You probably know this feeling: 10 am, you are already on edge from the third cup of coffee, and instead of any sensible thoughts in your head, you are a complete mess. You are exhausted - physically, mentally and emotionally - and completely indifferent to the things that used to make you happy. Motivation? Forget it. Irritability? Oh yeah. Concerned about health and wellness? Into the furnace.
If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.
Henry Ford
Henry Ford's famous quote comes in handy here.
The usual methods of bringing yourself back to life, be it a double dose of espresso or another layer of concealer under the eyes, take literally a few minutes, but how much real benefit do they have? Yes, it takes much more time to radically change your life, but in the end all the efforts are worth it. This is an investment in your health and well-being and should be taken with all due seriousness.
1. Get plenty of sleep
Our body is a mechanism. A beautiful and incredibly complex system that needs care and rest. When you leave work, you turn off your computer every day, and that’s about what your body and mind need. Research says that good sleep helps the brain flush out toxins that accumulate during the day, which is why seven to eight hours of rest is incredibly important for mental and physical health. Your goal is to gradually increase your daily sleep duration to this level. 30 minutes more rest every day - it's that simple, right?
2. Think about what and how you eat
Making your eating meaningful takes practice. This especially applies to those who are used to having a snack on the run, while simultaneously typing a response to the next letter and constantly being distracted by phone calls. Practicing mindful eating helps you understand What what you eat and how it benefits your body. Simply satisfying hunger is replaced by a healthy relationship with food. Research shows that this approach to nutrition significantly improves mood, reduces stress levels, helps develop healthy eating habits and even lose excess weight.
3. Stop caffeine
Caffeine is a stimulant that irritates your already stressed nervous system. When you are worried, tense, or even on the verge of hysteria, another cup of coffee will cheer you up, but not for long. Instead, try other, gentler ways to cheer up and recharge your batteries: exercise or. If you don’t enjoy a morning without coffee, take your relationship with this drink to a slightly different level and make it as conscious as possible. Savor the aroma and enjoy the taste of the drink while sipping it from your favorite mug. After some time, it may turn out that this ritual is much more important than the coffee itself.
4. Start moving and don't stop
Movement is not only a powerful tool for improving mood and reducing stress, but also maintaining excellent memory and general thinking skills.
You can counteract growing stress through physical activity: every minute spent doing yoga, jogging or cycling becomes an investment in the fight against stress.
A simple morning exercise sets the necessary pace for the whole day and helps you focus on important tasks. Needless to say, successful people prefer to train in the morning. Start with at least 10 minutes of moderate physical activity a day and gradually increase its duration to the recommended half hour.
5. Remember: the best rest is silence
Yes, yes, yes, not a single article about changing life is complete without mentioning meditation. Well, what can you do if it is . Approximately 80% of visits to doctors are in one way or another related to the consequences of stress, can you imagine what a monstrous waste of time and money? Even more amazing is that we can reduce all these expenses with the help of... that's right, meditation. These practices help cope with stress, strengthen the immune system, improve sleep and feel truly happy. Just five minutes of this relaxation will make your day much more joyful. Another bonus: people who meditate regularly think rationally and experience less anxiety when life throws up new surprises.
6. Take care of your skin
It's simple: happy skin - happy you. Of course, consolidating this habit is no different from others; it also takes time. The well-known rule of three weeks is not even so important here - consistency, regularity and understanding of why you are doing this are much more useful than crossing out days on the calendar. The notorious concealer will hide signs of fatigue in no time, but real changes in the condition of the skin always come from within, slowly but surely. Choose something that will not only improve your complexion, but also bring real benefits to the body, be it cosmetics or food. Just repeat all the necessary procedures in the morning and evening - after a while you will notice that your mood is no longer so gloomy. It’s banal, but humanity has not yet come up with anything better.
