, write in the comments.