7. Feed the soul, not the ego.
It's simple: do what makes you happy. Not all our achievements fill our souls with joy. Regular processing can be useful, but ultimately it leads to depletion of the body's far from endless reserves. The benefits of this behavior are less than those of regular rest and relaxation. Finally, buy the shoes you've been wanting for a long time, treat yourself to ice cream during your lunch break, and watch old movies all weekend long. There should be one reason for all - okay, most - of your actions: it brings joy. You don't do it because it's another item on your to-do list. Joy. To you. Dot.
8. Trust your intuition
The dubious beauty of the expression “I feel it in my gut” is not a metaphor at all. Before making important decisions, listen to your feelings: the body often tells us what we need even before we realize it. Take a break if you are tired. Go somewhere if your soul asks for change. In short, when something goes wrong, first of all ask yourself about the reasons. If you are not an intuitive person, it will take some time to learn to listen to your inner voice. Just take a break from all your worries, take a break and honestly answer how you feel now. Chances are good that you know perfectly well what you really want. You just need to stop for a while and listen to yourself.
9. Break the routine
Challenge yourself to try something completely new at least once a week. Well, or, if there is too much enthusiasm, once a day. You don’t have to take on something big right away - just take a different route to work. Even such a seemingly trifle is an unusual experience. It helps open your mind to new ways of thinking and perceiving, which in turn will make you at least a little happier.
10. Create a comfortable environment for yourself
The first stage of creating relationships that are healthy in every sense is a responsible approach to what and with whom you fill your life. Yes, the prospect of becoming joyful and comfortable can be daunting at first, especially when it comes to friendships, family, food, work, or yourself. However, it is important.
Analyze all your connections and notice how they contribute to your life and well-being.
Those who are responsible in choosing their environment are often more confident in making decisions.
11. Learn new things
The process of acquiring new knowledge makes us happy, that's a fact. It also helps to prolong our lives and make it more interesting and rich, and also eliminates unnecessary prejudices. If you want to start small, learn to knit, for example. The Internet is full of training videos, so you can master this simple task without even getting out of bed. If you are attracted to big goals, take a three-month web design course. Whatever you decide to do, your brain will be deeply grateful to you.
12. Start journaling
Relieving stress, developing creativity, increasing self-confidence and being inspired to achieve your goals is a simple activity, huh. If this is difficult, don’t immediately commit to writing something every day. The process of creating text is important, and not how many times you do it, so for starters, you can limit yourself to a couple of classes a week. Set a timer, give yourself a simple topic like “What am I looking forward to this day,” and write down whatever is on your mind. Trust me, you will end up looking forward to these sessions.
Have you tried these methods or does something else help you? Share your tips in the comments.
Every person experiences a state in his life when the meaning of existence is lost, unbearable melancholy sets in, the colors of the world fade, and he either wants to derail this world or erase himself from its face. The insidiousness of the blues is that it sucks you in like a swamp, and the more you wallow in it, the more it sucks you in. Blues turn into apathy, apathy turns into depression, and depression turns into an unwillingness to live. How to overcome this condition and stop mourning for yourself and your failed life?
There is an exit. Psychologists have in their arsenal proven methods of combating the consequences of the blues. But first, let's understand its causes and consequences. You need to know the enemy by sight. It is always easier to come to an agreement with acquaintances than with strangers. Special techniques developed by practicing psychologists will help you get out of the state of “weightlessness.” They will teach you how to cope with depression and tell you what to do when you give up, lack energy and desire to live.
"Virus" of blues
Where does this weariness of life come from? Scientists say that the tendency to depression is inherited. However, genetic predisposition can be traced only in 40% of cases, the remaining 60% are due to other factors. Fortunately, even hereditary blues can be treated. But before we begin to eliminate the consequences, we need to understand the possible causes that give rise to them. Psychologists associate apathy towards life with six main reasons:
- Stress.
- Avitaminosis.
- Diets.
- Mental overstrain.
- Taking medications.
Treatment of bad mood
The obvious reasons have been sorted out. Most of them can be eliminated without resorting to the involvement of specialists. But what to do with unconscious provocateurs of depression that cannot be taken with your bare hands? They are the ones who most often set the weather and mood. In psychotherapy, there are methods that allow you to bring the subconscious to “clean water” and reveal the true causes of the blues. Psychologists say that many people experiencing depression are stuck in a difficult life situation and do not see a way out of it. Practicing art therapist Elena Tararina has developed an original technique that helps you live through the negative history of your life without mental trauma and transform destructive feelings into creative ones.
Technique “Drawing depression with vegetable oil”
The technique consists of drawing your experiences, and not with the usual pencils or paints, but with oil. Regular sunflower oil. The uniqueness of this method is that drawing with a soft, transparent, plastic material allows you not to think about the quality and meaning of the drawing, but to completely immerse yourself in the experience. This technique is called art therapy and is used to treat depression. It allows you to find and neutralize the cause of the blues, decipher destructive feelings, improve your mood and even change your life. To draw feelings you will need thin sheets of paper, sunflower oil and cotton swabs.
- Create an atmosphere that soothes your soul: light incense, play calm music, or turn everything off and turn on silence.
- Allow yourself to delve into that negative state that deprives you of strength and vitality. Live mentally and in great detail the situation that interferes with your peace.
- Focus on your emotions. Let them speak, and speak up yourself (shout, swear, be indignant) if they demand it.
- Transfer your experiences to paper and draw those “monsters” that give rise to all your destructive feelings.
- Hold the drawing up to the window and scan it with your “X-ray” eye. This is a “snapshot” of the diagnosis of your sick soul.
- Carry out a thorough diagnosis of the drawing: name it; describe what you see on paper; Think about whether you can add details to the drawing that will reduce the tension in it. Correct or add something that will make the picture more positive.
Perform the technique every time you fall into an emotional trap and lose your strength and meaning in life.
Three Minute Awareness Technique
This technique will relieve anxiety, allows you to realize yourself “here and now,” and takes you out of meaningless “soul-searching” and a state when it seems that everything is hopelessly bad. You will feel changes in your mood after the first session. With systematic use of the technique, your mental state will be completely normalized.
- Sit up straight but relaxed. Feel confident in your own body.
- Concentrate on the thoughts, but don’t worry about them, just watch them float one after another. This way you will create distance between yourself and your thoughts.
- Become aware of the feelings in which you are stuck and are now experiencing pain, disappointment, anger, resentment, etc. Do not deny them or resist them. Recognize their right to be.
- Feel your body. Notice how it feels at that moment. Accept them, even if it is unpleasant tension, tightness, weakness, nervous twitching, etc.
- Explore your breath. Feel how your chest and stomach move while breathing, how the air passes through your nose, mouth and fills your lungs.
- Focus on your body as a whole. Accept any discomfort, wherever it may be - in the muscles, breathing, internal organs. Consciously relieve tension by “breathing” new life and new energy into it. And as you exhale, let go of everything that brings discomfort. Repeat until you feel relief.
- When implementing the technique, you don’t have to be tied to three minutes. It can last exactly as long as you need to relax. Most importantly, don’t forget to use it when you feel powerless, pressured, stressed, or can’t get rid of obsessive negative thoughts.
The proposed techniques are a proven way to become positive when everything is bad. Take the time to try them on your own depression, and they will become your home psychotherapists, whom you can turn to at any difficult moment in your life.
In the modern world, people are exposed to daily psychological and emotional stress. Problems at work, traffic jams, poor environment, and unfavorable family environment sometimes make a person’s life simply unbearable. The result is chronic fatigue and a complete lack of interest in life. The question of how to find the strength to live on is sooner or later asked by many members of society, and, unfortunately, they do not always find an answer.
What to do
A lack of desire to move on with life occurs in many people. Usually such thoughts arise after a tragedy or accident has occurred. Even the most focused optimists sometimes feel pessimistic. However, Often people misinterpret their condition: they want to live, but not in the same way as at the moment. A person is not satisfied with the current life situation, he wants to change something, but he does not have the strength to do so. Troubles and misfortunes make us stronger and more experienced. There are often cases when a strong shake forces you to throw away all depressive thoughts and forces you to move only forward. You shouldn’t expect help from others, you need to find the strength within yourself to get out of this state. Advice from psychologists will help you understand yourself, separate the important from the unimportant and find peace of mind.
Analyze the current situation
First of all, you need to set priorities, separate real difficulties from imagined ones, and then the range of real problems will narrow significantly. There is no need to exaggerate the significance of the current situation - this is just another stage of life that will end sooner or later.
You can't be idle
Find the strength to start looking for a way out. By telling yourself that you have no strength to live on, you are building an insurmountable wall of negativity, which will be too difficult to break through. If you can't find a straight path, take a circuitous path, but don't stand still.
Gaining life experience
No matter how paradoxical it may sound, a reasonable person is able to draw conclusions from any situation, and the more complex it is, the more valuable the experience gained.
Think positively
Depression affects energetic and active people. Find the strength to do something interesting and inspiring. A new activity will give meaning to life, and there will be a desire to move on.
Appreciate life
Our life journey is too short, and we do not know at what moment it will be interrupted. You shouldn’t waste even a few precious minutes on despondency, sadness and despair. It’s stupid to waste precious time on depression when you can spend it on making new acquaintances, traveling, and communicating with loved ones.
Throw out the negativity
Don't withdraw into yourself and hold back your emotions. If you want to cry, cry, then noticeable relief will come. Just don’t drive yourself into hysterics, it won’t lead to anything good. You can’t be in constant nervous tension; you need to periodically give vent to your feelings.
What isn't done is for the best
How to find the strength to move on if you are fired from your job? Or maybe this is a sign? A signal from fate that you deserve better, and a change of job will bring only positive changes to your life. Has a loved one left you? Perhaps it was just a transitional period on the path of life, and real feelings are only ahead? What we accept as a great tragedy is actually an impetus for a new, happy stage in life.
Energy vampires exist not only in psychology books. There are many people in our lives who are not satisfied with their existence, and feed on the energy of positive and happy people. Drive away envious people, whiners, hypocrites from your environment, they have no place there. By communicating with them, you will gradually begin to live with their problems, which are of no use to you. Make friends with self-sufficient and positive individuals, and following them you will also improve yourself.
Be realistic about reality
Beautiful knights and magnificent ladies live only in fairy tales. Real relationships are much more complicated than in novels, and the sooner you take off your rose-colored glasses, the less disappointment you will experience.
Don't sacrifice yourself
Self-giving is important in any relationship, but you shouldn’t constantly sacrifice yourself in relationships that are devoid of reciprocity. If the object of your adoration is not worthy of you, find the strength to admit it and step back. Perhaps a great and bright feeling awaits you ahead.
Get rid of internal oppression - resentment towards others
Strong resentment does not allow us to live in peace; it drives us into depression with heavy oppression. Learn to mentally forgive your offender, and then you will clearly feel relief.
Feel gratitude
Thank people for their kind actions towards you. Perhaps in this way you make new friends who can help in difficult times.
Apperciate things which you have
Look at yourself from the outside. Maybe you have something that others don't? We are not necessarily talking about material wealth, we need to value good friends, excellent health, living loved ones, family well-being. Not everyone has this, but they don’t complain about fate, but move on.
Let go of the past
Every new day is a blank slate on which you can start writing your life path anew. All grievances and tragedies are in the past; you need to be able to let go of unpleasant memories, while drawing useful experience from them.
Methods to combat apathy towards life
In psychology, there is a clear definition of the lack of vital energy - apathy. If you don’t have the strength to move on, try taking the advice of experts.
Write down on paper everything that makes you apathetic towards life and burn the paper. If such an idea seems a little stupid to you, you can use the old proven method - tell a stranger about your problems. He will listen to you and perhaps give objective advice on how to live and what to do. After such actions you will feel real mental relief.
Get away from others. It is best to do this in the forest, where you can relax from the bustle of the city. Clean air and birdsong will help you recover emotionally.
Doctors say that the more emotions you keep inside, the more difficult it is to get out of a depressive state. If you want to scream, scream, cry, after that you will feel much better.
If you realize that you cannot cope with the problem on your own, consult a doctor. An experienced psychologist will help you find the true cause of your poor mental health and help you find a way out of the current situation.
Lack of interest in life can torment a person at any time of the day; you can wake up in the morning and feel terribly tired. Where to find strength for a new day? Doctors recommend the following ways to “charge” your body:
- Review your diet. Perhaps it contains an excessive amount of sweet, fatty and salty, which puts a significant burden on the body. The more you eat healthy foods, the more energy you will get.
- Invigorating aromas. It has long been proven that citrus increases performance. Eat oranges and tangerines more often, and they will definitely charge you with energy for the whole day.
- Fitness. We are not talking about exhausting physical activity, but about light exercise or jogging in the morning. Simple exercises will allow you to wake up faster in the morning and feel good spirits.
If you follow these simple steps, the blues will gradually recede. Try to look for something good, positive in every day, set new goals for yourself.
What causes loss of interest in life?
Before you begin to treat apathy, you need to identify the causes of its occurrence. Most often, interest in life disappears for the following reasons:
- Constantly experiencing stressful situations. A person is chronically depressed and can no longer get out of it on his own. In this case, you need to seek specialized help.
- Avitaminosis. Usually, in the off-season, a person begins to experience an acute lack of vitamins and minerals, folic acid, and the level of hemoglobin in the blood decreases. As a result, anemia occurs, and the body works only at half its strength.
- Diets. Exhausting diets make the body weakened and lethargic. A person who is losing weight limits himself to sugar, as a result of which glucose ceases to nourish the cells in the required quantity.
- Physical overload. Exhausting training or hard work exhausts the body, which often results in apathy and weakness.
- Mental stress. A striking example is students who experience great mental stress during a session. After passing exams, they often become depressed.
- Taking certain medications can also negatively affect your mental well-being.
Lack of desire to live further, depression - all these concepts are just a temporary state of the body, which can and should be fought. If you do not pay proper attention to a depressive state, over time it can develop into a real tragedy. About 3% of the total number of patients with depressive disorder attempt to commit suicide. These are very scary numbers, because our friends and relatives may be in this seemingly small percentage. Don’t withdraw into your shell, look for a way out of the current situation, don’t give up. If you are wondering how to continue living if you have no strength and cannot find an answer, do not hesitate to seek help from a psychologist. He will recommend medications that, in combination with psychological activities, will quickly restore peace of mind and meaning in life.
Why there is no strength to live: 10 main reasons for fatigue
Fatigue after a busy week is a completely natural phenomenon, but if you have absolutely no strength in the morning, and this is observed constantly, then you should be wary. What are the causes of chronic fatigue and how to deal with them?
Many people think that such chronic fatigue is within normal limits. The lack of desire to move or perform the most ordinary actions is attributed to weather sensitivity, the location of the stars, spring depression, etc. In fact, fatigue can be a symptom of a variety of diseases. Sometimes it is from this that heart, brain, and cancer pathologies begin to manifest themselves, but no one takes it seriously. What are the causes of chronic fatigue and how to deal with them?
Main causes of fatigue
A tired state, reluctance to perform basic tasks, apathy and drowsiness - all this develops for a variety of reasons. But the most common ones are the following:
1. Depression. Due to a lack of serotonin in brain cells or when its perception by cells is impaired, the body as a whole suffers. Fatigue in this case is the result of a depressed state of the central nervous system, which sluggishly sends signals to all parts of the body. In this state, nothing brings joy, and every movement is perceived almost as a punishment. Patients with depression may not move for hours or leave the house for days. When adjusted with medications or psychotherapy, the feeling of constant fatigue goes away and the thirst for life returns;
2. Vitamin deficiency. Vitamin deficiencies of B vitamins especially cause fatigue. Deficiency of cyanocobalamin, for example, leads to a decrease in the full transport of oxygen to cells. Chronic oxygen starvation of tissues is difficult to avoid. With a lack of folic acid, anemia develops, which also leads to a decrease in the supply of oxygen and vital elements to tissues. Without vitamins, the body begins to work at half capacity. Metabolism slows down, and the body goes into an economical mode of energy consumption. It is clear that if he lacks energy even for internal processes, then even more so for external ones;
3. Metabolic syndrome. Impaired absorption of glucose by cells leads to constant weakness. There is a lot of insulin in the blood, but the cells do not sense it. Insulin itself causes drowsiness, plus in addition, cells that do not receive a substrate for energy metabolism begin to work worse;
4. Malnutrition. A fasting day can cause terrible weakness and the inability to even raise your arm. There is no need to talk about long-term diet or fasting. The body in such a situation tries to survive and spends fat reserves solely on maintaining metabolism. In this situation, the body wants to lie down and not move, since nutrients for its external motor and mental activity are not provided in the menu. Long-term unbalanced diets also lead to vitamin deficiency, which aggravates the condition;
5. Physical exhaustion. Constant hard work, having a lot of responsibility, exhausting household chores and even too frequent workouts - all this can take away energy, preventing cells from recovering in time. Without rest, cells lose their ability to function normally, vitamin reserves are depleted, and the nervous system cannot withstand the load. Fatigue in this case cannot be avoided;
6. Drug effects. Antihistamines, blood pressure medications, sedatives - all of these medications, to one degree or another, can cause feelings of fatigue, weakness, and dizziness. Annotations usually indicate similar effects. If they appear in a pronounced form, consultation with a specialist is necessary to discontinue the medication or control;
7. Infectious diseases. Acute and chronic pathologies exhaust the immune system and undermine the functioning of the nervous system. Proteins, vitamins, and microelements are rushed to fight the source of infection, but there is nothing left for life. A person constantly feels weak and lethargic. After healing, the body restores its resources, and a surge of strength is guaranteed.
8. Cardiovascular pathologies. Weakness is sometimes the only symptom of heart disease, especially in children. It develops as a result of heart failure and lack of adequate supply of tissues with blood and oxygen. Weakness also appears with hypertension and atherosclerotic changes in blood vessels. Severe fatigue with a headache can be a harbinger of a stroke or heart attack, so you should not neglect it;
9. Hormonal disorders. Lethargy and apathy are often observed with hypothyroidism and diabetes. Metabolism in these pathologies is significantly slowed down, which affects the general condition;
10. Nervous disorders. Sleep disturbances and constant outbursts of emotions can lead to feelings of being “squeezed out” and inability to take active action. This is due to exhaustion of the nervous system. Proper deep sleep is not just a pleasant pastime, but also a vital necessity. It has been proven that adequate sleep can prolong youth.
How to regain vigor
In order to regain strength for life and work, it is necessary, first of all, to determine the cause of fatigue. To do this, you should visit your doctor and be more attentive to your health. If you have problems with the heart or hormonal levels, after examination and treatment, it is possible to completely eliminate chronic fatigue syndrome. If the reason is a significant workload, then you need to learn not to take on everything, delegate authority, and share responsibilities for household chores. If you are on an unhealthy diet, you definitely need to consult a nutritionist. Sufficient caloric content of foods can bring a person back into action and give him strength again for a full life. This is due to the fact that the cause - lack of cell nutrition - will go away, and the body will begin to work at full strength. Sports, a change of scenery, and communication with friends are great for depression. For sleep disorders - normalization of the daily routine and relaxation techniques.
How to live on if you have no strength and don’t want anything? Determining how to live can be quite easy if you have desires and goals, but the same question is perplexing if you lack desires and motivation. Such a condition can be temporary and occur quite easily, or it can take on a chronic form called apathy - it is a medical term that reflects disorders in the mental sphere. There is no need to immediately diagnose yourself; for many people, apathetic moods are a periodically encountered norm, and these problems can be solved quite independently, without turning to doctors or medications.
It is important not to confuse the lack of desires and strength with simple laziness. This can be easily distinguished - it disappears as soon as a sufficient stimulus appears, followed by a surge of strength and activity, the person’s eyes light up. In a state where there really is no strength, not a single stimulus will make a person jump, and when the sphere of needs and desires is frustrated, there will simply be nowhere for the motivational component to arise.
In case of malfunction of any organs, the onset of a viral disease, or at the time of exacerbation of a chronic illness, the body’s reserve reserves are aimed at eliminating these problems, so there may simply not be enough energy for everything else. Lack of vitamins in winter and chronic lack of sleep undermine the body's strength. Moreover, it will not be possible to fight such problems with promotions and work through willpower - the lack of sleep will need to be compensated by establishing a routine for a long time, and not just one night, and the lack of nutrients will need to be restored in consultation with doctors. Physical exhaustion from prolonged work requires rest for the body, otherwise more serious health problems will occur after a lack of strength and desire.
Often you don’t want anything and the presence of a feeling of powerlessness is due to a feeling that is characteristic mainly of people in helping professions or workaholics, while it is often reflected precisely in the professional sphere, without affecting the rest of life. In the case of emotional overload during communication, powerlessness in any form of contact can occur, and long-term monotonous work can completely kill aspirations and creativity. and moments of crisis can plunge a person into a similar state with the same ease as physical disorders. Among the many reasons, it is necessary to single out the one that sucks all your strength and initially concentrate on eliminating it.
How to live further if there is no strength and meaning
It is loss that deprives you of your main strength, so instead of pumping yourself up with energy drinks, it is more logical to understand your basic life-giving meanings. Such conditions arise from crisis and traumatic moments, when a person loses loved ones, faces serious illnesses, and is forced to radically change his life. Then the previous guidelines collapse, and new ones have not yet been formed, and it becomes completely unclear how to live, and there is really no strength, since exactly as much energy appears as is necessary to realize aspirations. Some can afford to travel to deal with a change in direction, understand where difficulties came from and set a new course, but not everyone can leave their everyday life for introspection of the inner world. Then the question arises of how to live further if there is no strength and money to provide such a retreat. Fortunately, it is continuity with your usual life that is the key to overcoming this condition.
Spiritually strong people perceive everything philosophically and as temporary categories, having internal meanings of something imperishable and without an end point - this could be self-development, improving the world, helping those in need. When the meaning is limited to some specific relationships, people, type of activity, then the likelihood of its loss is high, and the more specific and stronger the attachment, the greater the crisis awaits. While continuing to perform your usual actions, consider your life for the presence of such eternal meanings that have value even after your death, even after everything disappears and changes. During this time, you can automatically go to work and cook soup, while mentally noting to yourself whether it makes sense to paint your lips or feed the homeless, go to church or buy a dress - by analyzing such little things you can come across their relevance, despite the changes that have occurred. Following this, an understanding of energy will begin to increase for the performance of such actions that you yourself assess as important - this will be the new course of your life.
If the meaning of life was lost after a certain event, then it happened because of a strong stress that the nervous system was unable to cope with. Then it will fade away and become less of a concern, but the feeling of not being completely alive may remain, so it’s worth contacting a psychotherapist to work through the situation as quickly as possible - the older the injury, the more difficult the rehabilitation will be later. If there is no opportunity to use help, then try not to hold back your negative and uncomfortable emotions - cry while you cry, scold the world order while a cry breaks out, kick the walls of the institution where it was painful. Everything is fine, as long as these emotions do not remain inside you, because it will take all your strength to contain them.
How to live on if you have no strength and nothing works out
There are periods when you work so hard that you no longer have the strength, but there is no result, and you get the deceptive feeling that you need to try even harder. It is necessary to slow down and do everything calmly and slowly, reducing the priority of what is being done. Shift your attention to your own condition and, above all, take care of rest, emotional relief and breaks, and only in your free time do what you so zealously strived for earlier. The secret is quite simple - the more you care about yourself, the more resourceful state you are in and then new ideas can be born to optimize the process of introducing new ways of achieving, instead of punching a wall with your forehead when there is an open door a meter away from you.
In developing a strategy for how to live further if there is no strength and money, many begin to diligently save and force themselves to work more - the system is a failure, since it leads to a deterioration in physical condition, emotional well-being, and to the cessation of any progress in business. If you are tired, then you are going the wrong way - you are wasting a lot of energy, working in the wrong places where you can be useful, and not using optimization. If you notice that it’s not working out, then it makes sense to change the strategy for achieving it or the goal itself (well, you don’t teach a parrot to swim, or you teach a dog or a parrot to talk).
Exceeding expectations and impatience can lead to such conditions, so before setting deadlines and hoping for stunning results, monitor the situation regarding what you have in mind. Even a round-the-clock effort may not be enough due to the specifics of the activity being performed; perhaps it would be more important to relax and wait in inaction (remember that you cannot pull grass out of the ground). It is better to do something constantly and in small doses than to try to complete what you have planned in one moment, because both quality and your sense of self suffer from such an approach.
Another point that leads to the draining of internal resources and a destructive result is control. The more processes you try to control, the more nervous you become about the inconsistency of small details, and you lose energy. At the same time, control over everything does not allow you to navigate the situation and change the concept of action in time; it does not allow you to rely on the opinions of others, which takes up your time for constant checks; as a result, you do not respond to changes adequately.
How to live on if you have no strength and don’t want anything - psychology
Any problem must begin to be solved by defining it and identifying its causes, therefore it is worth doing the same with a decrease in energy resources and lack of desires. Initially, it is necessary to exclude physiological causes by undergoing an examination. Next, you need to adjust your daily routine and the pace of life in general, so that it becomes fulfilling rather than exhausting, and only then begin to analyze the psychological components. Except in cases where the cause of such a condition is known - if it began after the loss of a person or a highly paid job, during a divorce or illness. In some cases, it helps to mentally bring the situation to the most negative level, i.e. illness to death, quarrel to separation, etc. Looking from a different scale of values, it may turn out that the reason is not so critical; in addition, such an exaggeration shakes up the nervous system and revives values.
But not all situations can be adjusted so easily, and if the worst happens to you, then you need to find support in what remains. If you have children (your own, friends, brothers, nephews), then spend more time with them, it would be good to fulfill those promises that you made to them, but still didn’t have time (to go to the movies, fight with lightsabers) - such communication will make your soul feel better is unfrozen, various emotions can be actualized. In addition, communication with children is the most sincere - they will ask you direct questions, and sometimes give you advice that works.
When heavy thoughts and meaninglessness prevent you from living, and you don’t have the strength to go to work, then it’s worth changing the environment as much as possible (at least moving the furniture and repainting the door). Minimize contacts with unpleasant people, the same applies to news coming to you. It is better to remain for a certain time in an information vacuum than to waste crumbs of energy on useless information - at this time it is better to remember what brought you joy, what were your old dreams and begin to realize what even quietly resonates in your soul. In addition to such positive excavations, look for negative ones - old grievances, long-standing, unspoken reproaches. Such things, having accumulated over the years, slowly eat up your energy, so by forgiving the offenders, transforming anger into active actions, you remove what was absorbing your resources.